I'm Sarah :)
I'm a student studying for a degree in Business Management. I have an amazing boyfriend and great family and friends who all mean the world to me. Honestly I don't know what i'd do without any of them! ♥
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So me and thus guy, Who ive been friends With for a While noW have recently been hanging out alot more.. and yes i do like him.. im just insure if hes into me.. like We flirt constanly and text alot...and today he held my hand! :) but hes one of those guys that one moinute you think hes completly into you.. and the next your completly unsure.. is there any signs or something that i can look for to see if he really likes me? any advice is greatly appriciated! :) (link)
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Hmm this is tricky, he does sound as though he's into you. Usually there's a certain look when you just know that the other person likes you and it's how they act around you. But there's no real way of knowing how he feels about you unless you ask him.
I know it sounds scary, but it's the best way to get the truth from him about how he feels about you. You could get a friend to talk to him, but it would sound a lot better coming from you as getting a friend to talk to him might seem a little immature if you know what I mean.
Also, have you thought about how this could change your relationship? you say that you've been friends for a while... well what if say you started dating and then something happened which made you fall apart, this could make your friendship awkward afterwards, you could end up losing him completely - however, I'm not saying don't go for it, 'cos life is short and you need to take risks, but it's just something to think about.
Hope this helped in some way :)
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this is from: Falling in love SUX!
i did tell her how i feel, do u mean tell her that i am trying to get over her? i told her the real reson why i am moving is to get away. but i didnt explain it of the REAL reson is to get over her. i want to tell her that but i will hurt her, she might think i am blaming her. i hate it when she is close to me as in leaning and touchy. becuase it messes up my mind about her, if she likes me too or just oddly close to me. i want to think of her as my other friends but my feeling dont let me to. Why is she still close? (link)
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Yer that you're trying to get over her, Might be best. If she's not into you sexually then it shouldn't her feelings too much and she should understand that you need to get over her to live your life and be happy. But you shouldn't just move away because this girl is messing about with your feelings.
You could just tell her not to get too close as it gets your hopes up, just be honest with her and ask her straight out about her feelings.
Hopefully she'll see your point of view and I'm not sure why she's still being touchy feely with you, maybe she's just that kind of person?
But stay postive and hopefully it'll all work out.
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There are days I wish I never meet her, and I wish I never help her from her issues.
But for some reason I was lead to this path to meet her and help her, but why!?
I am in love with my best friend that I know for 8 years. And I am a woman who found out that I am bisexual. I had past relationships with men but they never work out and I never got over her. It’s hard when I try to deny my feeling of her when she is a touchy close person to me. She leans on me and teases too. I know friends do that but she can go too far on being close. She is still very close to me after I told her ho w I felt about her. She was shocked about it and she told me she is fine with it and will still be my friend no matter how I feel in my heart. She doesn’t feel the same way about me and she not ready for a relationship and she isn’t sure what gender she likes her self. I ask her why that is and she said she doesn’t feel any towards to men.
When I try to get over her I just can’t! I cry because I can’t get over her. What should I do?
I am moving to Hawaii with my family and my plan was to never talk to her no more so I can get over her. But she is my best friend and I don’t want to break her heart. What should I do if I see her with someone elus? I won’t handle it well I know it I just wish I can find out what to do.
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Just tell her how you feel, I think that moving away would probably be the best idea and you'll find a new best friend. Just keep her at a distance. That's the only real way to get over someone. If you keep on having her in close proximity, you're not giving yourself a chance to move on from her and find someone else.
When you think you're over her, try talking to her or something and see how you feel. Maybe then you could become better friends again? Hopefully she'll understand.
Hope I helped, Sarah.
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ok so i am 13 and i have an amazing boyfriend, he is really sweet but i went to the movies with him today, we held hands and cuddled and stuff but i all the sudden don't like him and don't no if its just because i'm starting to like someone else or if he just isn't right for me...i mean i was thinking it was just lust but was it more and should i break up with him?? (link)
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You're still young so you have plenty of time to experience other guys.
Think things through properly and don't make any hasty decisions that you may later regret as it could just be a phase thing.
It sounds as though you're moving on, I suggest that you wait and see.
But in the end there's no point in being with someone that you don't want to be with.
Sarah
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This is the deal , I'm jealous. I'm a very jealous person.. and my last boyfriend broke up with my for being too jealous. So I have this new boyfriend.. who I've been on and off with for the past year or so. Recently he told me he has been going to his neighbors house once and a while ( at night ) when she has a friend over. His neighbor happens to be one of my firends (nota close friend) but shes my friend and shes 14 and shes gorgeous. So he asked me if this was alright just to hangout and stuff and I was like sure I guess.. however he told me he stayed untill 4 in the morning. He is planning on doing it again this weekend and he is totally honest with me and tells me what they do which is watch movies and just hangout . I want to tell him I dont like when he does this... but i dont want him to think I'm obbsessive. What should I do? Am I over-jealous? (link)
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No I don't think you're over jealous. I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend was hanging round at another girls house til 4 in the morning even if they were just watching movies.
