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What do you do if you have a crush but the boy doesn't notice you?
You can do some things to make him notice like change you look hair or something but not too drastic though. You can look for any little excuse to go up to him like just talk about everyday things like your teachers what subjects you like or hate. If you have some classes together you can ask about homework like if he got it and if he can help you. You know little things like that, that can break the ice.I hope that I helped you some good luck.
I'm a seventeen year old girl and two years ago I began to develop feelings for my step-brother (though in hindsight there were signs before hand). He is nearly nineteen and we used to see each other every weekend (I'll elaborate on that more in a moment). We have known each other for roughly ten years and we've always had a sort of love/hate relationship. We would annoy the hell out of each other and he would insult me/hurt my feelings, but when we hit the eight year mark and my other siblings (the ones I am related to by blood) stopped visiting my dad on weekends, things began to change. Before we would wrestle and be determined to win/injure the other, we wouldn't talk a lot unless we were insulting each other or disagreeing on one thing or another, but then things changed. Things became more, playful. We would still physically fight but there was no intent to hurt the other. We'd straddle each other a lot more often than before and just sit in that position and talk/have banter. Or when we got tired I'd lie on his chest and he'd wrap his arms around me, and we'd just stay that way for ages. We would still insult each other but it was not as intense as when we were younger. When I was fifteen, he got a girlfriend. His first serious girlfriend. That hurt a lot, but it was okay because I knew things would never work out between us anyway. In February 2012 during one of our more serious conversations, I confessed to my step-brother that I had feelings for him. Feelings that were not necessarily sisterly. He took it well and assured me that he would 'still do anything for me', 'nothing would change' and 'he didn't hate me'. And he was right, until my best friend stuck her big nose in and called his girlfriend a 'dog', and warned him that if he didn't leave her he would catch 'rabies'. After this my step-brother and I didn't talk a lot. In fact it wasn't until January 2013 that we really caught up again, and even then it was only a brief conversation at work but it was nice to see him. By this point I had moved on and any romantic feelings I'd previously had for him were long gone, however I did still miss the closeness and companionship we once shared. In February 2013 he and his girlfriend got engaged, but the engagement was incredibly short as they broke up two weeks later. One week after dumping his girlfriend of 18 months, my step-brother and I reconnected via Facebook chat, only things were somewhat different. Whilst the insults and banter were still there, he often commented about how I 'wanted' him, and argued that if he were to kiss me, that I would kiss back. I thought nothing of it and laughed it off. That is until I saw him whilst visiting my Dad on 3/3/13. The two of us soon found our common ground wrestling and hugging in his room like we used to. It was fun and exciting, and made me realise exactly how much I had missed the boy. Things slowed down and flipped between us hugging whilst I played with his hair and he listened to my heartbeat, or the two of us occasionally slapping the other. Whilst sitting in a half hug we somehow ended up back at our previous argument from Facebook about how I 'wanted him'. I went off on a rant about how I clearly didn't want him, and then he kissed me, mid-sentence. It was my first kissed so I was pretty stunned, but I kissed back nonetheless. Then we kissed a lot more after that until it was time for me to leave. My step-brother later told me that he only kissed me to 'prove a point' (that I wanted him) and it was only a one time thing. Worst of all is that he was acting totally weird with me over Facebook two days after we kissed. So now I'm confused, and hoping that someone on this site could offer me some much needed advice since I have no idea what to make of this situation, how to react and what to do. Thanks for reading this incredibly long question by the way... :)
No mateer how you feel you guys are family and you are not suppose to have those kind of feelings that is just wrong even though your not blood it still isn't right. It would be different if you weren't family but since you are you have to treat them like how you would treat your blood siblings. You wouln'd want to have those kind of feelings for them if they were you're blood. I hope that I helped you some good luck.
you know lana del rey's song - burning desire? well thats how i feel about one guy,hes in my grade from 4weeks and im totally crazy for him,but he doesnt know and im usually very social but im insecure when it comes to love,hes quite different though than other guys,but i think he likes me too,but what if he doesnt? i cant tell him how i feel,i fear rejection too much :/ how should i find out? oh and im 15 by the way
Been there how about having a friend of yours or a few talk to his friends and find out for you. But you need to be careful a friend of yours might like him and lie to you so they cna have a chance with him. I hope I helped and good luck.
