Hey i am female, 14, and im going into high school next year. I am not experienced in many ways, but i am mature. I dont sugarcoat things, and i am bold and tell it like it is. If you want my advice, let me know! xoxo
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I'm a 16 year-old girl and my 15 year old (first) boyfriend says that I should change myself COMPLETELY just for him. And when I asked him why he's still with me and why he doesn't go to someone else he says it's because of all the sexual things he wants to do with me. I'm like..wtf..You don't respect me. You want me to change for YOUR sick pleasures...Well, I'm not going to change. It upsets me...because everything I seem to do, he's not happy with. The way I dress, act...He LOVES the way I look. And that's about it.
I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. We've been together for a month and 2 weeks. Do you think I should give him another chance? (link)
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dump the dick, and then he'll wish he was with you, and he will NEVER find a girl like you, but thats not your problem. Good luck with the jerk
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I need a good quote. Right now i am talking to this kid, and i'm not sure if i like him or not... any ideas? the quote can be broad (link)
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Uhm, well i know a lot of sad love quotes such as:
I never thought it'd be this hard to lose something i never had
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i know what my valentines day is going to be like. my ex is going to be withh his new girllfriend. they go to the same school. we broke up a month ago. we were together 5 months. im not going to see them on valentines day, but im going to know that theyre together. ill be thinking about him all day. him and her. im not over him at all as you can tell. does anyone have any stories about how bad their valentines dayss gonna be cause i need some support. make me see that im not alonee here. thanks (link)
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Well, im spending my valentines day alone because i am in love with a guy and i told him and he told me he loves my best friend. She is going out with a different guy but the guy i love and her are "together" we got in a huge fight, and now i dont have a bf, a guy i love, or a best friend. My ex bff said that she was spending V day with her fam when shes going out with the guy i love, and ditching her bf. I told her bf she was cheating on her but he just wont break up wit her bc he loves her. Hows that doe a bad V day, and dont worry, you will get over him, and i got to take my own advice. Sorry about being alone on V day, it will all get better. Xoxo
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my old best friend thats a guy who i love told me he doesnt wanan be my best friend or makeout and do stuff with me naymore. i cant stop crying and i love him so much for so long. i really just need to get over him hes not even nice to me anymore! and please give me songs like tied together with a smile by taylor swift that show how pretty you really are in the inside. thank you so much! (link)
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well since you like taylor swift, i love her, i like these songs, they are sad, but amazing! Try them
Teardrops on my guitar_Taylor Swift
Beautiful_Christina Agulera
You're Beautiful_James Blunt
She will be loved_Maroon 5
I miss you_Hannah Montana/miley cyrus
Hate that i love you_Rhianna
Breathe Again_ Too sorry for apoligies
Cry_ RHianna
Noone_ Alicia Keyes
Those are just a few :]
if you want more, message me, i can give you like 100! Hope i helped. Feel better babe xoxo
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im 14/f ok
and my current bf is 14/m. ok so we have been going out for about 2 weeks now and so far i have seen him every day! i usually go out with guys from other schools so i don't have to see them every day bc that makes it mean more when you do see him. and its almost valentines day and he wants this shirt but to tell you the truth i could care less about what he wants! im not really in to him. hes not my type at all.. i don't think im over my ex Patrick ether! witch sucks even more. bc he was the first kiss first love and what not! it hurts not to be with Patrick. every time i am with andy i end up thinking about Patrick and it pretty much makes me cry! i can't be with andy any more bc im not over Patrick at all.. but if we break up then theres no friendship bc he isn't friends with any of his ex's witch sucks bc i want to be his friends but he hates them!ah:[ it makes me cry even though i don't even like him like that!
