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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
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He's going to be upset and you being partially responsible its up to him to figure out if he wants to forgive and get past this due to the fact its long distance now he might feel like theirs nothing to treasure unless to him it wasn't about the fact that you were virgin and he really loved you its going to shatter him and you can't do nothing about it whether you choose to remain silent and tell him later or suffer in guilt if you have a bond like no other your actions for doing that have to amount but cheating is just not right and I hope he knows and can see your lesson is learned. Fact are no one can actually tell if a girl is a virgin or not in fact many girls at young age pop their cherry on their own with certain movements etc. But anyways its up to you to decide when to tell him or if you're going to . Even if you wait honesty is always best.
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Iv been dating my boyfriend for over a year &i am head over heels in love with him. I know this is immature and annoying to get anxiety over but everytime he watches porn I get such anxiety and mad at him. I try to hide it as best as I can. I know he should be allowed to do whatever and I don't want to control him in ANYWAY or tell him what he can or can't do but it makes me feel so bad. He never calls me pretty or gives me compliments so I get nervous when he's looking at other beautiful girls. If I told him I know he'd be mad I'm trying to tell him what to do. I feel bad for feeling this way but I can't help it. What should I do? Any advice is appreciated! (: thanks!!! (link)
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you should tell him how you feel because if youre not getting turned on by another guys parts cause you have eyes for him only then he should feel and be at the same level as you.you respect him so he should do the same and not just to change his habits for the hell of it but to change them for good cause he cares and loves you.those girls are disgusting and not important you are and if he cant see that then you need to open your eyes an realize he doesnt love you and is really immature
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 5 years. We are in our late 20s. I have an 7 year old son from a previous relationship and they get along great. My son even views him as a father. That is not even close to being an issue with us. Currently we can not go a month without having some petty blown up arguement. Wether it is about whats for dinner to who is going to drive. I have a very short temper when it comes to him and i dont know why.He can look at me wrong and it will put me in a bad mood. When i try to talk to him about why I may be short and rude at times to him it causes a whole other can of issues. Currently he is in school and will be graduating soon. I have been caring the weight of majority of the bills and also taking my son to and from school, practices, friend's house etc. I dont feel appeciated and slightly feel taken for granted. He will rebuke any of that and throw out examples of what he does to help, (picks up our son (occasionally), does dishes, and may make dinner a couple time a month) Please help! how can I commmunicate to my boyfriend that i feel this way without him being upset??? He is a man after all. Any of this hits his manhood/man pride. (link)
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i can totally understand where youre coming from youre carrying the load while he does simple easy things here and there that doesnt take out the stress and everything you take care of through out the weeks and because hes in school youre trying to be considerate but now youre going through mood swings feel irritable being with him and youre overwhelmed !!try to relax and have a talk with him be calm and see if he comes to and understanding of how stressed you feel .also if he can come to a conclusion on how things can change so that you wont be so stressed than he actually cares!!if not than hes being selfish we know school gets in th way you been holding things down but theres only so much weight you can take he needs to give you time for you . remember is better to b alone then to b with someone that doesnt make you happy thru out the years that youre also getting older.
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I am now 18 and my gf is 16.
Now it;s been 5 months since we started dating.And we've been really close and we ARE going good.But now there's something in my mind which has been a big problem for me.My gf used to have a FB account.But last December she deactivated it due to some issues with her parents.But she had recently activated it and it took like 1 week for her tell me what she did.But actually I have her password but she doesn't know that.And I've been checking her messages.She does have a lot of contacts with guys'not like me.It's not that I dont trust her but those guys they ve been like flirting with her.I know that she loves me alot too.Then recently she has given her mobile number to this guy who likes her and all.And then she told me that this guy has been texting with her.But she lied to me telling that she didnt give her number to him but somehow he has found it,But she did give him her number.I know that.Actually we are so in love.And we are crazy about each other.But still I have these problems too.I cant ask her about them too.But I ve told her once before about something else which came up before.sometimes I feel like she is totally different from the person who is with me when she is not with me'or when she is on the phone with me.Now I can't talk to her in the way I used to do with all these doubts.And when I see her messages I kinda get angry + jealous.So I need advice!.I mean how to react on this issue.(I dont think that I ll be able to talk to her about this) (link)
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I totally understand where you coming from. What I don't understand is why is she texting this guy if she knew that he was flirting with her and they probably text on the low. I don't think is fair to you cause you want to trust her and not seem obssesive but you don't want to get played and hurt. If she really loves youshe wouldn't hurt you talk to her about. It see how she reacts .
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We had a nice conversation last night.We shared our true feelings.First she was lil bit shy.But then I initiated the thing.She was like "I AM REALLY GLAD CAUSE I DIDNT LOOSE MY VIRGINITY THANKFUL TO MY GOOD HEARTED BF.I was like REALLY!!!!.It was damn good.But now we both have a serious issue.Now we miss each other a lot.Sometimes we don't even meet like once a week.So now its getting very hard.So I need some good advises how to control myself and how to concentrate on my school stuff when she is not around.Its now getting damn hard to stay without her. (link)
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im glad the convo went well :) but you guys both have to realize that sometimes distance is good. You guys dont live together yet so appreciate the time u guys r together but also appreciate the time that you guys are away fom eachother. Theirs so much love already and not being together makes it even better so when you see her you guys will have more to talk about and more love to share. Dont stress it. Skewl is very important and no matter how much love you can have for someone your education is important as well as hers she needs to also stay focus. So make sure that if shes feeling that way to always motivate her and eachother because none of you guys want to fall behind while the other is doing good..
