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A dream, a hope, or an omen?
13/m Hey all, I've got the longest story in the world to tell, but nobody wants to hear that. Basically, over the summer I realized that I loved one of my best friends, I told her, she's not sureherself how she thinks of me. And I'm not talking about any of that crap teenage infatuation. I know infatuation. I know love. This is love. Well, last night, I dreamt about her =D The last time I dreamt about her, I dreamt that I asked her out. I asked her out the next day but to no avail. Of course, I've been thinking about her and only her for months, ever since I discovered my true feelings. It's been making me fail my classes---like for example we just got our progress reports, and normally, I'm really really smart, I'm in all the advanced courses, but I got an F in science...
Last night I dreamt about her. It was in the middle of French class, which is weird because she takes Spanish, and her ex was there, as were my parents... anyway, at random when Madame (insert her name here) was in the bathroom, she told me how she felt: "Hey, (my name), I've been thinking, and I realized that I actually do like you as more than a friend." And she smiled, and we hugged, and I danced around the room. I made an idiot of myself, but I was too happy to care! She finally loved me back!
Well, the dream ended as we were about to kiss, because I don't think you're supposed to know what that feels like until you actually experience it. Now, why am I so obsessed with this dream? I'm not very religious, and I'm not superstitious in the least. I don't even believe in luck, with drawing cards from a deck or flipping a coin---there are variable factors that affect the outcome. So why should I be asking a question to 10,000 columnists about some stupid dream? The one supernatural belief that I have is in telekinetics, telepathy, and psychics. Especially between twins (it's a proven fact) or in dreams. Dreams frequently predict the future in my experiences, and my sister's, and my friends', and everyone's. So why should this be any different?
It feels like I'm writing a persuasive essay right now... Another reason why is because last time something like this happened, it was when I e-mailed her how I felt (I'm way too shy) not knowing that she was on vacation with no internet connection. Well, about five minutes after I went outside to play basketball, I started thinking about her a LOT. When I came in, I checked my e-mail, and one of them was from that exact time as when I was thinking about her so much!
But I guess the biggest reason of all... is because I love her so much and I just really want her to love me back, and my mind will do anything to make me believe that there's hope when there actually isn't. For all you DnD fans out there, if you have the Unearthed Arcana book, flip to the part about the sanity points. Well, it feels like I just lost all my sanity points. In a nutshell, it sucks to be me. What should I do???
P.S. I already started keeping a diary of stuff, as of 3 days ago... not really helping...
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if shes a good friend its great that you told her or you are telling her well yah if she is your friend dont ruin the relanship you have dont ask her out if you want to
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i dont know her personality, so there are two things that could be going on w/ her. #1: she REALLY doesnt understand the feelings she is having(or maybe not having) for you, or...#2: she doesnt like you but she doesnt want to hurt you. but whatever the reason, you need to pay more attention in class. if she decides she likes you but you're grounded b/c you failed, what good will that do. moving on to the word 'love' that you used so often. i can believe you when you say it's not infatuation, but to use the word love...you are only 13. im not saying you're wrong, im just saying that you are very young and that you might have very deep feelings for this person, but i dont think its love. going back to what she is feeling...if you REALLY love her, then yes it will be a disappointment if she doesnt like you like that. but if you REALLY love her you will just want her to be happy, and it won't matter w/ who. i cant address the 'sanity points' thing b/c i'm religious. not that you are wrong to not be, just that i have no clue what you are talking about when you talk about the 'sanity points'. it sounds, however, that you think you are going insane(yes. i am very literal). dont worry. you're not. you just care alot about this person. but i dont really know what you're talkin about there, so, um, yeah. about the dreams: i sincerely believe that God sends us dreams(sometimes) b/c joseph(the one w/ the many colored coat...not Jesus' step-father)had the ability to interpret dreams and had dreams sent to him from God(according to the bible). im not trying to push my religion off on you, i just wanted to convey that i believe you when you say your dreams are 'future telling', or something like that. but the main thing i want you to get out of this is that if you actually love her, all you will want for her is to be happy and it wont matter w/ who.
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I have a comment about when you said
"Dreams frequently predict the future in my experiences, and my sister's, and my friends', and everyone's. So why should this be any different?"
it could be different. not all turn out right in the future, dreams are what you WANT to happen, the rest is just pure luck.
this is hard, because you really do have a chance, she could like you, and your definitly not giving this one up! You could think of something really romantic to do- like write a poem and put it in her locker, or what my friend's boyfriend did--he called her and said he was going to someones house to sing a song, and shes like who? and hes like, look outside your window. just giving some ideas, (i know your shy so that might now work)
The thing that is kind of weird is that when you say hi she just widens her eyes for half a second to acknowledge you. I think it means she just likes you as a friend. But maybe shes just shy too, who knows!? BUT DONT GIVE UP, she's yours and keep going for her untill she says no.
Hope I helped~!
~Rachael
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You seem like a narrow focused kind of person, at least right now. How do you know it's love if you have never dated? It's an obsession, and the reason you are dreaming about it is because you haven't solved in real time yet. Could you just go out on a date with someone else if you can't have her? Because you have to start somewhere.
I think that she does like you or she wouldn't be so cautious. It is really really hard to date a friend because it is so scary to possibly lose them. It is one of the hardest kind of relationships to start. It just gets weird.
I think maybe lay her aside for a while and gain focus back on school. Mainly because you don't want to miss out on future opportunity because of a current crush. It gets easier to balance the two with time. I promise.
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Ok, well I did actually read this LONG question. For the dream thing, I do believe that dreams predict the future. I actually strongly believe that. I think maybe you should like sit her down and have a long talk about each of your feeling toward each other (don't tell her all the stuff about thinking about her all the time, and dreaming about her, that might freak her out) I know your shy, but if you really do like her that much you have to have the courage to step up and talk to her, you won't go anywhere without communication. As for the acknoledgement thing, I think your just getting paraniod about that, a lot of people just widen they're eyes. I wouldn't worry about it, I would start to worry if you started a convo. and she didn't do anything but widen her eyes.
Sorry if this is a little long.
I hope I helped.
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Im sorry, but that dream means nothing. It means that phycologically your mind can't stop thinking about her even when you sleep. Since you have already asked her out and she said no, it probably means she doesnt love you back. Since I AM a girl I know that if the guy I love asks me out I'm sayin yes. Find someone who can love you for you.
Hope it Helps!
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Melanie
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