16/f
i actually don't know how i feel about my boyfriend anymore, i don't know why but when i see him nothing really pops up, it's just normal.. it feels like it's an everyday thing or something. he even started noticing that i didn't seem so happy to see him or be with him, so now i act like i am. usually we get into arguements, but i'm tired of it so i end up avoiding any sort of conflict and stuff. i don't really want him to touch me as much or a kiss just seems like a regular kiss. i'm not sure whether my mind is just bored and wanting something new and if i'm just acting like i'm happy. or if i really am happy but i think that i'm bored, if you know what i mean. for example, you don't know what you have until you lose it.
i've been debating whether or not to end it... part of me does, but part of me doesn't because it was somewhat like a schedule that i can't let go. and i'm so used to seeing his face everyday and sleeping on the phone with him, and i do like him.. but i just feel emotionless or something, i'm not sure what it is.. help me please?
Yeah, same thing has been going on with my boyfriend and I. And I'm about 90% sure it's boredom. You're probably just used to this everyday routine with him and wanting something new and different.
When my boyfriend and I discussed this, we thought of possibilities such as him doing anything spontaneous for our relationship to keep going.
Every relationship comes to this point, weather you decide to act up on it, is your choice.
Try to spice things up and make things more exciting somehow.
Don't plan on what to make spontaneous, that'd just ruin the whole purpose.
If it doesn't work, I'd say it's time to find someone new.
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I really like this guy. Problem is, I barely know him, plus he does drugs. Bad thing, I know. Have you ever felt that like when you see someone you feel like something is there and sometimes you just want to help him? I don't know if I should go for it and not even try so I don't end up hurt in the end.
I recently just ended things with my long term boyfriend who was just like that. We started dating practically the day after we met, and we hardly knew each other. But I heard from plenty of people that he was, "bad news" because he did drugs and "only cared about sex." Well, I believe everyone deserves a chance and he got one. While we were dating, he stopped everything for me. He stopped chewing, weed, popping pills, and lowered down on drinking. I was very good for him. And when we broke up, he went back to all that stuff and was known as a bad guy again. You could be that one girl that's good for him. If not, at least the chance was taken and you know for future reference what type of guy isn't for you.
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My girlfriend just broke up with me because im starting to act like her. The truth is i just do the same things she does. Ive been like this for a long time. But she says its creepy and that its over. And yeah i want to cry but then again I'm wondering if that's a justified reason to break up with me, She told me not even 6 hours ago that she loves me and I'm her world and she wants to live by me. I find now that she lied to me or at least that's how i feel :\
-15 m
Girls tend to over exaggerate on some of the things they're thinking. That's why she said you're her world and loves you, etc. But also, girls minds change unexpectedly and may have a new idea pop in their head. A reason such as what she said for her breaking up with you is kinda lame and doesn't sound like a very good reason, if you ask me. But then again, you'll never know, it could still be true. All you have now is time. Time to heal, time to figure out more answers, etc. It'll all come together sooner or later.
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So i recently got a new boyfriend(lets call him M*xx), and a super sweet guy behind his "gangster" act. We have been dating for about three months now. Anyway after a dramitc experiance i made a vow to myself to keep my virginity as long as i can without any boys bribing me into it. M*xx has a diff. plan in mind. Yes, he holds my hand and kisses it, making me blush...but sometimes he tries to reach for my breast iwth his free hand when he thinks im not looking. And of course i push himm away. Sttubborn..he keeps trying. He tells me that one of these days im going to give into him, and i have fears that my vow will be broken before the year has ended. How do i keep the sensual mood going but not resulting in sex??
Thanks in advance.... 14/f
Well you seem like a very nice and special girl. Not many girls would try to keep their virginity as long as possible. Keep in mind that he's a guy, and all guys have that in their mind. Even the least expected ones, he's going to try just because it's in his guy genes. If you're still looking to just have some fun, but not go all the way, just try some oral stuff. You also gotta lay down the law to him that you still want to stick to your vows and you don't appreciate him trying to break them so soon while you're not ready.
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I've known this guy for about two weeks or so, and recently we've been talking a bit more than we normally do. Well, he told me I was boring. Yes, it's offensive to a point, but I'm afraid that I may come across as boring. When I first start talking to a person I'm not totally comfortable, so I can't think of anything to say, but I don't want to bore him away before I get a chance to become comfortable.
When I'm with my friends I can be very talkative, but I'm just awful at coming up with things to talk about. My conversations always involve a lot of awkward silences. It's awful. =(
Any advice on what to say/do or conversation starters, etc.?
This first and foremost point that has been emphasized time and again is about confidence. You need to think high of yourself and believe in yourself. You need to think you are no less than anybody else in any respect and that will increase your confidence level. Talk about anything and everything that you know. You don’t have to be Einstein to strike up an intellectual conversation. Rather, you could share opinions on a particular subject, discuss the latest news or just talk about a funny incident that might have happened in the morning.
Good luck(:
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my husband and I have been married for 2 years now and I am happy being married to him. Since he has come back from a 15 month deployment we have been fighting alot. Alot more than normal and it usual ends with me crying and him pissed off and we hate each other and it's always the same thing we fight about, him not helping me around the house I feel like I have to do everything. I'm tired of the fighting and so is he I want to go to marriage counseling but I'm afraid he wont make the effort. Yesterday he brings up the discussion of divorce and asking me if we ever did get a divorce what would I do. Does this mean he wants a divorce? I don't know if we should go to marriage counseling if he already believes our marriage is over. Should I just start the paperwork and give up? Help me please..
You can't give up or let him want to give up on this marriage just like that without even an ounce of counseling. You should bring it up to him, even if you fear he won't make the effort into it. If he ends up doing what you believe, that's his own stupidity and eventually he'll realize it. I say, bring it up and try it out. If he refuses or keeps talking negatively about it, show him how much it would mean a lot to you if he at least tried it out. Say something like, "You may think our marriage is going in the dumps, but I still have some hope. We can't make any judgement about counseling until we BOTH actually give it a try and effort. Can't you please do this for me?"
Good luck to you.
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so i just got together with this one guy and things are great
our whole school things we are the cutest couple
and we agreed to be together for the remainder of highschool
(cause we've been friends since 4th grade and we're juniors in hs now)
but i can't help but think about some of the other guys in my school
and how things will never work out with them cause i have a bf
like.. i don't know i'm so confused
Well basically it seems like you're unsure of your relationship. Of course, in everyone's mind triggers thoughts about the opposite gender and wonders what could've been. But you just started going out with him, and all you can do is at least give this a chance. Only time will be able to tell you if it was worth dating him, or go back to the single life and see who else comes along. You really aren't going to be able to make a judgment off this relationship unless you've given it a chance first. Wait a few weeks with him and see how things turn out.
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