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hi im 14 live in newfoundland and i just like giving advice and helping out but im homest weither it nice or brutal

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Okay, I have this really good friend of mine. She and are are basically like twins, but of the oppisit sex. We've already kinda agreed to be like friends with benifits, and soon we're ganna meet eachother... Of course we're both virgins, and I wouldn't be ashamed to loose my virginity to such a great person, but I'm just kinda unsure about what its going to do with my future. We arn't together and might not ever be... But I'm just kinda worried about what kind of an impact it will have on my other relationships
-Plz Help

Don't most people end up regretting their first time to begin with and for you it is only going to be a casual thing, you should wait tell you find someone relle special in your life thety you love and who loves you back

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How do you tell your parents that you are bisexual? Please help me!!!

ok im bisexual i havent told my parents yet and im not untill i move out of the province i live in making sure i never come back permanently but since you want to i would just sit one down that you are relle close to or both at the sam etim eit will be ok they might not approve but no matter what they will always love you

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**Caution: Very LONG**

Okay so i'm in this choir for my church and there's 5 other girls. And this boy named matt plays gutair and he always is there whenever we are. Well during the summer we went on a retreat. and i started to get these feelings when i was around him. And now i really really like him. But there's this girl lanessa who is also in the choir. she flirts with him all the time right in front of me! and she knows how much i like him to. And we went to a concert last friday right. well he was really wasn't talking to me and everything and i wanted to talk to him. and just get to know him better.. well lanessa was like all over him. sitting right next to him. flirting with him.! everything!! and now i find out that she calls him baby and there gonna go to the movies together!! i guess what i'm trying to ask is what should i do? i really truly like him. almost at the point of loving him!! and i really hurts me soo much. My heart can't take anymore of this. Every guy i've ever liked always screw me over! i've never had a boyfriend or anything! and it suxs!! I just want to know what i should do. so please if anyone has any GOOD advice for me.. please let me know!!!!

JennY!

p>S..I'll rate you for good advice!

*cough* shes a bitch *cough*, well egnore her get closer to him tlk to him dont wait for him if hes ignoring you....Try to not let your feelings take over,if you do you'll end up on drugs or alchool trust me on that its happened to me recently,if he makes you fell like shit you can talk to him about it.

hope i helped ~thund3struck

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hiii.
kay well. Im 14 and im a girl. Boys are so inmature now a days. All the guys I go out with are not good boyfriends. All they say to me is " your hot" And I really want a really long good relationship. I know thats not really possible at my age but i see it all the time. I want a guy who loves me for me and does all those cute little sweet things. Ive had a couple in the past like that but they turned out to be ass holes.
Why cant I find that type of guy?

Ok...Im a guy but like i heard one of the girls in my class say sumthign not sure exactly what but it was like"...if a guy is nice hes gay" I am gay and I believe that because all my guy friends are assholes exept one...and what XDONTXHATEX said trying to change them dont if they care they'll know that you dont like sumthign they are doing and they'll change themselves hopefully for the better if not they dont relle like ya thats the key there... and youre only 14 you have pleny of time to find sumone

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So is it true what they say, that once you are friends with a girl you are trapped in the friend zone forever, and it will never grow into something more? or is it just a myth?

Myth but if you take the risk it doesnt always mean that it will work out...ive seen friend be broken up before

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Okay I had a weird situation.... I've liked this guy for like 7 months, well I love him.... he's bisexual, but has a crush on someone else.... which dosen't really bother me much cause we're EXTREMELY close! Anyhow, there's this new guy at work...only problem is HE'S 15 and I'm 17. Everyone says I like him or whatever, but I like to hang out with him cause we're VERY ALIKE (To the point where it scares me)....so I dunno whether or not I'm crushin on him, and then at that, there's a girl I've been thinkin about more than usual...like she's cool or whatever...but I dunno if I'm lookin at her cause I've never been successfull with males or whatever...but I dunno, I dun wanna be BI, I'd rather stay straight, but my luck with guys is horrible...but this whole thinkin about her thing has just started, it's weird....I dunno. ANY ADVICE WILL HELP.... just tell me what yall think....

