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hey i want this guy to notice me we talk a lot! i mean we are best friends but i want him to notice me and want me to be with him. i don't want him to feel like im following him. which im not i ignore him sometimes well sometimes lol... i need help i want him to notice me as sexy and cute with out being vulgur and slutty. thanx

just flirt with him and kind of make it obvious that you really like him! here are some tips if you really want advice on how to flirt w/ him.

http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-with-a-Guy


xoxo

Leah

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Alright soo I have a best friend lets call him Luke..We have been best friends since the 6th grade. We tell eachother how we are going to get married andd yea he's like the best friend anyone could have. He makes me laugh at anything and I just love him to death..

Well now, I have a boyfriend, lets call him Mark. Well Luke and Mark don't get along very well... Luke and I are like always lovey dovey that's just how we are with eachother..We love eachother like a brother and sister..Well Mark doesn't like that very muchh..So Luke and I can't act like that in front of Mark. I am like in love with Mark though..but Luke just thinks he mistreats me and all that and he's not happy with him and me being together. Well last night there was a party and i was with Mark most of the time..Luke got kinda mad but he dealt with it..But then today he sent me an e-mail saying if we can't act like ourselves in front of Mark well then we might as well not talk.. I guess i'll talk to you when you guys are over and done with..sorry.

This split me apart...I don't knowwhat to do..I love Mark but Luke is my other half..Please help me and thank you for readying this and sorry for it being longg.

If you can't be yourself with your BEST FRIEND Luke around your boyfriend who you love, it's not really right. Maybe Mark just feels that because you act lovey dovey with Luke, you really like him. Talk to Mark. I seriously think that if you can't be yourself with your boyfriend, you're kind of wasting your time. Mark should accept your friends. Luke might be overreacting too, though. It depends on how you look at the situation but Luke should realize that Mark is your boyfriend and you have to spend some time with him as well. Make sure that all the lines of communication are open so that you can always talk to both of them. Sit with Mark and explain what your and Luke's friendship means to you. If he's as great as you think, he'll understand.
I hope I helped

Leah

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my names lisa...(13/f) ok so im good friends, well actually best friends, with this guy named jake...and for some wierd reason i think im starting to like him, but im way to scared to ask him out or anything because im afraid it would wreck our friendship. Plus i have no idea if he even likes me or not...some people say he does but i dont know for sure. What do i do!?!?!?!

Hey Lisa!

Its really common for girls who have BGFs (Best Guy friends) to like their guy friend after a while. After All, there's a reason you guys became friends in the first place! My advice is to tell him, and if he likes you, GREAT! but if he really is your BGF,and he doesn't think of you in the same way, then it shouldn't hurt your BFF status. It may be a little awkward at first, but its ok! the only way to know is to ask!

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I suck at kissing. Ive made out once, and I told the kid I had not done it before. but this kid was like WAY different then the one im with now. he doesnt want to move to fast, and im ok with that. but we are like really in love with each other. and on our first date we did kiss once, I think I kinda did it. but I could tell he wanted to. I get really nervous... and like I did kiss him but I don't know what to do with my lips???? It was a tiny kiss. so yea... but like I really need to know what to do! I want him to take control but that doesnt always happen so... I need to know what to do so I don't look stupid haha. thx so much!!!!

hey! the only way to get better at kissing is to practice.. Don't be afraid to try just because you're nervous or afraid that you're bad. If the guy your kissing is really worth you kissing, he'll understand if you're shaking in your heels while your kissing him. I don't know if this'll really help but.. I agree to watch the movies and you can read these articles

http://www.cosmogirl.com/guys/guide-to-guys/kisses-to-make-him-crazy

http://www.cosmogirl.com/guys/guide-to-guys/new-kisses-jan06

http://www.cosmogirl.com/guys/guide-to-guys/great-kiss-gtg-feb07

http://www.cosmogirl.com/guys/guide-to-guys/kiss-me-jan07

in my eyes, cosmo and cosmogirl are my guide to guys.. hope these helped

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he asked a girl and she said yes.. how do i tell her it was my brother??? i dont want to hurt her feelings.

tell her. Its better not to drag this out. Its really no big deal. Just tell her that you really like her as a friend but you don't really think of her in that way.

