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Q: Okay,so me and this guy have been together for about 10 months, and he is completely faithful to me, like he doesn't even talk to other girls hardly ever, and he never hangs out with any other girls but me. But the other night he went to a party last minute and was completely wasted, and girls showed up and one locked him into a bedroom with her and started coming onto him, they ended up having sex. I found out about this a few days later, and he completely regrets it and he siad he had really no clue what was really going on that it went fast. we broke up, but we sitll talks and he says he wants nothing more than to be with me.. and like hes not even that kind of guy.he's not forceful, aggressive, or anything in that naturee if u know what i mean? and i mean we really had something speciall and i dont know what to do.. just let him go or try and makes thigns work? what do u think

i'll rate high
That same EXACT thing happened to me. You're hurt, but theres nothing you can really do about the pain. I would try to fix things with him. He didnt mean to do it.

I forgave my boyfriend and we are even better than before.

If you and your boyfriend can get through something like that, then you two are very strong people and deserve to be together.

Q: Whats wrong with me? I always fantasize to be with a certain guy that i kno. Or sometimes ill cry becasue I know i cant have him. He is poor and spanish pluss hes ghetto and he stayed back twice for getting into a lot of fights. That not my type at all. but theirs so,ething about him. Hes funny and makes me laugh all the time. Out going and hes hot. Tons of guys are funny outgoing and hot but i dont know what it is about him. I dont know about him though i would never go out with him. i guess its just a little crush. I cant see him my mom doesnt want me to go to my grandmothers house and he lives across from her. I never reall ytalk to him he doesnt have aim and i dont know his number. what is it about him?
Of course you like him. He's a badass, a rebel as some would say.
Your mom can't keep you away from your grandmothers house forever. So next time you go, talk to him and get his number or something.

Q: There's this boy i really like but... i have a boyfriend and im going to be going out with him for 6 months this friday and I already had sex with him and I really like this kid named josh and we have 2 classes together and he’s in my grade. My friend asked him if he liked and and he was like ummmmmmmmmm ummmmmmm ummmm and asked who? And she said my name and he said ummmm no. how do I know if he likes me.??????!!!!!! Really need to know!! He’s moving to California in July and all I want is just a lil piece of him lol and I like in ny so we would NEVER see each other
It sounds like the guy doesn't even know who you are. So I doubt he likes you. I would stick with your boyfriend who actually has feelings for you.

Q: well i have this friend lets call him fred well fred and i have known eachother for hmm 6 years or so and hes 2 years older than me so hes 15 and a sophmore and im 13 in 8th grade anyways fred used to hate me but now he wants to get with me there are two problems..

1) he has told me himself he cant keep a girl for longer than 3 days, but those 3 days cud be the best 3 days of my life since i've liked him for 6 years

2) he told me he does weed now im not sure if he still does but he told me he quit and im not sure if i shud believe him

3) i smoke and he's okay with that but i dont want to get him addicted by bein w. me

4) we live 30 mins away from eachother but im movin to his town this summer so when im a freshman he'll be a junior...

can anyone help me? i rate high tnxs
and what is the problem?

i really dont see any, other than the guy cant keep a girl for more than three days. thats ridiculous.

Q: im going out with this guy since yesterday who i've never talked to. we're in the same health class. tomorrow his friend told me to talk to him. im really nervous because i dont know what to say at all. any ideas? also, how should i make it look like im not as nervous as i really am? thanx!
ok...youre going out with the guy, but you have never talked to him?? um...thats pretty effed up. why dont you try talking before going out?

Q: My friend who is a guy (tom) told me that my boyfriend (jon) had been in touch with one of jon's ex's. He said they'd been sending each other dirty texts and that jon had said if his ex didn't live so far away he'd break up with me and go out with her. I asked jon about it but he said Tom was lying. I want to believe him but why would Tom lie to me? Tom keeps trying to get me to break up with jon but he's one of his best friends, what should I do?
i think Tom is jealous and likes you. hes trying to break you and jon up....but thats just what i think. talk to tom about it

Q: i used to go out with this guy.. we went out three times and he broke up with me saying i dont want a relationship right now and stuff but like i want him and i like him and he likes me and he asked me out.. what do i say? i dont wanna get hurt again..
i would say yes...i know you dont want to get hurt. but i mean, youre gonna have to get hurt in life, thats just how it goes. everyone gets hurt. ive experienced it plenty :(. so yeah, i would say yes.

