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Hey kids, I'm Brittany...
one of the many that you'll meet in your lifetime,
but I promise you'll remember me.
I've been through a lot of shit, and I know what I'm talking about. Please...dont hesitate to ask me any questions...I WILL find a way to answer you by any means possible. I want to be able to help people stay out of the situations that I and my friends have gone through. Also feel free to message me on AIM or myspace or something...I'm always willing to talk.

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Hey, i have a question i am talking with this girl on the phone, and like we have all these awkward silences but then again we have some stuff to talk about except i feel that i am doing alot of the talking and i dont' want that. I want to be more of the listener since i know girls like to talk. I don't know wat to do about the silences. I really like this girl but i am focused on too much on what to tlak about that i am not feeling my self and not thinking straight. I am pretty sure that she likes me but i don't want to screw this up.

Well, despite what you think, girls like to listen to what a guys has to say just as much as they like to talk. We often feel the same way you do. But in order to get her talking, I'd suggest talking to her about things she can engage in...things she's informed about and such. She'd be happy to give her opinion on something she's interesting in. Also, when I have an awkward silence with a guy, I tend to break it by simply saying "so, tell me something about you that I don't know." See, this puts the pressure on them, and quite often it allows a conversation to being.

hope this helps.
:)

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OK i met this guy and he comes and visits me all the time now that we no each other and i really like him and he like me 2 or so he says. its just that he's been way farther taan me and even though i can't stop thinking about him im afraid 2 go out w/ him. So should i just get over it and go out w/ him or wat should i do?

If you mean he lives far away from you then I think you should try to date for a little, and see how it goes. I was in a long distance relationship for a year and a half, and it was one of the best and worst expirences of my life. I would never do it again, though, becuase of how painful it was. I never saw him...ever. But if this guy is able to see you now and then, then I think you should at least try...everyone's different.

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Last week on my spring break I recently met up with a good friend I've know for about two years. We were getting along great through out the week. He stayed with my and my family and we did alot of great fun activities to pass the time. The last night he was here I confessed that I gained a crush for him. Seeing as he is gay, and I'm a Female and also Taken, I don't know what to do. I hear its normal considering the fact that he likes everything I like, but every time I speak with him I like him more. But everytime I speak with my boyfriend, I like him more too. I know that he's gay, and that theres probably no chance, but I can't get over him. What am I to do!?

Yours Truly,

Straight for a Gay

Well, if these feelings you're having are just crushing on a guy, then you need to concider this: If you're in a good relationship with a guy you're getting more feelings for, then why risk that for someone you KNOW you wont be able to have? I know it's a hard realization to come to, but you really have to train yourself. Try spending less time with this guy, and spend more intimate..personal time with your boyfriend. I have a gay friend too, and what keeps me from having any feelings for him is that I know that i love having a gay friend, and i can talk to him about a lot of great girl stuff without feeling weird. You really just have to turn your crushy feelings into best-friend feelings. It's easier than you think.

Hope this helped,
let me know if you need anything else.
:)

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are guys proud of getting hickeys? i mean.. is it embarrassing for them or do they take a kind of "sexual bragging pride" in it? opinions please!

My boyfriend loves getting hickeys, and he always tells me when someone says something about it. It's definitely a bragging type of thing. That's pretty much the point of a hickey, to show people you're getting some.
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I'm 15/f (well 15 this summer) and I've never had a boyfriend. Never had a first kiss or anything. I'm pretty (or so i've been told) I'm easy to get a long with and as long as you respect me then I'll respect you. But whats wrong with me? I've never been asked out or looked at in an affectionate way before. I know im only 15 and I shouldn't worry but all these chicks in my school are freaking ugly and have no self respect and they have boyfriends. So why can't I?

Please don't tell me "your time will come" I've heard that a million and one times.

One of my friends is so annoying and ugly, and she's just a pain in the ass and she's dating this guy in grade 12.

wtf. :(

I had this problem when i was younger, and then I really came out of my shell. My friends were much more outgoing that I was, so I tried to follow them. You really just have to go up to a guy you think is cute or something YOURSELF. If you're in a public place, have a friend go up to some guy with you and just flirt. OR ask your friends if they know anyone you can be introduced to. If it's a guy you're acquainted with, just start talking to him gradually, ask for his AIM or something. The key is confidence...thats how I got my boyfriend. Confidence doesnt mean you have to be a slut, it just means you have to have the courage to do it yourself. Guys really dont care if you go up to them, especially if you're pretty.

hope this helped.
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do guys like girls who are a little perverted (but not too over the top), rather than like not talking about sexual stuff at all? like, would they rather have someone who is looser and not as uptight about that sutff rather than someone who never talks about it?

Most guys love talking about sex, and I always talk about sex with my boyfriend. Its ok to get explicit, but not to the point where you want to puke.

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So theres this guy I really like named Adrian.
Hes wicked funny and nice.
We talk all the time and share some of the same intrest.
But anyway..
yesterday he told me that we could only be friends and we will never be more.
That I shouldn't like him anyway cause
I need someone who is nice,happy, and cool.
But even though he says he doesnt like me
he still acts like he does.
Like in Chorus he looks over at me all the time
&& he flirts with me and ughh
I dont know what to think,
im so confuseedd.
HELP PLEASE!
Thanksss :]

Well I think you should still give it a shot.
Keep persisting with it, and tell him that YOU DO think that he's nice, happy, and cool. Tell him that you WANT to date him because of who he is...and what he says wont change that.
Maybe also ask him if he still likes you...
be very blunt about it.
If he says yes,
then say.. "well why cant we date then? it's what we both want."

let him know you're willing to make sacrifices if he is.
:)

hope this helped.

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How intimate do you consider touching someone's face? To me it's incredibly intimate - reserved for lovers/close friends only, but others disagree. And for the record, I'm not talking about wiping peanut butter off someone's face here!;)
What do you all think? How does it rate on the 'intimacy scale?':)

I think it would depend on the person...everyone's intimacy scales are different. For example...a whore and a chrisian. :)

For me, personally, I agree with you...the romantic way of touching someone's face can be very...how do i put it. Stirring to me. It really does depend on the subject though.

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You know what they all say "When you give a guy all he wants, he gets bored quickly." What are some examples of that phrase? like what are you not supposed to give all he wants? I've been dying to know what they exactly mean by that.

Thx =)

It means that you should tease a guy, so that he wants you more. Some guys AND girls get bored of their boyfriend/girlfriend easily...so you have to try avoiding that. If you give a guy what he wants off the bat, then he'll think you're a slut most of the time. Have some shame, that is. It'll make you more attractive in the long run.

Hope this helped,
Brittany.
:D

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Well I started dating this guy and we've only been dating 4 like 2 weeks but we talk less now than we did b4 we started going out and I hardly ever see him..and then theres this other guy I like and talk 2 like everyday and I see him more than my bf so I'm thinking about dumping the first guy 4 the 2nd one...but how do I let him down easy?? or should I just stay with him and see what happens??? Thanks!

Personally, I would wait a bit and try to make things work out...I mean...it could turn into something really nice and unexpected. Talk to him about it, and make an effort to see eachother more often. Maybe if you see eachother, you'll get to know eachother more and want to stay in a relationship.

I hope this helped a bit,
Brittany.
:D

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