Hey i'm 15 years ikd and my boyfriend and i have known eachother for three years but only started dating two months ago. i know he's itchin to move to 2nd base but i'm kinda unsure. i mean only 2 months?? isn't that way too soon? and dont tell me it depends on how i feel i need a good non-slutty opinion of when you should begin to let your boyfriend touch you in that way
well, i mean i know you really like this boy, or at least it sounds like it. you usually have to like someone to feel the need to do this stuff. but i really just think that 15 isn't the right age to be doing this stuff.
you can't even drive yet, and you're already feeling the need to make it halfway through the ball park??
and two months is a little soon. a lot happens in a relationship in two months, but i think you need to realize you don't have to grow up so fast. enjoy being young and have fun without feeling the need to be sexual. it's a big responsibility. first and foremost, make sure you're ready and good and responsible to handle the emotional ties it will all bring up that weren't there before.
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Is it wrong to want someone to sleep next to you, cuddle with you, laugh, hug, kiss, and play with you, when you don't want to date anyone?
Well, I don't know if you are a girl or a guy, but I think it depends on that a lot. Guys tend to be more apt of having a friend with benefits than girls. Girls have emotional ties that really causes them to be hurt from relations like these. If you are a girl who wants this from a guy, there are still guys who can get their feelings hurt by caring more than they should. If you're a guy, I don't suggest doing this to a girl. Either way, make sure the person knows that you only want someone for fun and comfort, but not to be serious with, although, it is risky. Usually in situations like these, someone always gets attached. Keep in mind that we can't help how our feelings develop for someone, so even if one of you is going into it thinking "hey i got a makeout buddy" you may come out of it wanting more because that close of physical contact is personal and will make you care a lot for someone.
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hi im 15/f and im a freshman at my school. last year i dated this guy kyle and hes now 14/m and is in 8th grade.. but we dated and fought then made up for about 4 months then we started seeing other people. i hooked up and did some things with this one guy trying to get over kyle. but it just made me miss him more so i decided to try again with him and he asked if i didnt anything with anyone els i told him what i had did and he holds it againts me all the time. but we broke up again and didnt talk at all untill a month ago. and thats when i fell head over heels for him once again.now were dateing and spending every weeknd together we havent done much witch is awsome. but we havent bc hes still mad that i did things with another guy. weve been dateing for 2 weeks so far and its great but it seems like he cant get over i did things wiht another guy. so i was woundering how can i make him stop holding it against me and start trusting me more?
The first thing you need to realize is that guys really DO mature slower than girls. You are dating a younger guy, so that will always be difficult in the teenage years. I know from my past that guys who are younger are more apt to get jealous and act crazy about stuff that can't be helped. They haven't reached the maturity level of understanding yet that is needed for a decent relationship.
You're 15, so you shouldn't worry about not "doing stuff" with this guy. Yes, people do do things when they are this young sometimes even though they shouldn't, but you should just be happy to be with him. You don't have to do anything with him to be happy with him.
Second, you and this boy weren't even going out when you did these things, so it's really none of his business what you did. He's probably just having a hard time thinking of you with another guy, which is how guys of all ages are. Usually when you're with them they want you for themselves and that's all they see.
If you continue to date him, all you can do is tell him that obviously he's the only guy you want to be with or you would be with that guy. Explain to him that you don't spend all this time with him for nothing, and that it's not about to change. And assure him that the past is the past and there's nothing to change it, so he should be happy he has you now and the two of you could be happier if he let it go.
Good luck!
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My ex boyfriend is trying to get back with me. However he doesnt know I have another bf already nobody really knows about him except for my really close friends because I didnt want any gossip, drama, and my mom doesnt like him that much (she doesnt really like anybody that much). However, I found out that he asked one of my really good friends to be his girlfriend as well. I talked to him about it and he admitted it. He said that me and her are both beautiful and that he likes her a lot but he really loves me and that he didnt want to be alone and anyways he knew that she was going to say no. This sounds kind off like player to me but he denies it...I feel kind off like....okay so im your back up plan? no it doesnt work that way... he got mad when I told him what I thought...and i dated him for 5 months and know he´s a good guy. Lately a lot of my "friends" true faces came up...so I dont really know what to think... am I right to think that he´s just playing with me....and that...hes and idiot? in my eyes hes trying to get together with two girls since one was obviously going to say no then theres the back up one....Im nobody´s backup...and i have someone who loves me and truly cares about me....what should I say? am I right to think this way? Im 17 female...
This guy does sound like he's just trying to find someone. If he only wanted you and seriously loved you, then he'd be only after you. Obviously he just wants someone to have someone regardless of who it is. You say you're in a good relationship with a guy who you know loves you now, so why are you fooling with this guy??
It doesn't matter what you tell him either. You don't even have to respond to him. You shouln't worry about what he wants. He may be a good guy, but maybe he's only interested now because you're taken and he can't have you. Isn't that how it always is, it drives them crazy when you're over it and you're happy with someone else??
Nobody asks someone out if they know they're going to say "no" just for the heck of it. I'd just leave this guy alone or it may jeopardize the relationship you're in now.
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Male 26
Lately, it feels like my girlfriend is constantly saying hurtful and/or disrespectful things to/about me. And I can't tell if she's oblivious or not about how it affects me.
