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should i stick around
i am an 18 year old female. i have been on and off with this guy for three years and have had very good and some bad times...right now we are not going out, but we act like it. we are not seeing others and spend tons of time together. i love him and he used to love me but now he says he is confused about what love is. he doesnt want to go out and i dont understand how the title and how we are now are different. he might be going away for the summer. he is not seeing other people so i am wondering if anyone could explain maybe where he is coming from and if there is something i am not realizing or anything...thanks
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He said he needed space. And thats exactly what you shoud give him. Make some time for you, and treat him as your friend, not your boyfriend. If he doesn't want a relationship right now, don't give him one. It'll only make both of you even more confused. Give him time, and in time he'll come around and tell you what he wants - which, most likely, will be you and him dating again ;)
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sometimes you need a little time in your life to figure things out. the best thing you can do is just be his friends and he told you how he felt, theres no reason why you cant converse how you feel.
you know you love me,
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iv had the same kind of thing going on in my life, cept of course im in the guys situation, its really hard to knoq if there is gonna be trust in the relationship, simply for the fact that you guys have been off and on for so long, it seems like its so easy to just run away from the problems because you arn't going out so there are no long term consquences and no restraints that says he has to be tied down to you.
or he could just simmply be afraid of the commitment, ethier because he dosnt know if you are everything he wants, or just the thought of being tied down itself
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no flaming feelings but do you actually believe hes not seeing anyone else. think about it no no no no no that is not true babe go fine you someone else if he is cofused then you are confused i betcha he aint the finest in yo town!!!
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I think what you are not realizing is the only difference between acting like you are together and being together is him having to decide what he wants, rather then just go with the flow.
He isn't willing to take the risk of agreeing to be with you exclusively. I don't think it is much more complicated then that.
You have on your hands someone who is afraid of committing in even a small way, probably because of how rocky your relationship has been before, or maybe, because deep down, he just isn't that into you.
Either way, you need to stop worrying about his feelings and start to think a little more seriously about your own. Even if you do love him, is this situation really acceptable to you? Because it isn't going to change very quickly, and might take a lot of work to build trust and the relationship problem solving techniques to make it function again.
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