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So my boyfriend and I (we're in high school) have been dating for about a month. He's a trustworthy, respectful, and caring guy in all respects and he's always really sweet to me. And we know each other fairly well. We also have talked about honesty and agree that telling the truth is always best and said that we will both be honest. Also in conversation, when sex was mentioned, he basically said he was a virgin (he didn't say "I am a virgin" but he said "I'd have no experience with that/know anything about how that would go" in refrence to sex. And I'm a virgin, he knows that. Our group of friends are all "good kids" who don't have sex, etc. in most cases (they aren't against it but don't want to in high school). And I don't have that policy, but everyone knows I'm a virgin. And I'm pretty sure most them would assume my boyfriend is too. However, my best friend, who never lies to me and is in band with him, told me that his ex and he had sex the whole time they were dating (she heard this from 2 trustworthy but 2-3 hand sources) and they he broke up with her because she thought she was pregnant (but it was a false alarm). Why would he lie to me about that? I could understand him saying he wasn't a virgin if he was-but this way? It makes no sense. Maybe he thought I would find being a virgin better-but I'd rather have the truth and I'm pretty darn sure he knows that! I think I'll probably ask him about the ex-gf (he hasn't really had reason to mention her) but I want to be prepared for what his answers regarding his virginity may be and why he has said what he said before I do that. (link)
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hey, i can sorta relate to both you and your boyfriend (if in fact he has had sex before).
i understand you're probably angry that he may have lied to you but i dont think you should approach his ex about it. if you do and your boyfriend finds out i think he could get angry at you. he could think 'she has no right to talk about me to my ex' and im sure you'd feel the same way.
if you want to get information about the story you heard i think the best thing to do is talk to your boyfriend about it. maybe just start of with a nice conversation, you could hint at what you want to know. you could ask 'hey, i know we've talked about sex before, and i dont want to sound like im nagging or anything but you didnt exactly say you were a virgin. you just danced around the subject leaving the question unanswered. could you please tell me if you've had sex before?'.
i dont think you should flat out accuse him of it, ask him instead but dont be too harsh about it because everyone makes mistakes.
he may have suggested he was a virgin because he didnt want to remember his time with his ex. or he thought it might be best if you thought he was one. also, he could've meant he'd had oral sex but was still a virgin, when you're doing that sorta stuff with someone for the first time everything seems more of a big deal. like i shouldnt be doing this because ive heard stories that you can get pregnant. even though the stories could be completely unreal.
oh, another question could be 'whats the furthest you've been with a girl'
also, and i am not saying your friend is a liar because im sure she isnt, but stories can get twisted around when they're being passed on to other people. a bit like a chinese whisper.
so i think it's best if you talk to your boyfriend about it, and not go nosing into his ex-gf and asking her questions.
anyway, i hope this helped out out a bit.
good luck with it :)
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you know shy guys right. you know the guys that they like someone but they dont like to show how they feel. why do they do that? and when they do that do they think the person that they like is going to like them back when they dont even know they like them? and how do shy guys show that they are interested in somebody (not saying all shy guys dont show their feelings towards someone they like and i know they are all different) (link)
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people who are shy are scared of what other people may think of them. being shy could be because they're embarrassed of their own thoughts, or they may have had a bad experience and think its best to keep to themselves.
shy guys obviously dont want people to know that they like someone. so maybe just let them be shy. they should know that they most likely wont get someone unless they speak up. maybe they're happy just imagining, and if not then they know their consequences.
i guess all shy people have a different way of showing that they like someone, they might stare at the person, or blush when you speak to them. it all depends on the person really.
i hope i helped you out :)
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I'm a freshman in highschool and this year i've had a lot of "things" with people where it hasnt gotten farther then a hookup and just "i like you"& "i like you too". I really want a serious relationship but im on the verge of giving up because everytime I try and make a relationship work with someone it never does. Any advice? (link)
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friendship-
you have to take relationships slow if you want them to last. its good if you develope a good friendship with the person you're interested in first before moving onto the next stage. a good friendship at the start is good because you get to know the person better. you can find out what they're looking for in a person. rushing into a relationship is bad because you end up with a person you hardly know, the fun of a friendship is finding out about them.
first few weeks-
the first few weeks are usually the best part. you can ask more swerious questions about them and you can have loads of fun with them. dont be bossy. dont always talk about yourself. dont be annoying etc.
after the first few weeks-
it gets a little more serious here, you may have a few hiccups in the relationship but if you love them you'll try to fix it. and if you know them well enough you shouldnt have too many problems.
other-
dont rush into the sex part. there is no need to start it early.
make sure you dont have to pretend and act fake with them.
