Although ones memory can be precious for its contents of its superb occasions. It can also be our worst enemy when you just want to forget... There something that I've learned in life and that's forgiveness.... Ones soul needs to feel untamed with, and able to incline itself with new emotions and relationships. It's perfectly normal for you to remember your ex. Although whatever the situation was with him, he touched your life even though it was in a traumatic way. My advice to you is to learn to forgive, not him.. But forgive yourself for entangling yourself and letting yourself cope with that type of relationship. As for him don't hate him for what he did to you, I was always taught that when someone causes unbearable pain whether physically or emotionally, It's best that you don't allow them to hurt you anymore and the best way to cope with what they have done is to make them insignificant to your life. Don't think of what he is doing or how much he hurt you or even how much you hate him. A person like that does deserve you thinking about them not even negatively. This new guy in your life that reminds you of him don't let it get to you, I mean the things it reminds you of your ex are not negative, as long as this new guy has respect for you and you like him you should not let anything especially reoccurring memories of your ex ruin that. Might also need time to heal what your ex made soar. Follow your intuition and if you want to be with this guy..don't let anything interfere.... If you cant help but to compare then just be optomistic and think of him as your ex but without that abussive flaw..

I'ts never a brilliant idea, to just simply give up... In any situation you should be prepared to give it your all in order to reach your desired outcome. In love its basically the same thing, you have to remember that no matter how fantasy perfect you wnat any relationship to be.... Its doesnt exactly work that way... You are dealing with human beings and with human beings their is always flaws...mood swings and most of all mixed channeling emotions. Thats why most relationships fail because of the lack of a very simple factor "COMMUNICATION". In other words my advice to you is to talk to this guuy ask him what his thinking? and what he is feeling towards you? Don't give up without at least knowing why.... That will just leave you with the feeling of the twisted emotions of what could of been in that possible relationship........

I'ts perfectly normal to day dream and long for someone that hasn't the slightest clue that you admire them. Now there is two outcomes to this type of situation. You either have a clarification of what will never be....and you are okay with him not corresponding with your love, And keep him strickley as a crush...and let it be fun. Or you tell him of your enfatuation towards him and prepare yourself for a let down or a mutual love satisfaction.... I mean even if he has a girlfriend just express your feeling towards him... Be very careful that you tell him that what you want to tell him should strickley be between you and him.....and be careful not to imply for him to break up with his girfriend...because even though you might want that!!! Its not very classy to let people know.....

I think you should recognize and simply analize what is it exactly that you fear about love. I know that for some people it might be a shock, on why you have never had a boyfriend... To me its completely reasonable not to lack what you have never experienced. It seems to me that you are contradicting yourself a bit, are you either waiting for the right person and the effects of being in love with that special someone... which by the way is very admireable..Or have you created an unhealthy complex with does not allow you to love. In all actuallity i believe it is very smart of you to not try to love someone because it seems you havent learned to love yourself. Your first step in this is to try to build up self-confidence and try to understand yourself and most importantly love yourself. Dont fall into peer pressure, your older.... that should not be a problem, dont let your friends pressure you into committing remorseful mistakes. It's perfectly normal to worry about staying alone for the rest of your life, but always remember you have friends and family, who will always be there. My advice to you is to focus on yourself for now, and then when the right person comes you will not have emotional baggage to deal with...... Love will come....it always comes unexpectedley

It is said in the most beautiful love stories that your first love will be endured and left intact in ones memory....precisely how it is left whether you loved and lost or just loved. I can assure you that the feelings you are experiencing are completely normal. Your first love represents memories that once took your breath away, for the very first time. The emotions that you felt are difficult to overcome. Although, I cant assure you that you are completely over this guy... I'ts perfectly sane to say that you do like this new guy, and comparing him secretly in your mind to your old love is also completely inevetable. Don't worry, be optimistic and relieved you actually have someone else, and are not completely dwelling over your first love......Like most casses Time will be the answer to everything...just be patient and let fate take its course.

Sometimes is normal for relationships to have unbalanced feelings. It is said that the best relatinships are based on mutual feelings. My advice to you is to just communicate with him and tell him that you dont want to be with him. In all actuallity its not fair for him to be so committed to you, when you dont feel what hes obvious feeling for you. Be straight foward with him, tell him whats on your mind.... and make sure you tell him that you dont want hurt him. My overall advice for you is if you dont like someone dont commit to them, its not fair because they can be putting all that effort to a relationship that really matters. THis way it works best for both of you, he can move on..... and so can you....

At your age, Boys arent mature enough to surpass superficial behaviors. I do believe you are a good person and I assure you that The right guy will come along..one that will accept you for who you are and even the way you look.Beauty is completely in the eye of the beholder. Just remember that you can always change your appearance, but a good heart is hard to come across. Love yourself, and then someone will come along to love you too. Patience is all that awaits you, but dont rush the wait will be worth while.

Well first, acting on impulse can sometimes bring you you to this types of situations, You either end up getting hurt or hurting someone you care about. My overall advice is to get the facts straight, gather all your information before you make accusations.Especially if you really like a person. I know you are young and sometimes its eaiser to be influenced by rumors..that u hear in the hall way. Then actually taking the answer of the one you like. well If this guy is willing to work things out then u got yourself a SWEET HEART, just apologize for hurting him and work on trusting him. Trust is a basic necessasity in a realtionship. So communicate and trust eachother...Im sure that will bring you guys closer...I mean we all make mistakes...You should give it another try...

Life can be complicated... in the eye of the beholder....But the deep penetrating thought of someday being completely satisfied...keeps us going....I want to help you find that reason to keep on going....

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