Hey ya'll my name is Ashley and i'm fourteen yrs. old. I have brown hair, hazel eyes, and i'm 5'4". I play softball and volleyball and i love boys of course!! I was in my school's pageant this year and got in the top 15 so i'm proud of that. I love horses, dolphins, and the SOUTH of course. I'm a country gurl born in Texas and raised in Alabama. I decided to have an advice column because I've been told that I give pretty advice. Also like everybody else in this world i need it sometimes too!! well my aim screen name is rutterbutter14 so im me if you want to talk on there cuz i'd luv to chat with ya'll bout nething!!
Luv always!!,
advicehotti21
~~~ASHLEY~~~
Gender: Female
Location: Alabama
Occupation: softball player
Age: 14
AIM: rutterbutter14
Member Since: April 21, 2005
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So prom was last night I went with the guy I like but as soon as his ex girlfriend came to our table he stood up to talk to her and she kept comming up to him all night. And I got upset because I was supposed to be his date and he was like we are just really good friends and he was like all touchy after I got upset what is up with that? And I also think I have a crush on my friends boyfriend because hes so sweet and im an old fashion type of girl and he opens doors for us and stuff and I dunno what should I do? I rate high! (link)
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I think you should keep your love life on hold temperarily as long as you are deciding between these two guys. My opinion get rid of cheater guy because you know he's obviously still caught up on his ex girl but on the other hand this other dude is going out with your friend and doesnt want to be annoyed with you liking him when he's got a girlfriend my advice either wait on this guy to break up with your friend and then go for it or just find somebody else. This choice depends on how good of a guy your friends boyfriend really is!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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okay, well i like this guy but he doesnt like me i dont even think he likes me as a friend i dont know why i mean i talk to him on the bus and all but thats it. and i overheard him say he doesnt like me but i have liked this guy for a really long time. im 14 and have never had a boyfriend or even danced with a guy i know its pathetic...so could someone please help me because im at the end of 8th grade and i really want a boyfriend or just someone to like me back and i seem really pathetic..i know but idk what to do please help me...
--desperate for love (link)
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You will find someone when your meant to. You can't force someone to like you and if they don't like you back they're really not worth the time stressin over it. I mean when your ready and god knows you are he'll send someone your way and it'll be the best thing thats ever happened in your love life.
Luv,
advicehotti21
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Im gay and i wanna tell my boyfriend that im gay, what should i do? (link)
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Well i'm asumming that you just realized that you are gay because you currently have a boyfriend. All I can tell you to tell him is the truth! I mean you can't exactly change the way you feel on this subject and you can't really act like you love him when you don't love any guy so Iwould just come out and say it it wll end better than lying and telling him another reason and him finding out you are gay later!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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hey my name is Ashley and i'm a feamle(of course) and i'm 14 yrs. old heres my question for anybody with good advice!!!
I like my best friends ex!!! Heres the scoop... they broke up because my best friend was confused and she cheated on him. Well now(two months later) she starts telling me she now knows what she was missing and she really did love him and she wants desperately to go with him again. Now i've been talking to him since they broke up because he needed a friend cuz he really liked her but she cheated on him.(yea i kno guys actually have feelings...well at least the good ones) and i'm starting to like him now i mean he's the perfect boyfriend he's cute, hilarious, loving, i don't know he's just soOoOo great!! the thing is that my best friend who i've been friends with for almost 11 yrs. still "loves" him i really really think she'll be so mad if he askes me out or if i ask him. I dont know what to do cuz i dont want her to be mad at me but i dont get very many guys nowadays and i really like him and he told me i was hot yesterday please help me!!
Luv,
~~~ASHLEY~~~
P.S. i rate high
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You should go for it babe!!!!
