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Q: normally i don't like questions about guys but now i'm the one who's stuck between a rock and a hard place. this will probably be long & confusing & i'm sorry.

i'm 18/f.

i dated this guy [A] for 2 years. he's 19. we were each others everythings, first loves, etc. broke up once for a year, went back to each other, were completely perfect, wanted to live together, planned to get married, everything. and it wasn't just like teenage fantasy talk, we were dead ass serious. well about a month and a half ago we started having big problems, he totally changed with me, stopped showin emotion, suddenly there were other girls in the picture, and just really became an ass towards me and started doin things that he knew good & well would hurt and upset me. i tried to explain myself SO MANY times but it never got through, so we had a hard break up. i thought i was over it. enter guy [B] i've known him casually for about 4 years. he's turning 20 in a week. we were friends till about august then we started kinda talkin. at the end of september he got sent to chicago for the army and we lost contact so nothing happened. but then he got discharged bc of broken bones. he lives an hour and a half away from me and last weekend he asked me to come down to see him. everything was like normal again, he basically treated me like his girlfriend and asked me if i wanted to start talkin again because he does and that he got pretty jealous when he saw i was back with [A] after being broken up. the problem with him is that not only does he live an hour and a half away, but he doesn't really put forth effort to see me. when i'm with him, you can tell we like each other and it feels right with him, but he's only come to see me once where i live, every other time i go down there and we don't even really talk regularly. but i still can't help the fact that i like him. so guy [C]. he's 17. we met at the beach on spring break, and my group of friends and his hung out the ENTIRE time. and we were basically a couple on spring break and have been talkin ever since, so we've known each other two weeks but it feels like a lot longer. he lives 45 mins - an hour away from me and i've been down there to see him once and he's come up here both by himself and with his friends [to see me and my friends] about 5 times so far since we got home from the beach. we talk all the time and i can tell he really likes me and i do like him so we're talkin/datin. okkk well today my ex [A] came to visit me and ended up kissing me. THEN he sends me this recording via text msg of this song he wrote/played/sang for me whenever we were having probs and stuff right before we broke up, and it was soo sweet about how all he wants is another chance and he'll prove to me he'll make right, that this can't be the end and we can't be saying our goodbyes, please forgive me i'm just begging for one more chance.

so i'm stuck. [B] is most likely not the smartest choice & yet i still like him. [A].. well after we broke up i swore i was done, although he said he did want to eventually get back together in a few months or so down the road. the problem is he's working two jobs, i'm in school and i work, and i'm going to college 4 hours away in august. so i don't even know how we would work, but at the same time, he's my first love, and even though i've been saying i'm over it this whole time, after i got that super sweet message tonight, it kills me to think we might really be over and i'll hate it if this really is the end. at the same time though, i'm really starting to like [C] and i and everyone else can tell that he likes me and he does actually put forth the effort. but at the same time, i feel bad "dating" him when i have two other guys in the picture. i'm not neccessarily looking for a serious relationship any time soon bc [A] and i haven't been broken up even two months, but i feel this is such a mess already that i don't want it to get worse.

ugh, sorry for the length, but any tips? =/

Well first of all WOW that was alot to read it kinda hurt my eyes..lol..but anyways im 18 to and i have had that same problem except i didnt have to other guys in the picture but i think that you should stay with C he seems to be a good guy so far but my BF is like A that same way and im still with him but he doesnt treat me the way i want to be treated and it sucks he doesnt trust me and i cant even hang out with my friends because he thinks that im guna go party and get with another guy (i guess hes to protective or a jelouse kind of guy) but i hate it so if A is that way well pry not as bad as mine is but i would stick with C but i know how hard it can be to get over someone you really love its hard but maybe in the future is worth all the heart ache but i dont know but C seems like the guy i would go with if i could get over A then C is who id go with i wouldnt think about B jus cut him out of the picture especially if you guys have been friends for 4 years then you dont wanna ruin the friendship. well i hope i helped. But other than that i think that you should just let things fall into place, god will apoint you in the right way he does for me all the time. I pray and it seems to work for me.

Q: i met this guy named chris at a kick-back. and he thought i was 18.. so like he started talking to me and stuff.. ad we ended up kissing.. but not having sex because im a virgin and i wasn't going to give it up to him. so when he found out i was 16 he was like tripping lol. cause he's a marine and hes going to be a cop in 2 years and what happened is illegal you know. i've been seeing him every saturday for 3 saturdays straight. cause we hang around with the same people.. the second time we hung out he talked to me but like it was whatever.. his friend told me that he liked me but that i was young.. i see older guys dating underage girls all the time.. but yeah and i saw him this past saturday cause we had a bonfire at the beach and it was cold so he hugged me and when we were saying bye he slightly touched my butt.. he didnt really grab it or anything though. but we do text a lot.. but i really want to be his girl-friend.. how do i pull that off?

