All of my friends always come to me for advice. I am pretty much the peacekeeper in my group. I know i have not been part of this for like any time at all, but i hope i can get bigger and help people with problems like i do the people i know. I will almost never say anything rude mean or annoying, but if i do withought thinking, just comment me and tell me so i can fix it!
-alex(:
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okay, i need a song or a few songs that are like decribing a relationship that changed and saying that you want things to be how they used to be
any helppp?
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wishes by superchick
i absolutely LOVE her!
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he called me by my friend's name 3 times yesterday at school. He had been flirting with my friend before this, a lot. both of them had. He is thinks leona lewis is fine and hott, and he told my friend, infront of my face, that she looked like leona lewis. It was the most uncomfortable thing ever because he is obsessed with leona. We don't hang out accept school because he can't hang with girls until he's 16. I'm so sick of him. Are these reasons good enough to dump him? (link)
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yes! you obviously don't like him anymore. Plus, he doesn't respect you. He says that he thinks other girls are hot, right in front of you. He calls you by another girls name, the same girl who he flirts with a lot. You should be the one to dump him, not vise versa. If you're sick of him, break up. He's not doing anything for you. Please dump him now! They are very good reasons!
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k so the guy that i was not quite in love with (but could of been if we stayed together) went back with his ex. it was about 2 weeks ago n i was crushed when it happened but now im doing okay but i wanna be completely over him.
i miss the boyfriend aspect so much and miss feeling wanted and loved and being called baby.
Not gonna lie, i'm pretty and guys give me a lot of attention. But its mainly for sex and i hate it. i just want a guy that will love me and i will love him. BUT the poroblem is im hellla picky and i can never find the right guy. and when i found him he lets me go! so its going to be hell trying to find a great boyrfriend that i actually like =/
any helpp on:
- letting the right guy come to me/ me finding him (i usually have no luck when i look for guys but i do if i dont look)
- good ways to get completely over him
-SONGS like brandy's almost doesn't.. like the whole, "not good enough" and "i want you back" and "miss you" songs...
PLEASE HELPP mee =) thanks
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i don't know how to answer the top part.
but a good song thats always helped me is
wishes by superchick.
she has a lot of other good songs like that.
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So I'm 15 almost 16.
My EX boyfriend was my first boyfriend, and he broke up with me the first week of our relationship, and then we got back together like a week later so we were going out with eachother for like a month and then I found out he asked a girl out while going out with me, and was gonna brake up with me, I wont forgive him, maybe I'll`forget. I have just gotten over it and im officially talking to him again, I kinda still have feelings for him and recently he told me its not gonna work out with him and his new Girl friend, I didnt realy care, but I do want him to be happy, So the other day he told me he still loved me and he did the wrong thing, and he asked me what I would say if he asked me out again, he didnt say he was gonna just wanted to know what would say, I said I didnt kow, and to drop it for now. I dont know what to say to him or to say if he asks me out again.???
Kinda confused, plus not many people want me going out with him. (link)
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You've given this guy two chances. It seems like he maybe was planning to break up with you if he was looking for someone else to date. You don't need to waste any more time on this guy. He's definitely taking you for granted. I think you should just get over him and forget how he's trying to win you back again. You don't need a guy like that. Hope I helped!
love, alex
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So your on a date and its extremly horrible. Whats a legit excuse to leave? (link)
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you could call *08 and then go to instant alibi, and you set a time, and you pick an excuse, and they just tell you what to say. its great! or you could just have a friend call you. but personally, i like to use *08....more accurate really.