so how do i break up with him or should i give him a week or two? (link)
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Break up with him now, it will get worse if you dont. Also, my ex bf was my first love/kiss and what not, and he never stayed friends with his exs, and i had to wait a long time to get over him and i avoided him, then about 4 months later we were friends. Now we are really close, and i love having him as a friend, hes like the one i go to for love advice! So i hope i helped
good luck! xoxo
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hi i am 13/female and am having a real hard time moving on after last night. ok. so i like this guy.a couple nights ago we went to this indoor fun house with 2 of our friends. and we had a lot of fun. then during the last 15 mins we got dared to make out and we did (that was the first time ever for me). then last night he invited me over to his house and my friend was supposed to come and his friend was there. it ended up just being us three (me being the only girl). we watched a movie and ate for a while and then without a dare we started doingg EVERYTHING! we made out, we madeout on top of eachother, he went up my shirt and touched my boobs while making out, i gave him a lap dance (not intense though, just sat on top of him and moved around easily) i pulled up my shirt with my bra on, then at the very end we started making out and i waws pretty much humping him and he was grabbing my butt and pushing it into him and he touched my boobs and yeah thats it. and i dont know. i feel regret causee we aren't even going out and his last gf everyone called her a slut because on the 4th day of their relationship he went up her shirt (same thing as me). and i feel like a total slut. and i like him and i want to go out wtih him and he told me he likes me, but wouldn't he ask me out? i really confused and i only told me one best friend who was supposed to be there about it all and she said she didn't think he was using me but idk i have mixed feelings???? i cant talk about it with my family or anyone else except for my one best friend. please help me. should i regret what i did? am i a slut? is it bad since we aren't even going out? do you think he is using me? he told me he liked me. but why hasn't he asked me out? i'm really sad about this. i need SOME ADVICE FAST!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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well i think that doing all that stuff and not even going out or in a relationship is slutty, but you are not a slut. Just take it slow, and if he doesnt ask you out, then ignore him, and he'll miss you and ask you out fer serr. Hope i helped!
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So first of all I'm a sixteen year old junior. I have my tight group of friends, 7 other girls, who I'm practically always with. I am pretty well known around my school, not for anything bad, I just am involved in a lot around my school. I have no problem meeting or talking to people, I'm not socially awkward. The problem is that recently my friends have ALL been in relationships. We all have jobs and sports, so schedules conflict. But when they dont, they all hang out with their boyfriends. Its not that they've never been in relationships before, but now they are all in relationships at the same time. I'm extremely alone. I've never been in a relationship, never been kissed. I have been asked to dances, which leads no where except the boy grinding on me, which is not enjoyable. I've been told that I'm extremely attractive, really funny and fun to be around. I'm blonde, medium height and skinny. My eyes are blue/green, they change color, and I dress cute/fashionable without putting my whole body out there. I am really athletic too. I dont portray myself as desperate cause I'm actually somewhat confident. I get crushes and normally the guy ends up liking me too. Then he meets my friends and he starts dating one of them. Three of my friends boyfriends are guys I liked who I introduced them too. I would like to know, what i should do. I cant see my friends anymore and I can't get a guy to like me. My life has basically become work, school, studying, and ice hockey. I'm not satisfied. Please help. (link)
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if you want flirting tips:
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-Physically
-and just make eye contact, count to three, then look away.
-look them up and down then do a cute smile, like you approve or think hes hot
-when you walk by, turn your head to him to show he really turns heads
-another good way to get a guys attention is to get closer to him, if he's at a table don't sit at the other end or across from him, plant yourself in the seat right next to him, scoot closer even. if hes standing just stand a bit closer to him while you talk than you would normally.
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveSCat/192
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
if you want to spend more times with your girlfriends, visit them on their lunch break, or organize a sleepover, i know it might seem young-ish but it works. hope i helped!
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Anyone have any good flirting tips? :]
Haha, I know I probobly sound really stupid for asking, but I don't really have any good ones, except I guess smiling? Haha. Help me out :] (link)
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well one thing is
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-Physically
-and just make eye contact, count to three, then look away.
-look them up and down then do a cute smile, like you approve or think hes hot
-when you walk by, turn your head to him to show he really turns heads
-another good way to get a guys attention is to get closer to him, if he's at a table don't sit at the other end or across from him, plant yourself in the seat right next to him, scoot closer even. if hes standing just stand a bit closer to him while you talk than you would normally.
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveSCat/192
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
sorry its long but i hope i helped!
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i like this guy a lot, and i have liked him for a really long time. The problem is, i don't know how to approach him! I've talked to him before, but I don't know how to do it again. Like, i don't know how to start talking to him or stuff. And i'm really nervous to talk to him. I don't have him in any of my classes, but I see him around school a couple of times. What can i do to help me be less nervous, and what should i say when i first talk to him? Also, should i start talking to him when he's alone, or when he's with other people? And should i go talk to him by myself, or bring my friends with me?
Or, should i just email him or something?
I would really appreciate it if you would answer my questions.
