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All right, so my friend, who is very shy, has never told somebody she likes him before. But just a few months ago, she decided to tell this one guy that she does like him. The only problem is, I liked him too. They flirted for a while, talked to each other on cell phones a lot, but all he did was confuse her, cuz even when she asked him out he rejected her. But he still flirted with her. Now, I sort of have the feeling that he likes me too. What should I do? (link)
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Hello!
From what I gather this guy likes messing girls around, leading them on and then pretending nothing happened. I think he has a hard time figuring out what he wants which technically is his problem but if you try and get involved with him he might just mess you around like he did with your friend. Also I think you might want to look at things at a perspective. Even if it works out with you two you might fall out with your friend and while you are dating him it might not look like such a big deal. However nowadays most relationships are not forever whereas friendship is another matter and this experience might cost you more than you are willing to give up. If you still like him too much and you can’t get him out of your head I suggest you wait until things with your friend and him cool down, before you make your move.
I hope I helped!
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ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female and i need the truth .. please dont just tell me what i want to hear .. i need to hear the truth!
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Dear,
First of all I do not want to sound disparaging but he has a girlfriend so you will have to wait if you want to get back together. I have two theories one is that he misses your company as a friend so he is slowly trying to build a friendship because he wants you in his life but not as a girlfriend. Or of course he might have remembered what it is like to be with you and he wants to get back together. However I think it is most likely to be the first one because if he wanted to get back together with you he would be free in the first place.
About him not giving an answer to the question it is possible that he saw this as a trick question and he did not want to offend you, but there is a chance that it was his way of saying yes.
I think the best thing to do is to gradually build a friendship that could later become something more. You two should start talking to each other again because otherwise nothing will happen and you will just have this odd tension between the two of you. Only time will tell if he really wants to get back together but I think there is a very good chance he does. Whatever you do take it slowly and do not rush him.
Good luck!
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sorry its so long..but please help.. 16/f Okay i think i have a problem with my attitude with my boyfriend.. like i am so happy with him and we kid around an stuff but for some weird reason out of no where i become a bitch.. i reall cant explain why all the sudden i become like that.. i dont get like that with anybody else but him.. we have been together 8 months.. and probably ever since december i been like this.. i really try to understand my self and try to get why im like that but i cant.. he never gets mad about it or anything really he usually sits there and says *aw my baby's mad* then like i cant be mad anymore... which like i said i dont know why i am in the first place... but after a while he'll ask whats wrong when he knows im calm down and he's holding me.. and i tell him *i dont know whats wrong* then he thinks that i dont wanna share my problems with him...which its not that i cant tell him whats wrong if i dont know my self...then he gets mad bout it and then *i cry* thats one of the worst feelings i get is when i see him mad or sad at me or around me.. and then after that he gets like sad cause i cried.. i really want this to stop.. this doesnt happen everyday..maybe like once or twice a week but thats too many times and its gettin old..my friend told me she thought i was doin it for attention.. which i thought bout that for a while... but i get all the attention i need from him.. this is really my first actual relationship with a guy so i havent been like that with anybody else and he the first guy ive actually loved.. but i guess i need advice to understand why i might be like this and what might cause me to be like that.. and if anybody else is like that please explain why you are.. i'll rate anything high as long as it helps in some sort of way..much luv and thanks in advance to who ever answers.. (link)
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Dear,
It might be that you are under a lot of stress and you are taking it out on him or that you keep your feelings to yourself when it comes to other people and then you compensate with shouting at your boyfriend because he is there for you. I think the best way to sort this thing out is to tell him what you wrote here, that you do not know why you are getting mad and maybe he could help you get trough it. Also this might be caused by problems that are on you mind that you are not confronting. Just sometimes sit down for an hour or so and think though all the things that bother you and that are going on in your life at the moment. But most importantly, be honest with him and talk to him about it, because he sound like a nice guy who cares and will understand.
