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what's there to know? i'm a sixteen year old girl from raytown mo.. i have long black hair.. and brown eyes.. i'm 5'10 and a half.. and i love ♥ music ♥.. feel free to ask me anything.. i'm a pretty knowledgeable person.. i know a lot about many things.. haha.. okay.

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Okay well I went out with this boy for about 2 months and it was great I loved him I know in 2 months but we known each other for 2 years before. Well we went out and we broke up i was devestated I still wanted to talk to him and everything I cried everything. Well the last time i saw him he treated me REAL bad so after that i was disappointed in him for his behavior but I still like him like really DEEP inside. Well the other day i went to a party and this girl knows about me and him and our past and know she is his gf.Well a girl asked her who her bf was in front of me and she felt bad. I didn;t know how to feel but i didn't want her to feel bad cause I think i'm over him kind of. What I'm asking for should i feel bad about her going out with my ex even though i'm kinda over him. I don't know how to feel cause i care about him even though he hurt me the way he did.

Well, deep down, you are going to feel a little bad. But not for her sake. It's hard to move-on. I know how you feel.
No matter how much your mouth denys being 'in-love' with him, your heart knows the truth.

Don't feel bad. You are a strong person (I assume. Of course, everyone is strong in there own ways) It takes time to heal.

-Hope it helps dear.
_God Bless
Hailie

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I like my best friend more than a friend but don't wanna ruin our friendship. He likes me back tto. What should i do? Risk it or play it safe?

I'd risk it. You'll never know unless you take the chance.
Talk to him about it. Start a friendly conversation, and then slowly lay it down that you like him.

If he freaks out, let him get over the shock. He's probably thinking, "Yes, she likes me." :smile:
Life is full of choices, it's your responsibility to choose what you think is right.

Good luck!
Hope it helped.
-Hailie

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13/f

is making out for your first kiss wrong? i got my first kiss from my ex when i was 12 yrs. old, but i still know how perfect it felt. i was just wondering if it's wrong to make out as your first kiss. is it?

I wouldn't think so.
But a lot of the time, you'll think it feels right, and then when it happens again, when it's better, you'll know it wasn't.

I really don't see a problem with it. It's your life, you are going to live it the way you wish. Let loose, have some fun! :wink:

God Bless hon.
Hope I helped.
-Hailie

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well technically this could be put into a couple differnt catagories, well okies it kinda started last year i was going out with one of my best friends and we were together for 10 months and then he crushed my heart:( we broke up over the summer and he slit his wrist and he is ok but i cried when he told me is it normal to still have feeling for him after he put me through shit?..and there's another thing just recently i have been having reallllllllly MAJOR feeling for my other best friend me and my other best friend act more like a couple then we do friends, yet he says he just wants to be friends yet usually he is the one who starts the us actin like a couple thing...does this mean he does or doesnt like me???..plz help i am sooo confused:(

Well,

I would say yes. I mean, all the evidence you've stated, if he is the one who pulls you into it (whether you want to or not) then yes. He still has feelings for you! Stick to it girl! Make him beg! lol Just messing, try and find out if he has feelings for you in that way.

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Why is love so confusing, hard to understand? I don't know if i like my friend or not... He was in one of my classes last year and I only really got to know him this year. My date for homecoming is a guy who I became friends with just this year, he's in three of my classes. While talking to him today, I casually asked him if he was doing anything after school today because I wanted to go over to his house to see his new dog. But then he told me, "listen, i want to go to homecoming with you, but i don't want to go out." Ouch. If i had wanted to go out with him, I would have been hurt. But I told him i had no intentions of going out with him. But now that i think about it, the day before, he seemed mad at me and was avoiding me for some reason, and i felt really depressed about it. It was only till i talked to him and he told he wasnt mad at me that I felt better... does that mean i like him? Because when he finally talked to me, my heart started beating really hard... does that mean i like him? Any advice will be appreciated :)

It's quite possible.
There's a slight chance that you could be so happy that he isn't mad, and you didn't lose a friend, that you are just.. overwhelmed?

Well, that's what I thought at first. But, you did say that your heart was beating really hard, surely that means something.

