I'm 20 and I attend Stony Brook University. I've always loved helping my friends and family so I've decided to give it a try with helping people I don't know. Any one out there who wants advice, feel free to ask...
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Age: 20
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I HATE MY EX BOYFRIEND! he acts like he still loves me and then he ditches me to smoke. im fourteen. i want to show him that im done with him but idk how... help? (link)
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What you can do is take all focus off of him. All forms of communication should be cut off with him. After a while of ignoring him he might get the hint. Also just focus on you, do the things you love, enjoy your life and let it show on your face that you are good and happy. The combination of all of that may get through to him and let him you are done with him. Don't give in when he tries (which he probably will) to get you to pay attention to him.. Good luck with everything :)
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no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get over my ex boyfriend. its been about a month n a half since we broke up. and i love/loved him with everything. i tried dating other ppl, but nothing works :( any suggestions on how to move on?
15/f (link)
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About a year ago, I was in the same situation. It actually took a months to finally be over it. The thing is, since you two just recently broke up, a part of you is holding on and wont let go, even though you may know this is not the best thing. Getting over him wont happen over night, what you should do is try to focus on you. Like do things that entertain you, that make you happy (outside of the way your ex use to make you feel). Sometimes dating other people helps but most times all it does is make you compare them to your ex and I know it totally sucks. Wait a bit on the dating other people thing. Like I said, take some time for yourself, pamper yourself a bit and let yourself know that you are fine without him. Get involved in the things you love. It will take some time, but you will eventually get over him. Take care and good luck :)
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ok well..me and my bf have been datting for 8 months almost 9. Well the last spring break we had when we were out of school.. i meet some new friends..6 of them. 3 girls.. and 3 boys. well one night all the girls were watching the guys play basketball. Well out of the blue one of them says ok..jack( not real name) I dare you to kiss Summer ( me) if I make this shot. and of course he made it. well I kinda see jack glance over at me... and im thinkinh?? is he really going to do it? then he walks over and kiss's me on the lips twice. well one night I was talking to the guy that kissed me on AIM! and he goes "Just got my braces off' and I was like " kool" he said " that way when I come back down there will be more room for your tounge" and I was thinking " o god" well I have a bestfriend who I tell EVEYTHING to well I was talking to her and Imed her the convo. showing here what I he said! well I accidentally.. semt it to my bf instead of her! and I was so.. MAD! well now.. he broke up with me.. and were back together.. but..he still cant get over it. like he will call me and when im not there he will IM me saying "YOUR PROBLEY AT THE POOL WITH JACK" and I dont even like Jack and I dont know what I can do to get his trust back any suggestions?
MUCH LOVE (link)
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He is probably still hurt and bothered by what happend and it will most likely take him a little while longer to get over it. But he needs to understand that its not fare to keep holding that mistake over your head, especially since you two are back together... The best way to get his trust back is to show him that you can be trusted, dont lie to him and just speak to him some more about how you realize what you did in the past was wrong. People make mistakes and he should be able to forgive you if he truely cares(and by taking you back, its like saying he does forgive you but that is not always the equavilent to forgeting). GOOD LUCK! :)
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so i thought i loved this one kid. but i know now i dont. and then i started liking this other guy but no i never did. he's sort of a jerk but then i met this guy and he's amazing but
he's gay =[
what should i do. i know i obviously wont have a chance with him but ugh. thanks for any advice (link)
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Wow dont you hate when a guy is amazing but you find out he's gay?It will happen to every female atleast once in their life... Anyway, the best thing to do is just let it go and get over him. It sounds easier said than done but if you just continue to let yourself know that it cant happen, eventually you will get over it. Good luck :)
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Ok heres the thing. I have been with my recent boyfriend for more than a year now. I love this boy to death and want to be with him for the rest of my life. NOw there is this other guy who I dated back b4 my recent. He calls and says he wants to get back with me and asks me what if questions like, what if I kissed you and stuff like that. I have tried to explain to him that I'm with sumone already, he even knows the most intimate stuff I have done with my recent bf. What can I tell him so he will backoff and not ruin my recent relationship with the guy I have???? By the way, I am 15, He is 16 and my bf is 15. Also that guy lives out of state from me. (link)
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Well your going to have to tell him once again that nothing is going to happen between you and him because your with someone. Be as direct as possible, you might even have to use a harsh tone with him (especially since you've said you have told him before but he wouldn't listen). Let him know how much your boyfriend means to you. After doing all of that, I suggest you lose all communication with him because he might feel there is still hope for the two of you if you still speak to him. Good luck and take care :)
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yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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You shouldn't have to share your boyfriend. Honestly, you dont deserve to have your boyfriend cheat on you for over a year and tell you that you and the other girl can share him. Come on, thats not fair to you at all. It's one thing if he cheated and asked for forgiveness(meaning he wouldn't see that girl anymore)but he cheated and feels no remorse for it AND is going to continue to do so. You can get better than that and I know it hurts because you love him but having you as a girlfriend should have been enough for him. You need to put yourself first, take a stand. Do you really want to share your boyfriend with another girl? You need someone who wants you and only you... I think you should break up with him but in the end the decision is all up to you. Take care and remember, put yourself first.
