about

my name is sarah. or doodle. i'm 16 and now a junior at SMHS. HATE IT! i play slowpitch and fastpitch softball. im verrrry sarcastic. you'll never know if i'm being serious or not. i'd have to say i've been through a lot, but you might not think so. try me, i could surprise you =)

advice

is there nayway someone can be in love with someone if they were never together?

or how about if they broke up? but only one loves the other?

or does it have to be both?

hm. im in Love with someone who wiLL probabLy never return the feeLing. it sucks. but to answer your question it is possibLe to Love someone and not be with them. and you can Love someone if you broke up with them.

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which part of a guy physically do you like the most.....eyes? abs? arm muscles? cheekbones? hair? lips?

thanks for reading

definitely hair, then eyes, then abs.

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I'm 14/f
there is a guy that i like that likes me but i'm too shy to say anything and so is he.(he doesn't know that i like him either)i really want to say something but i don't know what.
what do you think i should do or say?

thanks a bunch.

hmmm...
first of all, whatever you do, be yourself.
second, just go up to him and just start talkin to him. find out something yall both have in common, like sports or something, and talk about that. if he is in one of your classes sit by him and if you dont get something, ask him. or if your really good in the subject yall have together, tell him if he ever needs help your there for him. just strike up a conversation about anything.

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My best friend really liked this guy, he wasnt technically her boyfriend but they have been on and off for about 2 months now because he liked another girl. My friend finally had the last straw and asked him to pick between her and the other girl, and he didnt know what to do. She left for vacation for a week and we started talking...a lot. We both realized we were perfect for each other and another week went by, and we finally decided to tell her. She hung up the phone on my and told him she never wanted to see either of us again. What do i do?!? I dont want to lose my friend but I never get what i want and we both really feel strongly about each other and we want to be together.

you should always pick your friends over guys, no matter what, well to me you should. ya know, he could do the same thing to you. he could have told your friend that he had strong feelings for her and then he found another girl. he could do the SAME thing to you. i say try to get your friend back before you do lose her forever, and forget the guy. but just go with whatever your gut tells you to do.

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On Laguna Beach, there are some songs in the backround, like in the first season, when Stephen is getting ready for gradutaion and he goes up the stairs nd his parents and sister like clap for him, what's that song? Is there anyway to find out what all those songs r? I'll rate high

hey! if you go to mtv.com and you go to Laguna Beach and then you go to the first season, then there will be something like 'summary of the first season' (im sure it will be in other words) and then find that episode, and then at the bottom of the page is the songs that were on that show. hope i helped! if you need more help let me kno!
~*Sarah*~

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*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!*

hey! i didnt want to reject your question, but i really dont no.. im sorry im no help!
~*Sarah*~

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hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!

oh gee.. that was long! but i read it all! i really dunno what to say.. maybe they are close friends? i dunno.. my best guy friend.. we are together all the time.. and there is NOTHiNG between us.. well we used to be together all the time.. anyway.. maybe he does miss you and love you.. maybe he didnt talk to you so he could try to get over you quicker.. and now that yall are talkin again he realized he still loves you and misses you.. ok i no this is not the advice you were looking for but i really dont no what to say! good luck with everything tho!
~*Sarah*~

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i liked the advice u give thats why i ask you things -- but anyway thanks for caring and answering my questions that means alot

i dont mind that you ask me things.. hardly anyone does! Thanks tho!
~*Sarah*~

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hi sarah im having trouble telling my friends that i am bi because i dont think they will like me should i tell them or not tell them ? and i am a girl if you are wondering ?

just tell them.. those who matter won't mind.. and those who mind don't matter.. yeah its a quote but it seems to fit this question.. theres nothin wrong with being bi.. its your decision and if your friends dont support your decision.. then they really arent your friends. hope i helped and good luck with everything! if you need anymore help then leave another on in my inbox or you can im me!
~*Sarah*~
PS- not to sound mean or anything, but why did you ask me out of all the people on here?

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i have this boyfriend who i like and dont like --the only thing is my best friend is his best friend to thats how we met each other well i really like my best friend but im stuck between my boyfriend and my best friend ,my best friend said he liked me and ive known him for a 8 yrs he's so sweet but i dont know who to date my boyfriend or my bestfriend i like both friend plz help someone

hey.. well if you broke up with you boyfriend, would you best friend want to date you? talk to your best friend and your boyfriend about this. if you date your best friend and ya'll break up, you might not be as close. i say go for the one you like the best. follow your heart.
~*Sarah*~

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Hey. Okay so I have this really great friend and i like him. He likes me too. The problem is he's a grade younger than me ( i'm going into 8th .. he's going into 7th ) and he asked me out and i said maybe. My friends tell me to say no because everyones gonna make fun of us .. especially me. But im afraid if i say no because im afraid he'll get mad at me and we wont be friends anymore. So i made a list of things i can do.
1. Say yes .. but not tell anyone
2. Say yes and ignore everyone ( this might be a hard one .. )
3. Say no and explain to him that we should just be friends & nothing more.

