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Q: say you've dated someone for 1 year and 6 months...can love just fade?

Love can always fade, but you can try to get it back like if the relationship is getting boring. But if you really dont see any love, as if you 2 are not even there, maybe you can find new partners.

Q: Okay, so here's the story.
I'm 15/f and my ex boyfriend is 15 too. When we were about 7 months into the relationship, I became pregnant, I decided to keep the baby. This put a lot of stress on the relationship. We went out for just about a year. I decided it was time to breakup with him because I was feeling like that was the right thing to do at the time. I regret it extremely, but it's something I have to live with. I do still believe we have feelings for each other.

(With the pregnancy thing, please don't judge me, I used protection, and I still don't regret having sex with him.)

The problem is, I've had 4 boys in my life before, and each was different, and I learned sort of how to compare one to the other and realize if I loved or not. He's never had another girlfriend but me, so he thinks he loves me, but he really has no prior experience and it can be hard to tell with your first.
This boy, my ex boyfriend now, I believe is the absolute love of my life. I just simply can't get over him. It's been about two weeks now, and I think it's best to let him just move along and date again because then he may be able to just get a little bit more of an idea of who he likes in a girl. It's really hard. I can tell that I'm having a harder problem with it than him, because I'm constantly thinking of him ect.

He still calls every once in a while, and we get along. He will text me occasionally, and we have yet to hangout, but he told me that in the next few weeks we will.
(he will still be here for me and the baby, he has made that very clear)

So I really don't know exactly what I'm asking here, maybe for some advice, and if you agree that by him going out with other girls, he will gain more experience and knowledge about what he wants in them/life/expectations etc.. and he will really be able to tell he was in love with me or not.
Because with my first boyfriend I swore I thought I was in love, but in the end, realized I wasn't.

Just help!

Just give it time. it has only been two weeks....I have been trying for a month to get over a somebody. If you two are meant to be, it will happen...We never know about the future, but just remember no matter what you do, the way things are suppose to happen will happen..^^

Q: ok, I like this boy in 6th grade I'm in 5th and I think he's really cute and I don't know if he likes me or if he even knows who I am should I talk to him?

WHAT SHOULD I DO! HELP!

oh GURL!!!
i go through this all the time and i think think its best just to ask him:be like:"hey (whatever his name is)" and most of the time if they don't know you they will say "do i know u?"

Q: i like this guy and my friend likes him still even though she broke up wid him should i go for it
sincerely advicebaby7

ask your friend how she would feel if you did cuz i know that you probably wouldn't want to go for him and she would get all mad cuz you did and she probably wouldn't want to be your friend anymore.

Q: Dear wipeoutsmile,
Hi! i have this problem. Well, let's be honest and call it BOY TROUBLE. Well, i like this boy and i think someone told him. I'm not sure. Well, i feel like i want his attention without changing how i am. I want him to know how i feel, i tried writing it in a note, but i chickened out this time. So, can u pleez help me?????

just tell him. if he answers in a stupid way without care then he could care less and that means move on. AND you shouldn't change for anyone but you. remember that and remember that there are other fish in the sea, he ain't the only one.

Q: BTW~ this is a question I asked earlier but I'm repeating it cuz I have an account now. *'s are additions

Hiya!
I'm Annie (13, fem, MD). There's this guy and we used to be together like last year but I gave him the dump. I'm starting to feel that it was a mistake- I mean thinking about it, I can't remember why I dumped him in the first place. It was for my own good, and I know good from bad, don't smoke straight-A's only drink a little is my description. But this guy- he's so amazing. I totally can talk to him really closely and he has all these amazing aspirations for his life. He hangs with me at parties a little but he's a little safe- no kissing, no sex, though he is a druggie. I like the fact that he has very few friends- I admire people who don't require a possie to function. SO anyway, you probably are accustomed to giving guys advice but I really hope you can help me. I need to know if he likes me at all. How can I tell? And if so, what moves should I make, like how fast should I make them, aswell? And what can I do to keep him liking me? Please help!
*muah*
***~I'm pretty cute looking, but I havee kinda small boobs. Would him being predjudice against that be a big factor in the eqation, particularly at this age? Do guys REALLY care about that?

if you wanna know if he likes you just ask him. or ask one of his friends. theres nothing you can do to make him keep liking you. its natural, if he does he does , if he doesn't he doesn't. life is like that. if you really wan t to stick to this boy you can but there are other fish in the sea.

