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my advice-based life basically started when i was sent to a set of seminars to modify my behavior(i was being a rude kid). there i learned how to help myself out with alternatives to being rude, and how to give others really good advice. i have bipolar and acouple other disorders which are all under control, so don't worry. but if anyone has any problems like that, i can answer alot of questions on that subject. i'm really good at answering any questions i know things about. i don't know much about Mac products, but i'm pretty good at computers. i also enjoy just chatting, so if you want my email address, just ask me for it. i hope to meet some people here and become friends with them. i guess that's it, hope i can help anyone who calls on me with a question. feel free to ask me anything you want and i'll answer to the best of my ability!!
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I met my boyfriend when he was a senior at my school. I was just a freshman. He has graduated now and is going to college in the fall. I love him and he tells me that he loves me. He says that he isn't going to dump me when he goes to college because he thinks I am his soul mate. I want to believe him but my friends and my mom all tell me that guys are all the same and he will party and cheat on me. He is such a great and nice guy. I don't know what to believe. I need advice!

well, since i don't know the guy, i can't simply tell you the answer, but i honestly think that if HE thinks you are his soulmate, then he wouldn't do anything to jeopardize that. i would tend to believe him since he hasn't done anything to make you not believe him. and if he can, make sure he visits you so you don't grow apart. that's all i can say, i hope i did come as some help, if not, i'm sorry. this is an incredibly hard subject to give advice on, but i did my best :)

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I'm a 16 year old girl, and I don't shave my legs or armpits on any regular basis. I'll do them for special occassions or if I'm wearing a special outfit, but most of the time the hair just doesn't bother me so I don't bother removing it. I figure that it's my body, and my time and energy that I'm saving by not shaving, but sometimes I worry that guys won't be interested in me because of this and I've got to the age where I wish guys expressed more interest in me. Should I start shaving, or should I just wait for a guy who doesn't mind me being me?

well, shaving isn't just about you being you, it's also hygiene. girls are supposed to start shaving around your age because of hygiene issues, so honestly, i would start shaving. i used to not shave, but i was told then to start shaving because it could give me some problems with my skin if i didn't. hope i helped.

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ok is it weird for girls to bite guys lips? cuz usually guys bite mine but iv never bitten theirs... and what about running my tongue across my bfs teeth when were making out? my firend told me thats good but i dont know... please help ill rate hi and if u guys have any other ideas please tell me!

just kiss, don't think about it so much. yeah, it's fine for biting to occur, just let your lips do the driving, if you don't feel comfortable doing it, don't.
Later,
Kat

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i started likeing on of my friends and he's 17. Im only 13. He's really sweet and he REALLY isnt a bad person. when im around him, when i talked to him, even if i hear his voice i just smile the biggest smile. I talk to him almost every night on the phone and we text each other constintly through out the day. he said he likes me and i like him also. Some of my guy friends said that they dont want me to get hurt. they dont know him. They said that 13 and 17 is a very big age diffrence, but i really like him alot. He just makes me happy and for awhile i haven't been happy. Do you think that i should continue to like him? and do you think that if he was to ask me out should i go out with him? please tell me what to do im so confused

it's okay to like someone 4 years older than you. granted it's a different generation, but both my grandparents are five or more years difference in age. and i know some people who are a few years in age different. it's not a bad thing. it may seem so right now because you are still in middle school (or just starting high school?) and he is almost done, but once you both finish school, it will seem like less of a bad thing. don't worry about it. if you like him and he likes you back, i say just let it pan out and see what happens. if it's meant to be, then it will be ♥ later,
♥ Kat ♥

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i am in love with a guy. but the thing is, is that our families hate each other and ownt let us see each other anymore. but i love him so much and i think that because we cant spend time togther that he is losing feelings for me!!! i cry in my room every night praying that we will be together some day....and it seems like no matter how hard i try to make things work or find some way to see him....it just isnt good enough....so i guess my real thing that i need advice with is that.....im in love....im not sure if he is in love with me.....we cant see each other....do i let him go or keep trying to make it work? please people...i need help!!!

