Hey! I'm Caitlin and in a few days I'll be a freshman in high school. I love giving advice and I feel that I am good at it. I've been through a lot of stuff, divorce, moving, having my best friend move, a family member with cancer, and love (including being cheated on). So please don't hesitate to ask. I mean sitting there staring at the computer screen isn't going to do anything now is it?
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I'm a 15/f and I haven't been interested in dating until recently this year. I'm starting to want to have a boyfriend really badly. Do you think the fact that I am so inexperienced in the "physical" side of love (ive kissed three people but I've never made out or gone beyond that) that no guys will date me. This is the only thing holding me back from dating. Also any tips on easy ways to say no to getting physical soon or telling guys that I've never made out that wont make me seem like to much of a loser?? Thanks! (link)
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You know what? IF a g uy wont go out with you because you have no expireence or they think your a loser because of it then they don't deserve you or your time. I had my first kiss with a guy that I found out I didn't like too much and I was grossed out... However a few weeks later i had a kiss with a guy i liked really truly and had known soo long and felt comfortable it means the world to me still now.
I hope this helped. Leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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o0k well you see i like this guy, that well my friends dont approve of. they say he's such a kid and he's immature and stuff. my friends go for the older, hot, guys with nice cars, this guy that i like well, his name is osama. funny huh? its actually kinda creepy, lol but well a while back, we're freshman, in the begginning of the year, he and my friend joe were in a fight, it was about a month ago and osama punched joe and things have been really shaky between them. but now i see him around and we make eye contact and i think i like him, i think about him a lot. my friends think im crazy and its 'just a 'phase' ' and stuff so yeah i dont know how to tell joe. osama doesnt even know who i am, our school is realy big. he's not cute or anything and i've never really talked tohim, but there's just something mysterious about him that gets me. but yesterday i told my friend if she knows him and she said yeah and i told her to find out if he has a gf and i told her i think hes pretty cute, and well today she told me she told him, and now today he went around asking everyone if they know me. he only knows my name. so hes trying to find me out, and i dont know what to do. i mean my friend joe, its gonna be tough on him and so what do i do about the whole situation? should i just come up to him sometime next time i see him and talk to him or should i forget about him or what? please help!?! ill rate you, thanks.
.p.s.i ii rate good!~!~`!!!! =))))))) (link)
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Forget about Joe and Osama. You should go up and talk to him, flirt with him or something! You're friends shouldn't control your life and I'm sure you know this. Just talk to him what's there to lose.
Good luck, I hope this helps you, leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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Hi, there is this guy i like and i think he mite like me cuz we danced a lot, about a month ago, and he sorta follows me around school and one time he and his friends were sorta all lookin at me and pushin him towards me almost. anyway, i wanna go and try and talk to him but im really shy and he is too. Is there a way i can start up a good convo wit him and keep it goin, cuz heh doesn't talk much..tnx (link)
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Just say hi, forget that he's a guy and that you like him. Just start talking and stuff talk about something you like, sports or a recent test or something. ITs jsut like talking with one of your friends! Don't be so self-conscice (or however you spell it!)
I hope this helps leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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I have a problem...as you may have read ealier I like this guy named Max and he looks at me sometimes. Most people tell me to say hi or strike up a conversation with him and I just don't have the guts too. If you are going to tell me "Oh don't worry what other people think" then don't even bother to answer this question. I need better advice than that. I really don't know what to do. I have been rejected 4 times in the past 3 years...so I'm not all that attractive then. Help!
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I know people say dont worry about what people think but I nkow its human nature. If you are too nervous to talk tohim dont. I'm going ot be honest, if you go up to him when your really nervous you'd probably make a fool of yourself. People do stupid things when they're nervous. In reality you just gotta wait till your ready and do what your comfortable with!
I hope this helps leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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theres this guy that i like nd hes soooo sweet! but he told me that he likes ma best friend nd that hurt rlly bad. i thawt he liked me but he mite now now. bfore his friends were comin up to meh n sayin that he likes me n stuff but i didnt like him then. also sumtimes i rlly like him n othr times i just think o him as a friend so i dunno whether i should go out wit him or not cuz if i do i rlly don wanna hurt his feelings cuz hes 1 o the sweetest guys i evr met. wat should i do? (link)
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Girl! Just flirt with him! Its fun lol. YOu can get a feel for if he likes you or not and you ahve fun. (im kinda a flirt at times oppsys!) I mean for goodness sakes. One thing I have learned is unless they guy tells you himself don't trust someone if they say they like you. And I would suggest considering the effects if you were to ask him out or if you were to go out.
I hope this helps leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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how can u tell when ur in love with a guy??? (link)
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Hun, I can't explain it. All you can do is feel it. THats all there is to it! YOu're just gonna have to wait and see. YOu may deny the feeling but deep down inside you'll know whether or not your IN love with a boy!
