I'm Skylar! Im good with all the teen advice things like friends, and fashion, and everything around there.
I didnt go to harvard. I didnt paint the monalisa(i didnt even spell that right...). I wont be a valedictorian and I've never saved a life. But i understand things... I see how they work. I'm a deep thinker, ill ponder things alot. Mostly people, and life and all the phillisophical types of things...
But im more than just that. I'm a teenage girl. A student. A friend. A lover. An athlete. A writer. A party girl and someones who wants to give advice and help others.
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About a week ago, my boyfriend Scott and I (we’re both 18) were hanging out and we saw this guy jogging, and Scott said to me, “his boobs are bigger than yours!” For some reason – perhaps I’m just being neurotic and silly – my feelings were really hurt by the comment. Since then I’ve just been feeling really ugly and self conscious. He called me this afternoon and he was all like, “hey, I noticed that you’ve been really quiet lately. Is everything okay? You can always talk to me if you need anything.”
Am I justified in feeling this way? I know that this is a completely ridiculous thing to ask for help about but... I’m kind of at a loss of what to do. I don’t want to talk to him about it because it’s so embarrassing, and I don’t want him to think I’m an insecure, hypersensitive wuss.
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I know exactly how you feel. And it's totaly ok that you react this way because its not at all your fault.
It's a good thing he noticed that you quiet, because that just shows that he's a good boyfriend and really cares. And since he's offering to talk, talk to him. Because he wants to know and help you. I'm sure he'll make you feel like 1,000,000 bucks if you talk to him the right way about it.
Instead of coming out straight away about that comment he made, ask him something broader. Like : "Do you think I'm ugly?", but in an innocent way so that he understands that you've been feeling put down about the way you look.
I almost garuntee he will make you feel so much better after that and you won't even need to bring up his silly comment again. But if you're unsatisfied with how much feedback he give you, start throwing out whats been making you feel ugly. Add his comment in as one of them, but don't make it seem like a big deal, just evidence.
I'm sure after you talk to him about it, he will make you feel so good about yourself, after all he is your boyfriend. and you should be comfortable enough around each other to tell each other anything.
Good luck! Feel Better!
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ok well my boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now but i'm scared to kiss him. I have nooooo idea what to do and I'm really scared of stuffing up. He understands I'm not readdy yet but I don't want to tell him the reall reason y. I really want to kiss him but I don't know what to do?!?? (link)
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Thats alright, its natural to be nervous. But its also natural to kiss - it really does come naturally.
If he leans in to kiss you, just go for it. Lean back into his lips, DONT pucker your lips, and softly touch his. Usually guys like to take the reins from there, and basically just follow his lead.
If he moves his lips one way, you'll probably automatically move yours the opposite way withouth even noticing.
Once you get through the first few kisses your all set with any others you go through. Plus itll boost your confidence way up there.
Good luck!
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i am friends with some of his friends that are girls he was helping one with the wireing in her house i satyed there for about 2 hours than i left came back over to her house knocked on the door when she opened it slow music was playing. it was just them alone i didnt say anything until i seen they way he was looking at her he was like pretty much spaced out stareing at her i just dont know what to do (link)
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Then you have right to put your foot down. Do you think he looks at you the same way? Because if he doesnt, then theres the problem.
He should understand if you get mad at him for cheating, because no youve seen plenty of signs. And if you confront him, he wil have to admit to them. If he doesnt, then hes a liar and probably has been denying cheating too. If he opens up and admits the slow music was a bit overboard, then your getting somewhere.
But really, does he look at you the same way? Cause if he doesnt, that means hes fallen for that other girl more.
If you want, before consulting him, ask the girl about her relationship with him. Maybe she will admit something to you.
It tough to tell when people lie, i know. But for now I would just say, trust what people are telling you. Make sure they know your relationship is good and has trust. Then just hang out with them more, and don't leave until he has. Dont give him the chance to be with her alone again.
If you want, try to get him to go with you on a road trip, or vacation. Anything that can rebuild what you think has weakened.
If has cheated, and still loves you, he'll regret cheating. And then won't do it again.
If he is cheating and doesnt regret it, i'd say get rid of him. Or atleast try, because breaking up definatly isnt easy!
Goodluck!
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i don't know why he won't let me tell. he let me tell my best friend but now he wants to break up with me cause he afraid it will get out that were dating!!! (link)
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Honey, theres only two reasons why he wouldnt want people to know.
ONE= hes embarrassed. embarrassed that he let a girl get him, or that he didnt get Miss popular. I know its harsh, but remember, there are other possibilities...
TWO= he doesnt want other girls to stop paying attention to him. Maybe he has alot of girlfriends, or hes just a flirt. Either way, he doesnt want ladies to leave all because he found someone he actually likes more than them.
If people can't know about your relationship, then is isnt so much of a relationship. Its more of a hookup/ friends with benefits thing. And no girl should be forced to hide something they are proud of.
