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hey im jess im 15 im from coventry/england im a good listener and so my friends have told me im good at giving advice im here to help anyone that is just looking for some advice,i love helping people out and i try and do so the best i can and i hope my advice will help those in need of some help i have msn if people want to add me and ask me things then thats fine all the best to everyone jessxx
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I need a girlfriend and I am shy around girls. Can someone give me advice on how to meet someone. _(link)

just be urself and be calm, you could maybe take up a hobie or join a club of some sort thats a good way to meet people and will also then have somthing incommon that you could talk about and then ask her what else she is into trust me just believe in youself be confident you will have the girls fighting over you good look babes xx

hello well i was txing this guy (we are going out but only for like 2 weeks so far) and at the end i put lots of love and he replied love ya too.
now what does the YA mean?? does he not like me enough to say u?? or what i need to know..
xxxthanksxxx _(link)

im not going to say that he does love you or he doesnt because you have only been going out for 2 weeks so maybe he doesnt even no he loves you or maybe he thinks he does but really dont i dont know but just because he rights ya in a txt doesnt mean he loves you less or loves you more its just short txting sayin ya mean you okay dont get worried but dont jump into the relationship to fast ok

hello
my girlfriend and i have been dating for abt a month.. and she told me that she was raped two years ago i was the first guy that took the news approiately.. we had sex for the first time and halfway through she asked me to stop and i did.
and asked for me to take her home..i did..
and she asked to break up with me..
reason being that now everytime she goin to see me she thinks of her rapist...
i dont want to let her go..
i really care for her alot .
she suffers from depression alot...
i want to be a part of her life..
im one of very few people she let in ..
now she shuttin me out..
she told me she wants me to leave cos she dont want to hurt me like she hurt her ex's because of the rape always effected her relationships..
she says she cares abt me too much to hurt me..
i care abt her too much to let her go..

i need advice on this..
also i need to council her somehow.. please give me advice on how to help her get though this..
she refuses to get professional help..
please help..
even if we dont get back together, i want her to progress with her life.. and be able to have a realtionship again
please help _(link)

well i think you should suggest to her to see someone about her problem about the counciling part you should make sure she knows its wasnt her falt for a start and if she keeps thinking that if she had done things differently it wouldnt of happend because it hapend and she needs 2 deal with it and move on,she feels weak and feels that she will never get over this and be able to move on but she can she also needs your support every step of the way i no your there for her but does she know that she needs to feel safe and needs to realize that she can trust you and that your always there for her.it was along time ago and she is still not over it so dont think she will in just a few weeks because she wont but it doesnt mean she will never get over it for one she will never forget that she was raped but in time she will be able 2 deal with the fact that it happend to her but she isnt going to let it ruen her life she needs to deal with it but in a way that something later on in her life could come up and remind her of the rape but she will be able to look at the way she turned her life around it will never go away but it doesnt mean she wont be able to deal with it hope ive helped xx

Ok....I've been talkin to my boyfriend on the phone alot But he ingores me almost all the time!!!!!!...all he does is plays his football/basketball game on his x-box and ingores me!...what should i do dump him or what?!? _(link)

it seems to me that he injoys his game's company more than yours have you thought about geting him of and away from the x box for a night suggest that you sould go out somewhere for a meal or do an activity together something that you both will injoy say to him that you to hardly spend some time together and you not really that close and perhaps doing something away from the x boxwill bring you both closer together

Hello...
i recently just broke up with my boyfriend.
now, i am a tom-girl. i hang out with ALL boys. and 2 of my best friends have a crush on me. my boyfriend was not okay with this... at all. he told me he broke up with me because he can't handle me hanging out with 2 boys (that like me) all the time. he just doesn't trust me. and he's already moving on. how can i make him see that i love him, and i only want to be with him? words aren't enough... and i just want him back. _(link)

well for one thing and im sorry if this isnt the answer your looking for but you cant make any1 trust you and if love isnt there for him then you cant make it happen either and i dont think it is cuz hes already moving on if he didnt trust you before then he never will it will always be there on his mind even if he does love you that trust will never be there im so sorry but if he cant move on then maybe its time for you to aswell

how do I get a boy friends like list some stuff like how ? what should I do

I will rate high

answer quickly _(link)

be yourself around lads be very talkative but not to much ask him questions about himself but dont make it seem like you just want to be nosy dont put him on the spot and dont make it seem like he has 2 answer be very honist n make him feel like your interested if he is to then he will make a move or he will try and catch up with you 1 day hope ive helped

okay so theres this lad his names nathan i was going out with him and i admitt i loved him infact i still love him but he became to possesive so i had to end it but now he just dont get the message and i avent a clue wat to do:( help me plz jess _(link)

well i think you should talk to him think about why you love him what do you love about him maybe he is in love with you aswell just be youself with him and dont lie to him or youself tell your head what your hearts saying if you love him then it shouldnt matter what hes like cause you will love him for him maybe you could give it another go and see if it works out if not put him straight tell him you think its time that you split and its time that he got over you and moved on

wut r the things that girls like about guys? and wut things should we give them as gifts? Im in despate need of help! I just dont understand girls! _(link)

all girls are different some like the romantic sort, some like bad boys and others dont really no what they want, just be yourself and be honist and dont make her do anything she dont want to do, as for gifts erm perhaps some jewlery/make up/perfume if she is that sort of girl if she dont wear make up then dont give her it cause she will think your trying to say she isnt pretty or something if she is sporty then you could get her a ticket where the two of you can go and watch some sport/ if you no what music she is into you could get her a cd or maybe a nice card

ok so there's this guy *Tim* and I have been talking to him alot on IMs but everytime we talk I somehow end up flashing him on my web cam. I mean I have dumps two of my boyfriends(now my exs). I really like this guy so don't tell me something like stop talking to him. I just wanna know if there is anything sneaky or something like that so that I don't end up flashing him!