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Well i really like this guy and we went out about a year ago for like a month and well we broke up but i never quiet got over him now we're talkin but its kinda confusing.. is there a way you can tell by a guys signs or actions if he likes you or if hes just using you? (link)
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Guys are truely confusing. They can say one thing to you and then act the complete opposite of it. Each guy is different so there is no sure way to know if a guy likes you unless you ask(even with that, a guy can lie to you just to see what they can get out of it). When you two talk does he ever bring up other females?(If he does then he might not see you in the same way you see him). If he is always wanting or willing to be around you, that could be a sign that he likes you. Now to tell if he is using you.. Is he always asking you to do things for him(like he doesnt sweet talk you until he is about to ask you for a favor)? All of this could also depends on the way you two broke up (if he broke up with you, he could be trying to take advantage of you because he knows that you like him. If you broke up with him and he's still around you, he probably still likes you).All in all, just be careful to not fall in to deep until you know for sure wheither or not he likes you(you dont wanna end up hurt). Good luck :)
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Ok there is this guy i like and we went out before.. I really like him and it seems like hes sending me signals but im not too sure.. how is a good way to find out if he likes me??I've already asked but it was a mixed answer! (link)
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Well if you two have went out before(assuming it was a date) then its safe to say that he might like you, but then again guys are confusing. A good way to find out if he really likes you is to maybe ask a friend of his. The best way(which you have already done)is to just ask him. Try asking him again and this time let him know that you like him and wanna know whats up. Don't seem needy when your asking, just tell him your not here to play games and you wanna know how he feels. Be as straight forward as possible. Good luck :)
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i've never had a real relationship. im not fat, or ugly. i have a lot of friends but i can't seem to find a guy for me. every time i meet one, they sweet talk, and i fall for them and they get what they want out of me and then leave me. i fall for it everytime and i hate it because i am a mess because of it. i started doing really stupid things because im getting depressed. i hate that fact that i did that and im changing. but im still depressed. will i ever find someone for me? it seems all of my friends have found their special someone. whats wrong with me?? i dont want to be an easy peice of ass. but i am. i dont mean to be it just happens because all they need to do is tell me im beautiful and i cant say no. im longing for someone to care for me. and anyone i trust, they betray me.
help, or anything would be greatly appreiciated.
xo (link)
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As females, sometime we unintentionally give guys all the power in situations. You have to realize that you have the power to control how you want your life to be. As in, if you dont want to be an easy peice of ass,you dont have to be. I know its hard to not fall for someone who sweet talks you but your going to have to hold back a bit because you dont want to be the one hurt in the end.. As for will you ever find someone? Your 16 so you still have time, I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 18. Its going to happen when you least expect it (it tends to happen when you least expect it or when you dont even want anyone at all). Your heart is a precious thing and you have to guard it until the right person comes along.. Hope I helped a bit :)
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i really really like my guy friend we are neighbors and he tottaly gives me mixed messages we see eachother everyday and i just can't stand to be away from him i don't know if he likes me or not should i tell him how i feel or not. pleez help i will rate five no matter wat the answere (link)
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Continue to spend a little more time around him and give off the vibe that you like him. If you really like him then you should tell him when you feel the time is right. The age difference could play out in a negative way (as in he might say your too young) but you wont know unless you try. Good luck :)
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Okay. The guy I like likes me AND my best friend. My best friend also likes him. Me and this guy had practically gone out in the summer and we were very close, so you can probably understand why I'm still hanging on to him. We're very good friends. And, everyone that I talk to says we'd make such a good couple and we're meant to be. But, my question is, should I still be hanging onto him, or let my best friend have him (even if it does mean I'll be hurt)? (link)
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I understand that you like this guy and based on what you said he likes you too, but the fact that he also likes your best friend is a big no no. The question you should be asking yourself is if you are willing to lose your best friend over a guy. I think you and your best friend need talk. The best thing may be for neither of you to have him because if one of you starts to date him, someone will end up hurt. Good Luck with the situation ;)
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Are you expected to moan while a guy is fingering you? Or do you just lay there silently? And does being fingered usually lead to an orgasm? Thanks. (link)
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Well when a guy is fingering a girl, they usually look for a reaction from the girl to know that she is enjoying it. Do or say whatever feels comfortable to you. If you feel like moaning, go ahead. Fingering could lead to an orgasm but its different for each person.
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I really like this guy and he told me that he likes me too, alot as a matter of fact...the only problem is that he kinda flirts with other girls and I heard he's been seeing his ex-girlfriend. Well, it's more like he's been talking to her alot more than before when they broke up. I keep asking him if what Im hearing is true, but he either denies it or says that it's nothing. I want him to act like he likes me, like he says he does, IF he does. but i dont know how his reaction will be or if he'll even want to be friends anymore. What do I do or say to him?
~heartrulzmind~, 18 (link)
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You cant make someone act like they like you if its not something they want to do. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel, as in, tell him that hearing about him and his ex makes you upset.Also tell him that the way he acts towards you, like he doesnt like you,isnt cool(don't use those exact words). If he still does not give you a straight answer then maybe he may not be the best person for you. In this situation, put your feelings first, not his.
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