Q: I have liked this guy for about 3 years.. we have been really great friends like my best friend in the whole world but everytime we go out i always end up getting hurt.. like when he "just wants to be friends" it makes me feel soo bad.. but i feel like life is not fun without him.. its sounds like the typical realtionship and i should just get over him but i cant and i dont know it i can or what i am supposed to do please help

its really difficult getting over somebody cause it took me about 4 months to get over this boy i liked. it takes time.. try to think bad things about him and try not to think about him. try that and it will slowly go away, you will slowly start to think he's ugly. even though its your friend.........you'll live ,i bet we all go through somthing like this in a lifetime.

Q: This may sound really dumb, but I am seriously obsessed with a particular male celebrity. For some weird reason, once I see that "one hot" celebrity and learn a bit about him, I change myself entirely towards what relates closely to him. For example, if I were absolutely in love with Johnny Depp, I'd start to do more dark things and even dye my hair black. It's hard for me to find relationships because I'm always looking for guys who are close or exactly like that particular male celebrity. I know I'm never going to meet any male celebrity, but there is always some kind of hope in me that says I will. HELP!!!

everybody's not perfect. you never really know how celebrities are. your going off basically what you see. physical appearence. if you do meet a boy you like that looks like a celebrity your probably dreaming. try not to think about celebrities or just become a paparazzi(takes pictures of celebrities) or worse?!

Q: hey! well there's this guy. he likes me and im not sure if i like him! he asked me to the dance and i think im gonna go w/ him as friends but im not sure if i want to dance with him.. wouldnt that be ackward? what would YOU do??

from: not sure

p.s- i have never had a bf b4 cuz i dont want 1 and have never danced w/ a guy! so it would be a new experience!

just go and have a good time. you two aren't going out your just going as friends.whats the worst that could happen?

Q: i have been with my bf for 4 & a half years and we have a baby together. our whole relationship has been a lot of fighting. he gets so jealous and he will rip my clothes, sometimes hit, and he calls me a bitch and a slut when he is pissed off. i am 20 and he is 22. i feel i am too young to deal with all of this, even though we have our good times. i have attempted to leave him several times but am scared of change and i never go through with it. he will also put me down in front of our friends and family to make himself look good. should i finally just give up or should i stick with it for my son? and if i do decide to leave how do i do it?

girl: if you go through that most of the time you should just leave and that thing about sticking with it just for your son, thats an excuse. staying will only make it worse. if you stay and when your child gets older he will start to cry and might become a bad child from all the fighting. you don't want him to runaway or nothing like that when he gets older so i suggest to you that you leave him cause its not worth it. its really not. he doesn't love you he was just in it for the sex.

Q: Can some one give me an average age of getting a boy friend?

whenever you feel the time is right but my mom told me 16.

Q: I like this guy.I mean I really,really,like him. He stares at me all the tame and teases me playfully. And when this kid tried 2 kiss me he had his head down.He has his head down a lot around me.Does he like me or is he just friendly to all girls?

does what he does to you he does to other girls?
ask yourself and you'll find an answer

Q: THERE'S THIS BOY THAT I LIKE BUT HE HAS A G-FRIEND WE FLIRT BUT I DON'T KNOW IF HE LIKES ME. SHOULD I TRY TO BREAK HIM AND HIS G-FRIEND UP OR JUST LET IT BE.

just let it be. he'll come around

Q: i have a crush on a girl and i dont know if she likes me i need help :/

look at the signals. If you don't get none just ask or get one of her best friends to ask her privately.

Q: okay, my boyfriend heard me say to another person " No you cant tell anyone", and so now he wants to know, what should i do¿
signed,
confused about it

if u know the worst that could happen then could it be that bad?
then what r u gonna do?
sometimes u just have to think for a while but something will come to u. it takes time