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HEY EVERYONE! MY NAMES CHANTAL. I'M HERE TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS THAT YOU ALL HAVE. I'M NOT AN EXPERT OR ANYTHING OF THAT SORT AND DON'T CLAIM TO BE. I AM ON THE OTHER HAND WILLING TO GIVE YOU MY PERSONAL OPINION TO YOUR QUESTIONS. = ]

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ok so me and my boyfriend just broke up for the 3rd time!!!!!! it is driving me insane i was in love with him!!!! and all of my friends are saying just get over you are a pretty girl and you will get another boyfriend, but the saying is that you never get over your first love, and that scaries me!!!!! because when me adn my ex broke up before i would date a guy for a week and then break up with him all of a sudden because i stopped liking him! and my ex was the same way!! but now he is going to ask out my best friend(Tressa) and i don't know that just drives me crazy!!!!!! i dont know if it is because i am jealious, or it is because i know that she will hurt him because she moved but she lies to the school saying that she lives at her old house just so she can go to our school! and everytime she gets a bf(at our school) she cheats on them with another guy down where her new house is!!! and i dont wat to see my ex get hurt!!!! should i tell him???? but then i don't know if i should get involve with that
i just dont wat to see him get hurt!!!!!!!
HELP!!!!!

Well I don't know why you guys broke up, but time will heal it. don't try to move on right away, at least that's hwo it is for me. It's better if I take my time and heal from the break up and then don't go looking for guys. The right one will come along one day. As far as you telling him about you best friend and how she might cheat on him. Hah.I so wouldn't bothe rtelling him, cuz for one major reason he is asking out your best friend..now that is pretty low and let him learn on his own. you telling him probbaly wont make it any better, he'll probably just say you're making it up because you are jealous. Just let him learn for himself and as far as you just hang in there. You will be ok over time.
good luck to you.

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I just recently told my guy friend (who is now my boyfriend) that I have feelings for him. So, we decided to be together and there's a huge problem.

This all happened at worse time. He joined the Marines and will be leaving shortly after Thanksgiving. So everything happened pretty darn late. The thing is that I'm not sure if I want to be a military girlfriend or wife. I'm great at doing long distance, but I'm not sure if I'll be great at this. We are both 17 and I just feel so young for this. But I admit my feelings are very strong for him.

I would never convince someone not to follow their dreams, so that's way out. I guess what I'm asking is what to expect when your boyfriend is gone for so long?

Any advice or stories would help.

I personally think if you have strong feelings for him that they are not going to go away. So you breaking up with him or saying you don't know if you can handle it or not isn't going to make it any easier. You will probably just always wonder "what if" about the relationship, you know. In my opinion I would say just stay with him and see how things go. Your going to have to expect well missing him of course and being worried about him and how he is and wanting to see him and everything, it's not going to be no piece of cake. The way i look at it things in life that are worth it aren't going to be easy. If you did decide to just be friends, you know you're gonna have about the same worries if not more for him. I have a friend that is in the army and he is actually missing in action right now for abot 5 months so far. It's hard, but at least i know that i was there writting him and trying to show my support the best i could. Just make sure he knows either way that you love and support him for being such a strong person and doing what he is doing for our freedom.
Good luck to the both of you!

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k so i've always been weird about talking on the phone. like i get all nervous when i call people and i don't know why. i feel like when i call people they're just annoyed. like me and my boyfriend never really talk on the phone and sometimes i want to but i don't want to call him because i'll think he thinks i'm annoying, and he doesn't really call me. we text. it's not just caling him either it's everyone..what should i do?

I use to have that problem. With even my friends, I just felt like they were like man this girl is annoying me or she's boring and so on. What helped me is that you just have to realize that they are your freinds and boyfriend becuase they like you as you are and they like talking to you and you just have to be confident with yourself and know that they do enjoy talking to you or else they wouldn't even be your friends or boyrfriend. Just think if you were afraid to talk to people in person or text like you are to talk on the phone, how would you make freinds? You wouldn't. Just try and relax and be yoyrself because rememebr who you are is who they like.
Good luck!
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I wanna make my boyfriend a mixed cd. We are in a long distance relationship and I want to mail him a mixed CD that I plan on putting together with great thought. But he's in college and I'm in highschool. Would it seem too "highschool" of me to do that? Do college kids even make mixed CDs for each other? Or is this a cute idea? I want to suprise him with the CD in the mail. Tell me what you think!

I personally think it's a very cute and nice gift. It's very personal of you to take your time to pick out all the songs and make it for him. Shows that you care and you put thought into it, just didn't go out and buy a cd. I always wanted a guy to make me one.lol.I'd say go for it, I don't think your ever too old to get a mixed cd. Mostly everyone loves music, both young and old!
good luck= D

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it seems long but it's really not, it's just becuase i had to break it up.

Alright, so me and "Billy" have had this thing? I guess you could call it a thing, but it's been about a month and a half now, and nothing has happened.