-Hope it helps.
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
-Hailie

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i know this is asked a LOT but..
i like this guy. by these few things, does he like me do you think?
-he whispers "(my name) is such a slut!" so i can hear it then im like yur cool nd he smiles
-he was lying down nd i layed on him nd he was like just talking to me nd smelling my hair nd putting his finger near my face..lol it was cute thou
-he wanted to c if i could bite him so hes like walking his hands down my face nd feeling my lips
-he was on the computer nd my other friend was on a computer rite next to him, i was in the middle reading both ;). well he IMs "(my name) is a whore" nd stuff like like nd im laughing or wutever
-he was playing football with everyone nd he goes "come on (my name) tackle me!" (so i did hahaha, i was the only one that could, was he being easy on me..?)
-i sat next to him on the couch nd he goes "eww i dont want to sit next to (my name)" nd i just ignore it while he puts a pillow between us. then he goes "im just kidding u kno that right?"
-my friend who he was IMing next to me, she said "i think he likes you!"


do u think..?

ps-ill rate 5's for EVERYTHING thats not smart a**! cause this was long!

I think it is very possible.
They always say, that when a guy, or anyone for that matter, says "I'm just kidding." or, "I'm just messing." they are really trying to tell you the truth, without saying it to you.

So, yes. I think he does. By the sound of it at least. Why don't you ask him? Find out for yourself? Just make sure he's alone, and he knows you are serious. I'm affraid that if he isn't alone, he might not tell you the truth. (shyness)

-Hope it helps.
--Good luck and God Bless.
-Hailie

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well i just started dating this kid, let's call him john, and we are always hanging all over eachother. we just blend well physically, and are always caught kissing and hugging. i love being around him because i feel loved, but when we talk on the phone or it is just me and him we have hardly any conversation going. alot of the time we are just quiet when we are alone. how bad is this? is it a big deal or just something that will fade? should i reconsider our relationship?

Well, you should never second-guess a relationship you feel confident in.
Make any sense?

It will probably fade away, it's hard to talk to someone.

-I hope it helps. It's not much.
--Good Luck, and God bless.
-Hailie

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Well i have been pretty close with my friends for the past 3 years (I'm a senior in HS) and i feel as if they have become very distant from me lately. They all have girlfriends except for me. It seems that all the girls i have crushes on are the ones going out with my best friends. It seems as if my friends ditched me for girls that i like, it's a very messed up situation. I don't think of myself as a shy person, it's just that i'm never around girls that i like. My friends have classes with these girls so they are around them more, so i guess you could say that they have more access, i don't know. I have never had a gf in highschool and i don't know what i'm doing wrong. At this point i'm convinced that i'm a loser.

First off, you aren't a loser. You should NEVER consider yourself that way.

Perhaps, deep inside, you are waiting to find that 'one' girl that catches your eye.
Some people don't choose wisely who they date. Just give it time, you'll find someone.

If they don't find you first!
-Good luck! and God bless!
-Hope it helps.
Hailie

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A guy that I'm friends with works at a cafe, he is the cook. Another friend told me that she went in to his restaurant once and he told her he wanted to go to bed with her. (he is married so she said no).

Well I asked him if that were true and he started laughing and said "she's not my idea of a babe".
We told his wife and then she said sarscastically that he flirted with everyone (they work toghether,she is the waitress).
I think he did say something and it makes me really mad because he is saying my friend is not only a lyer, but she is ugly!
Do you think he lyed?

I really sounds like it.

He probably lied because he didn't want anyone to tell on him. Y'know, since he's married and all.

Hope it gave you a little help.
-God Bless
--Hailie

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is there anyway to improve my kissing?

Naturally there is no way.

You are who you are, no matter what.
If you want more practice? Try the back of your hand. (old theory, but hey, if it works!)

Good Luck!
-God Bless
--Hailie

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Okay This kid is a year older then me and hes so cute!!!! I think he may and may not like me I'm not really sure! Okay so I was in 5th Grade and he was 6th and he would like always look at me and stuff and now were older and he talks to me online and the other day my friend asked him online if i asked him out would he go out with me and he said I dont know maybe So I dont know if i should ask him myself or what?? I played the "knockout" game its a basketball game and it got down to me and him and I won! I was happy! But anyways. I don't know what I should do he goes to my school and I'm like a 50/50 here. Do you think he likes me? what should I do?? im not that kind of a person that can just go up to someone and start a conversation or ask him out right away. Thanks!

