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Q: I'm 16 and i've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now. But recently i've started hanging out with a friend of a friend who i've known for about 6 months now..and i think i might have feelings for him..(ive talked with him and he has feelings for me..)my boyfriend and i fight a lot..we almost spend more time fighting than we do having a good time together...hes almost 18 and has talked about us getting married and i love him but i'm only 16 and i'm not ready to think about that yet...and i'm not sure what to do..should i ignore my possible feelings or should i take a break with my boyfriend and see if we really are "meant to be" ?

well if u "love" your boyfriend, you wouldnt break it off in the first place

Q: Okay, so me and this guy have been best friends for like 4 years... I mean he is my BEST FRIEND! And I can pretty much tell him anything... but why can't I let him know he means everything to me? Yea.. thats right Im in love with my best friend, you see, i liked him when i first met him... and after he let me know he wasn't into me, i just gave up...but ive liked him ever since, and now im like in love with him! WHAT DO I DO!?

talk to him and see who he likes! and tell him how u feel about him

Q: What Shood I Do If I Have A Girl Im In Love With But I Broke Up With Her About 5 Months Ago Because My Frens Didnt Like Her And Now I Want Her BAck More Than Ever?

well.. what means more to you, what your friends think, or what you feel? think about that

Q: Ok so I have this bf. Here's a sophomore and I'm a freshman. Some days he treats me good by talkin to me, holding my hand, walking me to class, and all that cute stuff that gurls like guyz to do. Then other days hes a total dick. Sometimes he wont even say hi to me and if i do get the chance to talk to him he juss walks away cuz he doesnt like to hang out with my freshman friends. I've learned how to blow it off but it still pisses me off. A couple weeks ago one of my closest friends said she saw him totally flirting with my worst enemy. I confronted him bout it and he totally denied it. I really want to beleive that hes telling me the truth but alot of people have told me that hes always all over other gurls. The people that tell me this are some of my closest friends and I know that they wuld never lie to me. All of my friends say that I should break up with him because he doesnt treat me good and I'm starting to beleive them. I still kinda have feelings for him but I'm not shure if I still wanna be with him. Plz help!!!

try to talk to him about it!! lemme know what happens.. sorry it took me so long to respond!

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for around 3 and a half months. I really like him and he says he feels the same but we never talk. He acts like all he cares about is seeing how far he can go with me. When we are not hugging or kissing, we just stand around not talking. We just never have anything to talk about. I don't want to break up with him because I really like him but our relationship is based on physical contact and no emotional support. So what should I do?

If thats not what you want in a relationship then talk to him about it. Being able to talk to your boyfriend is a MAJOR part in a relationship. Tell him that you think you guys should talk more. And if that gets you no where, then break it off and find someone better

Q: I've asked advice from you before and it's really helped. Thank you! But I do have another question for you. I have a bf and I like him alot. The problem is he's kinda rushing me into doing stuff that I'm not ready or can't do. See, I have a promise ring and the promise was to stay abstinent until marriage. I made this promise to God, my mom, and myself. I'm about to tell my bf but I'm not shure wat his response will be. I don't want to be holding him bak from doing stuff that I can't do, but I'm committed to not breaking this promise. Should I tell my bf about the promise ring? If so, what if he breaks up with me? I'm also scared that if other guys find out that I have this promise that no one will want to go out with me cuz I'm saving myself for marriage! I know you give good advice and I really need help! Thanx!!!

Hey girl! Thanks for coming back! hehe. Ok, about the whole promise ring thing, if the guy your with doesn't respect you enough to understnad about it, then he's not worth your time, and you deserve better. But talk to him about it and see what his response is. If he understands then he is a keeper! hehe... but if he is a dick about it, he doesnt deserve you in the first place! hope everything works out!!!

Q: I'm 13 and i have gone out with this boy i really liked him and he was my first boyfriend but he dump me and now i don't want to go out with anyone because i have losed my confidence and scared i'm going to be rejected

Every once in a while you will have a break up that will cause you heart ache. But you just need to move on and find someone that will treat you right. You are only 13! You have plenty of years to find the right guy!! So my suggestion is keep looking! You will find a good one! I promise!

Q: hello! me and my boyfriend have dated for 3 months and then we broke up. But know we started dating again. And know he is different, he wont touch me i always have to grab him. like grab his hand if i want to hold it. what should i do?

Talk to him about it. Ask him whats going on.. and why he wont do these things. Talking about things always helps!!!

Q: Ok so I am dating this guy and he's really sweet and he's always doing stuff that will make me happy. But theres also times that hes a dick..but thats juss how guys are. Anywaz..me and this guy have been going out for a cople months..the problem is I like someone else. Like alot!! But the guy that I like has a gf but it seems like he likes me too. I dont know wat to do. Should I stay with my bf? Should I tell the other guy how I feel? Help!!!

You should tell your boyfriend that you like someone else. That is not fair if you hide things from him. And also the other guy you like deserves to know that you like him! And if you think he likes you too then talk to him about it, but if he has a girlfriend talk to her about it, adn tell her that it seems like "such and such" has been happening. So she doesnt end up getting hurt.