NO LIES!
if they talk about this you dont understand just go with the flow. dont act like you know what they're on about but listen to them. listening is very important.
dont ignore their needs lol
just have fun the whole time. dont take it too serious until your further into the relationship, but dont act like the whole this is a joke.
NO CHEATING haha
how this helps a little XD
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So there's this guy.. i like him alot, we text literally non stop we hang out, we vid chat allll this and he's admitted that he likes me.. like as a person not just for pussy, and ive nevver had that before.. but he's caught up on his ex still and they're kinda starting to talk again.. idk what to do... he still constantly talks to me and wont date his ex again cuz somethings holding him back and everyone says that something.. is me.. ! ugh what to do ? (link)
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heyy, i think the best thing to do is just wait and see how everything goes. he probably still needs a little more time to get over her before moving into another relationship. but i think that if you wait and give it time then it may work out between you two. if you're worried he might get back with her then maybe you should talk to him, tell him how you feel about everything. and if he really does like you he will listen. it might be a good idea for you to ask him more about what he plans on doing.
i hope i helped a little :) good luck
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What traits, to you, does the PERFECT GUY possess?? State all the traits you think would make up the perfect, possibly unattainable guy...
I need this for my online project :) xxx Thanks in advance
Please help! And don't leave anything out!! (link)
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1. he loves you
2. he wants to spoil you
3. he's willing to do anything for you
4. he loves to cuddle you
5. always asks to see you
6. trust worthy
7. just adores you
8. can be there for you
9. respects that you have mood swings and doesnt get in your way when you do
10. doesnt make you do anything
11. takes the blame for you
12. isnt clingy
13. funny
14. can listen to you
15. give you the right advice
16. is positive
17. never lies to you
18. says your beautiful, even if you're not
19. holds your hand when walking together
20. isnt afraid to tell you what he's thinking
21. would never hurt you
22. will stand up for you
23. want you to be happy
24. says he loves you all the time
25. admits when he's wrong
26. gives you space when you need it
27. itsnt over protective
28. doesnt keep tabs on where you've been, what you've been doing, what you ate, who you were with
29. trusts you
30. you have to think he's good looking
31. always happy
32. isnt lazy
33. always helping around the house
34. friendly
35. outgoing
36. he has to have a job
37. not stupid
38. wants to try new things
39. doesnt complain about everything
40. isnt always sick
41. loves you for who you are
42. doesnt try to change who you are
43. respects your opinions
44. has a fairly nice body lol
45. doesnt worry about what he looks like
46. is patient
47. whats the best for you
48. is never nasty to you
49. doesnt ask to you to make him a sandwich haha
50. isnt a sook
hope these help :) its not like we ask for much anyway
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just wondering, haha..
how can you give your guy a boner without touching him? (link)
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lol! i can give my guy a boner just by making sex noises and whispering in his ear what i wish he could do to me lol he loves it
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Alright so me and this girl are together but not dating and shes a very shy girl which means its hard to start doing stuff with her. Im not all in it for the sex but it would be nice to have and get us a lot closer. What can I invite her to do where I can be alone with her long enough to start doing sexual things with her? and how should start? I know making out leads to other shit but like shes so shy and its hard to even kiss her except when I say bye to her so what do I do? also I just want to know what I can invite her to do with me besides watching a movie where we can be alone together please help!! (link)
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bad idea mate
if she wants to have sex she'll tell you, or you could at least talk to her about it. actualy no, you're not even going out. ask her out first, its the right thing to do. ever heard the saying 'guys only think with one thing' well you dont have to be like that. start thinking with your head. you cant expect every girl to just lift up their skirts for you, them girls are called sluts.
dont try to fuck her straight away, if you like her you'll take it slow and start a relationship with her first, and if you do that then maybe you could masterbate more often, it could help release some of your sexual energy.
