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yeah, i'm laura.freshman, 14 almost 15.
idk what else to say..
advice
hey im not here 4 advise i just stopped by to say hey. u type young though...im 14 but um what are uthough ithink we can be friends cuz im a friendly person until sum1 ticks me off
i type young..?
what am i..?
i'm pretty darn confused right now.
Alright so i like this kid and we have been friends for a pretty long time but just this week he broke up with his gf should i ask him out or give him time plus i dont know if he likes me and i like him alot..? Plzzz help
well there's a few things you need to take into consideration here.
1. how long were they going out?
2. were they in love?
3. how far did they go?
if they were going out for more than a month, i would give him some more time. you don't want to be his rebound girl. you want to make sure he's in it for real & not just because he wants to get over his ex-girlfriend. if they weren't going out for that long, you probably don't need to give him much time.
if they were in love, you deffinitley need to give him time. it's not like you can just stop loving someone overnight. that takes some time. if they weren't, he won't need as much time to move on.
if they went farther than kissing, then he needs time. if they didn't really do anything, then they obviously weren't that into each other & you can probably just jump right in. [:
however, you don't know if this guy likes you. i don't think he will right away because he just broke up with his girlfriend. just be more flirty around him & hang out with him more. but don't wait too long to make your move, trust me i've learned from waiting too long.
i would wait about another week. be more flirty with him & hang out with him more like i said before. then, you can either just flat out ask him out or ask one of your friends to ask him how he feels about you. it's your choice but i would just ask him out.
good luck & let me know how it goes. if you need anything else, drop one in my inbox. [:
EDIT;
if you don't want to ruin your friendship with him, just take it slow if you do end up going out. & when it's over, just make sure you stay friends.
what are love handles?
extra fat around your hips. i know, great name for it. [:
im like about to cry as i write this. okay i was tlaking to this guy.. hes 2 and a half years older than me and we were getting prettyy closee..and then he asked me for pictures and of course, cause im stupid i sent them..don't even say i shouldnt have because i know i shouldnt. well today he called me and we were talking then he said he was talking to another girl then he was like whne are you gonna come over and ahve sex im like never your talking ot someone remember then he was like dont pull that shit. then he was like if you ever come over will you do stuff with me im like uuhm no your talking to someone and he got mad that i kept bringing it up. i find him pretty damn dumb to do that bc he told me who he was talking to and i could tell her what he is saying to me, but i dont wanna fuck anything up. was i write to bring that u again that hes talking to someonen while hes asking me this stuff?
ew he's a fag. you did the right thing. it's pretty obvious that he just wants sex. i would stop talking to the little perv before he like comes to your house or something.
girl: i just really want someone to makeout with or a BOYFRIEND! i need advice, cuz ur like my brother :] :[
him: i jus want 2 be popular so you can
girl: wut
Him: i jus want 2 be popular so you can
girl: i dnt get it??
him: nvm g2g
him: signed off
what does this mean??? my friend saidhe wants to makeout with me, but im not sure
duckyville72
hm.. this is a tough one. i really don't understand. it kind of sounds like he wants to be the guy you're making out with.
oh wait i get it now!! haha i just like read it again & i got it.
okay he means he wants to be popular so you can have a boyfriend to make out with. he wants to be the boyfriend/one your making out with. you must be popular in his eyes or something.
but just to be sure, ask him what he meant next time you talk to him.
hope i helped [:
Okay well my best friend and i have been best friends FOREVERRRR and she just recently got a boyfriend... and i like him. i told her that i liked him.. and shes fine with it. and she knows that i will NEVER do anything to break them up. But i dont know what i do.. do i wait??? should i tell him?? or what.. please HELP!
i would wait. i think your best friend would get pretty pissed at you if you told him. because then that might make her think you're trying to break them up. that also would give the guy a reason to dump your best friend. then if he asked you out.. yeah you can see where this is going. so yeah i'd just wait.
