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unintentionally hurtful comment
About a week ago, my boyfriend Scott and I (we’re both 18) were hanging out and we saw this guy jogging, and Scott said to me, “his boobs are bigger than yours!” For some reason – perhaps I’m just being neurotic and silly – my feelings were really hurt by the comment. Since then I’ve just been feeling really ugly and self conscious. He called me this afternoon and he was all like, “hey, I noticed that you’ve been really quiet lately. Is everything okay? You can always talk to me if you need anything.”
Am I justified in feeling this way? I know that this is a completely ridiculous thing to ask for help about but... I’m kind of at a loss of what to do. I don’t want to talk to him about it because it’s so embarrassing, and I don’t want him to think I’m an insecure, hypersensitive wuss.
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i think you should talk to him about it. you don't necessarily have to tell him all the details. just say- the comment you made about the mans boobs being bigger than mine really hurt me and i'd appreciate it if you didn't say something like that again. thanks"
don't feel bad. your boobs couldn't possibly be smaller than mine haha. just know that out there in the world, there are TONS of other girls feeling insecure about their looks like you. you're not alone. be proud of who you are. there are some girls who get boob jobs and plastic surgery because they are that insecure about how they look. be grateful for what you have.
besides, wouldn't you rather have small boobs than huge boobs?? there are bras out there that enhance your size. but theres not really a way to make them smaller..
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I know exactly how you feel. And it's totaly ok that you react this way because its not at all your fault.
It's a good thing he noticed that you quiet, because that just shows that he's a good boyfriend and really cares. And since he's offering to talk, talk to him. Because he wants to know and help you. I'm sure he'll make you feel like 1,000,000 bucks if you talk to him the right way about it.
Instead of coming out straight away about that comment he made, ask him something broader. Like : "Do you think I'm ugly?", but in an innocent way so that he understands that you've been feeling put down about the way you look.
I almost garuntee he will make you feel so much better after that and you won't even need to bring up his silly comment again. But if you're unsatisfied with how much feedback he give you, start throwing out whats been making you feel ugly. Add his comment in as one of them, but don't make it seem like a big deal, just evidence.
I'm sure after you talk to him about it, he will make you feel so good about yourself, after all he is your boyfriend. and you should be comfortable enough around each other to tell each other anything.
Good luck! Feel Better!
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