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heyy guys! my name is miriam. i have way too many nicknames to list.. i have a big family with mostly sisters. i live in new york and go to camp in MA. i love music. all kinds of music is great for me (except country.. yuckk)! so anyways, i'm always known as the one you can always count on for advice and definitely the truth from my friends. i hope you write soon so i can get started on some answerss!!
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when is it ok to kiss your girlfriend? like, what times/how long you've been dating/age?

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its ok to kiss your girlfriend when you know shes ready. depending on the girl, either you go at it on the third date or just wait until she lingers around you after your date. a sign of lingering would be looking around for keys or a long hug or even just talking about some last minute subject. every girl is different. it may be a good idea to talk to her about it. hope this helps and if you need more advice please contact me again.
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well...im 13 (female) and i had this biyfriend last year...and we were really close...but we broke up...and we were friends for a while....but then he told me that he hated me...and now im really sad..and a while ago he called me to tell me about a movie..but then he said he had to go...and now im always thinkin about him....and i miss him as a friend....what should i do

i know EXACTLY how you feel. same thing happened to me, except im still kind of hung up in him. not in a friend way. you just have to talk to him. was it online? maybe it wasnt him that said he hated you. just tell him you want to be friends and that you miss him. hope this helps!
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okay i just had a party and this boy i like did stuff with me and my friend asked him out for me without me knowing and he said he will think about it he didnt know .. walking home from school he didnt talk to me but he only walked by me once and it looked like he was trying to hide his head.. does that mean he doesnt like me ? and all of my friends and his friends at the party said he was all over me and we were goin to end up goin out.. what should i do ? and did that mean he didnt like me ?

i think hes just a little nervous. theres no real way to find out if he likes you or not until he answers. i mean, i think thats pretty obnoxious what youre friend did but maybe itll turn out positive. hes probably just a little bit nervous and thats why hes acting strangely. give it some time and if you have any problems feel free to ask again. good luck!
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so my boyfriend who is really afectionate never calls. he used to call, but ever since we started going out he has stoped. i no he stil likes me but i feel liek i dont ahve a boyfriend because he never makes much of an effort to contact me. so anyadvice on what i shoudl do or why he is doing this.
and yes i no hes buisy, but it doesnt take much time to quickly check p on someone if u really care for them

you definitely need to find a time to invite him to a romantic dinner or something and talk to him about how you feel. he'll change if he really loves and cares for you! good luck!
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me and my best guy friend have been friends for a long long time. he let me know that he has cared about me for a while. i like him too and told him that. we are going out now. but i dont want anyone to know right now. only because i broke up with my ex a lil while ago because i was apparently all over my new bf. so it would be bad to have this get out right now. my question is... is this a bad sign already if i dont want to know about my blossoming love.

i dont think its a bad sign at all. just let him know how you feel and make sure hes not telling all his guy friends cause believe it or not, guys talk about their loves too. i think its important to respect your ex, and not hurt his feelings too much. when youre ready you can start to let people know. good luck!
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okay i gots a boyfriend I got 4 days ago. We kissed on new years eve and that was my first kiss ever but i felt nothing. No spark or anything. I find myself wishing hed break up with me sometimes. I dont know why though its like I stopped liking him. There is just no chemistry. Please tell me what I should do
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i think you need to give it a little bit longer cause it really hasnt been that long. its always nice to be given a second shot! if in lets say a week, you still dont feel anything, id tell him how you feel in a nice way, like i just dont feel that way about you or something. then, break it off.. good luck! hope it turns out well.
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i am an 18 year old female. i have been on and off with this guy for three years and have had very good and some bad times...right now we are not going out, but we act like it. we are not seeing others and spend tons of time together. i love him and he used to love me but now he says he is confused about what love is. he doesnt want to go out and i dont understand how the title and how we are now are different. he might be going away for the summer. he is not seeing other people so i am wondering if anyone could explain maybe where he is coming from and if there is something i am not realizing or anything...thanks

sometimes you need a little time in your life to figure things out. the best thing you can do is just be his friends and he told you how he felt, theres no reason why you cant converse how you feel.
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Yesterday on New Years I made a painful decision. I decided that the relationship with a guy that I had been in love who decided to move away for a job had to be cut dead. I decided this needed to be done because he wasnt even making an effort to contact me and he never even got me a xmas gift. It's complicated and he can never commit to me because of his work- and I honestly think money is more important to him than me.
While anyways, I havent actually TOLD him this yet. But I've gotten asked out by a really nice guy who lives in town. He owns his own company and is closer in age then the other guy.
Should I just start dating this other guy or should I let my long distance bf know that I want to see other people? I think what drove me to this decision was that the jerk never bothered to even phone me on xmas or new years. What kind of bf DOES that? And should I feel really guilty for wanting to date the other guy? Because I don't.

well, sounds like your boyfriend is a real pain in the ass. you deserve someone who loves you and cares for you. tell your boyfriend how you feel and maybe he'll change. it would always be nice to give him a second chance. if it doesnt go anywhere after that, then break it off and go for this other guy! maybe he'll be your new boyfriend ;)
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If some guy says you're both dating, but not officially going out [boyfriend/girlfriend], then does that mean you're single or taken?

i think you need to talk to him about it. a friend of mine has the same problem. but theyve made it pretty clear theyre exclusively hooking up. i personally think they should just go out already because theyre adorable. just ask him some time whether you want to be exclusive or not. its important to know where your relationship is going.
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Ok my girlfriend who i have been dating for 3 months tells me she loves me all the time on the computer and when we talk on the phone. I can tell her I LOVE HER on the computer with ease, but when it comes to saying it on the phone i tense up and can't seem to say it to her unless she says it first I really want to tell her first. What is wrong with me? HELP

its completely understandable. just give it some time.. also you can try saying it to youself or writing it down to try and make yourself more comfortable with the concept, just make sure no one else is around to catch you in the act!
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