i think you should take some time & think who's more important?
1st of all if the guy is telling you he'd leave her 4 you but denying it 2 her face then i dont think he would or wants 2 loose her. If that was the case he wouldent have lied & said it was true 2 beggin with.
& your friend ;if shes a real friend & she knows your happiness is next to him & his is next to you then no matter how much it hurts her she would have 2 let him go.
but it pretty much comes down to you because you have 2 pick between whats more important...your friendship with this girl thats like a sister to you or the guy that you say you love. think wisely because eigther way one is to loose.

If i was you i would let the guy go & move on 2 someone whos free or at least someone whos not with one of your friends. I mean i know it would hurt YOU real bad but it sounds to me like hes fake his word isint anything.

its up to you tho goodluck

ok. shes your friend & you might not wanna hurt her feelings but the best thing to do is tell her what your brother said. Tell her he's just not attracted to her like that & if that dosent work ask your brother 2 talk 2 her and let her know from his own mouth.
-in a way if they are always arguing maybe your brother does kind of like her & hes just not telling you. i know i used to HATE my boyfriend with a passion i couldent stand him & my brother would ask me if i liked him & i'd be like ewww hell no f* dat lol but after some time i finally admitted it & weve been 2gether for a yr.
ask him it wont hurt && wich ever the situation is your friend will STOP bugging YOU! :D
goodluck!

this sort of happens between me & my boyfriend but he does trust me a lil more.
i would advice you to talk 2 him about it & tell him try 2 make him understand where your coming from. If he still decides not to listen to you then you have to decide whats more important in the long run,your boyfriend or having guy friends.
its your choise & no matter how much you love him he cant decide wether you speak to someone or not! :))
goodluck!

haha. well this song is pretty straight forward
but you could just play it for him saying you like the song
its called "sex talk" by ms.sancha & silencer i think.
...[most of it is in english but some words are in spanish so if you guys arent spanish speakers *ehh* ://....]
listen to it tho i believe it would be real good for this ;]-

umm if he's trying to only se you when he wants & is trying to keep you in his house instead of hanging with you somewhere else other than indoors,then maybe its not much of a pity deal...maybe its sex.
i think eigther he's using you just for sex when he wants it or he's with you like you say to not hurt you but eigther way you need to understand
your being hurt anyways.
make your choise & do whats best for you
:))
im sorry if it sounds mean ;//
b4 you do anything talk 2 him & ask him 2 be straight forward with you but be strong when your asking him because if you show weakness he might lie.

wow i can imagine the pain!
well first there is really no way to get him to come & talk 2 you unless he infact really comes up to you & yu'd have to wait & see. Maybe if you really would want to have him back you can push pride & everything aside & go speak 2 him. Just ask if he would consider going back with you or something && say you would be able to try & avoid the problems & arguments. If not then maybe seeing other people would be the best choise so you could both meet other relationships.
-You cant hide or change schools it's just some things you have to phase & put up with because there's no running from your problems afterall!

-playing hard to get? In love theres no time to waste playing games so my advice would be to handle it in a mature way & let things fall into place...:))
hope things work out

ok well first not to sound rude or anything but if he hangs up he obviously dont wanna talk to you and most likely if he broke up with you for no reason within your mind then maybe he dosent like you anymore...?
feel free to disagree with me so if you think its something else mmmmm well if he dosent talk on the phone talk to him in person juss come at him & dont start by omg i love you no! just ask wassup and try to hold a good conversation so if it goes well ask him if you could ask him a question and just ask why was it that he broke up with you because you still like him and you were wondering if he did too or if that was the reason he's pushing you away
now if he dosent even speak to you in person write it down in a letter and give it to him or have someone give it to him.
goodluck boo!

okkk.
in my opinion your right,long distance relationships aren't the best ;//
i know i hate it when i go to mexx. && am apart from my baby even if its just a weekend hehe. i feel your desperation & pain but if you know for sure you aint never going to see him then maybe the best thing to do is tell his sister to let him know. Why would you hang on to someone who you cant hug/kiss and even worst speak too?
yeah it hurts bcuz you love him but theres always others although it may not seem like it at the moment.
Now if you will see him but not til like a long time tell him you guys should see other people just to see if you could make it thru at least til he comes back or something.
it's really up to you but between us i had a boyfriend who was 4 hours away and we went out for 6 months...girl i never spoke to him throughout those 6 months lol.
[[the difference is i didint like him at all;/]]
anywho....afterall you cant hold on to something thats invisible unless you put your best to what you know is invinsible.... pretty much do what your heart tells you!
if something goes on & you wanna talk hit me up
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good luck boo :]]

well some guys are just to shy to do nice stuff for girls or they just dont have much experience in doing so.i know every girls dream is to have a guy who pampers her and makes her feel loved all the time but i suggest you stop asking for romantic gestures from his part. i can assure you one of these days he will do something sweet for you and it will mean so much because you'll know its coming from him and not cuz you asked him to.
just let him know how you feel for him and when he starts noticing how sweet you are to him he'll feel the need to show you some real love back.
be patient with him.
goodluck

what i have learned is never give up on someone you cant go a day without thinking about!
guys always "fall" for the girl that looks amazingly beautiful. this of course lowers our self esteem but girl your just as beautiful as the girl he likes. Try and get him to know you even more. spend more time with him eventually when your comftrable enough to tell him you love him tell him you can't loose anything.
If this girl does choose to go out with him simply because she dont like to be single im pretty sure this relationship wont work out, so be there for him.
My advice is try to get him to like you slowly as a friend not all flirty and stuff...im telling you from experience this is how i started with my bf and now we have 9 months together and we feel like were our other halfs but for that i had to build up the courage to tell him and he took a chance on me ;]
goodluck hunn.

