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normally i don't like questions about guys but now i'm the one who's stuck between a rock and a hard place. this will probably be long & confusing & i'm sorry.
i'm 18/f.
i dated this guy [A] for 2 years. he's 19. we were each others everythings, first loves, etc. broke up once for a year, went back to each other, were completely perfect, wanted to live together, planned to get married, everything. and it wasn't just like teenage fantasy talk, we were dead ass serious. well about a month and a half ago we started having big problems, he totally changed with me, stopped showin emotion, suddenly there were other girls in the picture, and just really became an ass towards me and started doin things that he knew good & well would hurt and upset me. i tried to explain myself SO MANY times but it never got through, so we had a hard break up. i thought i was over it. enter guy [B] i've known him casually for about 4 years. he's turning 20 in a week. we were friends till about august then we started kinda talkin. at the end of september he got sent to chicago for the army and we lost contact so nothing happened. but then he got discharged bc of broken bones. he lives an hour and a half away from me and last weekend he asked me to come down to see him. everything was like normal again, he basically treated me like his girlfriend and asked me if i wanted to start talkin again because he does and that he got pretty jealous when he saw i was back with [A] after being broken up. the problem with him is that not only does he live an hour and a half away, but he doesn't really put forth effort to see me. when i'm with him, you can tell we like each other and it feels right with him, but he's only come to see me once where i live, every other time i go down there and we don't even really talk regularly. but i still can't help the fact that i like him. so guy [C]. he's 17. we met at the beach on spring break, and my group of friends and his hung out the ENTIRE time. and we were basically a couple on spring break and have been talkin ever since, so we've known each other two weeks but it feels like a lot longer. he lives 45 mins - an hour away from me and i've been down there to see him once and he's come up here both by himself and with his friends [to see me and my friends] about 5 times so far since we got home from the beach. we talk all the time and i can tell he really likes me and i do like him so we're talkin/datin. okkk well today my ex [A] came to visit me and ended up kissing me. THEN he sends me this recording via text msg of this song he wrote/played/sang for me whenever we were having probs and stuff right before we broke up, and it was soo sweet about how all he wants is another chance and he'll prove to me he'll make right, that this can't be the end and we can't be saying our goodbyes, please forgive me i'm just begging for one more chance.
so i'm stuck. [B] is most likely not the smartest choice & yet i still like him. [A].. well after we broke up i swore i was done, although he said he did want to eventually get back together in a few months or so down the road. the problem is he's working two jobs, i'm in school and i work, and i'm going to college 4 hours away in august. so i don't even know how we would work, but at the same time, he's my first love, and even though i've been saying i'm over it this whole time, after i got that super sweet message tonight, it kills me to think we might really be over and i'll hate it if this really is the end. at the same time though, i'm really starting to like [C] and i and everyone else can tell that he likes me and he does actually put forth the effort. but at the same time, i feel bad "dating" him when i have two other guys in the picture. i'm not neccessarily looking for a serious relationship any time soon bc [A] and i haven't been broken up even two months, but i feel this is such a mess already that i don't want it to get worse.
ugh, sorry for the length, but any tips? =/
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Well I would look at this experince like this,girls meture quiker and faster then
boys do,so with that being said when boys are at a younger age they reach aross road in there
life, were they end up leaving what they have like a relaniship,to go out and find them self.
If that means having mutiple female friend or what ever it maybe.So you need to thing if
you go back with (a) then there is a chance that he may turn around and do the samething
again,but you still love him an you know him better then any of these other guys,you only
live once so why not give (a) a 2nd chance.You need to do what your heart tells you.Know one
else can tell you how to live your life,life is full experince good and bad. Good luck...
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Well first of all WOW that was alot to read it kinda hurt my eyes..lol..but anyways im 18 to and i have had that same problem except i didnt have to other guys in the picture but i think that you should stay with C he seems to be a good guy so far but my BF is like A that same way and im still with him but he doesnt treat me the way i want to be treated and it sucks he doesnt trust me and i cant even hang out with my friends because he thinks that im guna go party and get with another guy (i guess hes to protective or a jelouse kind of guy) but i hate it so if A is that way well pry not as bad as mine is but i would stick with C but i know how hard it can be to get over someone you really love its hard but maybe in the future is worth all the heart ache but i dont know but C seems like the guy i would go with if i could get over A then C is who id go with i wouldnt think about B jus cut him out of the picture especially if you guys have been friends for 4 years then you dont wanna ruin the friendship. well i hope i helped. But other than that i think that you should just let things fall into place, god will apoint you in the right way he does for me all the time. I pray and it seems to work for me.
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love is a strong thing but the heart grows fonder when your way when your in love you have to be give people space some times ask him to take you out on dates this spices up alot of things but take it slow let him chase you the more he chase the more he falls for you real men chase women. but if its ends move on dont cry look in the morror and say im not going to let this bother me im strong im not going to let my day bother me be cofadent in your self and if he stays around for anohter year then he is the one if hes kind sweet would give the shirt of his back to the homless then he a good man if he not nice and has a anger problem then this moght not work out thier awalys fish in the sea make oyur self happy get your nails done go for a walk do somthing hope this helps
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