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I started talking to this boy on AIM one day(about 2 years ago). he is a year older then me (im 13). he had a girlfriend when we started talking but i think i got in the way and they eventually broke up. he lived in a different state then me, but he is my best friend. I love him. I really do. Sometimes you love a person for their looks or how they kiss you. but ive never met him, so i know its honest to god love.a few months ago we stopped talking for about a month in a half, and now we are back to the way it was before. we call each other like 3 times a day and stuff. but over christmas and winter break (now) we have barely said a word to each other. he has no more texts this month and he wont really answer my calls. but everytime he does answer them he tells me he is with a friend or he is busy or something. This boy is really my life, i would call him every mornning be4 we went to school and when i got home from school. and we would be on the phone for hours. we even had phone sex. But now that he wont talk to me, i dont know what to do. my days are going by slow. And i miss him.About a month ago he told me he didnt know why we stopped talking, and that he would never want that to happen again. so why is he being such a jerk now and leaving me hanging alll the time? I cry over him almost everyday =[
THanks! Please help (link)
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Your only 13! I can see how you think you might think your in love, but he could just be playing you. By that, I mean that he could just be telling you what you wanna hear. Your 13, and having phone sex? I'm sorry but i think thats a little ridiculous. He might just be doing this, because he's lost his feelings for you. Ever thought about that? Sometimes guys don't know how to tell a girl that they don't like her any more, so they just ignore her. However, that might not be the case here. He might just always really be busy, or maybe he thinks your a little too obsessed with him, so he thought that maybe if he backed off a bit, so would you. Just give him some time. A couple days would work, then call him once. Even if he has a friend over, tell him whats on your mind. Don't let him pick what time its good to talk about your relationship. Especially if you've been trying to reach him for such a long time. But if you guys do meet anytime soon, please don't think about acutal sex. You have no idea some of the damage it can cause. Hope I helped! Don't Forget to rate!
-alex :]
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Ok well tomorrow i gotta give my boyfriend his xmas present a lil late i know,but we hardley see eachother anyways,i'm too embarrassed to give people presents especially him i got him a $250 chain,im too nervour and scared he might not like basically his face expression anyway i can calm down lol ? and what should i say "hey heres your xmas present " :S (link)
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If he's your boyfriend, I'm sure he'll like it. Even if he doesn't, he will pretend he does, he wouldn't want to dissapoint you! Just like hand it to him, and say Merry Christmas. Good Luck!
Hope I helped! Don't forget to rate!
-Alex :]
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So, I really like this guy named Jason. But there are many things that make it seem like it couldn't work. At the beginning of the year, i went out with his best friend, James. Also, he calls me and my friend slut #1 and slut #2. but i think its just a joke. And he makes up these 'episodes' of me and teryn [slut #1] being lesbians and all this other stuff. Ya see, jason has these random mood swings that i cant stand! today, i whispered in teryns ear 'i cant believe i ever went out with jake!' and he goes 'if you dont tell me what you said, then i wont be your friend anymore'. also, one day [i cant remember what he said that made me say this] i said 'i dont like your haircut' then he goes 'well i dont like your chest' then i gave him an 'excuse me' look and he said 'yeah! grow some!'hes such a pervert but hes so hott and ive tried to get over him but i just cant! the only reason i like him isnt that hes hott though. i dont even know why i like him so much! (7th grade; im a girl)
HELP ME! (link)
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Your only in 7th grade, you have plenty of time to find a good guy. Alot of guys especially in middle school are verrry perverted. If you ask me, seventh graders should not be going out yet, i'd say about eighth grade would be a good time to start. But anywho, he doesn't seem like a nice guy, so if you are going to date, choose a nice guy. Maybe you've had an encounter with him, to were he was really nice or something, and you just can't get over the guy he was THEN! Think of all the mean things he's done to you, would you really wanna date a guy like him? I sure wouldn't, especially if he's gonna treat you like crap. Imagine what he would do to you if you guys dated. Because then he would know that even though he was mean to you, you still went out with him. So he could just treat you worse if he really wanted to. He could also only do those things because thats his way of flirting or something. Some guys are like that, they just don't know how to express there feelings in any other way. And maybe he said that "i don't like your chest" thingy because he wanted to let you know that you were interested.Bottom line, I don't think you should date him. Hope i helped!
Don't foget to rate!
-alex :]
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How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings? But without telling him the truth, he is bigger and i'm not physically attracted to that? We were friends before we started dating and i want to go back to being friends? Thanks!
