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Hello theres this girl I like and she no that I like her I liked her for 2 an half yrz now lol I no her older sista I told her I liked her but her sista said you need to get to no her thatz tru but theres this party soon I no she will be there and I want to talk to her so she can get to no me but I don’t know wat to say im not good at talking to girlz..all I no wat to say is hello wat you up 2..how do I make a long conversation that she will like..an how do I get her to like me bak………i am 17 by the way
you cant make her like you.but at the party just start saying stuff like she looks really beautiful and just say compliments about her.every girl loves it when a lad starts saying really nice stuff about you.it really boosts our self-esteem.my bf did it to me and i totally fell for him.it makes us feel alot better about our body image.have a great time at the party.GOOD LUCK!

Q: 15/f
what qualties do guys look for in a girl like honestly?
all guys are different but most of the qualties guys looks for in girls are:

girls that make them laugh

girls that have good personalitys

girls that dont look down at people like they are totally different then other people

girls that share similiar interests

girls that are friendly and kind

girls that are pretty

and girls that doesnt try to be someone other then their self.

i hope i gave you an idea,xxaoifexxx

Q: What are hopeless romantics?
hopless romantics is a person who is into candle lit dinners.and is all mushy-gushy about love and would never say a bad word about love.hope i helped,xxaoifexxx

Q: Okay, so this boy.. he likes me. He used to go with one of my friends. Well, really we just got good friends.. but I didn't know they were going out untill like a week ago.. I really want to go out with him, yet again... I don't want to do that to a friend. But, we're not like best budz for life.. or anything, we're just like..friends. Soo..would I be wrong for going out with him... Should I just leave him alone,?..and go fetch some other fishes in the sea?
i think you should just ask your friend would she mind if you go out with him?just to be on the safe side you dont want to have a fight with a friend over a boy.she might not mind you going out with him but if she does then dont go out with him because as you said yourself theres plenty other fish in the sea.GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx

Q: i have my boy friends myspace password. i accidently signed on his and saw that he had a new message. i read it. it was him and this girl have cyber sex. i know i shouldnt have been reading his messages because that is personal. but do i have a right to be mad at him? and what should i so about it?
to me that is cheating on you.you have a right to be mad and you should confront him about it.if he asks you why on earth were you looking in my messages then just say because you love him or like him and its kinda hard when you know his password.GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx

Q: me and my old boyfriend broke up a long time ago. i kinda miss him but im afraid that when we start going out again that he will lie to me all the time ( thats why i broke up with him). what do i do?
of course your going to miss your old boyfriend its hard breaking up with someone.its like you know inside that you wont be able to 100% forgive him for all the lies he has told you in the past.but you still feel like you should give him another go.i think you shouldnt give him another go because if he has lied to you in the past then theres a good chance he will lie to you again.stay strong and find a guy that wont lie to you.GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx

Q: OK so I've been dating this guy for a year and I'm totally crazy about him but I'm his first girlfriend and I've dated 2 guys in the past. One of them I dated on and off for almost 2 1/2 years and we are still really good friends. I've only kissed my bf, not like madeout or ne thing but my old b/f and me made out a bunch of times. My best friend thinks I am being dishonest by not telling my new bf about what me and my x have done but he's never asked and it's never been a problem so I don't see why he needs know. Question: am I being dishonest and does my new bf have the right to know or should I leave it because it's in the past?
dont worry about being dishonest your not its your past and it was making out not like something major.if your b/f brings it up then tell him everything.but if he doesnt bring it up then leave it.he proberly wont mind well he has no reason to mind really.hope i helped,xxaoifexxx

Q: There is something wrong with me! Everytime i start liking aguy i change myself (sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad). It's not just my peronallity it's also my intresets! I just want them to like me back! I am so affraid to show "real me", i'm afraid they will never like it!! And I have gotten to the point i don't know who the "real me" is anymore! I have just copied all the guys i have been intrested in and that's it...am i a hoplesscase or is there any light at the end of my tunnel? Please help me!
i was the same way when this boy asked me out (my b/f now)he knew me as the real me but then when we started going out i just changed completely.one night my b/f just said to me why am i so different?why have i changed sence we started going out?well,i just said i thought he wouldnt like me if i didnt change and he just said why did i think he asked me out then?he liked me for the real me not for the false me.i know it feels hard to go back to the real you but its who you are and inside you know who you really are.if guys dont like you for who you are then their not worth the trouble of changes just to please them.i hope you realise you are liked by guys for the real you not the you you try to be.GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx

Q: i need help! i don't know if im wrong ...ok so i have a boyfrien , and he's nice and everything , but today we went on an argument about him not oppening the car door for me ...am i wrong for wanting him to do it?? even though he's nice and open places doors for me etc??..i told him i'd like that ..and he said :S its not like im going to be your slave or anything! can't you open it yourself??? ...and i was like ..i can obviously , but i would appreciate if you'll do it ....he sad your spoiled! its like i have feelings too! and im a person too why do i have to be all day after you doing evrything for you opening doors for you and for me who will do it? nobody does it for me , why do you have to be better than me ? we are both equal! ... then it turn into a big fight but am i wrong :S??????
your not totally wrong you want your boyfriend to spoil you and for him to be your perfect prince but on the other hand try to be in your boyfriends persission you want him to do everything for you thats the way boys minds think if you start asking them to open the car door.
you need to talk to your boyfriend and see what he feels like when you start asking him things like that.your boyfriend is surppose to do stuff for you and proberly does but the door thing proberly went to far for him.
i hope everything works out,xxaoifexxx

Q: i need my ex-boyfriend back like you ahve no ideaa i dont no what to do this is like the first time this has ever happened to meee pleaseee helppp mee give me like cute things to say too him plzz
you should say something like this.i was just wondering do you want to give us another go because i still have feelings for you and it was a big mistake breaking up.
GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx

Q: im 13, and boys my age are REALLY immature.. so i tend to like boys that are alottt older then me.

like, i like boys that are like 16-17.
is it bad if i dated boys that much older then me?

would be the pros and cons?!
theres nothing wrong with dating boys older than you but boys of the age 16/17 are at the age of having sex.14/15 i think is a good age as long as they know where they would be going with you. if you know what i mean?im 13 too and boys our age are really imature but with my experence boys at the age of 16 are looking for one thing SEX!

i hope i gave you good enough advice,xxaoifexxx

Q: Hey, so my bf and I don't make plans with eachother too often, but when we do he doesn't show. Like we planned to go to a dance together and that day I was talking to him and he randomly said I am grounded today. And I didn't even think that he wouldn't go to the dance because he was grounded. We weren't even like talking about the dance when he said he was grounded. So he didn't show up at the dance, and I was all alone. Then he said he would go to my basketball game, and he didn't go and when I called him his excuse was he was grounded. Then we were going to go to a hockey game and I called him twenty minutes before the game to make sure that we were still on, and then he was like oh yah I can't I'm grounded. So I was pissed because he wasn't even goining to call me and tell me that he couldn't go. And on top of that I asked him for his cell phone number and he wouldn't tell me. It's not like he just didn't tell me he won't tell anyone, but what is up with that. He won't even tell his best friend his number. But he told me that he loved me, and is planning on kissing me. Am I missing something??? We are going to the movies this weekend if he stands me up again what should I do I really like him. People say that I should have already broken up with him.

HELP!!

Thanks : /

well if your boyfriend really loves you he should give you his number and should give you a prober reason why he didnt show up.to me it sounds like he is just using the ascuse of being grounded maybe he was before. but all the time?
if he doesnt show up at the movies then you have to tell him that you cant continue going out with him if he doesnt make an effort to show up and then he might start showing up.you probley will find it hard to say that to him but other whys he will just not show up and he will say he was grounded.GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx

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xxaoifexxx
hi!im a 13 year old girl.i have brown hair and i am tall.
i am from ireland.
i love music and boys!
i play basketball and football.
i have two sisters one younger and one older.

my boyfriend dara is the sweetest thing.my ex-b/f rang me loads of times saying my b/f is cheating on me and he wants to go out with me.i asked my b/f and he said he would never do anything to mess things up between us and im like soo sexy so why would he cheat on me.im totally falling for him.

my friends tells me that i give great advice so if you need some i would be happy to give some.




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