Thanks :)
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When you see him give him a playful smile and say hey and give him a wink if you are brave enough. When hes with a group, talk to the whole group but focus on him, and when hes alone just bring up a sport he likes, or ask what kind of music he likes, and make him a mix of the music he likes, or ask him to make you one. Then you will have a lot of stuff to talk about. I know it seems impossible, but once you do, it will come naturally.
hope i helped!
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ooook so there is this guy. i met him in 2006 and ever since, he's all i've thought of. everything in my life i do to impress him or whatnot. hes one of my close friends and he knows i used to like him, although im sure he knows i still do. whenever im with him i just feel...happy. i feel like life is perfect and like i never want to go home. and when im not with him, i feel crappy. i feel self-conscious, depressed, etc. did i mention he goes to another school and i only see him like once every 3 weeks? so, as you can expect thats a lot of time feeling depressed and crappy.
i want my life to move on. usually about once a month i try to get a life of my own and make other friends and try not thinking about him. but it never works and im beginning to think it never will. so this is where i turn to advicenators. i need help. im sick of feeling depressed, im sick of not having my own life, im sick of my crappy friends who never want to talk about real-life problems, im just sick of the life i claim to live.
any thoughts? (link)
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You should try making other friends, girls and guys, and call/im/text the guy you like and ask to hang out. I like a guy from another school and see him once a week because my dads teaching him electric guitar, but theres no time to flirt. So i always call him and im him, and now were close. Just do what i did, and make plans with a bunch of people, and ask him to come along. Flirt with him alot, be close to him, and make eye contact.
Hope i helped! :]
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In my past question(the really really long one, sorry if it had many shortcut words, i had to because of the length), I forgot to say my age and gender: 13/f
For a 13yr old, I think deep in these situations, so please don't tell me I'm too young.
I asked about how i might feel towards my close friend and the difference between that feeling and the feeling i have towards my current bf.
Typing that long question and seeing how people replied helped me realized much more.
They replied how my bf, "Shiro", cares for me much more than my close friend, "Kuro".
I agreed.
But I also typed another question before: How can I tell if it's love and not just really REALLY like?
People replied how i can tell, how it's selfless, and how you can tell if he's all you think about.
I agreed.
Until someone replied a list of feelings.
I realized how my palms sweat, heart races, voice and eyes caught, want to be with him, loving his hugs, heart skipping a beat, pardoning his faults, and willing to give things was how I usually felt towards "Shiro".
But it said it's just just like, lust, luck, loneliness, loyalty, low confidence, pity, infatuation, friendship, and charity.
And I realized how my heart aches when he's sad, how I cry for his pain, how he sees my heart, how i accept his faults, and how I would give him everything was how I felt towards "Kuro".
And it said it's love.
I remember how I decided to be "Kuro"'s friend because nobody wanted to be with him.
I got more attached to him, noticing how everyone says they think he's annoying yet I don't, and how I tell people how it's messed up when they make fun of him.
Now it's like saying "Shiro" loves/likes me much more than "Kuro", yet it's stilling saying the things I've done for "Kuro" makes me love him more than "Shiro".
This was the reply with the list of feelings, tell me if it's true or not, and if it's true, does that mean I love "Kuro" much more than I love "Shiro", even though "Shiro" loves me more than "Kuro"? If so, what do I do?:
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.
Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.
Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.
Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.
Sorry if I'm hard to deal with >.<
but please do help me understand! thank you (= (link)
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Hey its me again, i answered you're last question. Well like i said, i think shiro loves you, and kuro likes you. I dont know how you feel, noone can tell you or us that, but you should never leave the one you love, for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one THEY love. I cant tell you how you feel, and neither does the things the person who left the list did, even though it was very good. I think you are in love with shiro, but you love kuro. Theres a difference. Being in love with someone is like "i love you with all my heart. I want to be with you". Loving someone is like a friend or a brother, but you love kuro, but like a brother, but you also really like him. I know this is confusing, but i tried.