I asked out this guy at school today and he said yes. The problem is, we don't have anywhere to go. We are both 16 and he can drive. Any ideas?
You can go to a dinner and a movie don't rule movie out that might be a good idea for the first date so that way you guys can get use to being around each other as bf gf. After the movie you guys can park somewhere if you want to talk a little before he takes you home.There are so many things you guys can do movie,dinner,go bowling,miniature golf,drive in,play a sport,get together for ice cream or coffee and then go for a walk and you guys can talk a bit. I hope that I helped you some good luck.
I'm 16 and there are 2 guys at my school that are causing me problems. Trevor is the one I like and I'm planning on asking him out but then I heard that the other guy, Luke, is going to ask me out tomorrow. The girl who told me Luke was going to ask me out is pretty reliable and most things she says is true. I kinda like Luke but not as much as Trevor. I think Trevor likes me (he kissed me today) but I don't think he's going to ask me because he's really shy. So which should I go with? Trevor or Luke?
You should go for Trevor because he has already made the move by kissing you and you can ask Trevor out instead of waiting for him to ask you cause he is shy that way he doesn't feel like he has to be the one to do it it takes the pressure off him and he knows that you like him enough to ask him. As far as Luke is concern you shouldn' really worry about him you said it yourself you like Trevor more I hope that I helped you some good luck.
My boyfriend is moving to a new school next year and will probably won't be able to see him again! We're so damn close together that I cry everyday knowing that! Might there be some advice to prep for this and what to before he leaves? :(
Long distance relationships are never easy but it is up to the two of you to make it work. If the two of your really do care about each other and are willing to do anything for each other then you guys should do everything that you can to stay in touch until you see each other again in person. You know talk on the phone and online like Skype etc.Also you should make a promise to each other about only being committed to one another athat way you don't have to worry about him and other girls where he is going to be living. As for prep for when he leaves you should try not to cry because he is still there with you he hasn't left yet you guys can still spend time together you guys should spend as much time as you can together cause you don't know when you guys will see each other in person. I hope that I helped you some good luck.
Me and my "boyfriend" are going to our first concert together and I really really like him. I want to make the jump from friend to boyfriend. (Nothing sexual, sex is for marriage and marriage only) How can I do this? I'll give you some background info. We've been talking for about a year now. We hang out alot go out to dinner he bought me a huge bouquet of flowers for Valentine's Day. But we've never established anything.
It sounds like he likes you more then a friend because if he just wants to be friends why would he send you a huge bouquet of flowers for Valentine's Day unless he wants to be more.He just doesn't know for sure where he stands.You talk to your friends and see if they have any suggestions how you can tell him. Invite him out some place just make sure your friends won't be there to interupt you and then when the time is right you should tell him how you feel. Most likely he won't say no cause look what he has already done Valentine's for example. I hope that I helped you some good luck.
I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend for eight years now. He has always hung out with people who are not good for him, but to my knowledge he had never really done anything bad. Last year he showed up at my parents' house high on xanax and then did it again this year. Those are the only two times that I know of he has done it for sure but I have suspected that he has been doing it more. I just can't trust him anymore but I love him more than anything and I don't know what to do. His whole family had been addicted to drugs at some point which scares the hell out of me. Should I stay with him and learn to trust him, or is he probably still doing drugs?
That's a tough one you could have the talk with him give him a chance to be honest you if he is still doing it you should tell him you are going to give him a second chance but he has to make a choice either he quits that or you will end it that's a way to see if he really loves you. If you get the feeling that he isn't really telling you the truth you can find out have your friends keep an eye on him for you so they can tell you if they catch him in the act.If they do then you know that you need to find someone else. I hope that I helped some good luck.