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Don't tell him that he is "bigger", guys have trouble with anorexia, and bulemia too. Just say something like "I don't think my feelings match yours anymore. I really wanna go back to being friends. Okay?" and then like hug him or something. Hope I helped! Don't forget to rate!
-alex :]
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Well ok i have talked to this girl for awhile so i asked her out and she tells me yes so were going out and everything seems fine then she text me one night (about two into the relationship) and says i have changed and she just wants to be friends and being the kind of guy i am i was just like ok cause i just want her to be happy well so then two days later she text me and says she has made a big mistake and wants to be with me so i text her and ask her what she wants to do and she wants to be really close friends....so then a couple days go bye and we have big brother big sisters and we hang out and she kisses me and then the next day at a basketball game i tried to kiss her but she would not so i was wondering if you think we are going out or if were just friend or maybe something else? (link)
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She is obviously verrrry confused. Just give the girl time. She will make up her mind soon. Girls are confusing, i would know, because i am one. Its really hard to make up your mind about some things. She might like another guy also, and doesn't know what to do yet. Maybe the reason why she didn't want to kiss you at the basketball game, was maybe because she just wasn't ready to be seen kissing in public yet. Remember, ggiivvee hherrr ttimmmeee!! Hope i helped! Don't forget to rate!
-alex :]
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and things are really great, except when it comes to the computer. When we first moved in together, he had his own computer and I was waiting for mine to be mailed to me.. So I'd use his computer to get online, talk to my friends, play games, normal stuff. He has it set so he has his own profile, and I have mine. On his computer it's password protected. So a few days ago, my computer came in the mail.. and we're both using it because his is broken. I set up a profile for him and I have mine, password protected. Anyways, the whole problem is, he'll wait until I go to sleep, get online until 4am or so and the other night I had to walk by the computer room to go to the bathroom and he heard me coming and all I hear is "click click click" like 17 times really fast of the mouse. That bothers me, like what does he have to hide? And he deletes his internet browsing history every time he uses my computer? I don't really care if he's looking at porn or whatever, and he knows that, but it bothers me that he deletes his history. I just get the feeling that he's hiding something.
I just need to know how to approach him about it.
It's frustrating me. (link)
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you can take it in to the computer store, and there is a way to check the deleted history. I'm not sure how much money it costs, but not too much. And, before you do this, if you catch him doing that, just ask him what are you doing? not like interrogating him or anything, just very casual like saying do you want something to eat?. But if that doesn't work, then do the deleting thing. Hope i helped! Don't forget to rate!
-alex :]
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Im dating this boy whom I really like a lot.
But he is always really mean to me, and we fight all the time. He is always trying to make me have phone sex with him and he considers it "making up" he tells me all the time "lets fight so we can make up" and when I say no, he gets mad and starts saying I dont care about him and im selfish and I dont care about nobody but myself. He always has a way to turn things around and make me look like the bad person and feel really bad for something.
he calls me fat all the time and I only weigh 105 lbs and im 5'5. He calls me ugly all the time and then he says he is just playing. But sometimes he can be the sweetest guy in the world.
He is 16 and a preacher, so maybe he takes out his stress on me, or maybe its because he is black and im white?
Today him and I got into a fight and he told me
"If you were hangin off a cliff with lions and snakes under you, I wouldn't pull you up I would stomp you down"
I dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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That right there ^^ is not a good boyfriend at ALL! You were right to tell him thats it wouldn't work, if he acts like that. But, you shouldn't handle this on your own. I mean "don't ever threaten me---and your gonna leave is a 'no no'". That doesn't sound to well safe. I mean I would take it seriously. Just tell an adult about that. On top of that, you said he was a preist. Heck, that is not a way someone that religious should act. And priests, i know for a fact that they don't channel their anger to another person. well at least a good one. So he obviously does NOT respect you. Your doing everything right, and desetve such a better boyfriend. So, like i said, please don't handle this on your own. Bring someone who is acctually in your presence, into this. Not someone who can't do anything (such as me over the internet). Hope i helped. good luck, don't forget to rate!!