Being Bi is nothing so if you are go alongi am and im happier than ever becuase i know im not confined to one ot 2 ppl i can expand my reach so I think the same will be wit you if you are heres a cd to help you feel at peice with yourself...Joy willams=artist album=genesis it awsome and well it might just be a phase your going trough a lot of ppl do so dont worry just go wit what yah got!

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13/m Hey all, I've got the longest story in the world to tell, but nobody wants to hear that. Basically, over the summer I realized that I loved one of my best friends, I told her, she's not sureherself how she thinks of me. And I'm not talking about any of that crap teenage infatuation. I know infatuation. I know love. This is love. Well, last night, I dreamt about her =D The last time I dreamt about her, I dreamt that I asked her out. I asked her out the next day but to no avail. Of course, I've been thinking about her and only her for months, ever since I discovered my true feelings. It's been making me fail my classes---like for example we just got our progress reports, and normally, I'm really really smart, I'm in all the advanced courses, but I got an F in science...

Last night I dreamt about her. It was in the middle of French class, which is weird because she takes Spanish, and her ex was there, as were my parents... anyway, at random when Madame (insert her name here) was in the bathroom, she told me how she felt: "Hey, (my name), I've been thinking, and I realized that I actually do like you as more than a friend." And she smiled, and we hugged, and I danced around the room. I made an idiot of myself, but I was too happy to care! She finally loved me back!

Well, the dream ended as we were about to kiss, because I don't think you're supposed to know what that feels like until you actually experience it. Now, why am I so obsessed with this dream? I'm not very religious, and I'm not superstitious in the least. I don't even believe in luck, with drawing cards from a deck or flipping a coin---there are variable factors that affect the outcome. So why should I be asking a question to 10,000 columnists about some stupid dream? The one supernatural belief that I have is in telekinetics, telepathy, and psychics. Especially between twins (it's a proven fact) or in dreams. Dreams frequently predict the future in my experiences, and my sister's, and my friends', and everyone's. So why should this be any different?

It feels like I'm writing a persuasive essay right now... Another reason why is because last time something like this happened, it was when I e-mailed her how I felt (I'm way too shy) not knowing that she was on vacation with no internet connection. Well, about five minutes after I went outside to play basketball, I started thinking about her a LOT. When I came in, I checked my e-mail, and one of them was from that exact time as when I was thinking about her so much!

But I guess the biggest reason of all... is because I love her so much and I just really want her to love me back, and my mind will do anything to make me believe that there's hope when there actually isn't. For all you DnD fans out there, if you have the Unearthed Arcana book, flip to the part about the sanity points. Well, it feels like I just lost all my sanity points. In a nutshell, it sucks to be me. What should I do???

P.S. I already started keeping a diary of stuff, as of 3 days ago... not really helping...

if shes a good friend its great that you told her or you are telling her well yah if she is your friend dont ruin the relanship you have dont ask her out if you want to

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well here is the deal. im am so confused about my sexuality. like i think guys are cute and i may like them when i start going out with them. but when i break up with them i feel as if i never cared about them and that they were someone just passing through my life. But when it comes to females it's a diffrent story. i actually feel something for them. and when i break up with them i really do feel sad. does this mean that a full lezbian instead of a bisexual?

i thikn your bi but your more for the girls instead of the guys yah im bi and i am more for girls and myfriend is the same way as you so i think you rjustt more for da girls