Q: I like this girl. Shes so awesome and over a lil time weve become pretty close. She was with my friend for a while. and i didnt start talking to her until they had been going out for some time. but something like happened and we just started talking for hours each night about everything. Her bf wasnt to happy about this and got mad at me and was for a while, didnt want me and her to be friends or anything. Its wierd i dunno what to do cuase they sorta broke up and now i dont know what she wants. and neither do i, cause i like her, but i dont want to get my friend mad again. has anything like this happened to u before?

Hey, I would just give it time. What means more to you? Your friendship with your friend or the girl? Just think of it that way.

Q: Okay here is my problem, I have a boyfriend and i was sorta upset... i shouldn't of done what i did..... i went down to my ex boyfriend's house and i was talking to him and then one thing led to another and we sorta kissed... okay we did kiss ALOT! I love my boyfriend with all my heart and i am afriad if i don't tell him what happened that my ex will, so he could break me and him up! So should i tell him or not.... maybe i could get away with him not knowing and everything will be fine! But then again i am always thinking about it and it gets to me. Please help me Thanks alot.

Dont ever think about getting away with something like that, that's horrible. Tell you boyfriend, that's the right thing to do.

Q: there is this gurl that i think is like perfect but i don't know how to find out if she likes me with out lookin like a dumbass so how would i go about find out if she likes me or would even go out with me ?
thanks

Tell her how you feel and see how she feels about you.. you'll never know until you tell her!!! Dont worry you wont look like a dumbass!

Q: do u think that it is possible for a sophmore to date a senior?

Everything is possible. My cousin dated one and still is dating her =)

Q: If I have a crush on this guy, or like him, what is the best way to tell him and do i know if he likes me back?

You will never know if he likes you until you tell him. Just come out straight forward to him and tell him how you feel, if he doesn't feel the same it's not the end of the world =)

Q: hey! i came to u before with my problem about the girl i have a crush on liking my best friend and i thought u gave some great advice. so i'm coming to u again.

Before I told the girl how i felt, i wanted to clear things up with my best friend first. He told me that he wouldn't make a move on her and that i could have her. I didn't want him to just give her to me, cuz i thought that wouldn't be right. So later i asked him if he would go out with her, and he sed maybe when school starts again (we're freshmen). After he told me that, i went and told the girl just like she asked me to. She went on about how she was so grateful she was that i did that for her and that this was the happiest day of her life and that she has liked my best friend for a long time. After she sed that, i didn't think it was the right time to tell her my feelings. I'm so lost, wut should i do? plz help!

So the girl you have a 'crush' on likes your best friend? And your best friend told you that he might 'go out' with her when school starts? Alright alright... well if the girl and guy both still like eachother, then maybe you should stay out of it. Have you told the girl how you feel? It might be a little late now.. because you have told her what your best friend has said about maybe going back out with her. When the time is right, you will know when to tell her.. just don't wait too long. But if you know for sure that she doesn't like you, find someone new! There are plenty of awsome people out there! =)

Q: my boyfriend he doesn't like to do anything fun.. he's so boring!! and i went to this party n made out with his bestfriend, what should i do????

Wow, so you need to tell him you cheated on him.

Q: Lets see... I have lost my best friends. My ex-boyfriend hates me and the guy I REALLY REALLY like doesnt like me anymore...i dont know what to do anymore. everything i do messes up. please help me.
~MONICA

Just stay positive.. sometimes things in life go wrong... but eventually it'll all be better in the end! =) Just keep smiling, it'll get better, and you will forget anything ever went wrong! =)

Q: I've a had crush on this girl for a few months and i think she might like me too. We are like best friends, but we flirt with each other all the time. We tell each other everything. She tells me everytime she likes a new guy. But last night was different. She told me that she liked my best friend. I can't say i blame her, cuz my friend is a nice guy (that's why he's my best friend). I don't know how to feel. I'm kinda disappointed, but at the same time, i want her to be happy. What should i do?

Tell her how you feel about her! =)

Q: ok, im a 17 yr old female, and i have been "seeing" this guy. not really dating, because he doesnt think he's "boyfriend material" i dont understand this, but i know he cares about me the same way i care about him.

i wrote him a 3 page long letter telling him how i felt. he told me he liked it and he reads it often.

we hang out alot (many times for 10 or more hours or untill like 1 am!) and every time, we hold hands and cuddle and hold each other close the whole time, even around our parents. my family loves him and his family thinks i am just the sweetest thing to walk the planet.

but...alwayz a but...he and i have dated before. and he ask me out both times. so now i think it is my turn to ask him out, to show him how much i care. but, i dont want to scare him off.

so i ask you guyz, does a girl askign a guy out kind of freak him out, or do they like it? and i also would like to know if anyone has any ideas what he meant by "i dont think i'm boyfriend material". please help me out!

Yes, guys love it when you ask them out! It shows that you aren't shy!

Q: ok me and my boyfriend have been having a bad month - he tried to break up with me the other day but knew i was sad and ended up not .. he told me he loved me still and was being an idiot and crap like that .. but it stil doesnt seem like he still likes me.. i dont wanna bother him but i want to know the truth! sry its long!

Talk to him about it. Communication is the only way!

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