I Really Need Some Help! _(link)

either get rid of your webcam or ask him to flash you and pluss he could be recording your or taking pictures so i would be very careful if i were you

Well okay I have this best friend whose a guy named Joe.. me and him went out before well a lot? and actually a few weeks ago we liked eachother (and i'm like still madly in love with him) until this other girl came into the picture.. her name is brooke (i dispise her) well see the thing is me and him talk 24-7 and stuff and we still hang out and he flirts so much but him & brooke are together still =/ but he doesn't really seem to like her that much? he considers me and him bestestest friends forever.. we even share secrets together? but i am in LOVE with this kid =( .. well last nite we had a school dance (he slowed danced with her obvisioly) and like when the fast songs were on i was like getting low and stuff tehehe =] and he was all near me i loved it =] and brooke and all her friends were like ugh but oh well for them? but idk what 2 do..? hmm what should i do _(link)

ask him straight just be honist and be youself it will be hard but if he likes you then its better for him to know the truth,tell him you feel for him so much and you have never felt like it with anyone else before dont put him on the spot tell him that he doesnt have to rush into things if he doesnt want to and tell himk you will give him time to think about thing he sounds like he really likes you aswell so i say go for it you havnt got anythink to lose you and him hit it of before then broke up and your still really good friends so that tells you that if it doesnt go well like before you can be friends again

Ok, I have a friend my age, she's the best friend I've ever had! And, I've always thought her little brother was REALLY hot! (he's 2 years younger than me, i'm 13 and he's 11, yeah, i know. It sounds weird but he totally looks like he's 14!) So one day we all went to the pool, me, my best friend, and a couple of other friends, and her brother came 2. We were all foolin around, especially me and him. He kept on tryin 2 sit on my shoulders and dunk my head under, We were having so much fun! Then, me and him started staring at eachother for a couple seconds, then we both looked away. That was when i realized that I really liked him!!

I don't know what to do! He's the guy I REALLY like, but then his older sister is my best friend! I am soooo stuck in the middle!! _(link)

well if you truly like him and you feel so much for him then i say go for it to be honist i dont think that age really matters if you love someone and they love you back then it shouldnt matter but remember hes only 11 you have just found out that you want to be with him but him might be confused and might not be sure on what he wants i say leave it for a year or so just be his mate and if you want him to no that you like him then tell him but dont rush him into anything my mate used to like my bro she thought he was 14 aswell cause he does look older then his age and i no it must feel strange but perhaps you could try spending time alone with him a few times a week i think you should tell him how you feel first before you tell your mate but i think you should let your mate no aswell cause if you and him do get together you dont want to be doing it behind her back so just tell her how you feel about her bro she will be abit freaked out about it but she doesnt see him the way you see him, just tell him you like him maybe ask if he has any feelings for you im sure he does from the way you have said what has been going on anyway i hope it all goes well and i hope my advice helped

my boyfriend and i have had sex now. im really worried about if i get pregnant. should i tell my parents about it?
oh im 14 and hes 15 _(link)

for 1, did you use protection,2,were you forced into having sex,3,do you think telling your parents about it will help, will they support you if you are pregant, well first off you need to find out if you are actully pregnent and not just you geting worried if not then there will be no reason to tell your parents unless you feel the need to tell them your having sex incase you ever do get pregnant so they will no you didnt lie to them, if it turns out you are pregnent i think you should tell them yes they will be dissapointed in you but im sure they will stand by you and whatever you choose to do thats what parents are for just go to a chemist or clinic and get a pregnancy test you need to find out for certern hope it turns out to be the answer you want good luck jess xx

sometimes i get real frustrated with my b/f. and i start to hit and throw things i feel that if i dont get my anger under control that i will hurt him one day and it will jeopardize our relationship. how can i get my anger under control? _(link)

you could try going to arger management or get sum counciling du u no the reason why you get angry is there a problem thats geting you down because u could be very dipressed because when im dippressd i become angry like really angry n i take my anger owt either by punching a wall or throwing things round my room and i become angry at the person that has made me dippressd or is the reason i am dipressd so perhaps you have a problem that your just hiding from or if ther eis nothing bothering you then perhaps you just get very stressd and frustrated easily so you should probly get some medication to calm you down abit

do girls where condoms? _(link)

yes then can if they choose to its called a femidom its rubber just like a condom but its alot bigger and it fits into the vergina and it opens up and when the lad an girl av sex the lads semen will collect in the femidom it will stop the semen passing through

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