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Hey, I am Nicole and I am 15. I love giving advice. You can inbox me if you need advice, or email me at softballchickx28@aim.com! I answer any questions so don't hesitate to ask :)
E-mail: softballchickx28@aim.com
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Age: 15
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What are some signs your boyfriend is falling out of love with you? (link)
- he would be ignoring you
- hanging around with other girls
- always saying that he is busy
- he wouldn't answer ur calls
- he wouldn't call you back


Those are the most common

Hope I helped.


What traits do girls look for in guys? What would your ideal guy be like? (link)
Well every girl is different, but here is what I like ...

1) Funny
2) Nice
3) a guy that would stick up for you
4) Tall
5) hot


I think that the top 3 are the most important though lol. but thats about it.

Hope I helped.

Nicole x0x


Ok..soo i just started hanging out with a girl on my tennis team..and over the past few months we have become really good friends. Well we have been hanging out with this guy..and she likes him..but he likes me and i like him. Shes not my best friend or anything but..i really like this guy..what should i do? (link)
Talk to her about it. If she is a good friend then she will say its ok for you to go out with him. If not then do it anyways, if you like him and he likes you its perfect, and like you said she's not your best friend, and you proabably have lots of friends. She will probably say its ok though. So talk to her, and tell her how you feel.

Good Luck :)

Nicky x0x


ive know this guy for about 3 years and 10 days ago he broke up with his girlfriend that hes had for like a couple months. well we had prom last night and he was all over me the whole time. after prom we had prom breakfast, but i had to leave like half an hour into it. as i was walking out, he stopped me and asked me where i was going. when i told him i was going home, he was aw man, i was planning on spending the rest of the night with you. then as i was getting into my car, he called me and asked me to hang out on sunday. im sort of crushing on him and i really do want to see what happens. what should i do?
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You should say yes to hanging out with him. If you like him then flirt with him, and if he likes you and he's not shy, he will flirt back. If he asks you to be his gf then say yes if ur crushing on him. Hes obviously very into you if he wanted to spend the rest of the night with you :]

http://www.links2love.com/

This site will give you plenty of info to find out if hes into you and on flirting. Good Luck :)

Inbox me with any other questions, and please tell me what happens I would love to know.

Nicole x0x


there is this guy and he is older than me and i really like him.he is already going out with this other girl and i really want him back.how do i get him back? (link)
Do: Flirt with him, make it obvious that you like him.

Don't: Throw yourself at him or make it seem like your a slut.

Do: Make him laugh most guys like a girl who is funny.

Don't: Tell stupid jokes, or make yourself look like an idiot.

Do: If your sitting next to him rest your head on his shoulder casually.

Don't: Keep leaning on him if you can tell he doesn't want you to, or says stop!

Do: Tell him your feelings through the way you talk to him, be a good listener.

Don't: Blurt out that your like in love with him lol!!! You would probably scare him away.

Do: Be yourself.

Don't Change yourself for him, if he doesn't like you he's not worth it :)

Good luck x0x

Nicole


im going to do it tommorow and it feels right thaks to you. im goin for it ill tell u tomorow if he sais yes or no. bye (link)
Good luck : )


Ok so i like two guys..

one is my current boyfriend (("Hollister" well call him that))

the other

is a family friend ((areopostle))

... My mom doesnt know about Hollister

and she knows that bAreopostle thinks im cute

.. I reallly like Aero too.

And i sorta dont like Holllister anymore..

so what do i do??

do i break up with Hollister for Areo

or what
??

HELP!! :]
thank in advanced

:]

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Well, if you don't like "Hollister" anymore then you should breakup with him. I was in the same situation, and I ended up breaking up with my bf for another guy, and it worked out my bf took it pretty well. Just make sure you don't go out with "aero" too quickly after you break up with "hollister", give it a little time.

Hope I helped :)

Nicole x0x


im 13 and i havent kissed anyone yet.now that im going out with my b/f im a bit worried encase i do it wrong.if my b/f knew i was worrying about kissing him he would just say theres nothing to worry about.i really dont want to do it wrong.if you can give me any advice please give it. xxaoifexxx (link)
Well you can't exactly kiss someone wrong, everyone has their own way of kissing. Just make sure when you kiss him you close your eyes, and go in slowly and just touch lips softly. Don't rush into making out though, let your first kiss be its own expirience, making out can be another.

Good Luck,

Nicole x0x


well i know this guy and he he kinda nos me but i like him but i don't know if he likes me. but he already knows that i do like him and i need a way i could ask him out or what guys do when they like you. so does anyone have advice? (link)
If a guy likes you he usually...