-alex :]
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omg!!!!!im so fustrated and its with myself! ive been dating this guy for a little over a month and he wants to go to the next level and kiss me.i truelly want to as well very badly but i just cant!im just so nervous and shy about it and i can never bring myself to do it and its so fustrating!ive kissed only one boy and when i did it i wasnt really scared but i did go out with that boy for like 7months b-4 i did it. i still dont understand why im so nervous to do it again!i told him that he would deffinately have to make the first move and he has tried but i think he wants me to make a little bit of an effort and like meet him half way but i just cant!!he tried twice and i was just to danm shy!!!i talked to a friend who has tried to help and she said when you get the first kiss out of the way youll feel a whole lot more comfortable. i have no doubt i will and i want to feel comfortable but i cant even bring myself to have our first kiss!i know it might sound like im taken it way to seiriously but ive never made-out with anyone and ive only kissed one boy while all of my friends have made out numerous times!i just want to feel that special feeling you get when you kiss someone you care about and i feel like almost crying when i let countless perfect oppertunities slip away because of my nervousness!!!i feel like if i keep letting my nervousness get in the way it will never happen or wont happen until im like 20!!!i jus need some danm advice!!!BAD!!please and thankyou! (link)
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well, it depends on how old you are really. If you are in your later teens, you should be able to kiss somebody, unless you just really think that you are not ready too. But if you are in your younger teens, you probably should wait til' your just a bit older. But it really sounds like your older so hers the advice, tell him that you really want to kiss him, but you just can't bring yourself to. If he really likes you, he will give you time. Just work on your relationship, and try to spend time with him, and cuddle, and talk and stuff. That should help. Don't forget to rate!!
-alex :]
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i have liked my best guy friend forever. the problem is, i don't know if he likes me back or not. but it's not a little crush, i like him so much! i cry myself to sleep all the time from being upset about him possibly not liking me. what do i do? (link)
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maybe you could try flirting with him a little bit. or have some of your friends ask him if he likes anybody. But i like i said, flirt with him a little. like bat your eyelashes a little, or touch his arm when your talking to him, look at him straight in the eye, ummm if he's talking to you, listen closely, and bite your bottom lip. It's usually a turn on for most guys. Hope i helped. Don't forget to rate!
-alex :]
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okay so i have had a crush on this really hot guy for like a month or so. we are friends and we text all the time and he is really nice and he would tell me how nice and pretty i was and stuff. he had a girlfriend, and they recentley broke up. we haven't been talking much lately, just on the bus and some in the hallway, but we have like stopped texting. he told me over text like 2 weeks ago that he liked me, and i told him i liked him, but that was when he still had a girlfriend. my other friends who are friends with him asked him recently who he liked and he said alot of people, but that the only one he thinks he has a chance with is samantha, another girl in my grade!!! i am so confused about everything! then today my other friend, melissa was talking to him. me and him and melissa all ride the same bus. here's how the convo went:
Melissa- Hey billy!
billy- hey melissa, why dont you ever ride the bus anymore?
melissa- oh i have basketball.
billy- oh okay. well ive been having to sit next to anna (thats me), and we talk like the whole time and stuff but it's really awkward.
melissa- why?!
then melissa's boyfriend came up and told billy to go away right when he was about to talk! idk what to think anymore! i am really confused, and if you have any insight on this AT ALL, please tell me. i dont no what to do or think or anything. give me ideas on what to text him if you can. please, anything will help! (link)
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so what from what you said, he thought is was awekward to sit next to and talk to you. right? well thats probably because both of you told each other that you both like each other. And, now that he is no longer dating anyone, he is probably thinking that maybe you don't feel that way anymore. Try to talk to him, and flirt with him more. He will most likely get the vibe, and if he still likes you, flirt back. hope i helped. don't forget to rate!
-alex :]
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Ok.. Well, I like this girl see... She used to like me, but I'm not sure if she still does or not... Anyway. How do I know if she still likes me, WITHOUT asking her? I mean, I think I MIGHT be inlove with her but... I don't want to love her and her not love me back... (link)
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Flirt with her a bit, maybe let her know that your looking for her, such as when she is absent from shchool or something ask where she was if she said she was sick ask if she's feeling better or something. The key is to FLIRT! Hope this helps!! don't forget to rate!!