i know exactly what you feel like. my family hates my bf. if your not sure if he loves you, don't make yourself wait til he does. email me if you need any more advice: metalkat86@hotmail.com
i'm in a bad mood right now, sry if this isn't the best....but i can give really good advice, so if you wanna, email me and i'll give it to ya. later,
kat♥

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im not sure if i should get back with him though, when i told him the reason why he didnt care at all, weve always been really really close but this happened on his holiday off work n he ditched me to go away with his friends wich is partly why i overeacted.. 2 days is the longest he hasnt talked to me n i sent him like 5 msgs in those times askin if he was ok n he didnt reply wen i finally called him he said i was just busy. i have forgiven him for so much crap hes stuffed up like 50 times n i always forgave him once i did somethin stupid n he dumped me.. n i was really sick at that time. it feels like i should b perfect for him n always forgive him but he wont do the same for me. no matter what my reason is. wat do u think?

well, the problem seems to be a bit deeper than you originally stated. i still think you should get him together in a private place and talk with him because if you really want to make up with him, you will have to come to an agreement on this issue. both of you need to apologize to eachother, but make sure he knows that you only overreacted because he hadn't returned your calls to even say he was busy. you now know that, but see if you can get him to see it from your point of view. I hope this helped, but if it didn't, email me back if you need anymore help. it is your choice whether you want to get back with him or not, and i'll be here to guide you through it every step of the way if needbe. email me at Metalkat86@hotmail.com if there's anything else i can do for you. i'm here to assist, and i will do so to the best of my ability. later,
Kat

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At youth tonight, these two guys were like flirting with me and my two friends. They sat down by me, pointed at us, looked at us, and asked me for my number. And my friends and I were like laughing because they were doing this. We didn't like them either. It was just so funny. And then we had to leave early because we had this dance. And they like followed us out the door and we were like bye. It was kind of funny. But the guy that I like was there, like on the next couch. And would us laughing would have made him think that we liked those boys that were hitting up on us or what? I hope that it didn't, because we really weren't. And why were those guys doing that? They go to a different school and are older. Thanks and I rate.

the easiest thing i can tell you is to go up to the guy you like(if you are friends) and jokingly discuss how stupid those boys were being that night. that way, he'll know that you didn't like that they were hitting on you and if he likes you back, it will put his mind at ease to know that you are still open for the taking. hope i helped. later,
Kat

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my boyfriend of 6 months didnt call me for 2 days, and in that time it was the anniversary of my bestfriends death, i found out my grandma was dyin, my parents fought n my mum left, n i ran away.. i really wanted to speak to him in those 2 days and when i finally called him he said he had simply been too busy to call so i overeacted n dumped him, i regretted it and told him the reason why i overeacted and he didnt care.. should i get back wit him because i overeacted.. or shouldnt i because he wasnt there when i needed him

yes, you have a right to be mad. he does also. just look at it this way. yeah, you had all this stuff going on with you during those days, but HE DIDN'T KNOW THAT. true, he should have called to tell you he was too busy, but he didn't. there's nothing you can do to change the past. I suggest that you sit him down in a place where he can't ignore you, somewhere quiet, and tell him how you felt. tell him that you understand why he is mad, because you did overreact, but that your emotions are really unstable at the moment because of all the stuff that happened while you didn't talk to him. apologize and ask for his forgiveness, maybe it will show him that you really were sorry, and that you want to get back with him. during this conversation, let him raise his voice if he feels he needs to, but you KEEP A CALM VOICE. this will show him that he's not getting to you and that you really are sincere this time instead of making this decision out of anger. i hope i helped, and if you have any more questions, please ask me, i'm here to help and will do so to the best of my ability. later,
Kat

