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Q: 16/F,This guy told me that he really likes me and I really like him too. But, the strange thing is that we're both really different and we don't have much in common. He is outgoing and is part of the whole popular crowd and mostly enjoys partying and getting drunk all the time. I'm the direct opposite of him cause I'm mostly a shy person and I'm not the crazy party type. Everyone tells me that itz cause of the whole opposites attract thing, but I can never understand why does it work that way?

i think opposites attract not because of their actions(partying, getting drunk) but because they like the other person's mind, they like their jokes, and style, and personality. everyone is outgoing on the inside and he already realized that and likes you for what is on YOUR inside.

i wasn't quite sure how to answer this, but i hope it helps anyways.
:)

Q: Well i am a f/13 and i like this boy and i think he likes me too. We nonstop flirt and we always talk. Even one time we both left the classroom just so we can talk. Well i think that it is the cutest thing every time we talk and there are people around us he always wispers in my ear and tells me. He gets so close that my chest and his chest touch and he doesnt move he just stays there with our chests touching. I think it is so cute how he wants to get so close and wispers in my ear. So just to flirt with him and make him enjoy being around me I wisper back into his ear and push my chest up against his and get as close as i can and we just stare into each others eyes. it is so romantic. Doesnt that sound sweet? Then i dont understand why he wont ask my to be his girlfriend? Please dont tell me to ask him out because i never will? Please go it to details, thanks in advance. remeber i rate 5s for good advice,
j.

i think maybe this boy is a little bit frightened of having a "girlfriend". some boys get nervous by the idea and really like someone, but don't nesseraily want them as their girlfriend. or maybe he's not allowed to have a girlfriend, or he thinks his friends will make fun of him. or maybe he's just a shy guy, and wishes that you would ask him. that would not be so good if you guys always wanted each other to ask the other out. i know it's hard to ask someone out, but if that guy likes you as much as you like him, go for it.

Q: There's a guy I like, and I'm thinking about telling him how I feel. Well, there's a big dance coming up and I was thinking about telling him then. Maybe while we slow dance or something... but then again, that could make it awkward. Any ideas/tips on what I should say and when I should say it? Thanks!

When you are slow dancing with the guy, towards the end of the song, put your hands up real close to his neck and stop moving. say, "can i ask you a question?" or something like that and then just tell him how you feel. he will really like it probably grin and say yes.
at least, that's what happened to me.

good luck!:)

Q: Today in Life Skills, my school counselor told us girls "all 13-year-old boys care about is looks." (it's not a co-ed class) She also went on to say that 13-year-old boys only like girls with big boobs and a big ass. She said that they are very shallow, but the best thing for us to do is wait for them to grow up.

Is this really true? Do boys only notice boobs and butts on a girl and nothing else? It doesn't make me feel too good knowing that, because I certainly don't have a big butt and big boobs, and I'd like to have a boyfriend.

i think your guidance counselor was completely wrong in saying that! of course that's not all boys care about! if they did, the world would be a very SINGLE place. because, if that was all a guy cared about, then he is really not worth it. but don't worry, there's someone out there for you, and you've just got to find him:)

Q: im 14/f and i was asked to prom by my boyfriend of a few months (2-3). he goes to a different school and they only have a junior prom so what im asking is do you people think 14 is too young for prom. i have to say im a mature 14 and my bf thinks so and thats why he likes me besides numerous other reasons.we wouldnt have sex or go to parties afterward so is just prom too young for a 14year old????? my parents know and are ok with me going but i still dont know..
thanx a bunch

Yeah, i think fourteen is a fine age to go to the prom. Even if you're in eighth grade, that's still ok because he asked you and you wouldn't do anything besides that. I say, go for it! Then, you could tell all your friends about it!

have fun:)

Q: Ok... here's the situation...
I'm a senior in high school (17 female) ...I have a crush on one of my teachers (25 male) ... hes cute and funny and all that... we're really good friends and many of my close friends seem to think he likes me back... but im not sure ... to get to the point ... my question is that would it be considered un-ethcial for us to go out after i was to graduate?

hmm...this is a hard question, but i would most deffently wait until after i graduated, maybe even a few more years, because you might still feel like a high-schooler.

Also, it's a bit of an age difference but it could work if you waited a few years.