Good luck!
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Hmm... Where to start. Ok, so I've been going out with this girl for a couple of months and it's been amazing. Some of the best months of my life. And I have this friend that I think has a crush on her. He will always play with her hair and like give her little nicknames, and that stuff of the sort. Also, her one friend keeps asking me how much I like her and stuff like that. It is just kinda suspicious. What do you think, should I worry or what? (link)
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Dear,
Most importantly do not play jealous because that could ruin everything. If you feel threatened by your friend and think she would prefer to be with him just start treating her better, make her feel special spend more time with her and let her know that you care, girls like that. Also, talk to your friend about how you do not feel conformable with him flirting with your girlfriend and nicely ask him to back off. Whatever you do, do not start fights because that will turn your friend and you girlfriend against you. One last thing when her friend asks you how you feel about your girlfriend, tell her the truth because that might be a test let hre know that you think this were some of the best months of your life so she would tell her friend.
I hope this helps!
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ok I finally met this kid who ive been talking to on the internet.. and im so confused with the way I feel about him. Its like I couldnt decide whether I liked him or not. Im basically preppy girl, and hes a punk rock (dude) kind of guy. Hes so different than the guys I hang around, and I cant decide if its good or bad. I know him and my guy friends wouldnt get along, and I dont know what to do or how to feel. I'm so confused. Any help?.. I rate :-) (link)
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Dear,
I do not want this to sound like a cliché but I think if you really liked him you would know it. I think you already know the answer but you wish you did not. What I mean is if you like him you are probably afraid that that would upset your other friends and if you do not you are probably looking for an excuse and trying to convince yourself that this is right (I am not saying it is not).
First you have to ask yourself if you really liked him before you met him. Then if the answer is yes think if you are confused because of prejudices. Sometimes people who dress like him are not always wild and crazy and are nice people. So if you liked him before and you do not totally dislike the way he looks I think you should give him a chance. Your friends should respect your choice even if they do not particularly like him. You could go on chatting online until you know him better and feel more comfortable with him.
However if you did not really like him when you were talking online and you just like to think you did because there was no one else or you can not see yourself going out with him at all it is best if you go on as just fiends.
One more thing, I do not want to sound judgmental but usually it is not a very good idea to meet people online, sometimes it could be quiet dangerous or as in your case it could create confusion.
I hope this helps!
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Okay well to start things off, I was dating a boy named Ryan. And I knew this other kid Jake, who liked me and was always trying to get me and Ryan to brake up. I never knew him that well so I never go involved, that is until i broke up with Ryan. Jake treated me like gold. He made me a better person inside and out and I have NEVER been so happy in my life. I would walk into my classes actually crying tears of joy after i had walked with him in the halls just because he made me feel that good. I don't know if it was love, but if it wasn't it was as close as you can get. We broke up 2 months after this. We broke up in November of 2003, and I still can't get this kid out of my head. I've had 2 boyfriends since then but I constantly was comparing them to him and it drives me nuts. I almost felt like i didn't like them just because I don't feel the same way about them as I did about Jake. I know that I do, but I don't feel like i can ever feel the same way about anyone else. He went away to college which makes it easier but whenever he comes home all i do is think about him. I still cry at night sometimes because I can't get over how perfect he was for me. He calls me still every once in a while to check up on me but i try to keep it brief because it hurts too much to talk to him, it brings back too many memories. Is there anyway for me to get over this? It really hurts me like on a day to day basis and i thought i would be over it by now and i'm not. I don't know what to do. (link)
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Dear,
I think the best thing to do is to change the way you look at things. Just focus on the fact that there was this great person in your life not on that he is not there anymore. Some people never get to meet people like that person. One more thing you might consider doing is telling him how you feel, not trying to get back together just letting your emotions out instead of suppressing them, so you can let go and move on. Also why not try being just friends? This way it would not feel like there is a big gaping hole in your life because he is not around.
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