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i don't know if I'm not ready for relationship but i tend to like so many guys at once but if one of them start liking me I ose interest just like that, and i always think about guys I'm gonna be missing out so I've been single for a while. Also, I think that if I go out with someone, I won't be able to flirt with other guys anymore and focus on one guy,but sometimes I wish I had someone but only for temporary, Why do I feel this way? I dont get myself. It seems like all i do is flirt and lead guys on and run away and comes back to them again. I know im horrible for doing this, but i dont know why i do that. (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. Word for word.
How i satisfy myself is by finding a hookup buddy. A guy who isnt looking for a relationship, but does like who i am and is friends with me and will be, as people call it, friends with benefits.
Its only natural to want what we cant have. But eventually, we need to find something we want, and settle with it once we've got it.
The reason you've been loosing interest is probably because you just havnt found the right guys yet. The guy you are looking for is someone you wont loose interest in once youve got him.
This will probably be best if he comes to you first. And once you start liking the attention he gives you, you won't need to be constanly looking for better. Just go with that.
Hope it works out :)
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me and the guy i like are playing truth questions and we have been playing for like a week straight so i have run out. what are some good questions? none immature, we play the dirty version (link)
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I'm just gunna shoot:
Top or bottom? Whats your favorite position? Would you want a hicky on your dick? How long does it take you to cum? How long is you penis? How do you like you bjs done? Would you ever hook up with me if i blindfolded you? Do you like butts or boobs better? What do you wish you could do to me right now? What do girls do to you that you like best?
Just some suggestions haha
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Basically I feel like my boyfriend is becoming bored with our relationship. I know he won't leave me or cheat, but I feel bad because I want him to be happy and have a good time around me when I see him. Any ideas on things to do that will help give our relationship a boost? weird, random, crazy ideas are welcome as well as normal ones :)
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I'm just gunna list a bunch of random ideas :)
-start telling him everything, even the randomest things -flirt(never be comfortable with how much he loves you, make him want you more), -give him a strip tease, -write him a poem, -read it to him, -go to the beach and take a super long walk, -always hold his hands, -kiss him less, talk more, -tickle him, -be more sarcastice so he laughs and smiles more(and you guys can make more jokes together), -go to a theme park, just the two of you, -hang out less(so each minute becomes more valuable), -take him shopping with you, -take him shopping(for him hah!), -read a book and tell him all about it, -go to the park and picnic, -run a marathon together, -go on a road trip together, -invite him over to make smoothies..then turn it into a food fight
anything, try anything new haha
hope i helped!
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Im a 19 year old female and im with a 26 year old man.I just got out of a real bad relationship not to long a go now i have this new man thats 26 hes experienced alot more than i have. my problem is that we fight all the time but its mainly me i have trust issues and jealousy problems and i cant stand to see him with another girl. i know that the girls he hangs out with are his friends but i still get mad a i start accuseing him of cheating on me and we get in to a big fight.does anybody out there know how i can control my jealousy and trust issues and especially my anger towards him when i accuse him of doing thing that he says that not doing and he probably isnt (link)
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Just relax. Remember hes with you, not them. If they are his friends then so be it, sometimes thats just how the dice rolls.
The reason your probably jealous is because your uncomfortable having him with other girls. And you try to protect yourself from getting hurt by making it seem like he did something wrong.
You should try to hang out with him and his friends. GGet a feel of how they all act together. Maybe even become friends with them. That will blow some steam off you head.
Next time you start to think of accusing him, just tell yourself that hes trustworthy. Say it 100 times in your head if you have to. And if you are about to accuse him out loud, bite your tongue.
But really try to hang with with him and his friends. I bet you'll feel alot better!
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Okay well I am a seventeen year old female. Recently I moved back to my hometown and started hanging out with this guy I've liked since sixth grade. I found out that he was really diggin me to. Well I've been here two weeks and I've seen him just about every day. Last night I went over to his house and stayed. We had our first kiss and all that junk and cuddled and stuff. One thing lead to another and we ended up having sex. One thing you need to know about this guy is he is actually one of the good ones. I've never seen him cheat or disrespect any women.I really like this guy but I feel that maybe that happened a lil to soon, and we not together that I kno of. I've only slept with one other person besides him so I'm worried about coming across as a whore. I don't wanna ruin my chances with this guy. I mean after words he didn't act as if I did anything wrong we jus cuddled and talked and he told me that he had been waiting a long time for this. Meaning me and him. This morning when he took me home he gave me a kiss good bye and said see ya later. Do you think I messed up my chances my doing that to soon? (link)
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Not at all, you didnt mess up anything. If anything, you probably got him more interested.
What i would advise next time is that you dont have sex...make it more valuable in your relationship and make sure thats not all hes looking for.
If he really is the good guy you say, he will completly understand that you want more in the relationship than just sex, i mean, you guys did talk alot and cuddle alot. So as far as i can see, hes a keeper.
So no worries, you have him right where you want him :)
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I have a boyfriend. Let's get that out of the way.
