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Is she being fair?
MY MUM WON'T LET ME HAVE A BOYFRIEND!
am 15yrs old, ad my mum won't let me have a boyfriend!
All my friends have boyfriends, but i did'nt care i could'nt have one because i never saw it as a big deal....
Then...about a year ago i started to like this guy, i knew i could'nt go out with him, and was'nt upset i could'nt, because i thought, 'why would he like me? But about a month ago he asked me out, i told him i would think about it.(And hes saying take as long as you want, how cute is that)
I find it really unfair i can't go out with him, my mum says i need to concetrate on my studies but i am, an a/b student-and hes kinda more clever the me!
i don't think she trusts me either, but i know not to do anything stupid, i mean things like sex, am going to defo wait till am married.
I know she wants me to be safe and everything but, i really like him, and i wish that she would let me go out with him.
Is she being fair?
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I don't think she is being unfair. Would my mother allowed me to have a boyfriend at age 15? Not only no, but hell no.
Why? She is just looking out for your best interests. It's not at all that she doesn't trust you. It's the teenage boy interested in her daughter that she doesn't trust. Sorry, nothing you can do about that but accept it. :(
As for your studies- time taken up by a boyfriend is less time spent on studies, meaning a strong possibility of grades dropping. I know, I know, "That won't happen! I'll be sure to keep up on my studies!" But you don't realize how easily you can procrastinate studying and how fast that causes your grades to drop.
Best thing I can think for you to do is talk to your mom about when she will allow you to start dating. If the guy wants to date you for real, he will wait until it is allowed.
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It's hard to say if a parent is being fair or not. Better safe then sorry. Yet that still doesn't change things. Maybe if you ask her to bring over some friends, and you bring him over let him meet her. Let them talk and get to know each other. When they're done ask nonchalantly what does she think of him, if she asks why say, "Mom, I love u. I want to respect you, and for you to trust me. Instead of dating behind your back I decided for you to meet the guy I liked first, please! I promise that I will be responsible. I know you're just worried, but I think it would be best if you let me." Sometimes when someone says no to something it's bound to happen. If you show her that you respect her she might soften up, and also make sure you let the guy know what's going on.
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Well, culture for dating is just getting younge and younger. I know people that are like 10 and 11 are dating. (i mean what do they do walk accross the hallway holding hands?)I do think that 15 is a very reasonable age to start dating at. But, I am not your parent, and I can't make those decisions. You should DEFNINTLY be able to go out by the time you are 16. Just tell your mom that you know she is worried about you doing stuff such as sex, but you would NOT do that until your married (from what you told me) but you are indeedy growing up and you think it is time that she is able to date. Maybe try telling her that you realllly like that one guy and that he asked you out but you couldn't go because of what she said, maybe she will reconsider it if you tell her that. Hope i helped!
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