hope I helped & lemme know if it works out

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Me and my friend started "going out" like 2-3 weeks ago, and we have REALLY busy schedules... like he was in another state when we decided to "go out" and we've only been home @ the same time for about 5 days, and his mom got surgery, so when his sister isnt home, he has to take care of her. We are best friends, and i dont want to ruin that, but now he cant go anywhere until like ANOTHER week, and i think thats really getting to me. I just dont know if it's all worth it in the end, you know? Because i don't want to ruin our friendship, but i think this could actually be something. So what do i do? Stay with him and hope that we can actually go out sometime in the VERY NEAR future, or just forget it...... PLEASE RESPOND SOON!!!!

hey!
I totally think you should keep at it! It's not the poor boy's fault that his mom had surgery. Sometimes schedules don't always work out together and it's fine! Keep talking on the phone and IMing each other or whatever and just wait till he's less tied up with family. If you really think there's something there, then have faith that when you two finally DO get together, it'll be okay.

Best of luck! let me know how it worked out.

Leah

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hi. i liked this guy for a little while now
and i dont know if he likes me back, my friends keep on saying he does but im not sure. idk...

when i liked his brother (yes itsss wrong haha) i was at my friends house and they are cousins and the guy i like is her cousin too and he found out i liked his brother and he was like well dont tell him, i wont tell him either [he said that to my friend] and then at the mall we saw him and my friends brother and their other friend and i was with his cousin [my bestfriend] and my other bestfriend, and we kept on seeing them and my friend was like i have to tell you something, but she couldn't because he was there, and then when we were walking away my friend was like he was checking you out. and his cousin[my bff] was like yeah.. he has been doing that a lot...

then i went out with my bestfriends brother who is his cousin and while i was going out with him, the kid i liked [who is cousins with the kid i was going out with] commented my picture on myspace saying 'your slammin babe'.

and then my friend texted him saying do you like her? nd he was like no. and then the next day i see him at the mall with my friends and he came and sat at the table behind us bcause his cousin who is my bestfriend was with me, so his friend who the guy i like was with, goes whos stella? nd i turnd around and i was like me... and he was like oh, he wants to fuck you and he points at some random guy walking by. and im like k... and i turned around. then my friend had to go, so me and myfriend walked her and left our stuff with my other friends who stayed at the table, so me nd my friends started walking and then they just stopped half way and started talking to eachother, so i turn around nd i face the table where the kid i like was sitting at with his friends and i see him staring at me, and so was his friend.. and then later on me and my friends were sitting and one of my friends call him because he was walking by and he came over and my guy friend was like you look lonely[to him] why wont you hug her? nd he points at me and the kid i like was like no man your gay.



i told my friend who is in his grade about all of this and she said he's just trying to HIDE that he likes me. but i don't know....

my other friend told me to ask him out. im scared ill get rejected.

its been bothering me forever. what should i do? please help me =[

okay... it took me a couple minutes to get through that with my head on straight...now I think i have the jist of it. I, at the moment am in kind of a similar situation where I have no idea if this guy likes me. What I did, I waited it out to see if anything else happened along the way. Its kind of coming together but its pretty much inevitable that we will have a confrontation about all this stuff going on. My friends do the same thing and tell me to talk to him and ask him out and stuff, but they tell other people that he likes me and junk and now the whole class thinks he likes me which made him a little more nervous. Sorry for that little insight into my personal life but.. I think you should talk to him and see whats going on. you're never gonna really know unless you ask

hope I helped!
leah

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Well, there's this girl that I REALLY like, but like I can't talk to her because I'm too nervous. I kinda broke up with my girlfriend for this girl. I think she knows I like her, because my ex-girlfriend was friends with the girl that I like. So now, I don't know if I can talk to her. Me and her hung out before at the mall, we had a blast, but I can't stand for a girl to say she doesn't like me when I like her. Advice for talking to her?

Thanks in advance.

Well, I think you might need some prospective from a girl. I was in a similar situation and things kind of have a way of working things out. In my situation, my best friend got dumped by her boyfriend.here's a little warning: best friends are completely protective over their best friends. I was really mad at her boyfriend for awhile until I knew the reason he broke up with her: me. I secretly liked him for awhile but didn't do anything because of my BFF. So, in my situation all things worked out in the end and my BFF completely understood when we got together. But, your situation might be a little different. Chances are, if your ex's friend doesn't know you like her, she thinks your scum for breaking up with her friend. But, if she likes you, she's pretending to think you're scum until she finds out if you really like her.