Im having a hard time choosing one of these .. Help please! i rate high!
thanks in advance

hey! you should go out with him! who cares what other people think! when i was in 7th grade (im a freshman now) i went out with a 6th grader and no one made fun of us. even if they would have i would have ignored them. you dont no if ppl are gonna make fun of you or not. just because your friends say that dont mean they are! i highly doubt youll get made fun of! good luck with your decision tho!
~*Sarah*~

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sarah i have been going out wit juan for a year and 9 months well he asked my cousin to suck his dick but i dunt kno who to believe i trust my cousin and i trust juan this is a really hard thing to chooose please help

courtney

wow.. courtney i really dont no what to say.. honestly.. have you talked to juan about this?.. im sure you have.. i really dont no what to say.. you and juan have been together for a long time.. has your cousin ever lied to you about anything like this before? if she has, then she could be lying again. if she hasnt, then she might be telling the truth. juan does do stupid things but i dont think he would do something that stupid. but dont get me wrong, im not sayin your cousin is a liar. look, i no i didnt help but i really dont no what to say! im sorry courtney and i hope you figure everything else!
~*Sarah*~

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is there anything wrong with a bi racial realationship

no i dont think so. altho my sister is in one but my family doesnt approve of it. but she doesnt care what they think and you shouldnt either. thats just my opinion tho!
~*Sarah*~

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what does it mean to pop your cherry?

when a girl's hymen breaks..it could be broken from numerous ways..like having sex for the first time, riding a bike, etc.
~*Sarah*~

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You see my best friend is a guy. i am a 15 year old girl stuck in a high school world. Between girls being all over my friend jack and guys hanging out we never really have time to ourselves inless it's in a class. You see on friday one thing led to another and we ended up kissing. It was just on the lips but it was still a kiss. Ever sence that kiss ive been getting feelings for him. Very strong and true. and it's not like i haven't liked him before. at the beging of the year i admit i was "in love". but the real thing is i only have 12 days left with my friend until i leave to go to a new school. so should i put the moves on him, confess my feelings, or just forget about it?

i would tell him. mayBe he feels the same for you. then you two could exchange numBers (im sure you already know each others numBers tho!) and keep in touch when you move. you could always do stuff together on the weekends! hope i helped and good luck!
~*Sarah*~

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I've been hooking up with this guy for about 3 monthes now. His birthday is in a few weeks (he'll be 17) and I have NO idea what to get him. We're not going out... just hooking up. His style is preppy and he's into sports too. Any ideas for gifts? I was thinking maybe a good cologne... any of you know anything that smells amazing? (I'm willing to spend up to around $35-$40)Thanks!!!

for cologne i would get him the kind from aBercromBie!
~*Sarah*~

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Hmm, okey..
I was just wondering which one of these is best:
WinMx
Bearshare
Kazzaa
Imesh
e.t.c
I've heard some of them give you viruses?
So which one is cheap and doesnt give your computer any viruses?
I appreciate any answers =D
Sorry about the spelling mistakes, just that im in a hurry :P
Have a nice day ;)

i say use limewire. i have it and i havent gotten any viruses yet! you either download the free one or buy it!
~*Sarah*~

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hey i have a friend and him and his girlfriend broke up like 2 weeks ago and he still likes her so me and her hungout friday ane he got mad at us. But now i like her and like shes my bestfriends ex. What should i do?
P.S. were both 14

if he is your bestfriend and he isnt over her, then i dont think you should date her! maybe hes not over her yet! give him some more time and talk to him about you guys maybe datin (you and his ex) but i would wait a while until talkin to him about it and then if he gets mad or anything then i wouldnt date her! but this is just what i would do!
~*Sarah*~

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My boyfriend's mom is so controlling! She tells him what to do all the time, and the worst part is, he does it! For example, she told him to wear something even though it didn't match at all, yet he ended up wearing it cause she told him to! It drives me completely crazy! He does stuff like that all the time for her! I really want him to stand up for himself, but he says he has to do what she says because she pays for everything for him. And another bad part to this problem is that he's 23, we've been dating for 2 years, and he's about to graduate college! I want to confront him, but I don't want him to get angry with me for it. How should I go about it?

if you have been with him for 2 years and he still listening to his mom he aint never gonna stop...hes a mommas boy and i dont think you will ever be able to change that..
~*Sarah*~

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Hi.. I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 8 months now. His birthdays coming up and i have no clue what to get him. Mine just past and he got my soo much nice stuff. Hes into skateboarding and stuff like that but im really having trouble on deciding what to buy. If you have any ideas.. Please let me know!! THANKS!

buy him some skateboarding shirts and a hat...maybe a watch and/or a belt..thats all that i can think of! good luck!
~*Sarah*~

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