-is shy around you, or he might be obnoxious around you to show off

-always hang around where you are, and constantly try to talk to you

-he might stare at you at random times

-he also might keep bringing up stuff that you guys have talked about in the past, just to have something to talk about

-But, some guys don't even pay attention to you when they like you.

GUYS ARE CONFUSING LOL! But if you think that he likes you go with your gut.

If you want to ask him out, make sure you catch him when he is alone. And just go up to him and say hey I was wondering if you wanted to go out sometime. If he says no just say okay, and walk away. If he says yes then just say okay well call me later and we can make plans.

Good luck

Nicole x0x




my b/f is a good bit shorter than me and we are going to kiss soon but will this be awkward because i am taller than him?if you have any advice for me please give it,xxaoifexxx (link)
I am in the same situation, you can always bend down a little when you kiss, but sitting down would probably be much more comfortable. If you sit then you are going to be basically the same hight.

Good Luck,
Nicole x0x


Ok...so there are two guys that i like (and that like me). I've never really had a real boyfriend...like i've had middle school boyfriends...but those dont really count. Ok so i'm kind of "inexpierienced" or so to speak. LIke i've made out and what not..but not really beyond that. One guy, Josh, is really hot, and he is really 'experienced" like i know he's done a lot, and the other guy, tom, i think is more like inexperienced like me. Like i'm popular, but i'm kind of known as the "nice girl". Ok, so at first i just wanted to go out with Josh, but now i'm thinking maybe i should go out with Tom, because i think he would be more like me. Because i'm not really ready to go that far yet...i dont think.

Who do you think i should go out with? Please give me your honest oppinions. I'm just worried that Josh is going to expect me to go farther...but maybe not (he is kind of like the School flirt or so to speak)

THanks so much for any advice you can give me :) (link)
I think that you should chose the one that you felt more comfortable with. I think in your case it would be Tom. But, if you like Josh more than you do Tom, then go for Josh. Let your heart decide. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do, and if Josh is really a good guy then he would understand that you aren't that ready to go farther. And wouldn't it be kind of nice to have someone more expirienced to to go farther with? Tom I am sure would make a great bf as well, but he doesn't have as much expirience as Josh, so you might not enjoy(when you are ready) going farther with him because of that reason. If I were you, I would probably go for Josh. But make sure that you dont do anything that you don't want to do.

Good Luck,
Nicole x0x


There's a guy, I like him, another girl that likes him. She is not my friend, I don't like her. However she has a nice headstart on flirting with him, in a stalkerish fashion (she knows where his locker is, she waits for him outside of class, she dominates his facebook wall, she came screaming down the hall, OMFG HE TALKED TO ME, and she acts really ditzy/stupid with him). I want to pursue him, however, I don't know if he really likes her back, or is just oblivious that she likes him... Because seriously, he's gotta be pretty oblivious to not know that when she says "I love - [insert initials]" that it's his initials. I don't think he really knows I exist either, besides that he probably acknowledges me as that (weirdo) chick at the other end of the classroom.

So a couple of questions.
1)How do I get his attention?
2)If I was to flirt with him how would I do it?
3)What about that girl, I'm scared she'll do something to me ):. (link)
1) a. make yourself noticed by hanging around where he hangs out just like the other girl, but don't hang around when she it there

b. casually start by saying hi when he walks by

c. eventually go up to him and ask him a question that requires more than a yes or no answer like...

- What do you think of (a teacher, a class)?

-Who's your favorite teacher at our school? What makes them your favorite?

-What do you think of schools that make the students wear uniforms?

-What do you think our team's chances are this year? (football team, soccer team, swim team, etc.)

2) a. At a party, in a group of people or even at school, look over at the guy you like, smile and give him a quick wink!

b. when you are in class if you catch him looking your way blow him a kiss, if he asks you about it later you could say well my friends and i were playing a game where you have to blow a kiss at anyone who looks at you

c. give him a nickname like say his name is robert you could call him robby or something

d. create an inside joke it will give you an excuse to talk to him

e. compliment him on his his shirt, hair cut, etc.

3) Don't let her know that you are after the same guy, you don't want to make it a competition If she doesn't know than you have nothing to worry about

Hope I helped :)

Nicole x0x Good luck, I would be really interested to know how it worked out and if you have anymore questions

you can email me at softballchickx28@aim.com

&HEARTS


Hey, I just want to know if it is impossible to love a guy that you never talked to but you know his name? (link)
Nothing is impossible... Sure you can love a guy you have never talked to. Your probable naturally attracted to him. I know what its like when ever you go by him your heart like stops right?? LOL well I know you didn't ask for this advice but if you really love him, you should talk to him.