Hope i helped, and didnt confuse you more! :]
P.S. i like that you dont have as many shortcutted words :]
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[sorry, but it had to be a long, detailed story to show why i'm confused]
i have this thing
i try to luk for things i can look forward to
can b my crazy friends
can b a fun thing in class
and mostly i find sum1 to kinda like for sorta lyk a goal
so
7th grade of 07, 2nd semester, math class
we were getting new seats
i was placed in a corner desk and next to me is, let's call him "Kuro".
we soon started to talk to each other
helped each other w/ da math, sumtyms even make fun of da teacher(not in a very mean way, jst playing around)
he wasn't rly sum1 u'd find cute,
but i decided to start to lyk him
anyway
even jst a little to make math class more to luk forward to
i found out dat he didnt hav any close frends
so i tried to treat him as a frend as best as i cud
i found out he had a myspace
but he sed he nvr goes online
i told him i'm always on, and no one ever is
so i forced him to go online
soon at school, he stopped trying to hang out w/ da guys and started hanging out at da table where me and my frends were
i got to noe him better soon enough
i both realized we're both kinda evil, in a childish way (he's worst doh haha)
i also realized dat i'm da only one who talks to him on myspace and he still goes online
i was da only one who cud actually continue on his weirdly violent, 'intellegent' conversations
unlike everyone else who jst says 'we dnt care(in a play way) hahaha nah jk'
he was lyk da exact opposite of me, so we got along
he soon put me #4 on his top friends
i started to lyk him a little more
he soon started telling me his secrets, and i was da only one dat noes about dem
i started to lyk him even more
but den soon he tells me he likes this girl dat was third on his top friends(his 1st nd 2nd wer his sisters)
i was disappointed, so i tried to give up on him
but den i was still luking forward to math class even doh he liked sum1 else
also wen i realized he was going to play an instrument for da 8th grd of 07 grad, i found myself begging for sum1 to take me, jst so i cud talk to him for 1 more extra day before summer
da day after da grad day he told me he stopped lyking da girl
i was strangely really happy
but wen i asked him who he liked now, he sed he dusnt lyk anyone ryt now, i was unordinarily disappointed
wen 8th grd started, i cudnt believe how much i wanted to b in da same classes as him
and on da classes we were both in, i cudnt believe how much i wanted to sit nxt to him
later on, i told da truth on me liking him to my closest frends
dey told me how ugly he was(not in a mean way, but jst in a compared, rlynotdeyrtype thing, rlly not cute and cool is kinda true >_ (link)
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Okay, well i know how you feel. Advice, dont use as much im speak. Well I know you really like Kuro, but i just dont think it would work out. I mean it has been a long time, and you have a bf. He lost a good thing, and he could hurt you in the future. As for shiro, he seems like a really good guy. I say dont give up shiro for kuro because he has liked a lot of girls your close with and just started to like you. He changed who he liked many times. Shiro seems like he only liked you, unlike kuro liking your friends.
Another thing, dont try to make him stop liking your friends. I mean, it makes it harder for you to stop liking him. If he got a gf, one of your close friends, it would be wrong to like him, it would hurt your friend, and bf. I hope my advice helped!
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Ive liked this guy for a year and a half. I havent told him yet cause we're close friends and I dont want to lose him as a friend if he doesnt feel the same way. Well today him and I were jokin around and wrestlin. Well he ended having me pinned where I was on my hands and knees, and he was on top of me with his face mashed against mine. He just stayed like that for a bit before he moved. He flirts with me all the time, and usually goes to the store w/me when I go cause he says he'd feel bad if something happened to me and he werent there. I house sat for 5 days about a month ago and the first night I was gone he texted me late into the night even though he needed to be up early for work the next day. The next day I texted him and was like "same time same place as last night?" I was like yeah! He ended up callin me instead and we were on the phone late again even though he had to be up early again. He called me everyday I house sat cause he said he didnt want me to be bored or lonley
The bad part is, hes engaged. They only see eachother once a week for a couple of hours. Other than that, they talk on the phone a couple times a day. Shes leaving for 4 yrs of college in another city and hes not going with. They dont live together either. They dont plan on geting married for another 4 years. I feel horrible for liking him because hes in a relationship, but hey you cant help who you like right?I have also got to say that I wouldnt do anything with him while he is still in a relationship, its bad enough I feel guilty for just liking him, I couldnt imagine how Id feel if I were the reason theyd broken up.Does it sound like he likes me? Should I tell him how I feel? How should I go about telling him? From what Ive said about his engagement, does it sound like he will get married? (link)
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Well, he is engaged, which makes it pretty hard for you to be with him. You have to tell him how you feel. I know you dont want to lose your friendship, but you have to. Since he is always flirting i think its time to tell him that you really lke him, and that you want to be with him, but you cant because of his engagement. See what he says. Then move on with the relationship, or getting over him, whatever he said just remember, he is engaged and its pretty serious. Good luck!
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