Now you have already come this far in dumping your girlfriend. My advice would be to tell her friend that you like her and then see what happens. overcome your shyness and complete the job! You never know until you take a risk! As for talking to her, call her up on the phone if your a nervous wreck or if you're feeling a little bit more brave that day, talk to her face-to-face. Tell her how much you like her and maybe she'll feel the same way too. If you guys have fun together, that's a good sign.

Hope I helped!

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okay so im 16/f and I've only had one boyfriend my whole life. and its not like i care. but its just that i notice that i fall for guys too easily and always ending up getting hurt and make a fool myself. and i throw myself at guys. i try no to but i always do that anyways. so how should i talk to guys without making a fool of myself? and also i have a crush on this really hot guy in my driver's ed and i talked to him yesterday and he told me his name i think and i forgot. and he also told me that what school he goes to and that he boxes! but im not sure how do i keep him interested? any tips will great thanks!

As for the throwing yourself at guys part, a lotta girls have that problem. Talking to guys should be fun, not a stressful situation so just be yourself! Think to yourself, is this guy really something to waste ALL my time and energy trying to impress or his he just a cool guy who i wanna be friends and hang out with? As for the drivers ed cutie, next time make an effort to remember his name! strike up a conversation and ask him about his boxing. Tell him your name and about all the stuff you love to do. keep him interested by being witty and being yourself. But keeping him interested won't be the main thing to worry about if you guys mesh. If you work well together, just being you will keep him interested by itself

hope i helped!

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okay so i just started to hang out with this guy (we're not going out. i've only made out with him once) and im pretty sure he's more into me than i am to him. hes at the beach and he told me that the stars were really beautiful and they reminded him of me.
now as cute as that sounds, im really not into cheezy things like that. hes also in a band which might be a reason for this whole passionate thing.
how do i deal with this? do i tell him straight up he's too sensitive?

i mean we only talked a bit and he's kinda rushing things. help please!

This guy seems like he really likes you! Guys are usually just as nervous about telling girls their feelings as most of us girls are about telling them. Chances are, he's so stunned by your brilliance (ok maybe not take it that far) that he cant help saying cheesy things like that. I say give him another chance after you talk to him and say that you want to slow things down. Tell him that you want to go to one of his band practices or something. Spend enough time with this guy after you ask him to slow things down and see what happens! you never know who you'll find repulsive in the beginning and love in the end

lots of love,

leah

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im 14 ...ok i've read like 1000 answers to how to make out and it all seems so weird the whole tounge action and i dont know i never made out before but i really wanna wit my b.f and he did it like 20 thousands times and im really scared cuz i dont no how and the other answers to like" put ur tounge in " really like dicussed me ..so i need some help !!!! and quick

I say dive right in and try it! The only way to know if you like that kind of stuff is to try it. And don't go too fast! slowly you know-- ease yourself into it. If your not comfy with the tongue right away, then don't use it. If your BF is really as great as you hope, he won't mind!

lots of love,

leah

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I like this guy he is really nice and all and I have a high feeling that he likes me. He goes to my church so I see him twice a week well maybe three time if there is activity or something then I see him there too. I don't talk to him but he looks at me alot, but that isn't the reason why I think he likes me. But I am really confused because I want to know if he does like me without asking because nobody knows I like him, so any help whatsoever would be nice. Thanks

I can start by saying that if he acknowledges you, you have a good start. If you want to know for sure what his story is, talk to him! I'd start by learning his interests and all the stuff he's into. If you guys mesh together well, who knows what will happen?

lots of love,

leah

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I just turned 13 and well my bf is a little older than me. We have already made out. But I was wondering how far you think that we should go... considering my age.

Thanks.

Okay. How much older is this boyfriend? I know that when I turned thirteen I thought everything was going to be going my way.. I mean you can officially call yourself a teenager! Isn't that one of the coolest feelings? Well.. all I can say is don't try to take on too much. Maybe going slowly is the best thing. At least until you KNOW you can handle everything that would come along with going far with this person. When I turned thirteen I found that the best thing to do was to kick it back with my friends and enjoy the time I have with them until our lives would be invaded by other things. Don't rush into things. The decision is up to you, but don't ignore the consequences that could happen.

Lots of love,
leah

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