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My boyfriend who lives far away (5 states) was talking to me by IM and he said he was really angry. When I asked him why he said that he asked one of his friends a question and she said that she would give him an answer but before she did she wanted to know why he was asking. He proceeded to swear and call her names (to me) and said he blocked her on facebook. He asked me what I thought and I didn't know what to tell him, he said she was lucky he didn't go and kick her a**. I was sad because i thought he was overreacting but I didn't want to tell him that... I'm afraid of hurting his feelings and him getting mad at me. What do I do? Also, he is kind of a secret, my mother is really strict and If i don't do something good enough she yells at me. She is always comparing me to my 22 year old sister who got straight A's in school and college. She says if she had it her way she wouldn't let me date until 50 years old. What do i do to gain her approval?

Thank you! I'm sorry for the long length of this question!

P.S I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15 (16 in October) (link)
first off its hard to understand your first part of the question like what did your boyfriend ask the female..and if he didnt like her answer why ask ha in the first place you know.. as far as your mother situation i believe if you show your mom that you is mature enough to have a boyfrind she wouldnt mind but the comparing that she does with you and your sister isnt right you cant acheive the same things that your sister is yall are two completly different persons your mom need to understand that plus your only 14 your still young you have time to approv, in whatever you want dont let nobody tell you different .


So for about 9 months now, this guy and I (I'm a girl, obv.) have been almost a thing. We spend a lot of time together and act as a couple. But sometimes, we'll separate for a while. He's asked me to date him twice now. The first time, I had just met him and wanted to get to know him. The second time, we were at a party and he told me to date him. I said, "Ask me again when you're sober". Didn't happen obv. But the past month or so, we've been really acting like a couple. He asked me to the movies and took my hand, kissed me goodnight and told me he'd call me the next day. And he did, which he can't always be depended on to do. This continued for a while. For a few weeks, we were good. Then one night, his ex started screaming at him because he wouldn't date her again. And then she pulled me into it and said, "what are you doing f**king that 17 year old?!" (he just turned 24). Which of course led to him being subjected to a lot of b.s. from a lot of his friends. Now, a week later, we have gotten over this fight, seeing as he totally ignored me because of the incident. We've been spending time together all week, yet I'm getting that feeling that he's going to run off again. Why is this? And I don't feel as if he's playing me because I'm not giving him sex, which he doesn't ask for, but if that were his intention, why would he stick around for three quarters of a year? He doesn't have to ask to see me every day. I don't ask him to call and offer to pick me up from work. Or things like that. I don't know. Help anyone? (link)
it seem to me that he's confused on what he really wants if its you or her his ex . but how long have him and his ex was together but if he's been dating her for a long period of time he's definetley is going to go back to her so dont get so emotional and invovled wit him


I have recently lost the love of my life. I regret it . I know we still love eachother and i know we still both have deep feelings for eachother .&& i want to try this relationship thing again. but everytime i bring it up he just changes the subject or gets mad at me then doesnt talk to me for a month or so ... (link)
it seems like he's playing with your emotions he know you still love him thats why he acting like that i had an expeirence like this i just let him go and dont talk to him or nothing and i feel good i dont worry about him or try to have feelings for him anymore , just move on


I am a 21/f and about a little over 2 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 and a half years. There are many reasons for the break up and it was mutual when I initiated it. Reasons for the break up were because things weren't the same anymore, trust issues, argued alot, things became routine, didn't talk throughout the day alot, no romance, more like friends than bf/gf...etc. After the the break up the ex wasn't so fond of the idea anymore and kept trying to get back together. I declined and he let me be. We had a long conversation like a week or so after and was kind of like closer because we both realized we weren't getting back together. I haven't talked to him since. He asked if it was okay if he deleted me off facebook when the break up went down and I was like ok? Mine is private and his isn't. Even though I know this isn't helping.. I do the occasional creep on his FB.. and here recently he had mentioned going to the movies with the girl who he talked to behind my back. All of a sudden I grew angry/irritated at the fact and I'm pretty sure its normal to feel that way. I am obviously not going to say anything because he aren't together and I am doing my thing too.. I am wondering if it would be bad to text one of these days to see how he's doing, maybe not mention the fact I don't like him seeing that girl but see how things are. It's really weird not being able to just text him out of habit and say hey and stuff... he was apart of me for over 4 years and it's not that I want to be with him again but I wonder if we could be friends but I'm not so sure right now would be good. I am at lost at what to do and I am probably answering my own question by saying don't talk to him, don't be friends and stop looking at his FB.. but easier said than done. Any suggestions on how to move on? (link)
so first when yall broke up should have told him that you still want to be friends but sometimes beibg friends with your ex can get a lilttle chaotic because you began wanting to talk to him even more and the next thing you know you having those feelings again that you had when you guys were going out i cant make your desicion for you but i think you guy should be friends to a certain extint like let him know you dont wanna know about his personal life with his gf just news about him ....but if you do kick him out of your life for good i can tell you now you just gonna want him more and more in it ..... sorry for writing so much