-alex
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Iv been dating this guy for almost a year now&&i dont know what to get him for his 17th bday. i want something nice,the price doesnt matter. i was going to take him to a concert but there isnt any around that time. Can anyone help me think of something?? (link)
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You could maybe get him a sweatshirt/shirt, a cd, i know cd's are defiantly a good present for guys. Maybe if he liked drums, you could get him a little mini sculpture of someone playing drums or something. But you can't go wrong with his fav. band on a cd and a card and def. kisses!! Hope i helped!! Don't forget to rate!
-alex
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ok so i have a girlfriend that i love more than anything. she is my first love. we have been togeter like 7 months. but then im taking this class at the colledge and there is this girl in my class there and well when i saw her i saw that she was kinda hitting on me/ noticing me and well i kinda returned it. i dont even know why i did. im DEFF not the kinda guy to cheat EVER. its just not me. but lately i have been finding this other girl on my mind. but i have no intentions of breaking it off with my girlfriend cuz i love her no matter what.
so what do i do?
is this normal?
am i a horrible person for thinking about another girl like that
i know that i would never let myself do anything more than flirt tho.
ahhh
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HELLO!!! Your a teenage male! Your hormones are still all over the place, your mind and heart are into the girl your dating now, and you know you love her. But sometimes hormones get the best of you and just do something that you don't mean to do. Your body just wanted to flirt with her but you probably didn't. And you have nothing to worry about it is COMPLETELY NORMAL! You are defiantly not a horrible person for doing that. Most couples flirt with some other people just to keep things fresh. Just try your absolute hardest to stop flirting and tell that girl you are currently in a relationship, but you would like to get to know her (if you do) and maybe you could date later on if thats what she is interested in. Hope i helped!! don't forget to rate!!!
-Alex
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MY MUM WON'T LET ME HAVE A BOYFRIEND!
am 15yrs old, ad my mum won't let me have a boyfriend!
All my friends have boyfriends, but i did'nt care i could'nt have one because i never saw it as a big deal....
Then...about a year ago i started to like this guy, i knew i could'nt go out with him, and was'nt upset i could'nt, because i thought, 'why would he like me? But about a month ago he asked me out, i told him i would think about it.(And hes saying take as long as you want, how cute is that)
I find it really unfair i can't go out with him, my mum says i need to concetrate on my studies but i am, an a/b student-and hes kinda more clever the me!
i don't think she trusts me either, but i know not to do anything stupid, i mean things like sex, am going to defo wait till am married.
I know she wants me to be safe and everything but, i really like him, and i wish that she would let me go out with him.
Is she being fair? (link)
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Well, culture for dating is just getting younge and younger. I know people that are like 10 and 11 are dating. (i mean what do they do walk accross the hallway holding hands?)I do think that 15 is a very reasonable age to start dating at. But, I am not your parent, and I can't make those decisions. You should DEFNINTLY be able to go out by the time you are 16. Just tell your mom that you know she is worried about you doing stuff such as sex, but you would NOT do that until your married (from what you told me) but you are indeedy growing up and you think it is time that she is able to date. Maybe try telling her that you realllly like that one guy and that he asked you out but you couldn't go because of what she said, maybe she will reconsider it if you tell her that. Hope i helped!
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when i was 14 i went out with a guy who was 17. we lasted 4 months and i didn't really like him anymore so i broke up with him. that was two years ago but just lately i've been thinking of him and there's a lot of things that are reminding me of him. i don't want to get back together with him but i don't want to think about him. he has a girlfriend anyway. how can i get my mind off of him? (link)
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Maybe you are still in love with the fact of you and him together. If you didn't like him at that time i have doubts that you like him now. Although, you could just be having 2nd feelings for him. Ask yourself if he is a good boyfriend and if he treated you right. But i must say that off and on relationships normally don't get to far. Remember that. Hope i helped!
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