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I've been looking at different websites to see if it's good for you. And all of them say it's healthy and good for you. But my question is for girls. One of my ex's didn't like that I did it and was hurt when she found out I would watch porn. I just want to know how other girls feel about it? Do you think it's harmless to your relationship and good for your boyfriend, or do you think it's bad and means he doesn't love or care about you? (link)
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i think masterbation is a good thing, but not the watching porn bit.
i honestly dont mind if my bf does it or not, but if i knew he was doing it because he was watching other girls that would make me very upset. maybe insted of watching porn you could think about doing dirty things with her, she might feel a little more wanted knowing that you think her body is sexy and all you want is her.
and yes, it is healthy for guys to masterbate, its also health for girls to masterbate too. im sure there isnt a girl out there who hasnt tried it, same goes with guys.
its also good to masterbate to find out what things you like best too, its kind of like finding out more about yourself and what your body enjoys most.
maybe, if you're already getting sexual with her she could try it out on you, she'll like the fact that you go crazy when she touches you. lol
well i hope tht helped a little bit :)
good luck
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hi, 17/m
my friend had a party yesterday at a hotel room. At this party, my two friends (who are cousins) were invited. They are amazingly good looking blondes. At this party, alcohol got to everyone- the blonde cosuing started making out, and i was getting rather excited, and amused. My girlfriend saw this and felt uncomfortable and left the hotel room for fresh air.
I talked to her, and she told me that she wasnt comfortable watching them make out, and then we were fine. Also, i kissed both of the blondes. Some of the people saw it, but my girlfriend was not in the room. What do i do? My girlfriend doesnt know. Should i tell her? Or keep it a secret? Obviousely it was a stupid decision on my part, but i was very drunk!
thanks a bunch folks! (link)
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i think you should tell her. it might make her mad at you and very upset but its not fair. keeping secrets in a relationship is the worse thing you can do. if your gf found out from someone else she is going to feel like you were just using her. and even if she didnt find out what sort of a bf are you if you cant tell her the truth. i know you're probably scared of telling her, but you have to do it. if you do tell her though, dont say it was because you were drunk, that will only make her more upset. say something like 'i know im the biggest dick head ever, and i wish i never did it because now i know that you are the most perfect girl ever, and all i could want is you' abuse yourself. i know it sound silly but girls feel better when you say that sort of stuff. make her feel like she is needed and that you're sorry. using 'i was drunk' as an excuse is very stupid, she wont want to hear that and you'll probably cause her to get more angry at you.
i hope this helped out a bit :)
good luck
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so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. we live like a half hour away and go to different schools so we only get to see each other like once, twice a week if we're lucky. we've made things work cause we love each other. buuutt i have one problem:
he used to text me all of the time like pretty much everyday during the first 5 months we were dating, after that he barely ever texts me, like im the one who has to text first and sometimes i dont even get a reply or he replies like a day later or something..idk...he says he just doesn't like texting, but i like to talk to him and stuff during the week. some nights we talk on the phone but we do that once a week, if that. i've told him i want to text and stuff but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other and he says if i want to text then to just text him but thats not the point you know? im positive he cares about me alott but i just don't know...im jealous of my friend who has a boyfriend that texts her every day. andd they've been going out for as long as we have. what should i do?
thanks 17/f (link)
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hey! i know exactly how you feel, its happening to me right now. so here is some advice that my mum has given to me lol
guys need something to chase, thats just the way they are. and they like competition, a lot. dont make yourself so available to him, if he asks to see you say no, i know its really hard but you have to try. make him wonder what you're doing. quote 'if you had a endless suply of red jelly beans you're going to try to eat the whole lot and you cant get enough of them, but then you start to get bored of the red jelly beans and you want another colour jelly bean' thats what its like for guys, they're weird i know. they need something new all the time, they like it when girls are hard to get. so maybe if you ignore him for a day or two he might start to want you back. at the moment, i refuse to be the one to text my bf first. if he wants to talk to me he can make the effort in trying to comunicate. its just the way guys are and you have to accept that about them, even if its annoying the crap out of you.
well i hope this helped a bit, and i hope it gets better for you :)
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Well i'm 16 and i have this boyfriend and we've only been going out for about a month and a half but we've been really close friends and not the lil yeah yeah we were close friends whatever type of deal, like we really hung out played video games talked on the phone had classes together, everything, for about 8 months. I know him really well and i get to see him a lot. Like practically everyday, we've done everything from going to the movies on a double date to takin naps together. I'm comfortable with him in public as my boyfriend and comfortable alone and intimate as not so much crazy making out but more opening myself up to him. I've let him get to second base already but i'm not sure if i should let him get further, you know like let him put his hand down my pants or if maybe i should do it to him. I really feel close to this guy, should i wait or would it be ok just to take things a lil further? (link)
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hey, it sounds like you've got a great relationship with him going, it'd be a shame to mess it up. i think relationships work out best if they're not rushed and you both take your time. if you're unsure about what you want to do maybe you should talk to him, comunication is the best thing you can do in a relationship, but if you feel ready to take it a step further and he doesnt mind i say you should go for it.. but i do warn you that having sex can change your relationship dramaticly, oral sex isnt too bad because you're just getting use to each others body's and finding out what you both like the feel of, that sort of stuff. if i were you i'd wait another month before having sex, just to make sure you're not going to regret it. if you do decide to wait maybe you should spend that time waiting by finding out what sexual things he likes the feel of and talk always talk about how you feel with him, if he loves you then he'll be happy to wait until you're ready, and dont ever let someone force you to do something you're unsure about or dont want to do.