EDIT;
okay now that you told me she knew you liked him before they started going out.. i would have to say your friend's a bitch. that is really mean for a best friend to do something like that. i would tell him you like him. your friend should not have done that to you. tell him. screw your friend. she's a bitch for doing that to you.
hey im a guy 13, and i was wondering whats the most important thing to girls to make a guy hot. is it clothes, looks, popularity, sports, scent etc......
hey im 13/f and here's what i find hot in guys.
-funny.
-smart.
-easy to talk to.
-outgoing.
-wears axe/tag or anything else that smells god.
-pretty smile & eyes.
-longish hair like cut 2 or 3 inches off mitchel musso's hair.
-prep & jock (like wears american eagle & stuff but also plays sports.
hope that answers your question. [:
i'm like, totally inlove with my best guy friend. i asked him out sometime in november but he turned me down. he said that our friendship was more important at our age and stuff. and i see where he's coming from. but since then, we've started growing apart. we haven't had a conversation an hour long, which was like, the minimum amount of time we used to talk before i asked him out. we say hey to each other most of the time we see each other at school, and after school, i hang out with him and his friends until my ride comes. but we never talk one-on-one anymore. not even in the computer. so i've been thinking about messaging him on myspace. i've been thinking about doing this for weeks now, but i just can't seem to do it. it seems like i'm stalking him because ever since i asked him out, i send him messages every now and then, trying to make conversation with him. if i keep doing that, wouldn't it seem like i'm desperate and i'm stalking him? what should i do? should i message him or not? i have an idea in my head about what imma say. something like, "hey. you're proly getting annoyed by how many times i try to make a conversation with you, which never lasts long. i just wanna try one more time, because i really feel like we've been growing apart lately. i really miss those old days when we talked for hours and hours, because now we can't even talk for 5 minutes without silences in between. it really sucks. so what do you say? are you up for trying one more time?"
what do you think?? i really need some perspective on this.
that sounds like a good idea to me. let him know how you're feeling & maybe he will understand. if things don't go back to the way they used to be, then maybe he isn't such a good friend. my mom always tells me that friendships will change. good luck to you!!
14/f
Everyone tells me this kid likes me, but when it comes to seeing if people like me or not, I can never ever tell!
Here are some signs --
*He calls me twice a day.
*He talks about how he misses what we had.
*He always says we should hang out
*Hes called me pretty 3 times, in the past like.. maybe week tops?
*He asked if I'd ever makeout with him... lol?
*He always tries to help me with things.
*He drops like everything, just to talk to me on the phone type thing..
& alot of other stuff.. I just can't seem to think of it right now. =/ but, trust me theres alot more.. thats just super recent. & some of the other things, I don't know how to put it.
Anyways, what do you think? Does he just want to be my friend? or more...
By the way.. I won't rate you low, if you think he doesn't like me or something.. I want you to be completely honest.
OH..& sorry if we're not allowed to say we rate at all? I thought it was just as long as we don't say we rate high...
kthanks in advance.
wow this is like exactly what this boy does that likes me alot. so i'm going to say he deffinitley likes you. [:
Dear Redhead,
I have a love life problem. I have a girlfriend that I have been going out with for 3 years. My best friend that i like has just told me that she has mixed feeling for me. I don't know what I should do.
Sincerely,
Confused
well you have to make a choice. who do you truly like more? if she says she has mixed feelings, then she wont be able to commit to the relationship. she will be up & down liking you & then not liking you. but maybe if you two were to go out she would stick to liking you. this is a really hard situation & you just have to think about who you truly want to be with more. & think about which would make a better gf. hope i helped & good luck to you. [:
How can you tell the difference between a controlling boyfriend and one who just loves you a lot?
if your boyfriend is controlling, they will always do what they want to do & not ask you first. they will take control in everything & not ask anybody what they think. if he loves you alot, he will put you before everything & ask you your opinion on everything before he does it.
ok, so me and my girls six month is on thanksgiving, shes gonna be at her aunts, so when she comes home, shes gonna see me sitting at her front steps with 6 white roses and a necklace/ring(dont know which to get) for her. anyother ideas?
aww! that is so cute! i would love for my boyfriend to do that for me. dont get a ring though, shell think youre proposing. unless you are.
