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hey im 13 and ive had many problems thoughout my life and i would like to help you with any of yours. I will try to answer your questions with thought and truthfully. My favorite catogories are love life and friendships. so if you have any questions ask away!

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Ok so there is this boy i REALLY like. Hes cute and funny and very flirty. Well hes in like ALL of my classes and talks/flirts with me alot. He had a GF and he would never talk to her or anything. I always assumed he had her because he just didnt want to be alone. Well anyway, she broke up with him and immediatly got a new bf (in the same day!). Well i wasent at school that day and i think he really wanted to not look like a dork cuz everyone was making such a big deal about it. so the next day i came to school, pretty sick but not enough to stay home, and i found out he had a new GF. Worst of all shes not in ANY of his classes and she just moved here so i have no idea how he knows her! I keep goin back in my head thinking why couldnt i just have gone to school but then i keep thinking, couldnt he have waited ONE day?
well my question is this,
Should i just wait? Should i tell him i like him? or should i just forget about him because if he liked me he woulda waited? i am kinda hurt

Thx in advance

Thats really weird because the exact same thing pretty much just happened to me. fist of all im sorry because i know how much it hurts, well at least i know it hurt me. Anyways, I think you should tell him how you feel about everything, your feelings towards him, and about his new gf. Cuz he probably just wants someone to be with since no guys like to be alone. so tell him that you like him and he might break up with her once he knows u like him for sure. If not, then its your choice to wait for them to break up or not. But some guys just arent worth the wait. && thats a desicion you have to make. I dont want to just tell you to wait, i waited for someone for about 1 year total. i had bfs in between that but i always liked him, But then i realized hes not even worth it.

I hope i helped!

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Me and my boyfriend lets call him Tom have been together for about a week. We really have a good connection. I have hugged him once. And he asked me if he could kiss me twice, but i didn't answer him. I really want to kiss him so badly, but im nervous. When my friend lets call her Megan kissed her boyfriend lets call him Dan she nearly missed. So i don't want to miss like she did. But however I'm more experienced. And she's only kissed twice.Should I kiss him??

One thing you need to kno before you think about kissing him is knowing that your ready to. one week doesnt seem that long but just make sure you guys are commited to each other ,, cuz after all you want the kiss to be good right? Make sure you Want to not just to tell people that u've kissed someone. Once you both think your ready which i guess you are. Then the kiss should Normally just happen. Dont Worry about missing..once you guys go for it all will just naturally come...i sused to be afraid of missing but once it came i realized it was pretty hard to. I also Kissed someone about....the 1st week i think it was and then i realized we werent ready for it and then suddently our relationship had ended from it.. So keep tht in mind and i hope all goes well for you!

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i like this guy who likes me as well but the problem is........ im going to high school and he's staying in middle school. he might ask me out and i don't know if i should say yes, or just stay single for summer and find someone even better in high school. help please

wow. i had somthing quite like that happen to me. Well i picked to go out with the guy that liked me back but then during schoool i found this really nice guy that i wanted to be with, so i really just followed my heart on which one i would be best with. I kno it kinda got off subject but yeha....So i think you should really think....do you really like this guy....will you last long with him....is he worth it or is he going to break your heart....once you've answered those then its really up to you whether or not. Just do what you WANT to do not what you should do. if you have any other questions about this just ask me! i hope i helped
sincerly,
Katie

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13/m
For the second time, i develoed a crush on my best friend, who is almost4 years older than me, should I tell her? I am hesitating because its a bit redundant and hopeless, and the last time i was in love with her, and was rejected, i was sent in a depression to the point i wasn't like myself, and our friendship was a bit f a mess {from my point of veiw} Is it still a good thing to confess?

if i were you i would think first about your friend relationship. The same thing happened to my friend and she asked the guy out but he rejected and their close friendship had ended. Think about your relationshipd with her. If it looks like she likes you more then a friend then go for it but if its not a relationship worth ruining then i would just talk to her more and get to be really close friends..Who knows it could change into somthing more....i hope i helped.. and if you need anything else oyu can always ask!
sincerly,
katie

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Okay so ive really liked this guy for like 6 years and now ive gotten to know him better, he is always at my best friends house because he is best friends with her brother, when im there he'll stay extra late and we talk and even if his friend has gone to bed i start thinking he likes me and I really want to trust my instincts but am I just thinking that because I want it to be real or how should I test this (find out if he likes me) without him knowing????HELP!

well all i would do is ask your friend about it...see if she knows. and maybe have her ask him. If he Stays later just to talk to you i think he really does like you. just maybe to afraid to say anything. So i would talk to your friend about it. OR even talk to him in person about it and just give him clues that you like him. i kno it wasnt a lot but i hope i helped!
sincerly,
katie

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kay me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now..we have been talking about gettin a place of our own and really settle down with eachother..the thing is he wants me to be more AGGRESSIVE but i dont know how because im a soft person that gets hurt very easily and i am a big baby..he also wants me to WOMAN up but i dont know how or what he means by that...and i need help on how i can do these things so we can work out and last..so if u could please help me out..were together everyday..stay at eachothers houses..in love..families want us to be together..just this little bump keeping us alittle apart..ill rate high!