Ask him anyways.

You'll never know, unless you take the chance. Life is all about decisions, it's your turn to decide which is right for you.

So, ask him! If he says yes, then whoo hooo!! If he says no.. well, surely you can continue with being friends.

-Hope it helps
--Good Luck, and God Bless
Hailie

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heyy guys.. well my best friend is taking this reallly cute guy to homecoming, but i don't think he likes her anymore. but he i think he flirts with me aloot. i mean calling everydayy, texting at 430 in the morning, texting to wake me up in the morning.. aw. yea i know he's sweet but like when i see him at school it doesn't seem like he likes me? cause i think he is such a cutie! do yall think he likes me or what? pleaaasseee help!! thxx (rate)

Well,

It's quite possible, from what you've stated.

He could be putting up a front while you guys are at school.
(you know, the whole I want to seem unattached infront of everyone at school thing)

Or, he could be trying to hide his feelings..

-Hope it helps
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
Hailie

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So yea this is one fo those what do I do and what is going through my mind and his mine questions.
Two years ago I dated this guy Kyle and we broke up cuz my "best friend" broke up with him behind my back and told some other guy that I would go out with him (I so didnt). Well Kyle, my "best friend", and the guy call me and are all confusing me so I couldnt explain myself. Well now two years later I am still not over the fact that I didnt try to tell him what happened. But lately I have seen him around unlike before. Like I dont know why but randomly the other day he drove down the street next to mine that I was walkin the dog on and then went around the block and passed me again. What is up with that?? Well now I so cant get it out of my head. My friend is friends with Kyle and asked him if he was still mad at me and he just said I dont know. I dont know what to do. I want to talk to him buti dont know how. I dont even know how he feels. He doesnt know anyone that lives by me so what was he doing over here when there is no reason he could be over here! ugh! and he went around the blocj twice! Someone tell me what I am doing so obsessed over him drving by and what i should do cuz all my friends are just too dumb to understand and I dont wanna talk to them about it.

Thanks,
Me

Well,

It's possible, that he is feeling the same 'guilt' that you are. That he didn't talk with you about it.

Avoiding him, or ignoring him, won't help you at all. Just go to him, and start a normal conversation.

I know that when my conversations start with my ex, they always lead to what happened, why it happened, how it could've been avoided, and what we didn't say to oneanther.

I wish you luck.
-God Bless
--Hope it helps!
Hailie

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hey!.....i like this kid and hes a year younger then me in school...anyways..i started talkin to him just like 2 months ago and we barely talk but hes really hawt....like i cant stand looking at him because i just wanna kiss him so bad anyway..i told his friend that i htink hes hot and his friend told him and he says the same about me...and he hasnt done anyhting about this...i mean he smiles at me once in awhile wen he sees me and he says hi or w.e and his friend was supposed to hook us up but this kid i like lives in a different city like 15 min away...not a problem for me i drive..but i dont know how to get his attention more or how to take our friendship to a higher level...we have a lot in common and he was surprised that i thought he was hot so i dont know

help me!! i rate high

Well,

I would try.. maybe asking him and a few friends to go and see a movie.
Make yourself up. Well, dress up. It's always better to go with friends, you won't make it seem like a 'date'. (that might scare him slightly)
Just a casual get-together with you, him, and some friends!

Like I said, dress-up for the occasion. Not too dressy, but casual. Okay?

Also, if he hasn't made a move just yet, he's waiting for you to. Guys like for woman to make the first move, believe it or not.

-Good Luck, and God Bless.
--Hope it helps.
Hailie

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I have been going out with a guy i've liked forever as of yesterday. He is already saying I love you and I said it back. Are we both just saying it or what?

If you've only been going out for a day or two..

I'm not quite sure if you are just saying to say it. It is quite possible that you both just like how it sounds to say it to one another.

Believe me honey, my ex-boyfriend told me he loved me the second I said yes.
And I said it back.

It leaves you wondering if you/he really means it. Talk to him about it. Make sure that it's the real deal.

