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okay so im 15/f and i like this guy alot. i think i might actually love him too. hes 14/m, a few months younger than me. but my one friend things im nuts! i mean her perfect dream guy is taller and older than her. While i seemed to always like younger guys.. (not too young though) But i mean shes just like "well are you sure you like him? i mean its okay if you though he was cute but liking him?" and i think its just so frustraighting! and i know i shouldnt care what she thinks about him but i mean... it would be nice to just have her be like more supportive about it. what do you say?? and i'm so sorry this is so long.. ill rate

You need to just straight out tell her that everyone has different opinions, and you happen to like the guy. Is it a crime? Is it going to kill her if YOU like a guy? I think not. I would even go so far as to telling her to stop being a drama queen. Trust me, if you stand up to her she'll respect you for that, although she may look like she's hurt or mad, she'll get over it. Just like who you want to like and don't let people like that get to you. They're not worth your time.

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(Sorry this is so long)

I have a crush on this guy, and I have for a while. Like...ever since school started. I was doing this psychic board thing (Kinda like an oija board) and usually I never believe those things, but it kept insisting that he liked me, too.

So I kinda went along with it still not believing it, and kinda watched what he did around me. I started talking to him online and he gets really nervous and doesn't know what to say and won't talk a lot. In school, he looks at me and stretches in the middle of class and he'll accidently touch my leg or my desk or something and pull back his hand, blush, and say: "Oh, I'm sorry." And I always laugh at my jokes, because if I don't he'll look back at me and then kinda bow his head.

Anyways, my friend has had a crush on the guy since she was in Preschool. She's in 8th grade with me now. She's really jealous because I keep telling her I think he likes me, and finally she told me how much she likes him, and how they used to be best friends but then he became popular and they grew apart.

So whenever I talk about him she gets really jealous and hurt and yells at me to stop talking. I'm afraid if I go out with the guy she'll have a nervous breakdown, or be afraid to hang out with me anymore.

So my two questions:
1. Do you think this guy likes me? If so, should I ask him out?
2. Do you think if he does like me, SHOULD I ask him out? Or should I be considerate of my friend? Because she said she's never going to actually ask him out, 'cause she knows he would say no, but she doesn't want me going out with him.

What should I do?

Thanks!!! ♥

I rate HIGH!

Um...is there anyway to bump this up so I can get more answers?

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This is going to be long... BEAR WITH ME!

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now, and we are very much in love. Just like any other couple, we have our fights and our ups and downs.

A few weeks ago, at my homecoming dance a friend of mine was driving me and a large group of my friends back to a girls house for a sleepover. (Don't worry, there were no guys sleeping over) In the front seat there was a guy sitting there from another school. He used to go to my highschool but was transfered out, not sure why though. Anyway, we were tall talking in the car, and I said something and the kid in the front seat turned around and turned on the light and said "I want to get a good look at you". We were talking about random things for about 20 minutes then we got to the girls house I was staying over at, and I left.


A few days later, he added me as his friend on myspace, then we started talking alot online. We realized we had SO much in common. We like the same foods, have the same aspirations, he lives RIGHT next door to my aunt, alot of the same beliefs... About after a week or two of talking online he said to me "I'm so in love with you". I figured he meant the kind of I love you that you'd say to your close friends. And I was said "Yeah, I'm sure". He said "No, I really do. You're the most amazing girl I've ever met. I talk to you more than other girls. You're beautiful, sweet.. Everything I could ever hope for in a girl". He does know that I have a boyfriend and that we've been together for a while and that we love eachother. He says he doesn't want to get in the way of our relationship.. But he is.


I've found my self slowly but surely falling for this guy, and it sucks. But I've noticed a few things about him.. Everything he says doesn't seem sincere. He tells me how much he likes me yadda yadda yadda... But then he goes and says the same thing to other girls. So, at this point I'm thinking to myself that I'm just another girl to him.. Nothing special. I'm trying to not think about him because I DO love my boyfriend dearly.. But I keep thinking about this boy. And I hate it.



I need help to stop thinking about him.. I don't want to stop talking to him completely because he's really nice and a great person to talk to. I'm so confused... What do I do? I'm not about to ruine my year and a half relationship for something I don't know is going to even last... I'm tired of taking chances.

Eek. That is quite a pickle.

What I would do is tell him straight out that you still love your boyfriend, and although you think he's a great guy, you just don't like him like that, (so its a little white lie, it won't matter) and after you do that you'll probably feel a lot better.

He'll probably be sad but don't blame yourself. He should've waited a lot later while you were single, or something. And just try and get even closer with your boyfriend and you'll probably forget you ever liked this other guy.

Not really sure what else to say. Good luck! ♥

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I really like someone and I want him to like me back. We are already friends. He always is so sweet and chivalris(sp?) and I love being around him. I want him to ask me out so bad but I dont know how to make him like me like me!!! HELP PLEASE!!