me/18 bf/20

my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and we've had alot of "trust issues' eventually i found out that he was cheating on me with another girl so of course i confronted him about it, but he denied the whole thing and said he just firted with her he then confessed everything he ever did during the course of our relationship, he says that he just flirted with girls but i don't believe that this is true, he said that the only reason he did this was because he found out i was flirting with other guys behind his back, but he also cheated before he found out about this, i know it was wrong of me to flirt with other guys but i thought we looked past that but it seems we didn't because he told me that he "got close" with one of his friends too, i guess the reason i'm still with him is because he confessed everything and we could start again, but i'm still uncertain, what if he does it again? i love him so much but i don't trust him at all please help me (link)
the reason why you feel this way is because you probably thinks he is telling you the truth but dont know but you know what people say if he did it once he will do it again to you or whoever that he did it with


how do i know that my partner love me for me and not my sex?

im 15 years of age ,and im a female (link)
I think dat you shud wait an entire two weeks an just tell him that you tied of having sex n if he get mad data how you kno if thats what it is in your relationship sex no love


OK I find this odd..a few weeks ago I said to my before I wanted some time to myself to get situated on a new job. This wasn't meant to be a break up, just suggested time and that she stay at his familys house. I am a single mom of 2 and the breadwinner. He took care the kids, and just refused to work.

Anyways a week later he suggested time to himself...so I ignored him and a few days later he contacted me on a oddity...and chatted through text. He watched my daughter also so I could go to a meeting.

to sum it up...Ihad another event and and he was watching my daughter I was trying to see if there was hope to fix our relationship..he siad it was fixable but had no plans to move back..

basically there is no sort of future, so I decided to be strong and I left.

He texted me saying I left a jewelry of mine there..then texted if I got home. The way I see it not to be mean..if you don't want anything to do with me WHY bother. I know he was being considerate asking if I got home..

The following morning he texted me several times and had a sibling text me as well...
basically finding out where I am...

my friend told me he's been trying to play the "cool" card..saying he doesn't want a relationship..

Yet it bothers him if he didn't hear from me...whats the deal?

He basically wasn't giving me any future promise with us in a relationship...even if he was worried about me WHY bother? He wouldn't know what's going on with me anyways if he didn't want to be bothered and "do nothing"

I havent responded back in 3 days he is still texting me, why? I thought he didnt want anything to do with me or whatever? (link)
your ex or boyfriend whatever you want to call it just playing hard to get with you. and possibly a reason hes stedy bugging you about getting home and all that good stuff is because he still have feelings for you and cant express them face to face but in a text or over the phone think of it like he really cares about you yall have kids together just try to work it out for your children sake!


Is it ok for a guy to hit his girlfriend, even if she did something to piss him off really bad? (link)
well to tell you the truth it really isnt healthy in a relaship because if you pissed him off one more day and its worser you can end up in your grave before you even kno it . it best to just leave him alone or get him some type of hep to control that and then again that be the type of enviroment he use to or grew up in!but still he needs help


Hi! So i have these two friends, Steve and Mike. Steve is 19 and 4 years older than me and mike is 16 and one year older than me. i like mike, not steve. and steve is like a physco and is going to mikes house tonight to go talk to him and scare him so he does not talk to me anymore. But also Mike is adorable and so polite to my parents, but he might just be wanting to have sex with me. Its so crazy. If you have any advice on what i should do PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
really this isnt a hard question if you like mike ,thats okat let steve be your past if you dont have any feelings for him . you basically need to sit down and talk to mike about yall realtionship like tell him that you want him to love or like you for you not whats in your pants thats all and if he dont understand then he just aint the right one for you!




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