:)

Q: IM 15/f and i really like this kid who has a gf and turns 18 today. i've practicaly changed part of my life to win him over. I think i;m going to give up b/c he has a gf. i talked to him a while ago. i was stupid last month and told him i loved him. he said he kinda liked me but he has a gf. she is 17. I started to dress different and listen to different music and like different things. do you think i should give up on him and just stop thinking/talking to him/seeing him. or should i act like everything is fine? he is going to help me this summer to helo me join the basketball team next year. im rly excited. i dont know what to do though b/c everytime i see him or talk to him i fall in love with him again. he flirts with me and everything and i love it. but, i dont know if i can do it anymore. so do you think i should forget all about him and move on or should i just continue getting my heart broken when i see him and just wait for something to finally happen? i rate good answers.

thanks!!

My advice is don't totally give him up, just take a break from him. Leave him alone for the next couple of months, maybe even until basketball season next year. That way, you won't get your heart broken or feel bad that he doesn't love you the way you like him.
See him as little as possible, and when you are near him, be his friend. No flirting, just act casual.

But don't change yourself for this guy. He could turn out to be really different then what you thought. Be yourself, and soon enough, a guy will come around and like you for you.

:)

Q: Me and my boyfriend are going through really hard times right now. He keeps telling me how he's too busy to talk or too tired to even figure things out. And I feel like I've just been the one to deal with his bad moods lately. Last night I was explaining to him how hurt I was about the fact that I was crying and all he could talk about was how tired he was about it. He just said that he just can't deal with all of this, so I told him that he doesn't have to deal with me anymore and we hung up. I'm always the one to come back to him after a fight. So, this time I'm letting him make the move. He's called twice tonight and I didn't answer because I just think he needs more room.

So my questions are: If he really cares about me, will he still keep calling to prove that he does want this to work?

How will I know that he really does want this to work?

Should I give him time? because I really don't want to be hurt anymore by the fact that he doesn't want to talk lately.

I need some advice, I will rate to let you know what I think

In my personal opinion, i would say that this guy should come over to cheer you up-not just call you, that could get annoying. it would also be nice if he brought something special with him for you-that would show how much he really cares.

Or, maybe he really is tired a lot lately and he could take some time off of work or whatever and yins could take a day just to relax and have fun, and talk about the way things have been going lately. Maybe he will apologize and come back to you.

But remember, if he really does care about you, he will not just give up and not call you or come to see you, he will do whatever he can so that you can forgive him and start over again.

hope it works:)

Q: Ok,
I have a boyfriend BUT the thing is that I am not allowed to have one. I don't know how long my relationship will last before my mom and dad find out...but I really like the guy. If I tell them I have a bf they will freak out...I really don't know what to do! PLEASE help!
(14/f)

If you are positive that your parents wouldn't understand, try this instead.

If that guy is as crazy as you are for him, it's easy. Tell him your problem and if he understands, he will suggest that you guys maybe can just be really good friends. That way, you won't have to lie to your parents any more and you will know that he really really likes you as well.

hope it works:)

Q: There is a young man I really like, who is also a good friend of mine. He likes this other female who is, really, the ideal girl. Even though she rejected him, he still wants her. I know I can't compete with someone like her, but still, how can I gain his attention (without being a whore, that is)?

This is a fun, yet tricky situation.
You can try several situations.
Wear pink. One of my best guy friends' says he always notices girls in pink.
Smile. It's nice to show your teeth when he looks at you and it will make him feel good.
Laugh. It's pretty and attractive.
Invite him to go places with you. It's a good way to get to know him even more and find out things you like about him.
And lastly (most importantly) be yourself. Maybe he will stop liking her, and like you. It's worth a shot and he might back off her for you.

Good luck:)

Q: okay i like this guy. i started talking to him online cause i kept noticing him around school. he's a year older than me. well i wanna ask him to hang out but im afraid to. spring break is coming up and i dont want to be stuck with out seeing him for 2 weeks. how can i casually ask if he wants to hang out?

thanks. ill rate high! :)

aww that sounds very nice.
firstly, find out things he likes to do.
go to concerts, movies, the mall, bowling, things like that.
and then pick one that you think would be fun for both you and him.
then bring up the conversation of the thing you would like to do, and casually ask him,
"i love going to ___! would you like to go sometime?"
and if he says yes, then there you go. invite some friends, too, if you want.
if he says no, just shake it off and say,
"maybe some other time."

good luck!

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