I rate high!

Well, the main problem with this is that you can't MAKE someone like you. They have to like you for you...if you make them like you or bribe them into going out with you or because they feel bad since you like them so much, usually it just turns out bad...do you really want to go out with someone whos just dating you because you made them? Or because you lied and made them think you're something you're not?

This is something I tell everyone, though: Guys do NOT ask out girls. (Well, it depends on what grade you're in. Like, if you're in Middle School they usually wait for the girl to ask them).

I say take a chance and ask him, if you think he likes you. The worst he can say is no. If he does, just go on with your life. I'm sure you'll find someone else you like. ^_^

Good luck. ♥

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ok well i went out with this guy for almost 8 months and then we broke up and went out again but my parents really dont like him and everytime i wanted to do something with him i had to lie and i got sick of it so i dumped him. Now he keeps telling me im a pussy for not wanting to get in trouble, he says he can't be my friend either because he can't have friends that are pussys (come on how immature) and hes just being a really big dick about it! my question is should i just 4get about him or try to talk to him so we can at least stay friends? Thanks in advance!

If he's calling you a pussy for breaking up, he's just:

1. Jealous.
2. Angry.
3. Immature.
4. Stupid.

If he has the nerve to call you a pussy for something like that, (even though breaking up is a big thing) and he has no sympathy, he's not worth your time. He just wants your attention, and I really don't think you want to get sucked into going out with him again, right? I say just forget about him.

But if he DOES try to talk to you, or be your friend, just act friendly but try not to hang out with him, that way eventually he'll just move on.

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okay i need help. there's this guy and i reallllyy like him. he's perfect, awesome personality, beautiful eyes, funny, gorgeous smile/dimples.. what more can you ask for? but anyways, we've known each other for like 1 1/2 months, and we text and call everry night. but then when we see each other at school we barely talk?! when we're on the phone we can carry on a convo. forever. do yall think he likes me? cause i wanna go out with him. but i don't know if he likes me and i don't wanna ask him b/c i'm scared to know his reaction. so what are some ways for him to liikee me? i've never really felt this wayy for a guy before. please help. i rate=) thxx!

Well, right off the bat it sounds like he might have a crush on you. What YOU need to do is attempt to talk to him like you would on the phone at school. Nobody will care, and he'll probably enjoy the conversation. It makes guys feel more confident in a girl when they can start a conversation, even though they usually can't themselves (hehe!).

As for asking him out, I think you really should. Even if its over IM or text, or through a friend, its worth a shot. My biggest fear is rejection too, but you know what?

Guys HATE asking girls out! They always expect the girls to. So HE might be waiting for YOU to ask him, you never know. And the worst thing he can say is "No", and all you have to do is be like, "okay, cool. friends it is, then." and just go on with your lives!

Hope I helped! ♥

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okay.. me and my ex b/f(eric) broke up a month ago.. and i have a new b/f(rj) now.. and he has a new g/f(rachel).. me and eric were going out for 3 years till we broke up.. so of course, im not quite over him.. i dunno what to do.. i tried talking to eric.. but it just aint working..he doesnt even wanna be my friend.. and im just going through a really rough time right now.. and imm always depressed.. can you give me some advice on how to get over him.. thanks

OMG, I had the same exact problem as you when I first broke up with my ex. Its been almost a year and I'm still not fully over him, (Like, I get jealous and stuff when he is with other girls).

Its really natural. It was REALLY hard for me at first. You'll probably experience withdrawls, lol. Sad but true. I didn't know if I was going to get through with it. The best thing to do is to just wait it out, go out with other people, and whatnot. You WILL get over him, trust me. You'll probably realize that he wasn't even good enough for you, anyways. And remember, usually people break up a lot so its not like you're weird or anything, its just you weren't meant to be.

Another good thing is having your friends help you through it. Friends are the best antidote for heartbreak!

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so me and my boyfriend were goign out for 11 months and then broke up for the summer even tho we were sitll like in love wiht eachother jsut so we could do our own thing for the summer. he liked me all summer n didnt do anythign wiht any other girls bc of that reason and same for me. Now we are going back out and i wanna do something really special for him or just like cute not like dinner or anything like something i can do besdies that bc tahts boring. please help!

I use Proactive. It has helped me, and I've been using it for 2 years. It works pretty much instantly, but the zits still come and go as they please. If you're anywhere near my age (13) then it won't clean them completely up, because you're at your high-point for puberty so you can't expect them all to go away, but it works better than anything else I've tried. =)

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okay so i have gone out with my ex for 6 months and its been a year and im still not over him.. i have tried to get over him but its so hard and i really need to get over him because its just so hard for me to see him with other girls, i have tried to be with some guys but my ex is always on my mind and it just wont work.. please help

I just recently got over my ex, and we only went out for 2 weeks last year at the beginning of the year. It takes a while. But eventually the pain will go away. I know its hard. The best advice I can give you is just forget about him, and move on. That's really all you can do. =(

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okay well i am obsessed with my boyfrend i rite his name all over my papers and i rite it on my hand i rite it in my AIM profile i rite it EVERYWHERE!!! do you think that boys like it wen you obsess over them or do they find it annoying? plz help thnx ;)

Well, I know for a fact there's this one guy that a lot of dorky girls obsess over because he's pretty hot. He finds it annoying and just plain weird.

