about

you can call me tori.
im fourteen- but know alot for my age.
im taken& he means the world to me.
i love helping people with their problems
and since i've been through a lot it's easy
for me to help& understand.
i have alot of fake friends.
im not even close to perfect.
i hate when people lable.
i like straight-up, outgoing people.
hating me isn't proving anything.
i love to smile.(:
hopefully i'll help most of you

advice

Well he cheated on me and had
has said a lot of bad things
to me! He made me cry all the
time. But now he has a girlfriend
and should i just move on or stay with him?

ooh whoa. you don't deserve that at alll !
if he cheated on you& made feel like shit
you need to be with someone who makes you
happy not upset. and now that he has a girlfriend i wouldn't even try it because he might just do the same thing to you again if you get back together. personally i would move on even if you love him you need to be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself.

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So i had this boyfriend who i really
loved, and he loved me back but we
called things off but i still have
feeling for him but he hurt ALOT
in the past but he also made me really
happy! should just let go of him or
really and make things work?

welll it depends on how bad he hurt you& if you are able to handle it again. you need to have a talk with him and hopefully he will change for you because if you two really love eachother you will make it work, but i can't really tell you what to choose. if i was you i would try to make it work again. talk to him and see if his feelings are still the same& i hope everything works out for you hun

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So me and this on guy date for awhile but broke up. and we still act like we are together and wants to get backk together but im not sure what i want to do because he has hurt me in the past and i am afraid of getting hurt again. so should i get back with him or just forget about him?

i personally wouldnt go back with him if he hurt you& save yourself the pain. you have to ask yourself if you want to go through that again. if you are afraid of getting hurt you might not want to go with him find someone you know wont do that to you. because really why would you wanna do that to yourself agian ? i say you should try to forget about him if its easy enough; but maybe just be friends with him.

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i like this guy and he says he likes me, we talk on the phone constantly and weve hung out like every day this week. well i kinda asked him out but he never answered. and hes asked me out in the past a couple times but that was like 2 years ago. we went to the movies and held hands and stuff and everyone can tell we like each other;we flirt like 24/7. hes even told me he would love to kiss me but doesnt wanna screw anything up. so how do i get him to finally get the balls to ask me out?

first of tell him that kissing you wouldnt screw anything up because you wouldnt mind it. when you talk on the phone or hang out; see if hes wanting a relationship now. maybe he thinks you dont want to date him anymore. make sure he knows you asked him out also maybe hes just nevous about it

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13/f
they did hagout she went w/ him and now he asked me to hangout and idk if i should be mad at him or not b.c he tells me he hates her and stuff but my friends tell me they are like all around each other all the time and idk he knows i still like him and all

yes you have a right to be mad. hes basically telling you what you want to hear so then you'll hang out with him. he does sound like the player type now, and you deff dont want to deal with that because i did before and i even screwed freinds over for him and it wasnt even worth it because i ended up hurt. i'd try to stay away from this boy even if you do like him, you can be his friend but try not to be anything more

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i dated this guy and we broke up after like a week. i really like him. and he says he likes me. but he wont ask me out. his friend and my friend are dating and they've been trying to get him to ask me out but he wont. the thing is that i really like him. he's had a lot of girlfriends. people say hes just a player but i havent seen that side of him. what should i do?

well if you dated him before and he didnt seem like a player to you then you shouldnt worry about it. dont listen to other people whatever makes you happy; just do it. he might just want to figure himself out before he gets a girlfriend so thats probably why hes not ask you yet. and just because hes had a lot of girlfriends doesnt mean hes a player unless hes done stuff to prove he is. dont give up on him yet my guess is he'll come around

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15/f
ok so this guy i used to date for a while is just now starting to talk to me again. and i just now started getting over him, cause he took my virginity and everything so it was hard to move on.
since he started talking to me im scared im gonna end up falling for his bullshit again.
and the other guy i like is in rehab and me and him are supposed to get together when he gets back but thats in 3 weeks. and i havent really talked to him since he left.
im just scared ill end up falling for my ex again, and i dont want to cause he went out with me for sex, treated me like shit and cheated on me like 10 times.

how do i avoid this?

you need to avoid him; if he calls you dont pick up the phone and also dont call him back. if you see him around and he asks you why you havent talked make the convo short and tell him your busy. dont agree to go on dates or just talk to him because then you might fall for his sweet words that he's going to use. you know that he hurt you so you have to remind yourself that you would never want to go back to that. well i hope i helped you some

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13/f
so i like this boy and we like went on and off but we dated for awhile but we btoh still like each other and he like asked me out but i didnt say nothin then 1 of my friends told me he called 1 of my other friends to see if she wanted to hangout i mean i kno we aint datin but i dont think it is right to do that idk i think he miht be usin me or something but i like him so.... much

well i hope your friend didnt hang out with him or thats not really a friend. he still likes you& you still like him so let him know that. that might be why he asked her to hang out. show more interest in him and ask him to watch a movie or just come over and talk with you. and your right thats not okay to do- make sure if you two will date again that he is only going to be with you

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Theres this girl I know& her names tori kellar& she's like suppper pretty. :)
& I loooove her aloot.

im not sure who this is but thank you.