My friend told him i liked him, but that was a long time ago, and he said he needs to get to know me.

and at homecomming people were telling me to dance with him, but no one would tell me that he said anything, so i didn't.

i regret that i didn't take my chance when i could have.

and i don't know what to do.

i think he likes me because like he doesn't talk to me unless we are alone and wouldn't that mean that he's nervous he would mess up infront of others?

and, when we are with other people he like totaly ignores me, but like he's saying stuff to me, but he's like hey "sally" guess what, but then he like looks at me?

and when he's on myspace i want to just message hime and be like dude, i like you. and see what he says, but every time he's on i'm just getting on and then like he's signed off and it's that stupid time when you log off but myspace still has your online now icon up.
so he's not really on.

so i don't know.
it seemed like he liked me, but i'm afraid that he stopped because he thought i didn't like him after i didn't dance with him.

but whe recently when some where and we were driving home and i was like taht was lame and he said at least i got to spend time with you.

what does this mean?

blah.
should i wait it out?
if i do that, i feel like he might stop liking me, but i don't want to tell him because what if he seriously doesn't like.

i guess it would be better to find out now, wouldn't it?

well anywho, 15/f if it matters.
he's 15 too

In my opinion I would just say go for it tell him you like him. The worst thing that would probably happen is he could say only as friends. Now would that be so bad? I mean at least you're not stressing out what each thing he says and does mean. You know, at least you would know if there is a chance with him or not. Maybe he'll say he does like you.
good luck.

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ok, i have a bf. but he never tlks 2 me. then this other guy came... i guess i fell in luv with him. and i luv him more than my bf!! the new guy always tlks 2 me, flirts with me, and all of that junk, u kno. but my bf doesnt. i dont wanna break up with my bf cause i dont wanna go breaking anyones heart... WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE!?!?!?! pls help me!!

Ok first off, if your boyfriends doesn't even talk to you then he's not acting like a boyfriend should. In a realtionship communtiction is a very important key to making it work. If you don't talk then you can't resolve problems, get to know eachother, the list goes on. If you find yourself liking this guy more then your boyfriend and he has qualties that you are looking for in a guy, he seems to be trying to treat you right. Then hey I say go for it. You only live once, no point in staying in a realtionship that you are unhappy in. Do what makes you happy, and if you think you might want to stay with your boyfriend. I would suggest talking to him and asking him why he doesn't really talk to you too much and getting his side of the story on everything.
Good luck. hope i helped some!

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hi my name is elizabeth. my question is about what am i doing wrong as to why can i get a boy friend? i have had some boy friends befor not many but some. all i can really remember was how happy i was when i had one. its been almost a year since my last boy friend and i HATE it i mean yeah my school has got a lot of good looking guys. i try to get there attintion but it seams like it never works. i mean im a nice girl,i get told alot im pretty,sweet,and caring so why cant i get a boy friend my longest relashonship has only been months and year sometimes boys message me on facebook or somthing saying thay think im cute and we should hang out. yeah some of them are my age but i dont like them like i dont think there cute. am i just being selfish and thinking about all myself or what? and all i am somtimes is sad when i hang out with my friends and thay have boy friends and im always all alone yeah it gets old and it starts to hurt =[and all i ever want is to just be happy again so PLEAS some one give me some advice.

I know how you feel. I use to want a boyfriend so badly besause I felt left out and weird and always wondered what was wrong with me, I mean my friends all had thier fair share of ones. Then I asked my friend what I could do to meet more guys like her. She said just be yourself, be more outgoing. So actually that very same day I went and was more outgoing and ended up talking to a complete stranger at the store that i thought was cute and after small talk with him everyday i went there (fyi-he worked there) he asked me for my phone number. We dated for about two months. so from all that i leanred you just have to go for it, you think a guy is hot and seems nice at your school go talk to him ask him what he's up to, hint around to hanging out. Just be confident in yourself and it will make guys be confident in you. Do not get so down on yourself becuse you don't have a guy, trust me one of these days you will meet the guy for you. It all just takes time, so let it.
Good luck. Hope I helped some!

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any one who wants to answer please do i need to find out what she thinks about me b4 its to late

It depends on the girl. All girls are different, just like all guys are differnt. In my case, I will flirt, laugh a lot, smile, joke around, make small talk. It all depends on the guy I like at the time though. With some I just freeze up, get all nervous, can't think of things to say, jsut plain out act goofy. My best advice would be heck just go for it, tell her how you feel. Maybe ask her to the movies?? See how that goes, and go from there.
Good luck!

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ok so my friends having this problem with her bf and here is her question.........



ok so theres this guy who asked me out, and i just couldnt say no because hes like really really sweet and he did it in person, not through a friend...but the problem is that i dont like him...only as a friend, so now i have a bf that i dont like and the guy i really do like just now started to talk to me and flirt with me...so the problem is that i dont know what to do about my bf...like how to tell him that i only like him as a friend, but i really dont want to hurt his feelings, cuz i know he'll be totally heartbroken...what do i do???????

sorry that was kinda long lol

In my opinion i would tell your friend to break up with him as soon as possible if she only sees him as a good friend. the longer she lets it go on and leads him on into believing she does have more then friendship feelings for him then he is gonna get even more heartbroken the more time goes on. if you want a suggestion on how to tell him, i suggest you tell him how you feel just say it in a nice way that hey you know i'm sorry but i only feel friendship feelings towards you, your a real great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you, but i just feel that we should be friends. he will understand over time.
hope i helped some!

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