where can i get more myspace layouts like http://www.freecodesource.com/myspace-layouts/view.php?id=L527527410 orr
well that link doesnt work but these 2 websites have cute layouts:
www.whateverlife.com
www.mygirlyspace.com
Well the guy i like has a girlfriend and i liked him for about a month and they were going out for about two weeks now, but i go to my brothers football practices and he stares at me and smiles.. and he knows i like him and my bother and him always talk about me.. i am soo confused i dont know if u likes me or if he is looking at someone else. what do i do to find out.. besides to talk to him?? Please help me!
if he has a gf and you say he gives you signs that he likes you, he might be trying to show you he likes you back. but i say if he has a gf, SCREW HER!! so what? every guy is available. maybe he'll break up with her for you. maybe you can get a friend to ask him if he likes you. if he says he does, that could show he is a player and that isnt good. but like i said before, he might be trying to make you jealous by having a gf. if he says he doesnt like you, flirt with him and piss off his gf =]. maybe he'll realize he does like you. good luck to you!
i like this guy and im really good friends with him ..but i like him and i kind of want to ask him out. but i dont want to ruin our friendship or anything. and i dont know how to ask him out? advice please?
last year i went out with one of my really good guy friends and when we broke up we were even better friends than we were before. i think since you are friends, then it shouldnt ruin anything. it might even strengthen your friendship like mine did. and for the asking him out part, either ask him yourself or ask one of your friends to ask him for you. good luck =]
♥[[ redhead6154 ]]♥
14/f/ freshman
i dont even know where too start.
uh, well this all start on the first day of school. i sit down in a seat with my reallllly good friend of 6 years, heather. we have a new bus schedule and it was the first day of highschool, so i was interested in any cute guys. one stop, had this really cute guy named steve on it. i only recongnize him from being on my friends myspaces. so a few days passed and then around wednesday the 13th i added him on myspace and i got his screenname hes a junior, heathers a sophmore, we started talking alot. and i started to like him. the only thing that sucked was that he had a girlfriend, we talked a little over the weekend and he told me to say hey to him on monday. monday finally came and i was sooo excitied, when i got onto the bus i told heather that i had been talking to him and she seemed surprised, because this kid is kind of popular. and so i could tell heather was like jealous that they dont really talk. anyway, me and steve had been talking this whole week and today heather got off at my bus stop, and we were planning on going to the mall. we were sitting in front of the computer and i as usual was talking about steve, and she knows i like him. we were on myspace and we saw that him and his girlfriend brokeup. i was so happy, words couldnt describe. i was talking to him and trying to make him feel better and stuff. heather says "we should tell him to meet us at the mall, i'd probably hook up with him" ....i dont understand how she could say that. and then she kept saying how cute he was. i didnt make the connection that she was starting to like him. after that she left and when we were talking online she said that she decided to go with her friend lilly. i got pissed at that too. so i decided to go with my friend alison, so i posted a myspace bulletin saying oh yay im going with alisonto the mall, and steve i-med me saying oh yay im going to ! lets meet up or something ! i was in suchhh a good mood and then it all fell down. first alison decides to ditch, and go over her friends, then heather callsme asking me if i am coming to the mall, and she also adds that she was sending steve messages back and forth, and she told me to read them, so i go on her myspace and she lied, she reversed everything, like she said that he said that he wanted to hang with her, and on themessages it was backwards. she was the one who wanted to hang with him. anyway so now im home, and im praying that they dont hook up. because that would ruin my life and my friend ship with heather.
this is my question:
do i have a chance ? should i stay liking steve ? and should i still talk to heather ?
if you think i should still like steve.. then do you have any tips for me ?
thanks
this seems like a jealousy issue to me. i dont think heather likes steve at all. i think she is just jealous that you and steve are hanging out and she isnt. i would talk to heather. if shes really your friend she will let you have him. he was your friend first. i dont like heather. a real friend wouldnt do that to you.