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hi, i am a 14/f
i need some help. okay well i like me best friends ex boyfriend& yeah he's adorable& stuff (; but i think she likes him because she still acts like it& you know when you can tell yeahhh; i can tell!& it annoy's my because she knows i like him n' stuff but idk& she EVEN has a boyfriend i can't stand it i mean her boyfriend is sooo nice to her n' stuff but idk, she just uhhh& i love her to death i mean she is my best friend but i don't want to say anything because there [were] dating n' not no more so i am trying too stop liking him because she likes him n' i know it& i am just tired of not likeing someone because someone likes them! it annoy's me so what should i do?? please help!

well thats first of all not right of your best friend to act like she still likes him when she knows that you like him& because second she has a boyfriend. she is probably just trying to make you jealous that she once had him so she still acts like she could get him back. and it happeneds all the time with girls two or more girls usually like the same guy; you just have to want to make yourself happy and go for it. dont keep giving up just because someone else likes him because chances are that boy coulda liked you. telll you best friend that she needs to make up her mind because she cant have her cake and eat it too.

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so theres this kid eh...
and we went out for EvEr and then broke up cuz he liked my best friend. but after that we started "hanging out" more than we did when we were going out and this time he tells me he loves me. but anyway....
he then tells me out of the blue we cant "hang out" anymore cuz he likes someone else(s. and then...
i go to his party where one of the girls he likes is there. so all night he flirts with her. then she leaves and, i think out of old habit, starts on me. but luckly my dad came and once i went to leave, he hung behind every1, to kiss me. but i ran ahead of the crowd and out the door.
i mean i like him still,i cant get him outta my head. but what should i do now?

it sounds like hes kinda teasing you. and he might be testing you to see if you still liked him or not so leaving that party before he could kiss you was probably the best thing to do. you need to talk to him and make sure he would stick to only you and if not then take time and find someone else who will (:

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k so i like this guy and i have been trying to figure out if he like me back. all my friends say he does but that would be too good to be true. Anyways one day i was in the class where we all hangout and he was with his friends and i was with mine. well he fatted(i know great guy choice right?)lol anyways one of his friends was yelling my name "________!_______! did you hear what your boyfreind just did" and then i was like well hes not my boyfriend or whatever and another one of his frieds was like 'dude i dont even know why she like you". Now everytime i am around his friends like when they are telling me a story or something they refer to him as my boyfriend. Do I take this as a hint or just messing around??? pleezzeee help!!!!!!!

well you might what to ask him because they might just be joking around with you knowing that you like him. dont take it serious yet if you& him havent made it offical because you dont want to get hurt

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Well i am 15/f i was dating this one
boy for awhile and well now we arn't
together,now he is dating one of my
friends and i still love him alot
i just don't know what to do, i want to
tell him how i feel but i just can't
that would be bad towards my friend
but right now i am not happy and i feel
like i won't be happy until i get him back.

it sounds like a really tough situation and it probably hurts to see them. but dont feel like you wont be happy until you have him back; you have to tell yourself that you dont need him and that your going to find someone else even better even if it doesnt feel like you will for awhile. that's what i had to do because you probably feel like no one can take his place but really someone out there can; you kinda have to force yourself to feel this way for now but soon it will just take over and you will feel that way naturally take a break with the whole boy thing and wait for someone special to find you it'll make it alot easier on yourself. have fun with your friends and dont think about him he's not worth it. and dont tell him how you feel because it would make things very bad with you and your friend and try not to make it weird for your friend to be around the both of you at once; try writing a letter and act like your going to give it to him but really just get it all out then burn it or hide it where no one will find it because i've done that also and it helps alot more. you can also try focusing on other things& dont think about the past just go on with your future. i hope everything goes is alright& write back if you still need to talk

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I am thirteen/female & the boy i like is thirteen also, & obviously male. i 've known him for about a year now.. but i never thought he would consider me as a person he would like/date. well he sits infront of my in our world history class & he flirts with me alot- my friend who sits across the room from us said she has noticed alot of the flirting that goes on between us, she has said that it is obvious that he likes me, but i don 't want to seem too forward by asking him if he likes me or not. I obviously like him a great deal. But how do i ask him/find out if he has any feelings for me with out apearing too forward/ desperate?

it seems like he does like you& if he has known you for about a year he's gotten to know you. most boys flirt but not alot so there must be some interest there. hint around that you like him first and show interest back& see if he still flirts the same way; if he doesnt then he wont be worth it but if you see that he does then start talking to him about hanging out or going to the movies. if your nervous you could have your friend do it. i hope everything works!

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hey. i'm 13/f and i think he is 14 and obviously male. we like a lot of the same things and i really like him, although i only met him last week and we only spent 3 hours together, we seemed to have a lot in common. the thing is i don't know if he'd date me since we live in different towns and he's a year older. according to my friends he was flirting with me a lot, but i saw an equal amount between all three of us. how can i try to flirt with him a little more and make him like me a little more without seeming way desperate?

well if he really likes you then he wont care about the distance or the age difference and try to make it work out. and as for the flirting thing just kinda giggle at the little things he says but dont make it look too obvious and start busting out laughing at something little. smile and him and maybe talk about hanging out he
should get the point

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This is going to sound stupid,
but I'm 16/f I've never had a boyfriend yet,
never been kissed.

Its pathetic right?

I'm one of those people who crave a relationship, to be loved and to love.

All the guys I meet seem to just be 'good friends' and a lot of them actually, have feelings for my best girl friends.

I usually can solve or potentionally solve all my problems with answers from myself or others.

But I dont know why I cant find a boyfriend,
I have a lot of guy friends, but none seem to be interested in that way.

I dont even know how to attract them anymore,
I'm just so confused. And I'm lonely.
I know I'm young, but can any of you relate, and if so, what happened so far?

I just feel like something is wrong with me.

no nothing is wrong with you. boyfriends are great but sometimes it's just better to be single and have fun with friends; dont rush into love.
but you have to ask yourself is there any guy that seems interested in you or you find yourself interested in. you just need to take it slow from there because you dont want a heartbrake. maybe if your still feeling lonely ask one of you friends how they are attracting the guys

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