How do I make it clear that I still love her, but that what she says affects me a lot.
I'm not really sure what kind of change in heart has resulted in her treating you like this. I can say though that if she never said these things before, and it just sort of cropped up, then there is a definite change in heart.
You need to talk to her and find out what it is that is going through her head.
Obviously, something is wrong if she's doing this continuously.
You need to ask her if you've done something to offend her or if her feelings have changed towards you because it does seem that if someone says mean things to you there is no way that they don't know what they're doing. Mean things are mean things no matter what or who says them.
Good luck talking to her. I hope everything works out for you!!
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16/f
So, this guy wrote me a note today and told me he liked me and he wanted to get to know me, etc. He said he was nervous at first to talk to me but he asked for my number and i gave it to him and he keeps calling but i am scared to answer it because i only met him today...and i'm not sure if i ike him like that. He is really nice and sweet already and we talked a lot at school but i get really nervous whenever i talk to guys on the phone for the first time. I only met him today, so is it mean not to answer the phone and wait until i know him a little better. I would be more comfortable then but i don't want to tell him that so what do i do? thanks!
Well, it does sound like you are well on your way to finding a sweet boyfriend, or a clingy one. I have to say that while his intentions do seem sweet and honorable this could be an indication of the many, many phone calls you'll get later when you're actually dating.
It all just depends on what you look for most in a guy. I say that you tell this guy the next time you see him that you'd like to talk to him and get to know him better, but you also want to take it slow. Maybe if he knows you don't want to rush until you find out how you feel about him, then he'll back off a little bit so you can think.
Good luck!! :)
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16/f
all of my friends, or pretty much all of them, have hooked up with a guy/guys. I haven't. and they are all so pretty :[ AND DON'T TELL ME THAT I AM PRETTY BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW ME. i think im not appealing to guys. i don't have boobs. and actually, some of my friends don't either, but that's not the point ... i guess. I've had like ... 3 boyfriends. 2 were just flukes. one i really liked alot, but we only kissed, never hooked up. i guess i was scared? *because he has hooked up before* and then we broke up. but anyways, just the other day one of my "friends" was like ... well everyone has hooked up by now...duh. and i was like, no they havent, i know people who havent. and she was like, have you? and i lied. i said i did. because i didn't want to feel like a loser. because maybe i should have ALREADY hooked up with a guy. but again, no guys like me. and im only attracted to the ones who are out of my league, not available, or ex's. I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG OR WHAT I AM DOING WRONG OR ANYTHING. any advice is appreciated. i guess. ugh. will it ever be my turn ?! ugh. and you don't have to tell me what i want to hear, im on this site for the truth. okay? thanks in advance.
I know what it feels like to be the odd man out. Your friends are talking about their sex stories and what happened to them. I have always had pretty high standards and I didn't get a serious relationship until I was even 17.
Despite what your friends are doing, I don't think you should feel the need to jump right into some fling just so you can honestly say you've hooked up with someone.
This stuff takes time, and it needs to be that when you DO hook up with someone it's not some big joke. It's not as glamorous as it seems, and you aren't missing too much.
You aren't a loser, the right guy just hasn't come around yet. We all have flaws, and I think you're currently struggling with your confidence and blaming your physical features more or less on your not hooking up.
Believe me when I say that you should seriously do stuff with someone you care about, not just some random guy. Give it time and when you find that guy he'll love you regardless of your cup size.
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Hi I am 16.f. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. He is my first true love, and everyone says 'youll never forget your first love' and everything, like our relationship will never last. But what if I TRULY think he is the only one I could ever be with. I know I am young, and of course I wouldn't get married now, and I have time to think about it but on one hand I can't imagine a future with anyone else, but on the other hand EVERYONE seems to think that just because I have never loved anyone else means I wont last long with him?? Is it possible that I just happened to find the perfect guy right off the bat? Has anyone had an experience like mine??
Well, there is always a slim chance that when you're with someone that they could be the one for you. I don't doubt that you love him unconditionally because we all love someone like that and more often than not more than one someone.
You do have to understand though, that every time you're in a serious relationship you have an opportunity to love that person.
You do love him now, but factor in that you are still young, like you said. You are only 16, and you have a lot of growing up left to do in the next several years. Chances are that you'll be in the midst of discovering what you want to do with you life for sure, what kind of person you are, and what interests you the most. As we grow, our perspectives change on things.
And while it is possible that he could be the one for you right now, he may not be the right one for you in the future.
You just have to love him and be happy with what you have right now, and take day by day. The chips will fall where they're meant to fall because the future is certainly indecisive. :)
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okay i really like this guy and he flirts with me alot and asks me what i would do to him but he nevers says anything about dating..so how would i ask him if we would be having a relationship or if he would just use me for action?
thanks
loveboys
Love boys,
I've dealt with a few of these myself.
And let me tell you: this boy is obviously not looking for a relationship.
If a guy starts talking to you and jumps right into asking you "what you would do to him" firs thing, then he's not looking for anything more than a hook up.
And don't ever stoop that low with any guy just because he seems charming(its the charm of a player) because in the long run, you'd rather guys want to actually date you because you're a great girl. Good guys don't want girls who have been with every other guy. Always have respect for yourself over what guys want.
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