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well im going out with this guy that my best friend hates...but yea i told her i dumped him so she wouldnt be mad at me but than somehow she found out that im still going out with him....and i love him(i've never felt that way about a guy before)...and now she is all pissed off at me...!! what should i do?

well first of all, nothing is stronger than love
and if your friend really cares about you and is actually and truely ur bestfriend shed like to see you happy if she hates him or not and don't lie to her just to please her she'll understand if you love him.

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Okay so here is the deal, I think I like this kid in my class but I have been trying to make him say that he likes me because I am like way to shy just to ask him because this is my first ever true crush and I am like really sure he likes me back but I am not quite sure.So how do I either ask him if he likes me or figure out if he likes me before telling him I like him?And do not say ask a friend to ask him because I am the shy and mean bad girl type that has trouble making friends!Any help will be greatly appreciated and I will rate fives to anyone who will give me a helpful answer!

Well you can ask him for his number? And if ur that shy ask one of his friends. You dont have to be friends with them just be nice to get the number. If your too shy and you dont want to call him then make a move or something ask him to go to the movies as 'friends'. Hope i helped any thing else just ask!! rate pleasE!

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ok me and this guy, jeremy have been hanging out. he's a year younger than me (school-wise) because he failed, and we met through my best friend.she and him are good friends, so yeah ;) well jeremy has a friend paul, that likes my friend ewelina... making sense? well the guys drink sometimes. everytime we hang out they are bored because they are sober and vodka gets them to express themselves?! haahaa... weird i know. well the i heard jeremy likes me so i startedmaking small moves o him, like laying on him and stuff and well yesterday he didn't do ANYTHING, AT ALL! then later on he called me while i was at my friends house, and i was hey who is this, he's like your're boyfriend. i was like oH the one that ignored me today? he saoid he didn't ignore me today and that he really likes me and he's nervous AROUND girls he likes. the only reason he said all this was because he drank a little. and then he calls ewelina, and they talked for 73 mins, exactly, haha. they talked about me. he likes me a lot, and he wants to change supposedly . he wants to get serious with me and his friends told me the same thing. today i heard they're going out to drink again and i called them and we talked then went to his friend paul's house. they were sober and we didn't talk at all, we just sat there (me,paul, jeremy, ewelina!) and then me and ewelina left and went to her house and then all of a sudden the doorbell rings. we answer it and its jeremy with 2 of his friends. then ewelina leaves and me and them go to the park to talk. they ask why we don't want them to drink, and i couldn't think of a good reason. then they were like to jeremy (his friends said) ok how about u dont drink on mon, tues, wed, thurs, and friday saturday sunday you can? how does that sound lisa(me)? and i was like i dont control him and he's like dude ill drink whenever i want. i really like the guy and i know him and my friend ewelina have had feelings for each other in the past and paul likes ewelina so thats why jeremy ANd ewelina never went out. one of jeremy's friends today metnioned that if paul was a good friend he's let jeremy go out with ewelina. she's my best friend and i loove her to DEATH but i don't know what to do anymre. she's not gonna go out with paul and i want to go out with jeremy and he knows that. so how do i get jeremy to stop drinkinking and how do i tell him and good reason to show that I CARE!!!!!!!????? and should I worry about jeremy and ewelina? i rate 5's for good answrers. thanks babes!

Sorry, that got REALLY confusing at the end, if you can maybe try and get it together a little and more understanding give me an inbox and ill be HAPPY to help you! sorry.!