I hope this helps leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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Im 15 and I have been going out with this guy for about 2 days now. i have known him for like 4 months and we just started going out. i really like him a lot too! hes the perfect guy for me! his birthday is coming up this monday which is in about 6 days. but i have no idea what to get him if i should get him anytbing. i was thinking maybe like a picture of me and him in a picture frame that i can go buy. is that good? i need a answer sooooon! so thanks yall! (link)
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Yes it sounds great. Just make sure its a picture frame that's unique!
I hope this helps leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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hey im a 15 year old girl and i have oily skin, any body have any good concealer/foundation/cover-up/powder ? (link)
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look at magazines they normally show good products for different types of skins, etc. This way there are ratings and its not just some fake advertising.
I hope this helps leave one in my inbox,
Caitlin
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hey well ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Hes a senior and im a junior. Ever since weve been going out he doesnt talk to his lady friends at all anymore just his guy friends. Well i didnt make him not hang out with him he just chose not to. Now the girls try to make me jealous by trying to say hey to him just when im with him but it doesnt work at all atcually i think that its pretty sad! My boyfriend just ignores them. They always give me dirty looks and i guess talk about me to. THis doesnt bother me tho. well like what did i do? DO you think they are jealous or what??
* Ashley* 17- Louisiana*
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They are jealous of you. Its their problem. Its not your fault, and they are the ones that are giving you bad looks rather than going up to your boyfriend and talking about it. One day just go up to them and be like: Guys, I dunno if you'll believe me but I didn't tell him to stop talking to you. I trust him, its not my fault so why don't you guys try and talk to him, even if he seems to ignore you he still can't close his ears.
Hope I helped, leave one in the inbox,
Caitlin
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alright, so i'll try and make this short as possible. there is this really hot guy at me school. i'm in 9th he's in 10th, so its not totally impossible that we go out. the thing is is that we dont' have any classes or anything together. i see him during lunch and in the library before school, and his cousin/friend has his locker right by mine, so i see him sometimes then too. and we've never talked or anything, but i really really want to get to know him! but my friend who knows him says hes shy, so that leaves me to make the first move .. problem, i don't know what to say! i DO NOT just want to barge up to him saying 'hi, i like you, etc' gosh, can someone help me?
-despretley in need of help. (link)
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This may seem stupid but here it goes. Get your friend to get his screen name and start to IM him. If you do this its easier for both of you to talk. once you are comfortable talking to him on the net its easier in person. I promise. Hey the internet can actually do something for you other than your homework now and then can't it?
I hope this helped. Please rate. Feel free to IM me or leave one in the box,
Caitlin
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Ok, i really ReAlLy like this boy named Naz. This whole year, i worked hard at getting to know him, and it finally worked! So now i'm really really good friends wit him, and i tell him everything, like he tells me. My parents dont really care about me liking him, as long as i dont do anything. But then one night wen i wuz talkin to Naz, he found out that i was a virgen still, and he said, "i guess whoever u give it up to, u really luv them." Then he asked me if i wud sleep wit him. I sed i dont know. (And i know he's not usin me becuz for one thing, i'm really close wit him, and also becuz he knows i liked him this WhOlE year, so if he wanted to use me, he cud've tried to a long time ago. And i DiD kiss him before.) So anyway, i really want to, becuz i luv him. And i KnOw this is luv becuz....well i jus know. Everyone who's been in luv knows. So i want to sleep wit him, but then my brotha Miguelle cums into the picture. He says if i do that, i'm a slut and a hoe and that i shud be ashammed of myself. He made me feel really bad. But it's My lIFe, isnt it? I wanna listen to him cuz he's my brotha, but he jus has no idea how much i luv this dude. He doesnt understand, cuz he's neva been in luv before. But wat shud i do? (sorry its so long! I ReAllY need help on this, pleaz dont delete it! Thanx!) (link)
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I dunno about you but my best friends big bro was like my big brother. One day he told me that hot dogs were made of dogs. IS it true? No. Pretend you're an adult and your 30 or something. Pretend its the same situation, would you really still listen to your brother. Its your life do what you want but if you do have sex remember to use condoms etc. Oh yeah just think about how awkward it'll be with him as your best friend who you slept with.
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ok i have this guy friend who is totally sweet and i like him but he wants to go out with me and i don't think i like him like that and i mean we've already gone out but he wants to go out again and i just don't think i want to and i just feel really bad cuz he really cares about me and really wants to be with me! what should i do!?
signed
confused (link)
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Wow I feel loved. I'm a Dear Abby now aren't I? Anyhow I've been in this situation before. Let's say his name is Bob. Say something like this to him:
Bob, there's no way I can tell you this without hurting you, and I'd never want to hurt you because I'm your friend. I like you but only as a friend. I really enjoy spending time with you but I could never picture us as a couple, or at least a happy couple. That doesn't mean I don't wanna spend time with you, it just means I don't wanna date you.
Of course you don't have to exactly say that but I was repetitive, it'll pound it into his head.
PS. you'll always be confused, boys don't make sense!
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