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13/m I experienced love this summer and I hate it! No, it wasn't infatuation! I know infatuation, this is true love! Maybe I should start from the beginning:
It all started in science class. Or teacher was getting pissed so he decided to assign our seats boy/girl/boy/girl. Of course, I was paired up with the hyperactive freak, because that's just my luck. Immediately, I think to myself, "It's going to be a loooong year."
But she wasn't so bad after all. Time passed, we became friends. The teacher let us change seats, but the people in the front had to sit in the back and vice versa, and it still had to be boy/girl. For simplicity, we just sat next to each other all 3 times that happened.
Everyone made fun of me for it. I'm a geek and proud, and so obviously none of my friends had girlfriends yet either. Actually, only the jocks that girlfriends, and that was because of popularity and "Is she hot?". My parents and sisters were always having fun teasing me. One opf my best friends just liked embarassing me just for being friends with a girl: "Hey, (her name), you know what? You look like (my name)'s girlfriend!" Immediately, we both denied that and walked away. He just grinned. Immature!
As time passed, I learned to love her without knowing it. I didn't know what was happening---I was hoping really hard that I would be placed in a group with her, I was really depressed whenever she had to go... and over the summer I ultimately realized what life was like without her, and I realized that I needed her and that I loved her. So I told her how I felt.
She had recently gone through a painful breakup (I was jealous, she had already gotten a first kiss) with someone who had been one of her best friends, and didn't want to repeat that. Also, she got into a big fight with the popular kids and jocks and they'll do anything to get revenge on her or anyone close to her. And... she's still not quite sure how she feels about me. She said she was thinking about me when she was on vacation for 2 weeks... that's a good sign...
Asking her out really didn't work to well... and now not only have I been tormented by jealousy, rejection, love, and sadness, everything has started to remind me of her. It's been like that for weeks. The carnival? I took her there once. Billy Joel? His "The Longest Time" perfectly describes how I feel. Homestarrunner.com or even Monty Python? They remind me of her. I can't go through life just remembering her everything I do...
Last night I was at a friend's Bar Mitzvah party and I only knew two people there: my sister and the guy who was having the Bar Mitzvah with his brother. The guys who were having the Bar Mitzvah were surrounded by girls during the dances... from The Twist to One-Two Step, there were two girls for every guy, except for me. I wound up dragging my sister onto the dance floor for one of the slow dances... I was thinking the whole time, "Why can't this be the one I'm in love with? Why am I stuck slowdancing with my sister and doing that old making-out-with-yourself routine?" And furthermore, at one point the DJ had us play Musical Guys, where the guys were the chairs and to settle a tie on a guy, the first one to kiss the guy on the cheek gets to stay in. Two people sat on my leg. One of them just voluntarily got out because she didn't want to kiss me. Neither of them did. I can't blame them. But then I'm looking around the room, and some guys are literally smothered! Am I just doomed to be a hopeless single freak? Help me... please!

yah im wit the other missus that ansered you are in love im in the same bout wit my bffl and she knows don't worry your better of not having her you might just ruin the friendship.

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Well today was kind of weird (obviously). I was at a certain rehearsal for something and there was this one girl. She's older than me but i'm not sure how much. I'm 15/f and bi. Well i thought she was looking at me several times and i just got this weird impression. It was almost like she was looking at me in that certain way, ya know??? I swear i could just be paranoid because we didnt' even say a word to each other. But whenever i looked at her i had shivers running all down my back. I couldn't even focus. I have no clue what to do or anything. I must be paranoid but what do y'all think?!?!?! Please give me helpful answers you guys. I rate!! Thanks

i cant say for sure if she does or not add me to msn thund3rstruck_14@hotmail.com and send a e-mail so i know its you

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There's this guy from work, and I'm pretty sure he likes me and/or is somewhat attracted to me... we're going to go and see The Corpse Bride about two weeks from now.. and he kissed me.. I just want to know how I can make this not just a 'friends with benefits' type of thing. How do I get him to officially ask me out, or tell me his feelings for me (whatever the heck they are..)?

15/f. (He's 16.. if that matters..)

you could just talk to him see if he says anythign if not theres nothing you can do besides try to get him to by talking a bit more its his descion in theend if he tell you or not

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OK my boyfriend wants to die. He says he wants to die young. I don't know how to help him. We're going to see a counselor tomorrow morning. Will that help? What do they do?

well they could put him into intensive care but him on antidepressants or just conselling everyweek
~Thund3r struck~

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ok so me and my bf have been going out for 2 weeks. i really want to kiss him, but im not really sure how to. ive never kissed anyone before and im afraid that im gonna be bad. are there any tips or anything i can do. i dont want to make a fool out of myself!!

well if you go wit your tonge touch his teeth wit your toungue and slide it around his mouth gebtily untill he does the same back and always brush your teeth before going out wit him and have breath mints handy

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what do boys do when they like someone? is there anything that they do when they like a girl?