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I recently started going out with this guy, I am 16 and he is 18. We make-out tons and tons, and its great and it feels great. But then that makes me wonder if he is only in it for the physical aspect, I asked him if thats all it was, he said no and that he likes being around me and he likes hanging out with me. Whell things dont feel right at all, I feel like im just his toy or whatever and he doenst tell me how he feels about things. Its often hard to express myself as well because I dont know how he would react. Its just weird, I just want to make things better (link)
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If you just feel like his toy then ditch him!!! i mean i'm not sayin dont talk to him cuz believe me you can get him to talk but it again would be only because you cut off the physical supply(if you know what i mean) but no gurl deserves to be some guys toy i mean we weren't just mad to give them whatever it might give them to be with us. God doesn't want it like that and if I was you I wouldn't want it to be that way either!!! well hope this helps!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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K today this guy i like , came up to me and hugged me. He held me for atleast 5 minutes. Then when we got of the buss after school, he kept huggin me, and he asked me if he could hold my hand , and i said yes. So he did, then he asked if he could kiss me , and i didnt know what to say. So i kept quiet. Then my friends walked me home from their house, and he followed us. My friends are saying he likes me, but I dont think he does. What should i do?!?!?!?! i rate high. Please help. oo and hes 15/m and im 14/f (link)
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Go with him he sounds really sweet and if you can't tell he likes you get your emotions checked out becasue it sounds like this guy has got the hotts for ya!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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Hey my girlfriend broke up with me like 3 weeks ago but i still love her so much she came over my friends house last night with my friends X and we had like 30 ppl there and she knew all of them but she only talked to me i still love her with all my heart but i dont know what to do should i ask her back out??
I rate high if its good (link)
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You should really try and ask her back out. It doesn't sound liek the break-up was very messy so jsut explain to ehr tha you love her but don;t sound too desperatre just explain to her that you want to go back out with her but if she doesn't want to then ya'll can be jsut really good friends. You'll find this effective and either way you gain a really good friend!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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f/14
I like this guy. He's really cute and we are friends. we hang out sometimes out of school and talk online and stuff. When it comes to my feelings about him i can't really describe it. I've only told one friend about it and she said that i'm in love with him but i don't think that i'm IN LOVE with him. We flirt a lot but then theres this new kid at my school. We met at a football game for my local high school but he didn't remember me cuz i got my hair cut. He flirts with me too but i don't really think he likes me and i don't really either but today he tried to look up my skirt and that kind of weirded me out. please help me (link)
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Next time this jerk tries to look up your skirt SLAP HIM IN THE FACE!! you cannot let guys take advantage of you and you really sound like you like this other dude alot. Go for him and don't let peeping tom take control!! hope this is what you needed!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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ok... i like this guy but i cant say his name, so ill call him MR. BIGGLESWORTH.....and he is dating one of my friends...and the other day my best frined told him i liked him alot and that i was practically in love with him(and i am but that wasnt the way id hoped he'd find out)and he didnt say anything but that copuld have been because his gf was right there idk.....but i really want to go out with and i want him to go out with me to...........on wednsday of last week we were in lunch and he sits about 3 tables over from mine.......and he kept callin my name and when i would look over to him he'd cover his eyes like he was playing peek-a-boo with me and he kept doing it.....then i went to his table to arm wrestle him and he kept letting me win and then finally he plaid for real and he said that if he won that we had to do stuff but he was joking........then i went to go back to my table and he wouldnt let me leave without giving him a hug...........and when he gave me a hug he touched my butt...i know that sounds bad but he only did that when he liked me.......i just want to ask that from what i just wrote....do you think he still likes me or not?i rate good if your answer is good (link)
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I think he likes you because if her thought you were ugly or whatever then he wouldnt flirt with you so much. Go along with it and he'll make the choice between his girlfriend and you.
Luv,
advicehotti21
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there is this boy i like him but of course my luck he has a girlfriend my friend said that he likes me and he lied to his gf to talk to me on the phone because shes very paranoid and dosent trust him at all. what should i do? should i act on the opertunity because we like each other or just leave him alone? (link)
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Keep on doing what you are doing. I mean he'll make the choice if he likes you or his g/f better. And if he chooses his g/f for the moment then don't worry becasue more than likely they'll break up due to her paranoia!!! (lol)
Luv always,
advicehotti21
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Hey ashley,
you know me really good i guess you can say we're close but see i have this question about someone i love so much. See the thing is that me and him have been going on and off for a while and now we broke up because he cheated on me with my best friend.......well you see i really luved him and i want him back so bad and ive tried to let go i just cant so i was wondering........... what would you do in my shoes????? (link)
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This is truely a tough question i mean you've obviously tried to let go of your past with him but you just can't. My advice: you can't go back wtih him no matter how bad you want to or how much you feel you need him because you really really don't. He was low enough to cheat on you with of all people YOUR BEST FRIEND and now you want him back. Gurl he should be beggin to get back with you!!! If he wants to play games and cheat on people let him get hurt by not wanting him back!! You can do it i know you can your strong and you dont need him. Find someone that will treat you right and respect you for you. hope this helps!!!