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ok there is this boy who is in my grade.. well here is the thing i found out that he liked me for a long time and i liked him too but neither of us knew about the other one.. he was gonna ask me out because someone told him, but he got scared i would turn him down because that day we were talking n i just wanted him to know that if ppl r still sayin i like him i don't i said this because he is black n my rentz r not cool with that. so he is goin out with another gurl n now in the hall he just looks @ me n our friendship is not the same but the thing is i cant stop thinking about him i am soOooOo stuck n i need help wut do I do?¿?¿

i'll tell you what i can from this, but i'd like to know who or what your "rentz" are so i can answer this better. take him aside, ALONE, and tell him the truth, that you do like him and if he wants to, you would be willing to go out with him. i say this because YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE. it shouldn't matter what other people think or say about you. if you are happy, that's ALL THAT MATTERS. email me or ask another question. my email address is on my advice column if you want a more personal setting. i hope i helped you, and please, tell me what "rentz" are!! i'm here to help!
Kat

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i used to really like this guy alot (15/f and hes 17) and we talked alot and hed call me every day, but the thing is i dont really like his personality as much as i thought i did and i dont like him at all anymore- i dont know what to say to him because he thinks i like him and hes going to ask me out please help me find a way to not be mean but get across to him that i nolonger like him - thanks a bunch!!

when he does, just politely say "no thank you" and if he gets all snooty and angry, tell him that you'd still like to be friends, but you just don't like him in "that way". hope this helped,
Kat

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There's this guy I like and i thought he liked me too. But then my friend had to go and mess everything up. She ran up to him and started bugging him and told him I was in love with him (which I'm not-I just like him). And now he's acting all weird around me. What should I do?

(I'm 13 and in 7th grade and I'm a female)

PLEASE HELP!!

two words: BE HONEST. all you have to do, as uncomfortable as it may seem, is to go up to him and tell him that your friend was being a jerk and that you don't LOVE him, you only LIKE him, and explain that you just want to stay together like you were before your friend butted her head in. hopefully this will calm him down and letting him know your intentions can help alot too. anymore problems, feel free to ask me!
Kat

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i have a b/f and im fourteen. im so ready to have sex but my parents dont think so. im thinking i shoudl do it behind their back but idk signed- im so cunfuzzled

NO NO NO!!!! you are 14, first of all, if you get caught, your bf could get charged with rape because you are both under 18(i hope!!) and also, think what could happen if one tiny little sperm gets through....you'd be pregnant. i'm 18 and still a virgin, i personally do want to have sex with my bf, but i know that i also want to wait because i don't want to accidentally get pregnant because then it would screw up all of the plans i have for my future. if you did get pregnant, would you keep the baby? what would that entail, what would you have to do if you kept it?
if you didn't keep it, can you imagine how hard it is to know that you aborted your own fetus? it really sticks with you for your entire life, i know, i have many friends who had to do that because they had sex too early, or were raped, etc. if you did abort it and later you had your first child when you are READY, every time you look at that baby, you think about what could have been with that one you let go. i wouldn't want you to have to go through that before you even get through high school. please, PLEASE think about everything that would happen if you did have sex and you did get pregnant, anything like that. with such a huge thing on the line, this is something you need to think over VERY CAREFULLY. please hear my words and take them in,
from,
Kat

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well my boyfriend of 5 months has been acting weird..for the past 3 days he hasnt been calling me, or asking to hangout or nothing...and everytime i call him he says hell call me back...and does in like 5 hours...but yestreday we were supposed to hangout and i called hmi at 1 and he said he was gonna take a shower and hed call me back...and he never did =(....ive talked to him about it upsetting me when he doesnt call me back for like 5 hours..but this time he didnt call back at all...i usually go to his house every wednesday....should i go this wednesday if he calls and apologizes? how do i act on the phone if he calls tonight? do i yell at him, be quiet, or act sad?? HELP...i dont know what to do im really upset about it though because my boyfriend means the world to me i love him so much im even listenin to sad music like mockingbird by eminem.....thx.oh ya i dont think hes mad at me or anything....i saw him the day before all this started happening and everything was great..


btw...16/f

i think that if he calls, you should stand up for yourself and ask him what his problem is, what is so important that you are taking a backseat to it?? yes, i think you should go to his house on wednesday because i think that talking things out in person is better. who knows what could be going on in the background when you are talking to him on the phone? honestly, he could have a girl over there(not saying he does) but anything could be possible. just stand up for yourself, do what you need to do to find out what's going on. if you 2 really love eachother, then he will be honest with you and you can hopefully be able to patch things up.

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