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I thought he didnt want anything to do with me or whatever?
OK I find this odd..a few weeks ago I said to my before I wanted some time to myself to get situated on a new job. This wasn't meant to be a break up, just suggested time and that she stay at his familys house. I am a single mom of 2 and the breadwinner. He took care the kids, and just refused to work.
Anyways a week later he suggested time to himself...so I ignored him and a few days later he contacted me on a oddity...and chatted through text. He watched my daughter also so I could go to a meeting.
to sum it up...Ihad another event and and he was watching my daughter I was trying to see if there was hope to fix our relationship..he siad it was fixable but had no plans to move back..
basically there is no sort of future, so I decided to be strong and I left.
He texted me saying I left a jewelry of mine there..then texted if I got home. The way I see it not to be mean..if you don't want anything to do with me WHY bother. I know he was being considerate asking if I got home..
The following morning he texted me several times and had a sibling text me as well...
basically finding out where I am...
my friend told me he's been trying to play the "cool" card..saying he doesn't want a relationship..
Yet it bothers him if he didn't hear from me...whats the deal?
He basically wasn't giving me any future promise with us in a relationship...even if he was worried about me WHY bother? He wouldn't know what's going on with me anyways if he didn't want to be bothered and "do nothing"
I havent responded back in 3 days he is still texting me, why? I thought he didnt want anything to do with me or whatever?
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your ex or boyfriend whatever you want to call it just playing hard to get with you. and possibly a reason hes stedy bugging you about getting home and all that good stuff is because he still have feelings for you and cant express them face to face but in a text or over the phone think of it like he really cares about you yall have kids together just try to work it out for your children sake!
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There could be a lot of reasons.
He could be feeling guilty, and wanting to make sure you aren't an emotional wreak.
He could be bored, and just seeking drama to entertain himself.
He could just be so deeply confused that he doesn't know what he is doing or why.
Stop worrying about what he thinking or feeling. You know what you are thinking and feeling. This was a bad match, and you don't wish to speak to him anymore. Right?
So ignore the texts. If you need to send him one message asking him to stop texting you. Just that "Please stop texting me." and then get back to the business of living your life regardless of his current brand of crazy.
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He obviously still cares about you. I believe that he still wants to be with you too. Why don't you ask him why he's still texting you? Try to figure out what he wants. Sometimes guys just don't listen..even if you tell them to go away. Just ask him and say you don't want to talk to him or have anything to do with him whatsoever. Tell him your feelings and what you want too so he can listen as well. Then ignore him for a couple months. He should go away after that.
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Why don't you ask him? That's probably the best way to find out what his intentions are.
He obviously still cares and for whatever reason (like maybe he doesn't want to put in the effort or wants to be single again) he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. He said he thinks it can be fixed, but he won't try. Why won't he?
It's none of his business what you get up to and what you do. If he asks, you don't have to reply and you can tell him it has no relevance to him.
I think it sounds a little like he wants you because he can't have you. The more you ignore him and pull away the more he wants to have you. If he keeps asking you questions, then just ask him why. Ask him exactly what you asked in your question "Why are you still texting me when you didn't want anything to do with me?". If he says he doesn't want anything to do with you then tell him to leave you alone.
Things can change and maybe in the future he will come back and want to fix things and be with you again, but you shouldn't be wasting your time on someone that isn't willing to put a little effort into keeping you.
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