Luv,
advicehotti21
~~~ASHLEY~~~
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Hey me and my girlfriend just broke up she broke up with me in january a different girl dumped me and i got over her for a little while but when i started talking to her again i couldnt help but love her again i miss her so much i dont know if she likes me
what should i do should i ask her out or should i sit here and wish she would go out with me please help!?!?!?!?! (link)
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You have two choices that are equally consequenced: 1. like you said you could just sit around and love her and wish she loved you back and daydream about her and u going out but thats not goin to do anyone any good. or 2.you can tell her you love her again and ya'll will more than likely go back out but she'll break your heart again and ya'll will break up and this will all start over again the only way you can prevent this reoccurance is stop talkin to people who break your heart
Luv,
advicehotti21
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Is it possible to be in love when your 13? Im turning 14 in July but still....his mom wont let him date until like a 'year down the road" (thats what she told me) and we are both willing to wait until his mom 'allows' him to date....ive never liked somebody so much in my life! And hes not even the hottest thing in the world hes the sweetest, funniest, adorablest guy in the world....and ive NEVER felt this way about ANYBODY....i LoVe him....but still is it possible to fall in love when your 13? (link)
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No, i think that it is impossible to fall in love truely when your thirteen. You might think your in love with someone but the reality of it all is your only thirteen your way too young to be thinking about love. His mom is right you're way too young to be dating for real. Wait till your at least 15 then talk about loving someone!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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I really love my boyfriend a lot. We have known each other for a long time. But I like to flirt a lot with other guys, sometimes i just can't help it. And my boyfriend will find out sometimes and it makes him feel bad. I don't think he would break up with me but I hate to hurt him. It makes me feel so bad. What can I do? (link)
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There is a simple answer to this solution if you really love your boyfriend you wouldn't flirt with other guys. I know its hare but you have to resist if you truely dont want to hurt him!
Luv,
advicehotti21
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f/14
I like this guy and we are already friends. I don't have many classes with him but I sit right behind him in the one class we do have. He always turns aroud at me and tries to make me laugh. I told one of my friends who hasn't told anyone. He's really cute but i don't want to tell him. It might ruin our friendship and i don't want anything like that to happen. I just really like him. Help, i'll rate low if you tell me to tell him because that won't get me anywhere (link)
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i have the same problem and they haven't answered me yet i'll relay the answer to you when i recieve it thanx bye
Luv,
advicehotti21
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I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 monthes now, and we havent kissed yet... part of the problem is that i havent really found the time right, i would like a spot that (i know this may be kinda unlikly) but later on down the road maybe if i proposed to her, it would be the same spot... the other problem is that she never makes any "moves". The only times we talk is when i call her, (or at school) and the only times she ever calls me, is when she missed my call and is just returning it. Now a bunch of things are going on, and we are both a little buisier (sp) and really stressed out. We both have a really short fuse at the moment, and i know sometimes i can be kinda annoying. What should i do since we are both really, really competative, im affraid if i dont say it exactly right, it will turn into a fight, and i havent had one with her (or any girl) yet, but i really dont want to... so what should i say to her to kinda tell her i dont want to be doing everything in the relationship? (link)
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First of all i have no idea how old you are but it doesnt really matter all girls want is their boyfriends to make them feel special. They want you to make the move because all gurls are nervous and they don't want to feel like they're not doing it right because if they thought you didnt like them because they didnt know how to kiss that would make them feel really bad. It sounds like this girl is very typical and is shy when it comes to being alone with her boyfriend this is why she keeps all her friends tight around her for support. What you need to do is just the next time you feel the need to kiss her or hug her and her friends are around be a bigger person and do it right in front of them then your girl will take the hint and spend alot more time alone with you if she knows she is safe and that you dont feel like shes doing it wrong just make sure you do not take advantage of her cuz that will screw you and her up big time hope that helps
Luv,
advicehotti21
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