I've been working with my coworker for about 2 months now. His last day is on Sunday and the last day I worked with him was a couple of days ago. Apparently we used to work together all the time, but then the main office wanted to split us up because we're "always together" or we're "always talking". He was caring when I was sick, he would always talk to me, and cheer me up. He even said he was going to make me food the next time I work with him, but in the end, he didn't. After my week of being sick, whenever we work together, we're always on the other sides of the stores, we don't talk. We just stand there. It's nothing like before. But whenever we talk, he would flirt. We would give each other hugs now and then but not all the time. I think he was just naturally nice because when he doesn't talk to me, he talks ALOT to other coworkers. He's the only guy at my work place (girl clothing store). He recently bought a cake for this other coworker for her birthday. Last time, he said he dated Caucasian girls but he wants to try Asian. Later on, he started appearing in my dreams. Like we're hugging and stuff (my boyfriend knows). It was really weird to me, so I told my boyfriend and him about it. Then my coworker said, "you had a dream about us kissing? o_o you seem to have alot of dreams about us. :P" Two nights ago he told me he liked my hugs, and that I fit right on his chest. Then that I was a cutie. Today, he doesn't talk to me as much, he seems to avoid whenever I talk to him. He deleted his comment that he sent me. I guess he doesn't wanna deal with anything towards me since I have a boyfriend and because he's moving to another city??
What is going on? Does he like me? And what's going on with his random actions? (link)
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Hes hurt, and sad, and doesnt wanna get more hurt. I understand why he is trying to protect himself, because he probably feels like if you two go any further, itll be harder for him to leave. I mean, can you imagine how hard that would be? Just as thing start getting intense, you have to leave? Itd break my heart...I bet his is already cracking...
He definatly likes you, but he also respects your boyfriend enough to know that your taken. Which just makes it that much easier for him to want to isolate himself from you.
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so i have a long distance relationship with this amazing guy. we have been talking everyday for 6 months!! EVERYDAY!!!we love eachother soo much, and we beleive we are gonna be together for ever, and i agree, i see no reason for us to break up. well i live in canada, and he lives in the USA. we both have webcams and use them everyday to talk to eachother while on msn. WE have done everything imaginable to like spice things up and make things less boring. WEve talked about like getting dressed up and eating at the sametime on cam like we are having a fancy dinner together and we have done a sleepover on cams, everything. iv typed on google tons of questions to ask your bf, iv went to every site. but i know all the answers to them and i dont want things to get boring. What are somethings we can do, or talk about on cam that will be interesting and FUN!!. It seems we talk about the samethings all the time, and do the samethings all the time. Thank you guys so much, i really apreciate this!! Thanks! (link)
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Spicing things up is always fun. Make something for him, show it to him on the webcam, then send it to him. Or if youre into sexual things, do a strip tease, show him what hes missing. Maybe talk about a reunion, plan on meeting up and having an amazing night. Read him a poem you write to him, orrrr anything that will make him laugh so you two can joke around. Be sarcastic, when he brings stuff up use sarcasm to bubble in new conversation, even if it is about the most pointless stuff.
Or, try to talk a little less. Make you both miss eachother more, that way the chats have more meaning to them when you do have them. Who knows, maybe you will both have more to say with the extra time. Itll bring your love and affection more to surface to.
Hope the best for you both!
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My tongue is swollen after a long make out with my boyfriend! what do i do? will the swelling go down after a bit, or what? I NEED HELP! and fast (link)
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Well, you could trying sucking on pieces of ice. I've never actuall heard of a tongue getting swollen...the only reason i can think it would be is if it was some messy and rough making out or he was sick with something.
As for the sickness try some advil...if by some chance its the rough making out, trying easing up a bit haha
hope you feel better!
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Okay so i am an average teenage girl! And i like this guy alot but it's like he don't. I want to tell him so badd that i like him but i am on the shy side. I dont like getting rejected because i feel as if there saying i aint good enough or ugly. I wanna know how i can tell if he likes me or like how i can tell him how i feel without things getting akward and not me coming on strong. I just dont know what all to do or say!? So any good advise would help me alot.! (link)
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Well, as much as you wanna jump all over him, you should play a little game called 'hard to get'.
I know it sounds stupid, but trust me it works.
You need to make him notice you and get him to approach you first, which you can do by hanging out with him in a large group,or just saying hi in the hallways.
Make him come to you first with the texts. Know that guys like chasing after girls, being chased just annoys them. So never be pushy to get answers from him or to hangout.
If you would rather continue acting how you usualy are with him, thats fine to. Just a different approach. Before you tell him how you feel though, make sure you have somewhat of a connection with him - like friends who hang out. If you dont wait till he is comfortable, then you could scare him away.
To tell him how you feel, drop suddle hints every once in a while, asking who he likes or what hes into in girls. And if he asks you the same question back, then admit how you really feel towards him in that question. Just dont make him get the idea that your desperate for him.
Good luck!
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