I'd rather that he was with me or at his own house or something.
I think you should just tell him how you feel, that is upsets you cos you want him to spend time with you and not his neighbour, but tell him you don't mind him spending time with other people but not til ridiclous times in the morning or something.
Hopefully he won't see that as possesive, you can't hold your feelings in about these things or it will just eat away at you and then eventually you will come off as jealous and obsessive.
Just be honest with him and it should all be ok.
Sarah
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when you are on your period do you gain or lose weight?
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During your period, your body doesn't gain weight, most people feel a little bloated but that isn't noticeable to anyone else but yourself.
It all depends on you & your genes. Everyone's different so it affects them in different ways. Some may feel bloated while others never have this symptom. Or others may have painful periods and others don't.
Weight gain or bloatedness around the stomach, ankles or wherever is caused by extra fluid in your body called water retention. To reduce the effects of this, it could be an idea to cut back on salty foods the week before your period.
Sarah
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Is it okay to lick a vagina during sex? Me and my spouse haven't tried sex and we are newly wedded but I'm just making sure if is it okay to lick a vagina. (link)
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Yes it's okay to lick a vagina, it's called oral sex and it can be very pleasurable and is great foreplay. As long as you know your partner doesn't have a STI then it should be a great experience for you both.
A lot of people have oral sex, you could find out more information about it by googling it.
Sarah
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So, my boy & have have been dating for 2 & a half years..we r both 18 & we r going to college next year...our relationship has been sort of rocky latly which sucks. yesterday we got out of school at 1 & he was going to call me after he went to best buy with his bestfriend. we were supposed to hang out but he never ended up calling me & ditched me for his friend. He has done this A LOT... & every time i get mad, not only because we didnt hang but that he didnt call me to tell me what was going on.. i no they are best friends & dont want to come between them but they are in the same classes, work together, and hang out ALL of the time.. i told my boy that if it happens again i would dump him.. idk what else to do. im losing all trust in him but still want to make it work & if we do break up..all of my friend wont hang with me anymore kas they are his friends to...please help...any advice???!! (link)
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I understand that you must be feeling pretty torn about this, relationships are hard and both people need to put the effort into them to make them work. It sounds like you're the one that's putting most effort into it at the moment.
If you feel that the spark's gone, you could try inviting him over and lighting a few candles, play some sexy music and getting romantic or something.
Come up with some romantic ideas to put the spark back into your relationship, that should help with getting him to spend a lot more time with you instead of his mate.
Tell him how you feel, if your friends are true friends then they will stand by you no matter what. Don't worry what they'll think if you break up, it's your life and you can't put yourself in confusion and missery just because you're scared of what they'll think of you.
Hope that helps, if you want me to help you any more, just ask :)
Sarah
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my girlfriend is confused about what she wants to do carear wise, she says she doesnt want to go to uni, but i think she shud get some qualifications at the least even at a deploma at a college, she says she may want to be an advice coloumnist. what do you think she should? p.s. blowjobs do give girls large boobs lol (link)
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Blowjobs don't give girls large boobs & you know that lol.
I think your girlfriend will figure it out in time, maybe she should take a gap year to decide?
It's sometimes hard to find the right information about universitys and the courses that they offer.
Being an advice columnist would be good, but it could be hard to get a job in this area as it is quite popular.
Sarah x
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hey well, ive found my gf going off to do secret websites behind my back, some are not very tasteful and others are okay. i dont mind her doing them, and i dont think she knows i know, but she doesnt tell me. these websites havent been hard to find, most the time i stumble on them by mistake. but still she doesnt tell me. what should i do?
thanks jay (link)
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Confront her about it, she might just want to keep some things private, but if you know about it then and it's on your mind, there's no harm in just asking her about them.
She might know you know and may not be bothered by it and may not thing it's necessary to tell you.
If you don't mind her doing it just let her know, she should be okay with it & it'll put your mind at rest.
Sarah
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i didnt meet him on myspace.
i met him at school.
but i just have his myspace. (link)
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Ahh okay then, makes more sense now. Yeah then could be a good idea to meet him then and make sure you get his number off him to ring him when you arrive, even if he doesn't show if you take some friends you can have a good time with them.
Sarah
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is it bad to go out with your ex boyfriends friend? if your still good friends with your ex? thanks (link)
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I was in your situation a year ago, just split up with my ex then I started talking to my current boyfriend who at the time was friends with my ex and I was still good friends with him too.