Im 15 & in high school. I really like this Guy. He's so cute, I've liked him for a long time now. Well I think he knows I like him but not sure. I want to tell him so I can get to know him better. Idk Im really scared about telling him & don't wanna make things awkward between us. I like how he always nice to me, funny, sweet, & shy. When I see him I get all excited .I asked all my friends & they say write him a note telling him how you feel & if he doesn't like you back tell him to give it to you. But my friends haven't had a good long relationship . I wanna know if he likes me. It hurts to see him & think what if. I'm tired of over thinking about him & if he like me. Ya if he doesn't like me its OK but it hurts me not knowing. Please help me
Been there I think you should invite him to a group event with his friends and yours. Do that a see if goes if he does then you know that he likes you then again he probably might like one of your friends sometimes guys are like that. After you invite him to a group event and he goes and you still want to know if he likes you I mean like likes you then you could have a friend or a few (up to you) have them talk to his friends and have them find out for you if you trust your friends and they are willing to do that for you. You got to be careful because a friend of yours might like him and want him for themselve so watch out for that too. I hope that I helped you some good luck.
I like this guy, but he never talks to me. He probably thinks I'm uncool because the most popular girl in school says she doesn't hate me but I feel like she does. He talks to me every once in awhile. But I don't kno if he's scared to talk to me, if he just doesnt like me or something I want to talk to him but I'm just scared. Help!!?!
Yes it can be scary talking to a guy you like especially when you don't know if he likes you or not but then again if he didn't like you why would he continue to talk to you.Been there well what you can do is just keep talking to him and try not to care about the popular in school whether she likes or hates you there is always going to be one. I hope that I helped some and good luck.
for a couple of months I went out with this guy who was married,he wasn't satisfied with his life and his wife knew he was cheating on her.he was a nice guy.he was my teacher before.I didn't have sex with him.we were just fooling around.but now I have decided to change my life and be a good person!I don't know how to tell him that.He loves me so much!!I can see that.this is gonna hurt him.I mean I was his comfort when his wife wasn't there for him!he always talked to me when he had a problem,he never talked to his wife about anything,they were always having a fight.most of the time I could hear his wife screaming at him on the phone that you are a bad husband and you have to go to hell.and for some reason he can't get divorced!he tried couple of times,but he didn't.now I want to break up with this guy but I am afraid he is gonna think I wanted him for grades.he didn't help me that much,but he helped a little.I didn't ask him to!He did it himself.how do I break up with him??
iT's never easy to break up with a guy. But then again if he is married if should be easy cause one thing he is married and do you want to keep being the other women or do you want him to make a choice and see if he wants to stay with you or his wife. IT WONT BE EASY BUT HE NEEDS TO CHOICE THATS WHAT IF WILL COME DOWN TO. You know he will have to choice sooner of later.
What do you call a guy who likes you and you like him but you dont want to date but still kiss and stuff?
Friends with benefits
hey guys so i have a friend thats 12 years old but shes so mature for her age i mean she has a really opened mind about stuff nd stuff anyway she likes this guy... lets cal him bobby.. but hese 15 years old turning 16.. she really likes him and she knows hese not lookin her way because he likes another girl lets call her jessica.. nywy school finished nd he went to a nother country.. nd she still likes him she was begining to get over him she was so close to until she found out that he camme back nd she got so happy nd so i think that her feelings ccame back but the girl that helikes went to another country aswell nd i heard that he already got over her anyway but this year hese gonna be in skoolwit us nd the thing is is that she wont kno how to get over him because they are rlly good friends.. even thou thyrs like 3-4 years diffrence.. but she really likes him nd no they wont go outcause she doesnt do those kinds of stuff... nyay..the question is iz that she doesnt kno what to do she wants to get overhim but she cant.. i rlly need ur help.. seriosuly plz help me to help her im sorry this was long but its true..
alrite
Bye,,,
I would say it would be hard to get over him again since his back in the picture but now that he is tell her try not to think of him as more then a friend because that is how he probably thinks of her. Who knows maybe if he has those feelings too maybe they can do something about it when they are both older but in the meantime tell your friend what I told you before and to hang in there but for now she should find someone her own age. I hope I helped but if not you can drop by column.
i kind of had sex for the first time 5 days ago with no protection but heres the ting i finnished but obviously he didnt b/c he was thinking of other things so he wouldnt get excited so he didnt even feel close to finnishing on me, but i was supossed to get my period 4 days ago but inever did i still feel cramps adn my boobs r sore but there r all these risks about his penis being in mine even if he didnt finnish im scared please help me out .!!!