i hope this helps and i hope it goes great for the both of you :) stay safe
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15/F
This might be a tad long. :\ Anyway, here's the whole story... I dated this boy when I was 13. After a while, he just made me upset because he was a total pervert and kept touching me. So, we broke up. He said he changed, and being the gulible and new-to-dating girl I was, I tried again. This time, I told him PLEASE, no touchy feely stuff until we're deeper into our relationship. Well, I invited him over one day after school so we could just watch a movie. After a few minutes, he tried to kiss me. With tongue, yes. It scared the crap out of me, so I just jumped back. He said he was sorry. I didn't buy it, but I decided to let it slid. The second thing that happened, made me very nervous. There's this other boy at our school who is known for his notorious talent for getting girls into bed.
So, my boyfriend seemed to be getting friendly with him and at first, I didn't think anything of it. I mean, I sort of liked the player boy anyway... Bad, I know. But then in the hallway, I let my boyfriend hug me since I was cold and stuff. Well, this player comes down the hallway with his girlfriend and winks at my boyfriend saying, "Good. One step closer, pal." That made me nervous and angry. I asked what it was about, but my boyfriend just shrugged and replied with, "It's boy stuff."
Eventually, we broke up because I knew what he was planning from the way he was acting. Well, when we broke up, I told him I just didn't like the touchy feely things HE was doing (groping, etc). He told me he thought I was talking about emotions! Touchy feely means exactly what it says and I couldn't believe he used that excuse with me. Now it's our sophomore year and he's telling everyone that I used him! He's given me the nickname of 'Parasite', stating that I suck the life out of a boy and throw him away! And just the other day, he threw something at me and gave me a smug look. I really don't know what to do about this boy and he's really bothering me! What do I do?! (link)
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wow. he sounds like a wanker, im glad you didnt stay with him though. you should never be with someone who doesnt respect what you think and say. im not really sure what you could do about him, i would say just ignore him, but then everyone says that and it doesnt always work. maybe you should try finding someone else, this boy might leave you alone after that. someone who loves you for who you are and wont tollerate other people treating you like crap like this guy does. im not sure what you could do sorry. maybe talk to your parents about it, or a close friend who can stand up for you at school. its always good to talk to people you know well about this sort of stuff. sorry if this doesnt help
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Okay so i can't get this kid out of my head, we had a thing about three months ago. But now its just compleatly over,we're just friends now. But LATELY..out of randomness, those feelings are coming back really strongly for him! The thing is, i usually can TELL when guys like me, i mean i feel like i have a sixth sence with this, i'm really good at judging it XD. So i keep getting vibes he likes me again and is thinking about me too-thats why I'M thinking about HIM. Because all in all he's not really that great now that i think about it, but for some reason he wont stop getting into my head? I keep having thoughts that he HAS to tell me something- but is to scared too. So i'm wondering have you ever felt this way? And if someones thinking about you- do you think about them as well? If you have these kind of feelings- do you think they're right?Can people have this kind of telepathic thought thing with one another or am i just being weird and taking it too far?
PS: This might not count as anything..but whenever i'm on aim i feel like he wants to talk to me and checks my aways and all that. JUST WEIRD FEELINGS! IDK WHY! Oh yeah and one time i fake signed off (went invisible) and right after i did that he signed off...HMM?! HMM!?
Okay thanks :D!
16/f,he's 15/m btw (link)
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hmm, thats a hard one. maybe he does like you, i think you should ask him. or maybe, if you still like him, you could hang out together one time. go to the movies or just chill in town. i think the only way he'll tell you his thoughts is if he knows you like him too. if you dont show it maybe he's scared of telling because you could regect him. or maybe you could just not worry about the thougts and he might stop acting the way he is. i hope this helps out :)
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