spens more time wit yah
if sumone says you like (i.e) shawna he'll say no blushs says hes just warm them bes a idiot and beats the hell out of em or just scares em a bit away
pokes annoy you
writes you notes
ims you
and the list goes on

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I know these aren;t the best questions to ask, but im not gunna ask anyone else!! There's a guy and his name is Gil. I always thought he liked me, but was never sure! Here are some signs he shows:

-He laughs at me
-Today he poked me purposely and I said "What?" and he said sorry
-He popped my bra strap once
-He smiles at me

Thats it...Does he like me? It's starting to annoy me!!!

well ive like a friend for a while those are signs that a guy likes you if he doesnt talk around you a hole lot or when you do there ocasionally a awkward silence its deffinete but he could just be a idiot id say if he does anythign else like starts calling you a lot ims you a lot then id say yes but just watch him a bit more carefully and get back to me on that

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for quite some time now. I met his parents last weekend and they invited me for lunch on Sunday. I would love to go and all but I don't know what to talk about to make sure they like me.

Suggestions? Thanks so much!

dress nicely use just enough make up so that it doesnt look like a slut/hor/hooker just eyeliner lip gloss but no eyeshadow and stuff lik that be very polite and otherwise just be yourself

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How can you really tell if you're boyfriend likes another girl?

Before we were going out or even started talking regularly, I had heard he liked this other girl. Then a little bit later, we started talking and he started liking me, I guess, because he asked me to homecoming then he asked me out. So then I asked him if it was true if he liked that other girl, and he was like "like on the first day of school." But how can you only like someone for a day?

Later on, the girl he used to like started going out with one of his friends. Then my boyfriend started saying things about how he didn't like the guy she was going out with... but before they were going out, they were friends. Hmm...? And now the girl and his friend broke up and I can tell my boyfriend is trying to be around her so he can talk to her. Like today, I was coming out of the locker room, and he was talking with her and asking her about her ex boyfriend and if she'd go back out with him and didn't even acknoledge my presense.

What do you think? I want to mention something about it to him, but what should I say?

Every guy I've gone out with has liked or likes this girl, goshhhhh.

well talk to him bout it and if he says he does hes a good boyfriend because he can admit to it but you might wann abe careful of cheating if he says yes if he says o trust him time will tell and if he lied that would be your sign to dump him before he dumps you

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ok im sorry if this is long but i really need help!!!right well im 14/f and i met this guy over the summer and ive fancied him ever since and apparently he fancies me...but he has a girlfriend but their ALWAYS on and off and when their off people say its coz he wants to be with me and stuff, i know this sounds stupid but yesterday i hugged him and he smelt so good and it made me want to be with him..and he told my friend that i dont seem like the kinda person to be in long term relashionships what does that suppose to mean??hes 17 by the way and before anyone says hes just messing me around hes not that kinda guy! my best friend just got with his best friend and im so jealous of them what can i do to get him???!?!?!?!??! im so depressed!! sorry its long ill rate high! thnx xxxxx

well heres the thing ask him out when they are off and it probubly means that he thinks your sumone whos likes a short one week fling.

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i just hate when the boys make fun of me.i just want them to treat me like a girl.i always feel like im one of the boys and i just hate it.nobody care for me i always left out.i feel realy lonely to the maximum.other girl friends all get attention from the boys but nobody understand that i need to be cared to.i want to be loved to.its there anything wrong with my character?maybe im boyish but the way i dress up is lady like.perhaps im too friendly and outspoken.what to do???

well in my opinion just get out there and fix your problme get more girlfriends and if thta doesnt help ask them out yourself they probubly like you but are to afraid to aask you out or to go to the movies wit em ad a group of friends etc...

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ok i'm 14..turning 15. Im a freshman. homecoming is next next friday and i dont have a date. i dont understand why a guy wont ask me. i am NOT ugly. i am actually really pretty. i used to model. i am NOT mean. i am a really nice person. i like this guy but i dont get why he wont ask me. any ideas? i dont think he likes anybody else. should i just ask him? is that weird? i really dont want to do that cause i think is akward.

you should ask hiom if you trust him not to tell ryan but otherwise you should ask him if not ask sumone else or go with a group of friends you'll have a relle good time with them just as good as a boy who if you date it will only last 3 months more or less

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