redhead6154♥
Ok so, my bset friend of my whole life went out with this guy, who is also one of my good friends. They fought all the time when they were going out and he finally dumped her, because apparently he liked me the whole time. Now that he's single he keeps wanting to hang out with me and talk to me all the time and I think my best friend is starting to get jealous. Me and this guy have always been really close, we're like twins and i know if we were a couple it would be really fun and go well. But the problem is, I think i like this guy too. So what should I do? Go out with him and talk to my best friend about it? Or just wave him off and hurt his feelings?
wow this sounds ALOT like my situation. i say you go out with the guy. your friend already had her turn with him so now its yours. your friend shouldnt get mad at you, she should be happy for you. if she gets mad, maybe she isnt the greatest friend. good luck to you :)
redhead6154♥
okay.. im going out with this guy.
he lived in ohio and i live in colorado.
i have never met him
we met on myspace
im 13 and hes 14..
how long do you think we will last?
honestly?
umm probably about an hour. if you met on myspace..who knows if hes even telling the truth. he could be some perv pretending to be 14. dont give him any info about yourself. internet relationships are stupid i think. youll never see him or talk to him in person.
redhead6154♥
i have a problem & i'm hoping someone can tell me how to deal with it. alright...i'm really shy to begin with. everytime i get a boy we break up because i won't open up to him. it's not that at all. i just keep my distance because i don't want to smother him or whatever. i feel that if i call & ask if he wants to do something or that if i walk up to him at school to talk to him that i'm interupting his life. any advice would help. maybe someone could give me some limitation for when to talk to him & when to leave him alone. thank you so much. [:
i would say leave him alone when hes around his friends so you dont interrupt their conversation. if hes by himself, you can go talk to him. maybe sit by him at lunch so you can talk. and yes you can call him and ask him if he wants to hang out. hes your boyfriend he wants to be with you. as for being shy, i used to be really shy too. you just have to be more carefree and not be a..hmm..pussy. dont be afraid to do things or say things. that made me less shy.
hope i helped!!
redhead6154♥
i dont know what to do. here's the background info. I've known this amazing guy for a little over 2 years now. i feel in love with him, and he with me. But he kinda left me. Moved 1000+ miles across the usa. lately we havent been that into eachother. our conversations turned from firey to blah. so i didnt sleep last night. instead i wrote this.
I regret every single day I wake up and he’s not next to me.
It’s tearing me apart
I can’t handle it anymore.
He says we’re drifting apart. I couldn’t agree more.
He blames it on his parents. I blame it on me
I’m not with him. But I’m right here waiting for him just as I promised.
My love has never changed.
And it never will
Because he’s my everything and without him I have nothing.
I am nothing
Every second without him is another tear from my eyes.
He realizes he’s killing me. But I don’t think it’s him. It’s me.
I’m killing me.
I pull out his picture and can’t help but wonder what I had.
But it’s my fault we are drifting.
All mine. Cause I’m not there.
He’s constantly on my mind.
Laying here, sweating, with him on my mind,
It’s hard to get to sleep.
“Thoughts of us kept keeping me awake.”
As the clock ticks on, so does my restless mind.
The distance is killer. It’s like a double edged sword.
It cuts you one way, then as your beginning to heal, it turns around and cuts you deeper.
Separation anxiety and depression walk right next to me without ceasing.
And for this I’m hard to love
And I’m sorry for it. Sorry for being to hard to love.
But all I can do is sit here and apologize for what I should be. And what I’m not.
Turn out the lights, turn up the radio and try.
Try to fall asleep but nothing works.
Because he’s not beside me.
He’s the meaning in my life. He’s the inspiration.
No one needs him more than I need him.
Cause without him, I have nothing. I am nothing.
He’s gonna drive me to drinking.
No. better yet. This fuckin’ distance is gonna drive me to drinking.
Seinfeld® can’t even make me smile right now. (and that’s saying a lot)
At times I feel I will never smile again. For the rest of time, this dark cloud will be over me. Consuming me.
“This is my heart bleeding before you. This is me down on my knees.” This is me in tears with mascara and eyeliner streaked down my face. You’ve gotten me this far.
What more do you want?
You’re my addiction. I am so addicted to you.
And without you, I’m a wreck. A mess.
The empty picture frame sits on my mantel.
I wish that I could fill it with a picture of us.