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wow woo you are awesome.Hehehehe.So I'll talk to her about that.But if both of us wanna ve sex so badly,we ll go there right. (link)
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haha thanks anytime :) yup u can go there just remember no rush n not to quick lol
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Thanx alot for your advise.I wouldn't do that for any reason.I love her a lot and I can't picture my life without her.Its the same with her.We ve been very close.So we'll never let each other go.But now I'm a little bit curious about the way I should react.So what do you think?.Is it ok to talk about that with her and ask her that she really wanted it or not. (link)
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ofcourse baby boy talk to her thats number one in a relationship communication is the key never hide your feelings and always make sure that you make her comferatable enough so she wont hide hers. Talk to her and if ya both feel comferatable then hey enjoy :)
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Regarding my question http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=600936.
Thank you for your advise.Really appreciate it.But next that we ll meet she won't be on her periods.so I wanna know how should I react next time.SJust like the last time,or in a different manner. (link)
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u should try telling her how u feel see to me is not even about being a virgin everyone was a virgin once . To me is about staying with her being with her and not walking away after. To her it might be tempting because she has you and she likes you but u should think about how long have you guys been together and realize that even if you guys have sex its more about the companion and freindship and relationship that you guys will have after. You can choose to do it but remember if you walk away a year later its something she wont forget she will remember you as her first. So be smart about it and if you choose to do it dont rush into it make her feel comferatable and dont finish quick unless shes uncomferatable. Make it special :) and if you choose not to remember theres plenty of time just figure out within yourself if you feel like its the right thing to do or just to wait. Its upto you.:)
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Okay well let me start off to say im 16 years old and I haven't had a boyfriend in two years after I broke up with a guy after a year relationship. The guy he was and usually what I go after is I guess like a jock you can say, but they always end up being a asshole. However, that's the kind of guys my dad like to see me with too. One whose out going, athletic, and all of that kind of traits. I been told that I'm really pretty not trying to sound concieted, but this goes on with my story. Anyhow there's this guy I went out with a few times. His totally not what I'm use too what so ever his more like the nerdy side I guess you can say. He met my parents today and of course I can tell my dad didn't like him so much. I have fun when I'm with him though and maybe being different is a good thing, but at the same time I feel like I can do better. I don't want to lead this kid on though thinking he has a chance which I don't even know if he might. It's kind of like the movie she's out of my league and that's what I keep telling myself. Maybe I should give him a chance, or what? (link)
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ok so ur entitled to like who ever you want and be into who ever you want. I would not let my father make my choices if im going to be unhappy. If youre unhappy you should not be leading him on because everyone has feelings and just like you would get hurt so will he. The fact that you said youre pretty and hes nerdy makes me feel like he might feel like hes a winner and might feel like he cant do better while youre feeling like you could. Think bout it but dont lead someone on to make months with them because when you finally decide youre brave enough to tell him he wont take it to well.
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I am a 13 year old girl and my freind is 11 all of the
sudden she likes a 16 year old is that right is she to younge
another thing our moms say we are to younge to date is that true?? (link)
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eleven years old is still to young to even date.. I mean we all have crushes and we all want to date but you would never know the intentions of this 16 year old . You wouldnt want her to come back with a story or feel peer pressured into anything. If you can help her in any way do so dont stay shut because yu might regret it later.
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To start this off, I'm a 16, almost 17, y/o girl. For more than a year now I've been on and off with a guy who is 18 right now. We're very close but, honestly, he is not the smartest person. We argue a lot because of it. He's threatened to kill me face to face one time because at a time when we weren't dating, I had sex with someone he knew. He was on probation over the summer because he has a problem with smoking weed. Don't get me wrong, I've smoked a lot with him before. BUT he was being drug tested and he promised me that we would both stop smoking together. He broke that promise and lied to me about it. I kept it. I'm not going to keep rambling on,
so to sum it up, I do feel a lot for him. That only might be because of how much we had sex or how much we were alike though. I really don't know. I really want him and can't let go. It makes me cry.
A few nights ago I started dating another guy. A really nice, shy type of guy. I thought it was great... a way to escape the one before. But it just isn't the same. I'm tearing up right now because I feel like I don't want this relationship... I want my baby.. my love back.
But I don't even know if it was love.. I don't know. Everyone calls me stupid and all my friends hate him because they know what he does to me.
My dad doesn't even know I still talk to him. I got in trouble a year ago with him and I'm not even supposed to be talking to him. But I have been anyway. And I hate lying but I just crave him..
I don't know if anyone cares enough to read this, but I just wanted to get this out there. Please, what am I supposed to do?
I don't want to be known as stupid... Why do I want him so much? After everything. Thanks in advance. (link)
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girl i been in your situation not exactly like it but i once had to fight for someone i loved and thanks to me for standing strong cause i been with him now since 2008. I was not willing to let him go if ya both have love for eachother fight for it because none of my parents wanted me with him i was 16 then and now im 19 and hes 24 and even if nobody wanted me with him and my freinds either i still went to go see him and talk to him cus is only you and him that know what ya about nobody else does. But if hes threatning you thats a no no. Nobody should ever put a hand on you and if hes willing to work on it and stand strong to then i congratulate him but if walks out on you or doesnt meet u halfway then think bout it is he worth it?
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