i do think that if he really likes you then he would like you for who you are. Be yourself and if he doesnt like it then you can find someone better that likes you for who you are without any changes.i really think you should think about the whole moving in thing. its only been 4 monthes and i really do think you should give it time and make sure hes really the one you want to be with. i hope i helped!!
sincerly,
katie

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so im taking drivers ed this summer and its kind of nice b/c i dont really know anyone in there so i get to act more like myself. basically im not as shy. so theres this guy who sits behind me and he cought my eye the first day. hes smart and taller than me which is rare because im 5'9 but anyways i flirt w/ him and its fun but i dunno im kind of interested in him but i dont know how to get his attention more like i dont know how to be more agressive without coming off as crazy. i think he gets it b/c he flirts back and it makes those 2 boring hours very interesting but im still confused on what i should do. please help! (sorry this is so long!)

all i have to say is to continue talking to him and start giving clues that you like him. Talk about his interest and just things he lieks to do. Just lossen up and be yourself. Then after you get comfortable with him then just ask him if he would like to go see a movie or somthing he enjoys. if hes really worth it then he will accept
i hope i helped! good luck,
katie

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well, me and my boyfriend had been going out for almost 6 months, by the way i'm 14. and i thought things were going great, and out of no where he just decides that he doesn't want a girlfriend anymore. and we split. i cried for a few days. and i just can't seem to completely get over him. i just want to pretty much forget about him, and never socialize with him again. what are some things that could help me get over him?

well what helps me a lot is to hang out with some close friends. There always there for you and kno how to get ur mind on other things. What also helped me was to still be friends with the guy, knowing he doesnt hate me made me feel better. So just hang out with a couple of friends and just think about things you like to do.
i hope i helped!

sincerly,
Katie

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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 wonderful months. he is the best, and i cant even describe him. though the other day, he talked to me about engagement, which i am quite excited for. though me and him would have to keep it on the downlow for i am going to be 16 and he will be 18. he isnt going to ask for awhile yet(falltime or beyond that time, hes thinking), he just brought it up because he wanted to see how i felt about it. i actually feel wonderful about it and i feel very ready. i love this man with all my heart and have never felt this way about someone before. i dont have much of a family, but him and his family makes up for it. im not reallt needing advice, cause i know id say yes in a heartbeat, but am i crazy for being excited at 16 y/o and i know it will be easy to hide from my parents because i hide everything from them, but is this a ridculous decision?!? thanks alot

i really dont think its a ridculous decision i jsut think you need to wait a little bit and think if you really want to spend your life with this guy and if hes worth it. though it sounds like you really do like him and want to be with him i would wait a couple of years. You're still young and theres a lot ahead of you. Although you're really excited about it i would give it time and settle down a little bit. i kno its not much but i hoped i helped
sincerly,
XxbrokenLoverxX (katie)

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ok so i have a girlfriend and she loves me to death and i love her too but we've been together fer almost a year. Things are starting to wind down and my g/f is noticing that and she's affraid of us breaking up. What if it gets so bad that we never see each other anymore. I will admit that i'm kinda un-falling in love. i'm starting to not love her day by day because i'm noticing all these things that she does because she knows me too well. it gets annoying sometimes tho i liked it better when we were complete strangers ( well not complete strangers). If it gets that we just grow appart how would i break up with her because if i do she'll be crying her eyes out. she does that everytime she thinks we are falling apart. how do i break up with her without all the tears?
HELP ME
sincerely, someone u don't know

aw,
well all girls cry, its just a natural thing.
But all i have to say is tell her how you feel. be truthfull about it. Make sure you are sure about your thoughts of breaking up. just tell her that you feel its better that you guys are jsut friends, instead of more. just be honost and tell her you want to stay friends. yes she will cry but eventually she wil get over it by time. just be there for her as a friend.
i hope i helped!

sincerly
XbrokenloverX

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I met my best guy friend 3 years ago (lets call him mark)...we were friends for about two months before we started acting like a couple but we'rent going out. About a year later we were nothing but friends and a new friend of mine (lets call her aly) needed a bf. So I introduced them. Aly went out with Mark on and off for about 5 months...they have been broken uhp for 6th months now and me and aly have been best friends for a year. Me and mark have recently (2 months ago) had feelings for each other again. I went to the movies with him yesterday and I relized that I had fallen completely in love with him. I dont want to hurt aly but is it ohkay for me to date mark eventually? what should I tell aly so she can accept it. Ive know mark for at lesast a year longer than aly...and I used have a realtionship like theirs before. what should I do??? i'll rate high

well first talk to aly about it and ask her how she feels about him still. Then tell her your feelings for him. Then maybe even help her find a new guy that she will like to get mark off of her mind. Then you can keep her as a friend and maybe even get mark as more then your friend. i hope i helped!
sincerly,
XxBrokenLoverxX

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