Q: ok me n my x broke up i still like him and he acts like he still likes me. the prob is..he has a reputation of cheating on ppl before n hes sorta a player. anyway, hes wicked nice n we r friends but he invited me to go to the mall tommorow n idk if i shud go cuz ik wed just do stuff like other times and i wudnt wanna go just to giv him stuff..its not worth it. but i like him too..ikd help
scream rape?

Q: Whats a rebound girl? i think i kno but im not 4 sure lol i kno its a really dumb question but
a girl who dates a guy/girl right after that guy/girl had broken up with someone. the name kind of explains it...pish!

Q: there is this boy who b sweatin me..everywhere i go he follow..but he is a nice friend.but sometimes he just get annoying. How can i tell him to back off..but without hurting his feeling?
i have sort of the same problem. just run really really fast. and hope hes slow.

Q: i NEED a date for homecoming and no one has asked me!! all mah friends have dates xcept ME!! i really like this 1 guy and i dunt know if he likes me!! i wish sum 1 would ask me out but i dunt know how to tell them i like them!!
HELP!~ im in seventh grade!!
homecoming is lame

but, i suppose if you HAVE to go, stop being a freakin pussy and ask the boy!

Q: there is this guy named michael and he is my friend but then he asked me out and i said yes so i told my best friendand she said i like that guy break up wit him or i wont be ur friend not more so what do i do?
um...your friend is definitely a bitch if shes trying to control who you date. dont let her step all over you like that!

Q: Okay i have a big problem. I have a boyfriend thats older than me. and taller. Hes 16 and im 15. He goes to a different school than what i do. Im at his house all the time to see him. He barely talks to me. How do i get him to talk to me more? Like im always shy around him and i get weird feelings in my stomach when im near him. What does that mean? Please help me. I'll rate good.

Signed Boy Trouble
thats kinda weird that you guys are going out, but you dont talk much.

how about YOU try talking to HIM

wow it just might work

Q: I'm 13...There's a guy I like, and he's 14 and he's awesome. I really don't talk to him a lot because he's my best friend's older brother and I don't want to be like, "Yeah, I wanna go talk to your brother..See ya." Or anything like that. I really do like him, he used to tease me in a flirty way and he used to stare at me and we used to smile at each other, but I don't know what's going on with him now. All of a sudden he's become...hostile..or something. I said Hi to him and he was like, "Get away from me!" I have mixed emotions about him now, I don't know whether I should move on or not. My sister, who's ona never ending mission to hook us up, tells me that it was only that day he was different and that he likes me back. I can't stop thinking that maybe he'll always be like that, maybe I should move on...should I move on or keep on going for the same guy? I'm so mixed up..
hmm

well, "Get away from me" sounds pretty clear...

Q: ok well theres this guy i like..but hes kind of a player. his away messages r always like ohh kayla call me or fone w/ sum1 special. nd my friend has told me that he likes me...and he calls me nd everything. but sometines it just dusnt seem like it. shuld i tell him i like him?-how do u come about the topic if so?
definitely tell him...youre gonna regret it if you dont. and do it soon because then you wont keep worrying about it.

Q: my gf just wont have sex with me, what should i do, i am quite "in the mood"
cry until she gives in? she might just feel bad enough...

Q: Is it true that girls dont like gamers? By gamers i mean people who play video games as a hobby or a profession. Also is it true that they dont like computer techs? It seems like everywhere around where i live that girls find that to be a turn off. I live in Tennessee, if that helps. Just wondering.
who told you that?! video games rule...although i suck...pretty bad. i can still enjoy them cant i?!

Q: OK this relates to the other questions ive asked. I'm really shy around girls and its hard for me to not studder when i talk to a girl. I get all sweaty and clammy when i have to talk to a girl i like. My mind goes blank and i cant think what to say. Got any pointers on how to fix this?
im the same around guys. just stop being a pussy and say what you want to! it'll work out fine...i hope...

Q: for some reason guys always take me as a whore..is there anyway i can make them stop thinking that?! i realli need help! i'm so depressed n crying! i'll rate!
stop sleeping around?

Q: Me n my bfz 1 year iz in october but so iz his birthday so im tryna start to save up sum money to get him sumtin but i dont only wanna get him sumtin i wanna like make him sumtin really nice and cute n e ideas?!?!?!?!??!



hmmm....
whoa...i managed to read maybe half the words you said!

horray for using proper english!

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