I know most of the questions are posted by teenagers. I'm 24, so I'm old enough to have experience but young enough to remember my teenage years. I also know the drama of youth doesn't last forever, so I'd like to help you get past those stressful years. I'm getting married, so I know the ups and downs of relationships.Think of me as an older sister type of person full of wisdom and advice, but hip enough to remeber my youth:)
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Location: ASU
Occupation: Grad Student
Age: 24
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im so much in love with neighbor and i wanna tell him but the words wont come out please help me?? (link)
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Maybe you could start by doing some nice, neighborly things, like baking him cookies, clipping newspaper/magazine articles you think he'd like (about things you know he is interstested it), loaning him a bestseller you just read that you think he'd like. I know it may seem cliche, people really do appreciate things like this. So, start doing random, nice things for him. Be friendly. Talk to him when you see him outside, or invite him in to watch tv or have coffee, or dinner. By then he'll definately condsider you a friend, and the best relationships start with friendship. Or he'll start liking you or at least you will be more comfortable with him and thus, be able to talk to him more easily.
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okay im like with this guy on the net and stuff and we've like been 2geter for two months rite and i like really like him and like he's all like saying about how much he luvs me and junk and want to like sped eterinity with eachother and im like i don know and like what do i like do. (link)
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If you have your doubts, then don't give in to his pressure. Follow your heart. Two months is not a long time, especially if you have not met this guy in person.
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Ok see here is the problem,I really want a boyfriend but I am afraid I will not get one because i am what some people call gothic and what other people call punk or a skater.I dont know what to do!I really want a boyfriend i feel so lonely without one what can i do to get one without changing who i am or what i belive in? Also i dont like getting rejected i think it is akward. (link)
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I would not change myself for a guy. You wouldn't really be happy. Find a guy who shares similar interests and hobbies.
Do realize that you can be a complete person without a guy. A boyfriend won't make you feel less lonely, it is better to work on your friendships, first. You must be complete in yourself before you can be happy in a relationship. A love affair is not a quick fix.
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whats the best way to tell someone you don't like them anymore?
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It may be better not to tell them that you don't like them outright. If it is a friend, tell him/her that you feel that you've grown apart and that the friendship may not suit both of you anymore. If it is because of something that person did to you, tell them what they did wrong, so they can avoid doing this to someone else in the future. If it is a lover, explain that you are no longer happy in the relationship. Be easy and don't put the blame on that person.
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ok well I have known this kid for about 2 years right. and we would date off and on. and this year I started dating him again and I introduced him to my bestfriend because I wanted them to know each other but I didn't want them to start liking each other.ok well my friend came up with the idea that both of us would date him at the same time. and I love my friend to death and i would do anything for her even this so I was like I guess. so after like 2 days I was like to my friend if you like him that much you can just go out with him I odn't like him anymore hes all yours. but I relaly didn't mean it so now the go out but I wanna tell her how I really feel what should I do? (link)
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Oh No! A good friend would have NEVER even suggested going out with your boyfriend. Tell her the honest truth. She hurt you and was a bit insane for asking. You'll get into a fight about it, but what she did was brutal.
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I'm sure everyone's sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course I don't stay completely silent the entire time, but I feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do? (link)
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Ask questions. When he comes up to you to talk, ask him questions about whatever he is talking about. Even if you already know. Have him explain things. Everyone loves and interested listener. Ask him about himself, his girlfriend, his pets, etc...anything as long as you seem truly interested.
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If you're still stuck on an ex who has a new g/f, are you as pathetic as you feel? (which is very pathetic) (link)
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No, it is hard to get over a broken heart. Just give it time. Unrequited love is very romatic. Indulge yourself in your broken heart.
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I guess, any answer to this is just a matter of opinion, but here goes....Um...Ok, my ex b/f has a new g/f, and they seem to being going strong. But, in school he seems so unhappy. I don't know. I still really like him. And I'm not saying that I won't date other people for him, or not hang out with my friends to just sit around and wait for him. But, I don't know. What do you guys think? (link)
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Talk to him, as a friend. If he has another girlfriend, don't be a homewrecker. Just explain that he seems down and you care about him and want to listen to him and help him out. AS A FRIEND.
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I'm a 16 year old girl. Lately I have been really distant and detached from everything, and I don't know what makes this attractive or if the moons are aligned or what, but all of the sudden I'm getting all of this attention from guys at school. Any other time I'd be thrilled to death, but right now I'm just kinda like, "Eh." The guys that have professed their feelings, indirectly or through my friends, are great as friends, but I'm just not interested in them in a romantic way. A month ago I'd even be happy to go out on a date with whomever, but now I want to be boyfriend-less and have a good time hanging with my friends and concentrating on school.
The one guy I do have a little bit of interest in is currently into someone else.
How do I turn these guys down without hurting their feelings or making an awkward situation? I still want to hang around with them with my friends, just not in one-on-one sessions.
Ugh. (link)
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Be honest. Say, I really like you as a friend, but I am not interested in having a romatic relationship with anyone at all right now. For this to work and not to hurt the guys, don't go out with anyone as soon as you turn these guys down. Wait a month or so, at the very least. The same thing happened when I was your age, and this approach worked very well. One of the guys is still my best friend.
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Alright, my friend liked this guy and so did i. It all looked as if he liked my friend, but when she asked him out she found out he liked me... then he was being all a jerk to my friend... but she still likes him and can't stop liking him... ummm... then he asked her out cause i guess he realized he was being a jerk... she said i don't know... he said all suprised "You don't know!?!?"... then she talked it over with her other friend and she said no... she still likes him and now knows i like him... should I go out with him... my friend said to me the other day "Why would u want to go out with him if you saw him be such a jerk to me?" and i though about that and can't decide, and i'm afraid my friend will hate me if i do but i like him. (link)
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I honestly would not go out with this guy. He sounds like a jerk. If he treated your friend badly, chances are he will treat you badly, too. Plus, you will feel guilty whenever you are around him and your friend at the same time, trust me, I know from experience. I say you both forget about him, because honestly your friendship is more important than this guy. Whenever the relationship with the guy ends, you will regret risking (or even losing) your friendship for him. Plus, if he likes three other girls and you two, he won't be faithful.
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