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OK im a female 14 years old. Last year i really loved this guy who didnt go to my school but we saw each other alot because he was best friends with my neighbor. Him and i went out for about 4 month for me its was a longest relationship i ever had and he was my first kiss and stuff and then we broke up because he thought i liked another guy well i kind of did but not really and when the guy i was going out with dumped me i didnt really care but then maybe a week went by and i saw him again and brought up alot of memories back but we werent together anymore. After that day i realized how much i want to be with him and how much he means to me. I called him and told him that me liking other guy wasnt true and he said okay and i dont think he cAred then i heard from someone he likes me againa then next time i saw him he didnt. I still liked him alot but we jsut didnt see each other at all over the summer. Well next year(this year) i go to his school and he is on 2 of my classes so i see him alot and everytime i see him i get the memories back. My biggest wish in this whole world if we would go out again then i will be the happies i ever been. Well i had a little chance before getting back together but now he is going out with this girl that he went out last year right before we went out and he dumped her for me but not they are back together. I dont know what to do because ive tried to move i had alot of bf`s after him when his first gf after me was liek a year after we broke up and ya well i want to get back with him together but im not sure if its possible so should i just keep on trying to move or keep on trying to get him back???? plz i really need help i like that guys for over year and a half now and i cant tell him that cuz he has a gf that im really good friends.

Ok well just to tell you that is really confusing, but i think i understood. I think you should definitly talk to him about it. Even thought your really good friends with his girlfriend, he should atleast know you still like him. And if he doesn't show that he cares you should definitly move on. Hope i helped !

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ok .... welL .. mYy friend likes my boyfriend who i love sO0o much!! but thats not alL .. last year me and her both liked him sO0o he asked me out . we went out 4months broke up went out for 2months then they went out 3months broke up me and him went out and now me and him have been goin out for 3months and hes the oonly boy i have accually really loved ... now that she likes him im scared that she'lL take him from me like before. because them to always talk online and telL eachother EVERYTHiNG ... and i kinda get jealous because he doesnt telL me everything ... HELP ME ... Love, Lost

Well ohkay if your boyfriend tells your bestfriend and his x-girlfriend everything thats kind of wrong. Or hes telling her about how much he likes you thinking she would tell you. But thats still kind of weird what you should do, if your more of a shy type talk to him online too..start to tell him everything and tell him your kind of getting jealous and scared. Tell him you dont want to loose him because you love him so much! And you sometimes think that your friend might take him away from you, tell him how you feel and maybe he will open up. Or you probably might not want to do this but get back at him if he keeps telling her everything. Tell one of your x-boyfriends everything and start talking to them alot then he'll notice how much he cares for u and stop talking to your bestfriend. Hope I helped!

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Im going out with this guy i really like but when ever we talk on the phone theirs nothing to talk about. I dontknow wht to do it can get akward. Im not shy im far from that anyone would say that but its just i cant think of anything to say can you help?

Talk about anything basically. Say something about what you did today. And then that will lead into things. Talk about his favorite sports. Valentines day like what he wants. Hope i helped!

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Well valintines day is comeing up...and its my b day on valintines day i know im special jk. Anyway theres this boy i wanna ask to be my valintines. Hes been my friend since pre k and i dont know if he likes me. I have a boyfriend but since the last time i saw him well its been 2 months and he just disapeared. I guess he moved. But anyway i said to my self its time to move on and i really want a valintine. Ive never had one before. And any ideas pleez? gracias.

WHOA. you 'have a boyfriend that u havent seen for two months or heard for him' MOVE ON sorry chicka.um..for valetine get him some chocolate and a card or something. gl

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okay im with this guy. i REALLY like him a lot and everything and im into being active with a guy like making out and everything. i've given head and been fingered and made-out with a guy before all in one night and it was my frist time for everything, but im not sure if my boyfriend right now is into all of that. He said he's eaten a girl out,fingered, and made-out, but i was talking to this other guy (that im kinda interested in) and he said that he probably wouldn't do anything with me. BUT my problem is..i really want to do stuff with this other guy and we've talked and everything..and decided that if we do mess around, neither one of us is going to tell anyone else. Im not sure what to do. I really like my boyfriend, but i REALLY wanna mess around with this other guy! Would it be bad for stuff to happen and noone find out? ahh.