It all worked out in the end and I'm still going out with him after over a year and I've never been happier.
It's not wrong as long as you go about it the right way and don't lie about anything if you want to keep your friendship with him.
But if you think that he would be too hurt by this, then don't go for it if you still want to remain good friends with him.
Sarah
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okay ill start out by saying that im an 8th grade girl.anyway,i have abf of 7 months who i like very much.but i also like someone else.he`s one of my best friends cousin.he`s soooooo cute and funny an d i think he likes me back.but i have one problem---he`s in 5th grade.but i like him so much!
and his parents hate me because his dad saw me kiss my boyfriend and hes really strict so he would never let him go out with me.but this kid is soo nice & funny and if you saw him u would think he was in 8th grade.i dont know what to do? should you just forget about him and continue being friends with him? (link)
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Hmmm if you're not liking your current boyfriend as much as you did, and you're thinking about someone else, do you really want to be with your current boyfriend anymore regardless of this new boy? Maybe you should let him down gently then wait a bit if you decide to go ahead with the new boy.
It doesn't matter about age really and it's not up to this boy's dad to decided who his son goes out with. So if you do want to get with him, go for it.
But if you feel that you still have really strong feelings for your current boyfriend then maybe you should just forget about this new boy and the phase might pass.
Only you can decide who to choose, do what you feel is best.
Sarah
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why do some girls like giving head?
me and my boyfriend we're wondering. (link)
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Probably because they like to please their boyfriends and make them feel special. Also by giving head, they know that they will be able to have the favour returned.
Or some girls may not like it, but want the same doing for them and so give head anyway.
Also it may make the girl feel good knowing that she has so much power to be able to seduce and pleasure her man.
It's also good foreplay
Sarah
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Okay so my one friend keeps telling me that my other friends ( who doesn'treally get along with me anyway ) is calling me a whore behind my back. My one friend is standing up for me but she says that my other friend is saying that im a whore because my boyfriend of 7 months and i make out during movies - i understand yeah maybe she doesn't want to see it but the thing is his dad hates me and we can NEVER see each other and thats pretty much the only time i can do that with him its getting really hard ! i just want to know if i really am a whore for this or is she just being lsfijsdlf ? (link)
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It sounds as though your friend is probably jealous of you and yeah she might not want to see it, but that's no reason to call you a whore.
You're deffinately not a whore, because you've being going out with your boy for 7 months. A whore would be someone who has frequent short-term sexual relationships, which doesn't sound like you at all.
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So my boyfriend always puts his arm around my waist.. and i dont know what to do with my hands/arms. I know something like this has already been answered.. but im sorry i would like to know so i dont feel like an idiot. Is there a certain way i should put my hands/arms??? thanks a million!! (link)
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When I'm with my boyfriend and he puts his arm around my waist, I usually do the same or I hold his arm or something.
Experiment till you find something that feels right for both of you.
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so i really like this guy and i think he likes me back. we asked me to go to blue bayou with him(waterpark) sat.
i dont have a ride or anything.
all i have is his myspace no phone number anything.
should i message him on myspace?
if so , what should i say
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If you don't know him in person, then it's never a good idea to meet him alone. Especially as you can't get there and you don't have his phone number to ring him when you arrive at the waterpark.
I think you should message him and either tell him to bring a friend, and you also bring a friend or meet somewhere else that's closer to home, that way you'll be a lot safer as I don't advise you going alone to meet him.
Plus get his mobile number if you're going to meet up.
Then the next time you meet, you could go alone maybe?
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14/f. hey!!! ok, well, just about 10. min ago, i had my first kiss!! but, i don't know if i'm doing it right/good. he says i do it good, but i don't feel like i am. he was about to say something that i should change, but then someone called on the fone, and he didn't finish my sentance. so, yeah.. how do u know if your doin it right?? thanks! (link)
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There's nothing right or wrong about a kiss but as you do it more, you'll feel better and more confident about it.
Just make sure you're really into it, no one's perfect first time they kiss.
You could ask him what he likes or there might be sites on the internet with different ideas for you to both to try.
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I'm 15 F
I started going out with a guy from school on Friday. I like him, a lot.
I'm really nervous around him.
I wanna hold his hand and kiss him
but I get so shaky, and I'm so afraid of messing up.
I don't wanna be moving too quickly
and lose him but yeah lol
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Well if he's going out with you then he obviously likes you and is probably thinking the same things as you.
Try holding his hand and then maybe kissing him on the check first then make your move after you've seen his reaction.
I don't think he'd think you were moving too fast and don't be worried there's nothing to mess up.
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