i think you should jus let her be with this new guy..after all shell be back if your saying she has feelings for you. sometimes people just need to explore whatever it is thats out there in order to know that the right thing for us is somewhere else and maybe shell realize this. Dont try to brake them up because thats messed up and then again what goes around comes around!
hopefully this girl sees that the one she ants is you soon tho;]]
goodluck!

girl brake up with him!
this is obiously not going good and after all you cant keep holding on to something you never REALLY had! and besides he made you loose a friend what kind of shit is that??!
but if i were you i wouldnt talk to her nomore because thats real messed up what she was doing too! and well the same thing happened to me exept i still talk 2 my "friend" but because i have to not because i want to. but yeah i think you should brake up with him because im sorry but he probably likes her too since he does click on you just to talk 2 her!
dont worry tho if you do leave him youll find someone better who will NOT fuck up on you! [[hasent happened to me so far but i know it will...im just choosing to have FUUUUUN fo a while lol]]=]]

mmm maybe they talk about you!
but it would kind of get me mad too so i think you should talk to both of them and see what it is that is going on between them you know...thats wrong because your best friend knows that hes your boyfriend but dont jump into conclusions just like that they could be spending all that time talking about you...even tho im sorry but it dont seem like it...=//
then y would he call her momma or whatever?? *ugh* bois these days are so dumb! but yeah if you see this goig on tell him you are feeling very uncomftrable and if this keeps up your sorry but your gonna have to let him go...feels bad but its the best thing to do..trust me
good luck!

Well maybe she does like you but she dosent want to hurt her best friend. Give her time and let her talk it out with your ex. Trust me she likes you because a girl would not cry for a guy telling her he likes her if she dosent like him back!
give her and yourself time to let your last relationship stay behind.
good luck!

Well that is probably not really liking somebody. You cant change feelings for someone that fast and i think you should think about this for a sec. I know it sometimes seems like the person you like is unreachable to you but trust me there will be somebody out there! You just cant go on moving on from guy 2 guy just to see who likes you 2. well there is no way to not like somebody because its all in you.tell yourself what it is that you really want and then youll see who it is that you really have feelings for.
just chill and wait it out.
goodluck!

ok well i think its really sweet dat he cares because i mean think of it maybe he likes you back.Mybe he told you he was thinkin of giving up on relationships because he dosent really know you feel this for him.
I Don`t think you should wait any longer!Talk to him about how you feel. Even through the simplest letter,If you dont think you are able to say it. Also your friends can tell him for you[[dat always works with me]].
Its hard for him to actually believe that you wont leave him in 2 weeks but you should try and win him slowly.Let him confide in you as friends if it is nessecary.afterall if you like this guy no matter when you get with him it will b worth the wait;]
good luck and hope ya be together soon!

girl im dealing with the same thing right now!
well almost listen up.
my x wich i still kind of have feelings for likes my closest friend and they have been kissing and all this other things.well it really buggs me when she tells me all about it.i was crying for like days but girl listen 2 me!...i noticed that da best thing to do is just let them be! I know it hurts and all but think of it this way it wont last forever! also think of the possibility that maybe you are over him and the reason you dont want them to go out is because your scared he will like her more then he liked you...i know this is my problem. but yeah i think you should let it be and find yourself a new guy that isint gonna be doing that kind of stuff and let her keep da mest up guy!
well hope dat made sence lol
take care

This is were you take a chance. I know dat right now you think you need him because a part of you still likes him but think of what is best for you. Think if by talking to him you are only hurting yourself. Try telling him that you cant get the idea of just talkin to him for some time because you are trying to forget about him but cant or something. Trust me you wont sound pathetic and if he thinks you do well fu** him.
Girl if he tells you he misses you he probably still likes you&may-b just may-b its time to forgive him for hurting you so bad.Im not telling you to forget about it[none of dat] im just telling you to speak up for wat you feel before its too late!
i hope all goes well...=]

if you like yourself the way you are never change for anybody! you have FRIENDS who love you and while you have that dont care if any of the other people like you or not because they are not gonna be the ones there for you when you need them.
although you can always get involved. join groups at school with different people,also when you see some kids whom uve never talked to say hi and smile.a smile always changes peoples aspects.this way people will start thinkin of you as a more friendly person and will probably even start telling others about how nice and cool you actually are.
hope all goes well

it is not wrong for you to love him even tho he has a girlfriend because we are nobody to tell our hearts what to feel.i dont know if hes trynna make you jelous or not but chill he will break up with his girlfriend soon and maybe ull have a chance. If i were you i would probably have my friends ask if he really really likes his girlfriend and if he says no well there you go maybe he is tryin 2 get to you,but ull never know unless you ask.about asking him out i wouldnt know because i dont have the guts to ask nobody out haha!dats your choice right there...
goodluck!

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