...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
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i was best friends with this guy (i mean we did everything together hung out like every day) and we ended up having a thing for each other the whole time. finally months later he asked me out and we were both extremely happy cause we like each other alot but problem is he is going to college now and im a senior in hs. i saw it coming but he broke up with me bc he knows he shouldnt be in a relationship when he is going to college and will be meeting lots of girls. we still really like each other but idk what to do. i totally understand the situtation and im not asking for a relationship with him but i still want us to be "talking". is that a bad idea and cause me to just get more attached to him? i DO NOT want to lose him bc he is my best friend and someone i like so much.. and how do i get him to keep his feelings for me and not forget about me?? what should i do? (link)
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i think that you should explain to him that you still value his friendship and would like to remain friends ans maybe talk every once in a while (but not every night). You should start seeing other people and maybe in the future after college, something will come about with the two of you... but dont get your hopes up!
If he says he doesnt want to be friends, then just give him some time, maybe call him in a month of so to see how hes doing
shay
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hello..
i dont no wat to do.
ill tell you wat happend. on friday night, my bf had a few mates over and it was around 11, i was out the bak and he was out the front, and i unexpectedly walked out there n he was round the side, he came bak and smelt of smoke, i asked, have you been smoking and hes like yes.. i walked away very upset. the thing is, i asked him about 2 months ago to give up and he said he would, the same with weed to.. i asked him to give it up and he said yes he would. i even asked him 2 days ago if hes still given up and he said yes.. then on friday night, we ended up having a huge fight, becuase turns out he has urges and all this crap.. i was so upset, its like he tried to hide it from me, and thats not was relationships should be based on. hes also turned it bak around on me, making me feel like shit. also the next morning he got up me again saying that i should have cleaned up after the bbq because all the food he cookd went to waste, we also then had another fight. i just dont no wat to do.. do relationships go threw this at the 1yr stage, and how do u get threw it. i love him so much and dont want to lose him, but how do get around this, ive told him hes broken that trust and all that. do i wait for him to call or text since he hasnt spoken to me since then? or should i b the one to make it all better. im so confused... help (link)
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I know what you are going through and you cant let him make you feel guilty. He is trying to turn this onto you because he knows that he is the one at fault. If you still want to be with him then tell him that he needs to be honest with you about things and promise not to get mad when he tells you what he has done with the drugs and what not. He has probably been hiding this from you because he is afraid of your reaction. The second solution is breaking up. If this is somthing that you are absolutley against and he will not stop, then it is time to quit.
shay
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ok so heres the thing. im in LOVE with this guy. i mean im in love! but i never met him he never met me i never talked to him so he has no idea i exist. he lives in the UK i live in america. hes famous. now before you say this is just a celebrity obsession its not. im not obsessed with him. i have had other boyfriends but i dumped them because of him. and i didnt liek these boys either. and they would come to me and be like are you ok? its liek your in love with someone else its like your tryingto find someone so you dont have to be in love with him or something. theyve said that to me many times. but i have no idea what to do. please help (link)
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girl.. im sorry but you have got to get over it. you cant be in love with him, you have never met him. this is a celebrity infatuation. you cant let that interfere with your life.
shay
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Dear shay!
I am in love with the guy who is 6 years older than me. I got to know him because of my aunt. But one thing is that I've never met him outside. He's in UK and I am in SG. We just contect by mails. And sometimes he seems sooo caring. Sometimes he seems cold..I have a plan to go to UK in november. Alright ! to be honest, this is like a on line romance.. you can say that. But he's the doctor and i dont think he would play arond like others. And I don't even know if he got a girlfriend.. The thing is I am soo shy when I write to him .. The feeling I hae for him is completely different that I had had with oters. Plz.. helep me !! give me convident to ask him if he got gf or a little clue to show him i care and I want him soo badd!! (link)
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Even though he is a doctor he is most likely like all other guys, its like in their blood they have to play games. anyway, i may hav gotten to this a couple months late so I think you may have already asked him so i am sorry but if you havent just nonchalantly ask him if he is seeing anyone at the moment.