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This might be long but I really need help. So I went out with this guy , we'll call him Chuck. Chuck and I went out for about 6 months he was the first boy I really loved. However , Chuck was this big popular "jock" and all my friends were mad at me for going out with him because they liked him ! Silly right? So Chuck and I broke up beacuse of these silly girls. GUESS WHAT? CHUCK WENT OUT WITH ONE OF THOUGHS GIRLS FOR 5 MONTHS ! Yeah... so whatever. They broke up about 2 weeks ago and I've been notciing I really miss Chuck. Chuck talks to me a lot... online and he calls me and we flirt a lot. I think he likes me and I might be falling for him . But this is the situation the girl he just broke up with is one of my very best friends. So i shoudlnt hook back up with Chuck beacuse that wouldnt be fair to her right? Shes pretty upset. However... HE WAS MINE FIRST ! I need some serious help. thanks
I don't think that you should go out with him again knowing that it will hurt your friend. But I do think that you should tell him you like him alot but that you would much rather be friends that way you can keep being his friend and won't have to worry about hurting your friend.
Ok, so My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me 3 months ago because he said first it was because I was possesive and then he said he just wanted to be single. Well two weeks later he started dating a girl who was 15 and he is 17 and she lives 3 hours away. Well, they broke up a few days ago and NOW he is dating a girl from my school. It just hurt me so bad to find out that he found ANOTHER person and Im still by myself. I hate going to school because I don't want to see them together. I havent talked to him since we broke up and when he sees me at school he literally puts his head down and darts to the other side of the hall. I feel like I will never find anyone else. Things just get better for him and suck for me.
What you should do is keep a positive attitude and see if there is anything that you are interested in doing. If you are interested in a club or sport I think that you should consider joining that way you mind won't be on your ex boyfriend anymore and who knows maybe sometime in the future you might meet someone new. But since you are not ready for that maybe you consider doing one of those things to keep you mind occupied on something else that might help you.
hey my name is Jess im 13. well my boyfriend is really sweet and nice but he always thinks i have to be around him. im always canceling my plans just for him. Well im sick of it. Today i told him i was going out with my friends cause i had this all planned to go out tolunch but of course he wants me to hangout with him. he says i was being a bitch taking ym friends over him. its annoying but i really love him. what can i do to make him stop acting like this. I know if i say my friends are important to me to he wll get mad. Please Help
Sincerely, Jess
Tell him you care about him and you would like to be around him all the time if you could. But you also have friends too and so does he and every once in a while there is nothing wrong with wanting to spend some time with your friend and give each other space. If you don't spend any time with your friends then they will start to question you just like your boyfriend does. I hope that I helped but if not you can stop by my column.
okay so this boy likes me and i like him and we have a lot in common but hes in a different group of people than i am in...this is my last year in the same state as him and i really want be at least friends with him....i think i really like hm because not just becuase of his looks lol. he seems nervous ..but what do you think i should do ...go up to him?
I think that you should start talking to him a little a day. Everyday you see him you should say either"hi" and "hello". Then when you are use to saying that then you can say a little more. If he is in a sport or club you can start asking him about it or them. Hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
There's this girl that i've liked for a long time, but ive never talked to her - whenever I see her (once a week) she's with her friend. I really want to talk to her but there's never a time when she's alone. I need to know if I should to talk to her when her friend is around or if I should keep waiting for when she's alone and I want to know what I should say to her. We're 13 by the way.
You could either try talking to her when her friends around or you should try to get her phone number so that way you can talk to her when her friends isn't around. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
ok well this guy. bob* i really like for some odd reason and i dont know why i just like him. but i never really talked to him. he is the greatest thing i swear well kinda. anyways my friend joe* was like i will just ask him to homecoming for you and i said no. and he was like ok whatever. then the next day my friend told me he said no to homecoming. and bob* said no because he only liked me as a friend thats all. and now i don't know if i should call him and talk to him about it. I am kinda a shy person when it comes around the guy i like. but what should i do?? HELP!!! I am 14 he is 14. I am a female. he is a male. Plus bob* always looks at me at lunch and in pe.
* names have been changed
He probably just said no to homecoming because your friend asked him instead of you cause guys like it when the girl herself asks them out not having their friends do it. Since your friend did it he thinks that you are scared to ask him and that you don't want to be more then friends. From now on if you want to ask a guy out you should do it yourself if you want them to say yes. I know this might sound kind of mean but there isn't any other way to say it sorry if I hurt your feelings. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.