“You taught me to run, you taught me to fly… you opened me eyes, you opened the door… your love is the music of my heart.”
He came along when I needed him the most.
He has loved me through the difficult times.
He has helped me get through the difficult times.
Just knowing that he loved me was enough to keep going.
I thank him for that. Because without him, I don’t think I would still be here today.
But he deserves more.
He deserves a girl he can hold
One that can kiss his lips
A girl tat he can spend time with.
And make memories with.
His teenage years are supposed to be the best.
But being with me, that’s not the case.
If I had to live my life without him in it, my days would all be empty.
Just talking to him used to brighten my day.
Now, it turns them all to black and white.
Without him, I wouldn’t be here today.
He tells me not to say it. But it’s so true.
I know I wouldn’t have a life without him.
And I love him for that. And about a million other things.
Nothing’s gonna change my love for him. I have always loved him. And always will.
He’s a piece of me.
No. he’s all of me.
If he ever completely leaves me I won’t be able to live.
Won’t be able to breathe.
My heart won’t beat. It’ll be in a million pieces on the floor.
I told myself that he was the one.
The one that could fix my broken heart. And tape it back together.
But if he gives up, so will I.
All I have is memories of him.
I told him that I cherished every moment we spent together.
That was no lie.
Walkin’ the halls of that hotel for a week, together. Walking down to the pool, together. 3 meals a day, for a week, together.
Those memories of him are the only thing that I have. “those endless summer nights”
Sunscreen and chlorine.
Miniskirts and tank tops.
The parting kiss behind the church.
That was the best week of my life. “And I couldn’t ask for more”
It seems that it’s been forever that he’s been gone.
It’s been a little over 200 days since I last saw his gorgeous face.
2 years since he left.
I miss him every second he’s gone.
But how the hell did we wind up like this?
Who’s to blame?
We are drifting apart uncontrollably.
But whose fault is it?
If I was there, this wouldn’t have happened.
“some day, somehow, I’m gonna make it alright…”
But right now, I can’t.
There is nothing I can do.
Not a single damn thing.
He’s there, I’m here. And there’s nothing I can do
Except tell him that I love him. But he knows that.
He knows that I love him.
As long as the sun shines I’ll love him.
“you don’t know what you’ve got till its gone.”
And I couldn’t agree more.
Saying goodbye to him was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
I’m sick of crying.
Crying because I miss him so much.
The 1,000+ miles is killer.
Serial.
But I don’t want to let him go. Cause what if he’s the one?
I’ve tried to get over him before.
It didn’t work.
I CAN’T GET HIM OUTTA MY MIND!
As the saying goes, then maybe he’s supposed to be there.
Is he the one?
The one I can trust to pick my shattered heart off the ground, dust it off and put it back together?
I know he is.
I know he is the one.
I know he is different than all the others.
I’ve tried so hard to mend this relationship.
“I’ve tried so hard, and got so far. But in the end it doesn’t even matter.”
But no matter what I do, I can’t fix this relationship.
It’s all my fault, but I can’t fix it.
I miss how we used to be.
Miss the love that we had.
The fire in his eyes.
The passion in his voice.
I miss him.
But “I’ve gotta take a little time. A little time to think it over”.
Cause I don’t want to get hurt again.
There has been so much heartache in my life that I can’t take it again.
I want to be able to say that he’s the one.
But I’m not sure.
No. scratch that.
I know he’s the one.
The one I should spend my life with.
But we are separated.
Separated by land or lack of contact? Or both?
They say that love will find a way. That it can break through anything.
But I’m not so sure.
I’m off his top 8,
He’s off mine.
Drifting.
Farther and farther apart.
Figured writing all this shit down would help me.
Help me to get it all off my mind and fall asleep.
Give me peace of mind. At least for one second.
I have 2 hours until the alarm goes off.
2 hours until I have to get up.
“Just remember I love you and it’ll be all right”
I hope.
so what do you think i should do?
Wow it's obvious that your in love with this guy and you dont want to let him go. Maybe you could go visit him once in a while. Try to "spice up" your conversations a little bit. Tell him how much you love him.
redhead6154