HI, I did the same thing I was 16 and dating a 21 year old he was really sweet and stuff i never did anything with him because i was scared that i would get pregnant or some disease becuase i get scared like that and im really protective of myself but it was all good for a little while till one of my supposeble friends called the cops and said that he was raping me which wasnt true, and he ended up going to jail or prison or something i cant really remeber but anyway when he got out he had to move back home and he got his life ruined he cant get a job anywhr and he had to register as a sex offender how nice huh..lol..well anyway my point is, that you shouldnt date him until your at least 18 or 21 whenever your legal to do things, i dont know exactly what age that is, but just be his friend for now until your old enough that way his life doesnt get ruined because if hes in the marines thats a good job hes got and maybe when your older you guys could date and both be happy and he would make good money and support you, but theres nothing wrong with being friends till then you know? well i hope i made sense in this paragraph..lol..and i hope i helped you some.

Q: so, i had sex for the first time ever last month and i thought the person that i had it with would be with me forever.. but he broke up with me, and now we don't talk. do you think i was a booty call? it hurts cuz it was special to me, ya know? what do i do? i'm so heartbroken, i don't know what to do.

yea thats what i thought to im 17 and messed up badly in my past and shouldnt have sometimes i wish i could have saved myself for marrage but i was like 15 when i lost mine sadly and now i really regret it because i found a guy that truely loves me and tells me everyday he wants to marry me and we also have a kid together, but bak to your question know that not everyone is perfect ok and you made a mistake everyone does but dont blame yourself or feel ashamed cuz i did, and it really sucked, guys are jerks i dont know why they think taking advantage of a girl is cool because its not we get hurt more than they do and we have bounderies we want our first to be special who doesnt and they say they love you because they know your a virgin and they like it that way cuz your tight, but hun just forget about him and tell him that hes a jerk and he doesnt deserve a girl like you, your way better than him just keep your head up high and eventually you will find that very special person that will make you very happy like i did i havent forgotten my passed but when im with my BF everything just goes away you will find that someone it just takes time, and remember time heals all wounds:). I hope i helped you and im sorry you had to loose your virginity to a total jerk off.

your so much better than that.
x.o.x.o.

Q: okay so to start im 16, hes 17 (both juniors) and we live about 20-25 mins away from each other. therefore, we can't see each other during the week cause of school and sports. he barely ever texts me and im always the one to call him. im so tired of always being the one to make the first call/text but i feel like if i don't, he won't and our relationship will just die. and i also miss him soo much come the end of the week and i can't wait to see him. i've talked to him already and i told him that i like being called, he called like once after that then it just stopped. and i know he really cares about me because when we're together he shows it...just not when we're apart =[ i understand that he has school and sports but i do too and i still have time to talk to him..i just don't understand...any advice? thanks so much.

Hi, i am 17 also and there could be alot of things on why hes not calling you, i hate to say it pry cheeting and to busy with whoever hes with to txt you or call you, or he just doesnt want to txt you and seem like a mush to call you he pry wants you to call him because he wants to feel special and idk i think its weird and hard to explain why hes not calling you hes pry just playing hard to get you know, guys do that alot i know at least 20 people that have BFs that dont call them but i think you should just not call him for a while and see if he calls you because if he really loves/likes you then he will call you eventually but if he dont then call him and talk to him and see whats going on why he doesnt call you and ask him if he still wants to be with you, or if your 17 you should have your lisence already shouldnt you, you could drive to wherever he is and go see him thats what i do because i have a BF that lives 20 miles from where i do and he dont have a car to come get me so i have to go get him, so i come over to his house and get him every weekend, and it works out fine and he txts me all the time and everything. well i hope i at least gave you some advice to help you if not im sorry im knew at this and trying to advance my advice..lol..:) well let me know if i could help anymore hope i helped some.

Q: Lets say my BFs name is Blake.Well blake ....i dont think hes into me no more.He always talks about other girls,he always treats my like crap when his friends are around and, he just doesnt seem to care about me when im sad. I DONT want to break up with him ..I love him half to death but what should I tell him.

I think that he might be trying to impress his friends and treat you like crap around them because he doesnt want to act like a mush and a around them because they would pry make fun of him later guys do that alot, and if your his first realationship that hes been in then that might be another explanation to why hes treating you that way but you should explain to him that if he really likes you he shouldnt care what his friends think about you or him, a real boyfriend would treat you right and respect you, i have been in a relationshp with my BF for about 3 years and when we first started dating he wouldnt barley talk to me it was like he was shy or embarressed to have a GF because all his friends would say "oooo you got a GF" and put him on the spot but after a while he became so nice and treated me perfect and bought me things and he didnt even care about what his friends would say so maybe he needs time although i dont know how long you guys have been dating. but i hope my advice helps good luck

Q: I am 13 and female, and Im a little lost here... So there are these three boys, let's call them boy X, boy Y and boy Z. (Bky X may sound familiar to a few of you who have read my previous questions.)