Love,
Nicole x0x


Ok, so I am visiting my ex in jail tommorrow, someone I still have feelings for. I haven't seen him in over a year and I am very nervous about seeing him. So nervous infact that I've almost talked myself out of going. I'm afraid I'm going to say something dumb. I mean, I've never visited anyone in jail before, so I don't know what to say, ya know? What are some ideas to start the conversation going smoothly? HELP ASAP!! (link)
You could start by saying, So, how are you doing??
or how have you been, and that should open up a conversation. Don't worry I am sure that it will all flow when you get there.

Hope I helped :) and good luck

Nicky x0x


i have liked this boy for almost five years. he has always liked me too, but he is a player. he talks to my best friend a lottt and he is currently talking to 2 other girls that i know of. it just sucks because i like him so much, i really do. im infatuated with him and i always have been. i NEVER get crushes, either. he tells my other friend that he thinks i am way prettier than my best friend and he always tries to talk to me but i jsut avoid it because i don't want to be used. if i like him, should i give him a chance even if i know he isnt so trusthworthy? (link)
Well if he doesn't have a girlfriend then he can talk and hang out with whoever he wants. I mean he is single. So if he likes you and you like him go for it, maybe he will turn out to be a great boyfriend. I think that you should give him a chance.

If he does have a girlfriend, well thats a different story. But I am assuming that he doesn't because if he did and you wanted to go out with him, then you would be helping him cheat. That would not be good. lol but if thats the case then I would definatley not date him because then he would almost deffinatley cheat on you.

Hope I helped,
Nicole x0x0


im only 13/f
and i think i want to be bi
is it to early to make a decision like this? (link)
Nope not too early. If you are sexually attracted to females, then you are bi. I have a friend who is younger than you and she has even made out with a girl. But you can't really just decide to be bi you have to be attracted to people the same sex as you. Hope I helped :)

Nicole


14/f

I have never been fingered in my life, only rubbed.
My boyfriend tried to finger me, and when he BEARLY pushed I asked him to stop because it stung...
Is this normal..i've yet to be fingered because I am afraid..
My question is this:
How bad does it hurt to get fingered..
Or anything along those lines for someone who has never done anything sexual..
:[ help, please. (link)
It shouldn't hurt too bad unless he is being too ruff, and if he is you should either stop, or ask if he could take it easy. Have fun, you should enjoy it.

Love,
Nicole x0x0


Is it possible to fall in love when you are thirteen?

Im asking because its been 7 mounths since my ex bf broke up with me and now we are good friends and everytime i see him I cry because I know he'll never like me so do you think its puppy love? (link)
Im soo sorry. Yah I know how you feel no matter what he does you will always feel the same about him right?? Well love can come at any age and at anytime. So yah you could love him.

Feel better :)
Nicole x0x0x0


I want a healthy relationship.

Before, I thought I did have one. I told a friend that I never had a fight with my boyfriend at the time. We were going out for about 9-11 months straight and we haven't had any argument [screaming, avoiding calls, etc kind of thing]

She said WE WOULD HAVE A FIGHT. and that our relationship would be healthy if it did.

but we never did.


Is Conflict a MUST for a good relationship?

Because I'm all good and there' no problems.. like fights. I honestly don't like drama.
Is that bad?

In my relationships we don't fight.. It's just something we don't do. We talk about things and compromise

Is that .. wrong or what?

Or was she jealous? (link)
Well it depends on your opinion of a relationship. Some people think that a relationship is boring if there aren't any conflicts. But other like to keep things normal and not fight. You both just have different ideas about the situation. I think that it is great that you and your bf don't fight, but then again eventually you might have a fight. But don't worry about what she says, and most importantly don't start a fight with him because he might think that you are just trying to find a reason to break up with him, and he might try to break up with you first.

Hope I helped. ASk me stuff anytime :)

Nicole x0x0x0


If a guy says a girl is "Alright" and then says another girl is "Cute". Is one better then the other, or does he basically mean the same thing about both girls? (link)
It depends on the guy's tone of voice. If he is sarcastic lol then he is just joking around, and he probably thinks that she is really ugly. But if he says both like he means it, than cute is better than alright.


Hope I helped.

Nicole x0x0x0 :)




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