shay
again, im sorry for getting to this late
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okay this is actually a very long thing but ill make it as short as i can:
Theres this guy and we were like BEST FRIENDS last year and we were always flirting and everyone knew we liked eachother.. and then over the summer we told eachother that we really do like eachother.. and then the next school year rolls around and were still friends but like the whole school knows hes trying to ask me out, so things are a little harder and more akward but we try hard but then things start to get so annoying cuz people wont stop bugging us and like mostly him cuz he is just like retarded and too afraid to ask me out so we like take long walks talking about it and he says he wants to ask me and not me to ask him and that he still likes me and everyhting but he still doesnt do it.. it gets really old and i let him know that but things kind of continute the same then things start to slow down a little cuz we both have kind of lost energy trying to find time for eachother cuz were not in any classes together and not from the same town. So then all of a sudden he says he doesnt like me anymore.. after liking me for sooo long, and then a few days later he says he does and tehn the next week he doesnt, so RIGHT NOW hes saying he doenst but omg he acts like he likes me like even more now and he like i dont even know but now im hanging out with a lot of guys more than usual and he gets all like jealous kind of and i don know what to do, cuz we will prolly never end up going out cuz hes stupid but i still like him, but i hate him for what hes done to me and how he wasted my time!! ahh i need help! please do your best, i knwo this is kind of too retarded of a situation but i tried
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I understand completely what he is doing. He likes you, I can tell you that much. The reason he says he doesnt is because he doesnt want to keep getting bugged about it, and he is scared to ask you out. Although he may know that you will say yes he probably scared of committment.
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Hi,
I have this friend we both are the same age. I can't tell if i like him or not and i am also trying to figure out if he likes me. We are really good friends. He always wants me to sit next to him and he always talks to me and i don't know and i just think he likes me for some reason. At times it seems like he likes me and at other times it seems i am his friend. I think maybe i like him because i know him so well becuz we r such good friends and we get along so well and we are soo alike. All of my friends and his friends say we make " The perfect couple!". So I cant tell if i am crushing on him or if i just like him as a really good friend. And, also i don't know if i am ready if we became boyfriend and girlfriend. Would we enjoy it? What would other people think? We our relationshipp be weird after if we broke up? If we did break up would we just go back to normal as friends? one more thing i dont know if i should just tell him how i feel and get it off my chest? I want to but i'm not sure if i should. Its just soooooo weird
From,
Sad Lady
Ps this is the lady who wrote to you about the babysitting with the three boys and he is the friend who i babysat with
one more thing about the crush, he arranged he whole thing for me to babysit with him. (link)
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I'm VERY sorry I got to this late, but here is my answer:
If you really like this guy and you have a lot in commen of course you will enjoy it! I think that you are definetley crushing on him. Little things about him turn you on, but you arent sure if you like him or not. Do you talk about him a lot? Do you think of him, and want to be around him? If yes, you like him. If you two got into a relationship you shouldnt care what others think about it. As long as you two like eachother. I think that you should ask one of his friends about how he feels about you. After all, you only live once, and whats life without taking a risk? really hope I helped!
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I have a boyfriend that i love alot but he hits me.But he say he sorry and he won't do it again but he keeps doing it. He said if I leave him then he will kill me.I'm so scared that he's telling the truth .He's already put me in the hospital 2 times I don't know what to do.So I need help ASAP if anyone can help me please.My life is on the line!
Love Apple (link)
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Tell an adult! This is not a good situation to be handeling yourself. Tell a counsiler or your parents as soon as possible. They will know how to handle it.
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Is it bad to have wet dreams? (link)
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yes, that means you are going to pee, Duh
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whatis love? (link)
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love is when I loved you,
Go on,
once more you open the door...
Do you like Celien Dion? Anyways to the question. Its like when you would practically do anything for that person and like everything about them. Its different for different people. You'll know when you're in love. "Its like fireworks!"
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how do you ask a guy out if you are a shy girl when it comes to asking guys out (or friends out) (link)
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Well does the guy like you? Maybe ask him to go to the dance with you or something first to see what hes like. Well you could write him a note or casually bring the subject up wile talking. No worries.
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QUIT GIVING ADVICE, YOUR ANSWERS SUCK!!! (link)
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Thanks, I love you too.
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Lately my boyfriend is being very cold to me. He doesn't want to hug or hold me, he barelly calls. I try to be very affectionate with him but it hurts when you get no affection back. He constantly thinks that I am either lying or cheating on him, which I am doing neither. I love him very much and I want things to work out between us but I don't know what else to do to show him I am good to him. What should I do? (link)
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Either he comeing up with dumb excuses to get rid of you or he really does beleive that you are cheating on him. All you can do is try to let him know that you really arent cheating on him. Try talking to him about it and ask him who he thinks you are cheating to be with.
lots of love,
shay
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A week or so ago the guy I like asked me out and I said yes. All well and good. But, a few days later he said that he was still hung up on his ex and only girlfriend. I wasn't that thrilled but I coped and we're still good friends.
This puts me in the situation of spending a lot of time with the guy I like and knowing that he likes me but not being able to do anything about it.