Here it goes. See, I have had a crush on X for a looooong time (like 2 years!) and I am really close to him. I like him a lot and he understands me and, gosh, he is just perfect. However, even though he though he likes me too, he cannot date until he is 16 (as I said, I am 13, but he is 14 and thats like ANOTHER 2 years). Now, I just think I can wait that long, nor does he expect me to but I REALLY like him!!

Okay some of you have told me to just forget about X (yeah right, like I haven't tried and failed at THAT already..). But there IS this one boy, Y. Y is probably the most adorable and wonderful boys and I do, I honestly do really like him, and I want so badly for me to like him more than X, but I don't. I really want to like him because I know he would be a great guy for me and has shown an interest, but X is just... I don't know, X is just too perfect, even though our relationship won't go anywhere... And frankly, you can't control who you like... But if any of you know how you can, please, enlighten me!

Then there is Z. Z is very sweet (and kind of has a crush on me) and he knows how much I like X and also kinds of hates him because X can't date me. But I mean, X can't do anything about that, its his religion... Buy Z is always telling me how I can't wait around for X, but sometimes I wonder if Z just says that because he likes me... And Z says that if I was dating him that he would appreciate me and so on but, and i feel horrible saying this because Z really is a sweet boy, but I just don't like Z like that...

Ugh, I know, I know, this is all messed up. I don't know what to do! I really like X and I want things to work so much, because I know we would be perfect for eachother, but our relationship can't go anywhere, and thats not X's fault right?? But on the other side I feel horrible because I feel like I am leading Y on, and then there is the Z situation, and ugh. I just want to cry. Please help!!

well it sound to me you have your heart set on X and you should wait for him if you really like him but yet while your waiting on him i dont see that theres a problem with dating while your waiting, enless you dont want to date because you have strong feelings for X, but yet i dont think that it would be a bad thing to wait either if you wait good things could come from it and you will pry be happier. but you cant control your feelings on people. so i think that if you were to wait and just be frends with X till he can actually date you, you guys would become closer to each other and no that you guys were meant for each other, but just hang with X and just test you guyses relationship with eachother first. and when he turns 16 you would know weather or not you guys will be together, but if you think waiting that long without dating and all that waiting wasent worth it then i wouldnt wait i dont personally know X so i couldnt really tell you weather or not waiting would be a good thing but hope some of my advice helps a little. sorry i couldnt have fully helped you. good luck. :)

Q: Heres the deal,
my girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 months now. Shes 20 and treats me wonderful but there is one problem, she never trusts anyone im with and is really sensitive. She says she trusts me but not them, but I feel thats equivalent to not trusting me. She always needs reassurance! How much do you need for being an adult? Also she always asks if im breaking up with her, and it drives me to the point where im about to say yes. Shes on prozac for her emotions but I dont think it always works. Don't get me wrong, I love her, and I know she loves me, but I constantly tell her she needs to stop and we have in depth conversations about it. I feel like ive gotten no where. I need help :(

i am a girl and i have the same problem i always need to be reminded of how much my BF loves me and he gets tired of it sometimes but because he loves me he reminds me of how much he loves me but im just to dumb to believe it and its because he loves me that he reminds me every couple of weeks so i think that you GF has probably been hurt in the past by a jerk or she is really self-consiouse about her self try telling her that shes beautifull and make her feel good about her self instead of getting frusterated keep calm and explain to her your feelings for her and that you would never do anything to hurt her take her out and buy her something to make her feel special she would love that. i hope my advice helps and i hope everything works out for you guys.

Q: i cheated on my bf. he forgave me and it has been 5 months since the cheating. he is having a hard time trusting me but is doing his best. i dont want to rush him with it. but i do want him to let me hang out with my guy/girl friends, without worrying. i dont want him to let me go to parties and trust me because thats silly. how can i help him or make it easier.

I think you could help him by spending a lot more time with him and show him you really care for him i have this same problem with my BF except i cant learn to ever trust him so i dont let him go to parties and hang out with his friends either and i know its wrong every1 should be able to hang out with there friends, i dont trust him, so because he dont trust me i try and spend time with him and have him come and hang out with my friends with me so that he knows what i do and who my friends are and i try not to party and do anythng that would make him think that im doing something that he wouldnt want me to b doing and now hes trusting me a little more now and im glad so maybe this advice would help you hope it does and it it doesnt let me know so i can work on my advice more. this is my first time giving advice.

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Well I am a 17year old/F and Im an outgoing person I get along with mostly any1 who comes along, I have brown hair dark brown eyes, and I like giving advice so im glad I found this page..lol..Ill try my best to answer anyones questions I dont judge people so dont be affraid to ask me. :P