Well talk to your boyfriend about doing sexual things. Otherwise yes it would be really bad..unless u keep it a GOOD secret and let no one find out..but thats going to be hard to do, your just horny. iM me and tell me how things go!!!!!!!!!! i know your situtation ive been put in it before. hope i helped

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ok well my bf and i have been dating for about 3 months and valentines day is around the cornor and i don't know wat to get him! i don't want to get him something really stupid that hes not gonna like but i want to get him something that shows i really love him! so if u have any ideas! let me know! thanks a bunch

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You can get him a chain.braclet.chocolate.tshirt.if you write in a diary about him, usualy ; hed be interested to read it.cologe of all your pictures together.cologn.Hope i helped

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OK. See me and my b/f have been going out for a little over three months...everytime i see him all we really do is make out. i mean he has gone up my shirt, but he hasnt tried to go any farther than that. im starting to get tired of the same old thing everytime i see him. why wont he go farther with me? another thing is... i want him to finger me and i know he wants to because he told my friend he wanted to but he never has, and he told her this when we had only been dating a month. if he does finger me tho im scared that he wont like it because i have hair... down there... should i shave it? what do guys perfer? does it really matter? plz answer ill rate sincerely confused

Okay well you should talk to him. Tell him you want to move the relationship a little bit further see what he thinks. If he wants to finger you ask him if you should shave.. and if your embarresed to do that like make it into a joke belike.. DO YOU SHAVE... because when i give u a hj i would noe and just laugh and he would prob. ask u the same question back, or be like do you want me to. and laugh about it. hope i helped

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well, i had this boy that was a close friend when i wasn't single. When i did become single, he fell in love with me, and he wants to go out with me. I like him as a friend.
But me and one of my other exes has been talking lately. He asked me on a date to a valentine's ball, and i was going until my close friend said that he wants to come to my house and we'll spend time together on that same day. I don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings, and i wanna spend time with both of them, but I don't know who to spend time with for v-day! Who do you think?

Well your x asked u first you should really go with him, or who do you have feelings for more?.also maybe if their at different times hang out with him earler..then tell him ur going sumwhere else and go to the dance.hope i helped

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Okay, first of all, I'm 15 and a freshman in high school.

So, last year in eighth grade, this new guy came to our school and joined band (which I am in), playing the trumpet. Him being new, all the girls but me immediately jumped all over him, wanting to date him because he knows nothing of their past. Well, I decided that I wasn't going to do that. I quietly said, "Hey, what's up?" one day in the instrument room and gave him my Yahoo! IM screen name (after we talked for a while). I didn't realize that I liked him then.

Well, a few weeks after his arrival I started liking him. He's cute, sweet, and has abs to die for. And he's my age (always a plus).

Well, he didn't ask me out, and I was way too shy to ask him out. So, I lived with unrequited(sp?) love until close to the end of the year.

One day, before a band performance, we were riding around picking up various band members with our director. It was then that he told me that he'd liked me since he met me.

Well, I was sitting with my best friend one day after school, waiting for our ride, eating ice cream that we just bought from the store, when lo and behold, here comes Tyler (that's his name). Well, I decide that since I only live a block away from the school, I'll let Megan go home and I'll stay and talk to Tyler. So Tyler and I share the rest of the ice cream and start talking. Innocent things at first, and then it gets deeper. I told him more about my life than even my best friend Megan knows. And he told me all about his.

Well, somehow, we ended up making out on the picnic table. And then we got up and made out by the brick wall. Then the next day, we made out in front of the band room. Then he came to my house and we made out. And then we made out one last time by the gym. We never spoke of it again.

Now, close to a year later, I can't stop thinking about this! We never dated, even though we both wanted to. It was too close to summer and we both thought we were moving. It turns out that neither of us did, but we still haven't dated. Now I have a different boyfriend, and it's killing me that I can't stop thinking about Tyler! And Tyler and I are now close friends! What do I do about this? I still like him, but I don't know if he feels the same way! :(

okay well if you have a bf think about who you like more. if you like tyler more break up with your boyfriend. and since you do like tyler you should breka up with your boyfriend because its not right to like more then one person. then call up tyler or write him a note or something and tell him how ya feel

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I dont know if i should dump my b/f becuz he likes another girl but whenvever i ask him who he likes more he always says yes to me that he likes me more....should i dump him???¿¿¿

Okay if your going out with this guy he DEFINITLY should not like another girl. Maybe only think is cute or hott or something but liking is a whole different story sorry hun but you should dump him

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okay. i'm 13 and of course female.
well, i just meet this really great guy. hes funny, nice, cute. Everything. we've talked and stuff. but i want to hint him that i like him, with out throwing myself to him or just being goofy! How do i hint to him that i like him?