But since you're his boyfriend, I don't know. It could be different. Maybe just take it a little easy...it might creep him out. Try thinking about other things rather than just him. I know its hard, but in the end I think it'll help.

Because when or if you guys break up, do you want him to remember you as "the obsessive girlfriend"? Lol, I don't think so!

Hope I helped. ♥

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well my brother has this friend and he told me brother that he likes me and i like him..and he now knows that thanks to my brother!!...its sound like a dream right????..WRONG...he has a girlfriend..and like they are always together and they are all over eachother...and its right infront of me..i feel like im gunna cry...but when i see them together they are usually like wrapped naround eachother but i see his staring at me..WTF...i dont know what to do

i need help
will rate 5's for good answers

~so sad~

He might be trying to make you jealous, which I don't think he should anymore since he obviously has your attention.

But maybe he's just trying to be a "player", and be cool for the 'ladies'. If I were you, talk to him about it. I know its hard, but if you have his s/n online or something, it'll be easier. Or write him a note/have your brother talk to him if you feel you can trust your brother.

Good luck!

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well, im 13 and i live in mastic on long island and i have a job at a traveling carnival....well theres this boy there that i like and hes 13 too but hes 8 months younger....his name is danny and he lives in comak...how ever you spell that..lol...well i really like him and i think he likes me..he gives me hugs when i see him and we share are food and drinks and all that other spit...we've never kissed though...but we tell eachother we that we love em all the time...any way-his obnoxious older brother pete (15), told my older sister amber (17) that compared to all the other girls danny's gone out with im god.now this danny is really hot but not to tall hes prolly 5'4''- im 5'5 and a quarter....and hes really skinny and im well not exactly skinny im average....anyway my sister was like isnt my sister a little chubby for him-pete was like i said she was like god.im scared that he might not like me though so if i go up to him and like ask him out and he says no then im going to be really embarassed...but i was thinking that if he s ever online while i am then i could trick him...i could be like im here with my cousin and allthat good stuff and then b lik ima pretend to b my cousin (whos not really there), pretending to be me and like start asking how he feels about me if he dont like me then ima b like this is her cousin dum ass- but if he says he do lik me then im just gonna turn back into me- do you think that might work???please help me-i rate high

If he really cares about you being average weight, then he's a prick and you shouldn't worry about him. He should like you for other reasons beside how much you weigh. :(

Hm...perhaps you should tell him, or just ask him if he feels the same. After all, it sounds like you've known each other for a while and are pretty comfortable with each other, right? So why not ask him?

Seems to me like he likes you back. ^_^

Good luck!

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Im 13, and theres this boy who ive liked from the first day of school, and on the second day, he just randomly walked up to me and started walking next to me and talking to me. He is kind of my friend now but he still doesn that sometimes...do you think these are signs that he likes me?

He might just be interested in being your friend. You should start talking to him, getting to know his interests, and seeing if he shares the same as you. If you find that you start to like him even more, and he seems to like you, make your move and ask him out. If he rejects you, at least you'll still know enough about him and stuff that he'll probably still want to be friends. But if you just spring out the question right now, it might be kind of awkward for him, since he might still be getting to know you. But if you really trust him, you could just ask him or have a friend ask him if he likes you, and make it seem like they're just asking for the sake of it, not for you to find out. Good luck!

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my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a month, but i dont really see him as a boyfriend because he doesnt really treat me as one. i feel like we are better as friends but i dont know what to do. some people say i should break up with him, but others say to tell him to start treating me as a girlfriend and let it last longer. what do i do?

Well, if you still want it to maybe work out, I think the best thing to do is talk with him. I mean, you have been going out for 3 months, so you should be able to talk to him by now, right? So just ask him to talk, and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't seem to care or just denies it and doesn't try to help make the situation better, I would break up with him, but if he actually looks like he's thinking about how the relationships been going, then give him a while. See if his actions change. If they don't, you should break up. Because you don't want to be stuck with a person who doesn't treat you like they even like you...trust me, I know. There are plenty of other guys to date in your life time.

Good luck!

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I cheated on my boyfriend and now he is really mad at me. he is thinking about breaking up with me. What can i do to fix this?

If you cheated on him, why would you want to fix it? Obviously you don't have feelings for him if you cheated. Because number one, that's just plain wrong when you're going out with him in the first place. Think of how you'd feel if he did that, so you should've broken up with him. Number two, if he's that mad he's probably not going to let you fix it.

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