I was thinking of asking him to the 6th form ball but I'm not sure whether I should. (link)
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I think that he is trying to make his old girlfriend jealous. Get to know him a bit more to see if he really does like you.
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I have been dating a guy now for about 2 and a half years. We are both shy and moral people so we haven't done anything but kiss and cuddle together. I think that I love him because when we are close together and when he kisses me I get a feeling like no other (like electricity is running throughout my whole body constantly), but when we are not together and when he is not being loving toward me I feel like I want to end the relationship. We have a lot of differences in our personalities and our likes that constantly get in the way of the relationship, and I am always the one who gives into what he wants. He is a spoiled only child with parents who are close to being rich and I am a mature only child who was taught at a very early age the value of a dollar and my parents are divorced so we don't hve as much money (and my mom is kinda cheap). I am getting really tired of him trying to control me and always getting his way, but everytime I think about breaking up I can't do it because we have been together so long and I think I am ultimately afraid of being single the rest of my life if I don't stay with him. (I don't have any other guys that are even flirting with me at work or college) Do you think I should end it with my boyfriend or continue the relationship? (link)
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Thats not good. Do you feel like you want to cry when you think about him? If so you should definetley break up with him. You sound like the kind of girl that needs her boyfriend almost all the time. You should find a guy that meats all of your expectations. Dont cut them any slack. If he makes you feel like your not good enough dont date him.
Lots of Love,
shay
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I like my best friends 3 day ex.... and she is going to tell him to ask me out.... but i don't want him to hate me will he evn care that it's that early? (link)
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I think its too early also. Maybe wait a wile for things to calm down. It seems like your friend can get over guys pretty fast though.
-shay
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I need some help. There are some boys at my school that I like to hang out with. They are not the best looking but its whats on the inside that matters. Any good tips to tell if you are in love?
Sincerely,
Mea* (link)
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You know when you many feelings for them and you would do anything for them. etc. etc. Look it up!
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I think I'm going to ask the kid I like out...in a note? He was just so cute today...it was like a movie...and he's not that average heartthrob boy either. He's a ghetto white boy. But he's just...i dont know...should I? What should I say? He doesn't know me but it's worth a shot right?
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If he doesnt know you, do you really think he'll say yes? Is he that type of guy? If not I'd hold back for a wile and try to get to know a bit more about him. The outside may look nice, but you need to know whats on the inside to really like and know a guy. Trust me!
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Alright advice columnists, listen up I NEED ADVICE!
When someone posts a question and the way a guy acts about you and you guys sometimes say that I, You love him but then when someone admits she loves a guy you say "you just had deep feelings for him" WELL!!!! whats the difference? i mean "DEEP" feelings are 'posed to be love right because whats the difference then? im lost i need advice!
signed
comfused (link)
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Well Ive never said that before. I dont even recall reading an answer like that. But I do know that deep feelings doesnt necessarily mean that you love that person. It just means that you care for them and want them to do wel etc.
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I am 14 turning 15 soon and I am an actress, and I went to a world tour audition called The Lion King On Broadway. Well, at the audition my mom and I were in line, and in front of us was this one mother and her son. And the mother showed my mom and I pictures of her son because he did modeling. I remember he kept on starring at me and flirted with me and I thought he was cute as well. But this was 2 years ago. Well this year 2004 I saw the movie Peter Pan. And after the movie my mom and I said to each other, that boy (Jeremy Sumpter, the boy who played Peter Pan) looks vagely familiar...so later I looked him up and it turns out that he was a model. Do you think I really did meet him??? My other question is...well later in the week I kept on dreaming about him and thinking about him, so, I have four of the Sixth Sences so I can communicate to the angels and I made a bet with myself..."if the light goes on then that means I will someday date Jeremy Sumpter if not..." then the light turned on before I finished my sentence which was (if not the light will not turn on). What do you think that ment? Do you think I did met him, and will someday date him??
Sincerely,
Peter Pan Fan of the Man (link)
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I think that there may be a chance that you have met him and I must say you are very lucky cause BOY IS HE HOT! Anyways I also think that the light thing meant that either you will or will not date him? Maybe you will! Good luck
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Okay, today at lunch a guy that's friends with my friend "Tim" asked me out for Tim. Nice, huh? Well, problem is, I don't feel the same way about Tim... I don't wanna say no to him, cuz I'd feel soooo horrible, but I don't wanna date someone when I like this other guy A LOT. One of my best friends said that I should date Tim for a week, and dump him if I don't like him. I think that'd be evil! WHAT SHOULD I DO?! (link)
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You shouldnt lead him on like your friend says to. Tell him that you think of him more of a friend and just keep your friendly relationship with him the same.
Dont worry, be happy!
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