You should just start calling him for no reason. Make it like a habit. And he'll probably get the idea after a while. And flirt with him on the phone or ask him to hang out.

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ill make it short..i like this guy and he likes me but i have a boyfriend and my bf NEVER talks to me should i dump my boyfriend?
~please help!~

Yes you probably should. If you like this guy more then your boyfriend, and you have more of a connection then take the chance!

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ok there is this guy...and i fell in love with him..but then he was really bogus...im not gonna tell the whole story..but lets jus say he "cheated" he told me he was sorry and i forgave him but then he did it again...ive been thru a lot of shyt because of him...should i forget about him? or forgive him adn give him one last chance?

0KAY Y0UR PR0BABLY WANTiNG T0 HEAR GiVE HiM 0NE LAST CHANCE BUT S0RRY SWEETiE Y0U SH0ULD DEFiNiTLY FORGET AB0UT HiM!

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so there is this guy i have went out with 3 times and now we are best friends. i have not liked him for a really long time, but we were at a party the other night and he was all over me! i am pretty sure he doesn't like me, but i like him! what do i do??

WELL Y0UR N0T P0SiTiVE THAT HE DOESNT LiKE Y0U S0 Y0U SH0ULD ASK HiM AND FiND 0UT!

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okay there is this guy i like at school we'll call him erik so anyways erik and i have gotten to be closer friends and i mean we hug and we'll put our arms around each other and walk down the halls like that till we see a teacher or get to close to the office, im not suer if he is flirting or not i think he is but still not sure ya no? if it helps he calls me home grl and things like that and he smells AMAZING! what ever colone he wears smells really good on him! so i still dont know what to do cuz he doesnt have aim so i couldnt talk to him like that plz help!

WELL Y0US ARE DEFiNiTLY FLiRTiNG WiTH EACH0THER MAYBE Y0U SH0ULD TALK T0 HiM AND FiND 0UT WH0 HE LiKES!!

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hey... lately iv'e been getting the feeling that my boyfriend doesn't have enough time for me. We're in a long distance relashionship and i'm always the one calling him, which is pretty messed up if you ask me. He hasn't been returning my calls either, and he still hasn't sent my christmas present. The past three times i called him he's like "i gotta go do my homework, i'll call you later tonight k?" and then i wait till like 11pm and he never calls and then i don't hear from him for like a week. We've been going out for soo long and i really trust him, but i can't help thinking he might be with another behinde my back, cuse i have no possible way of actually knowing. i don't want to comfront him about it, but i really want to know what the hell is going on cuse it makes me so ed off and confused at the same time. [dont tell me to dump him cuse i love him :-/]please help!!

0KAY WELL Y0U SH0ULD DEFiNiTLY TALK T0 HiM!!! TELL HiM Y0U WANT T TALK T0 HiM M0RE AND Y0UR SiCK 0F WAiTiNG Y0U WANT T0 TALK T0 HiM T0 SEE H0W THiNGS ARE G0iNG AND SH0ULD ASK HiM iF HE STiLL FEELS THE SAME T0WARDS Y0U

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ok ive been asking questions about my boyfriend...like me not thinking he cared about me and stuff well yesterday i passed out and couldnt breathe and i think it scared him and i think he relized how much he loves now that it happend to me...he is constantly telling me how much he loves me and how much he needs me...
do you think that becasue of what happend hes relizing how muhc he loves and cares about me???
thanks a bunch!
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iF HE WASNT SH0WiNG ANY FEELiNG F0R Y0U BEF0RE iT W0ULD DEFiNiTLY MEAN HE G0T SCARED 0F L00SiNG Y0U

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