-Good Luck and God Bless.
--Hope it Helps.
Hailie

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So I've been with this AMAZING guy for about a month, officially on Friday, the 14th. And Saturday its Sweetest Day, any ideas? I was thinking of something for both of the occasions. Please dont tell me to do a search. =) He is very creative and I'm not all that creative. Please just something creative/homeade or omehing that isnt pricey.(up to $30)Something that shows meaning. Thanks in advance, I rate! =D

Okay..

What's Sweetest Day?

I would suggest maybe.. going out for dinner?
Maybe that's too much. I know that on my sister's One Year anniversary.. he took her out to the Mystery Train.

Perhaps dinner might be a good thing. Or even, cooking it yourself..
It all depends on what you have in mind.

-Sorry if it doesn't help. I tried. :)
--Good luck. I'll make sure to comment if I get any ideas.

-Hailie

(happy one month in advance!)

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okay heres my PROBLEM:
im 13/f. i am practically in love with this guy, hes 15. alot of people say 15 isnt too old for me, but i am now worrying that he wouldnt look at me in that way. i need to go out with this ked, or else my whole life will be miserable. what can i do to catch his attention?
BY THE WAY!!!!!! - i ONLY see him on fridays. its for a club thing [CAP.]

SO PLEASE HELP ME!♥

For the record,
You are thirteen, it won't ruin your life hon. There are plenty of other guys out there.

Okay, now that that's over. :P

Do you talk to him a lot? If not, try and dig into his hobbies, try and catch what you both have in common, and embrace it.

To catch his attention? Be yourself! If that doesn't attract him? It's not worth it.

-Hope it helps.
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
Hailie

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my friends boyfriend recently got stabbed by his ex-girlfriend. my friend thinks it is all her fault because he got stabbed because of something she told him to tell his ex. and then his ex went locco on him. does is sound like her fault?

will rate...
smartass answers not welcome

PS-wat can i do to comfort her?

It isn't her fault.

If he really thought/knew she would go crazy on him, he probably wouldn't have told her.

All you can do, is be there to comfert her, and make sure that she knows she can go to you.
Make sure she has you shoulder to lean on.

-Hope it helps.
--Good luck, and God bless.
Hailie

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Okay I had a weird situation.... I've liked this guy for like 7 months, well I love him.... he's bisexual, but has a crush on someone else.... which dosen't really bother me much cause we're EXTREMELY close! Anyhow, there's this new guy at work...only problem is HE'S 15 and I'm 17. Everyone says I like him or whatever, but I like to hang out with him cause we're VERY ALIKE (To the point where it scares me)....so I dunno whether or not I'm crushin on him, and then at that, there's a girl I've been thinkin about more than usual...like she's cool or whatever...but I dunno if I'm lookin at her cause I've never been successfull with males or whatever...but I dunno, I dun wanna be BI, I'd rather stay straight, but my luck with guys is horrible...but this whole thinkin about her thing has just started, it's weird....I dunno. ANY ADVICE WILL HELP.... just tell me what yall think....

Personally?

I don't think you need all that much advice!

Luck has nothing to do with it. Luck is just a word, that was made up as an excuse for something going right.

If you want to stay straight, that's fine. Nobody should have a problem. As for the girl situation.. don't worry about it. Every girl has her doubts about one another.

I wish you luck.
-Hailie

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well this is one of those typical. " I love him but he loves someone else" kinds of things. I just need help with what to do. He always is telling me like they're problems and stuff but that they like eachother and stuff and it hurts so badly so see, and i just want a way to deal with it cause i never want to lose him as a friend or w.e he'll be in my life.

Y'know.. I'm in kind-of a similar situation.
-My ex-boyfriend, (my first.. nonetheless) has a new girlfriend, and he is always telling me about their problems. And I agree. It hurts.. badly.

I would suggest just to swing with it. Don't let what he says get to your heart. Consider this, if they should ever.. "break-up" he'll probably need you there to be strong for him. Everyone needs someone to lean on, and if you let him know that you will be, by listening to what he has to say, and trying to give him advice, he'll know he can come to you for anything.

(first advice, I hope it does you some justice.)
Good luck.
-Hailie

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