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heyhey, well this is where i tell you bout myself im guessing, well im 16, i live in norwood ma, i go to a technical school. my screenname is chiquitablaze420. and i have a myspace website and an xanga, thats it. the rest are fakers! alrighty well ask away kids, im here to help you the best i can :) peacee

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14/female
ok like i reallly hate my life. But i live in a semi good neighborhood with a good famliy (mom, dad and sister) in a good house and everything but like nothing ever goes my way. Like i dont think im that pretty.. im 14 and only had 1 boyfriend (which only lasted 2 weeks ) and all my other friends have had manyy boyfriends and like all my friends that are girls are prettier than me in my opinion. and i dont really have a bestfriend. i used to but now someone else is her bestfriend. So now i just have like friends, but only like 4 really close friends. I'm naturally a very nice person.. but you know what they say: nice people finish last. Also, im a bit of a pushover. People sometimes just "walk all over me" and i cant really stand up for myself. I am very self-conscious about myself and im not that confident.
But then i think about the poor people or homeless people who probably have 20 times worse life than me and it makes me feel bad that i complain about my life when i should be thankful. So my question.. do you think my life is good or bad? is there anything i can do to improve my life? or should i be thankful instead?

i personally think you sound like one of the sweetest people ).And because of you being such a naturally awesome person it may seem like your life is really horrible right now because you feel like you have nothing. I know that dosent make any sense now but years from now you will see. but I was in your place at one point. First off you dont need to be pretty to get a boyfriend. If the boy is worth it then he will look at you as beautiful no matter what you you look like. Looks arent everything either. When people are as sweet as you they seem to be taken for granted. I always felt like that growing up. I would always let people walk all over me. It sometimes still happens. But you can still be a nice person to people but if it seems like they are walking all over you then dont bother with them, and when I say that I mean dont tell them off but just dont stick close with them, you dont need that. Its not a good feeling knowing your being taken advantaged of. As you get older you learn to take charge of that though. And it builds your pride, along with that you get a positive outlook on life. And things will seem alot better. You just gotta wait it out, growing up takes time. And always remember that things will always be okay in the end. It may not seem like it now but its the truth. Well, If you feel like that helped at all and you need to talk to someone I'm here girl!
Have a goodnight hun.

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is sex fun?

all depends on your definition of "fun". lol
peace

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hey! i have this awesome boyfriend but sometimes it seems like he blames alot of the problems on me like its never his fault(he has tryed to make things betta be4 not rly but most of the time he does this).. n i know its my fault sometimes obviously, i just dont no what to say when i have a problem because i dont want to start a hole nother fite with him and feel like shit again the next day.. i love him n he loves me i think communication is the problem were kinda shy around eachotha, i just dont no wat to say! n im really outgoing and cool around everyone else! n i guess he thinks we fight alot n yea its kinda true but the loves still there nmw n i just wanna make it work!
PeAcE-- u no me all too well kiddo to not know who this is!

heyy, i think you have to put your foot down on this guy and tell him, "hey this is where i stand, i am sick of having stupid arugments with you" and tell him if you want to really be with me then you will show me by your love and affection, and stop aruging. Or
maybe he just needs you to open him up, ask him whats up and on his mind. Or show him a good time and show him thats its okay to not be shy in front of you! But dont ever let a guy degrade you! Also be who you really are around everyone you care about. I know there are going to be those people out there who are going to snobs and mean and when its people like that its diffcutly to ignoire them cuz they act so intimating so just ignoire them, and totally be yourself, so just totally open up your boyfriend open your feelings to him because that way he can really see who and how you are. And if he dosent like it then dont even worry about it because hes not worth it, especially if he cant open up back. So just try opening him up first and then eventually talk about how the arguing and how it bothers you and makes you feel like crap! And then if he dosent understand the concept of that then just walk away, and find someone who would be worth aruging with but you would never have to because they wouldnt try aruging with you! alrighty, i hope i helped you out!!! good luck and write back and tell me how it goes!PeeAcccEEE blaze on

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my penis hasnt hit 5 inches yet,will girls still want to sleep with me. This isnt a joke or anything. PLEASE HELP ME!

Some girls dont go for penis size...it all depends on the girl, as long as she likes you it shouldnt matter!

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I cant get it up in bed and i need help. I was with this really hot chick but my mouse wasnt goin for the cheese. I really dont want to resort to drugs. Can you help me? What should i do?

heyy...go to a med doctor and get viagra...my friend once took it and he said his "mouse" was half way down his leg lol...so maybe that would work... sorry if that didnt help! alrighty!

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What are some good ways to make your girlfriend feel special, like make her feel like you are the best guy in the world (well I know that's probably around impossible. So I am exaggerating a bit, haha.)? What do you girls think would make you special if your guy said them to you or things like that?

I think you should just be there for her, kiss her lol but not so it seems like all you want is ass but make her feel comfortable, like a bestfriend, but also a girlfriend, so that way she will trust you and you guys can tell eachother anything! Treat her like a person and make her feel like the only girl you want and she means so much to you! I think it is truley all about communication so try talking to her alot, calling her when you get the chance,get what i mean? alrighty, i hope i helped a little bit! good luck!!!

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im a 15/f .. over thanksgiving i did some stuff with my boyfriend. i told one of my really good friends and she is really mad at me now. its not like i had sex with him or anything, and i was ready for what i did. i dont want to have sex w. him either because i want to save that for marriage. and ive told her that many times. but she is still pissed at my actions and doesnt trust me. what can i do to make her see that im not ganna go further then what i feel im ready for, and so that she is not mad at me anymore?

hey, 1st off, that is totally your buisness, she has no right to be mad at you. It is your body and you should be free to do what you want, It seems that maybe she might be afraid she is either losing you or she might be too much like your mother. Explain to her that it is your body, and if she dosent think your trustworthy then she is totally wrong. you told her, expecting her to bea friend and understand. so if anything, she should trust you more for acutally telling her and trusting her to understand your actions. Try explaining that to her alrighty! Write to me to tell me what happens! :)
peace

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hey, ok.... ive been feeling sad lately b/c my bf dumped me. we went out for about 3 weeks and then someone told him i was breaking up w/ him. that wasnt the first time it happened. we continued to have these problems until one day he told me he wants to be single anyway for the first marking period. i didnt know what to say so i just acted like it was ok with me but its really not. were still acting like friends but sometimes i get some clues toward thinking that hes with someone else now. hes asked my friends many times why i broke up w/ him. he didnt want to be with me then b/c he thought i couldnt decide whether i wanted him or not. i think hes moved on but sometimes thinks about me again. i wish he would really want me back. this guy is really important to me alot. ive only had like two bfs b4 him and this one means alot. i feel like ive lost something i didnt deserve to lose. every day i wonder if he will go out with me again in the second marking period like he promised. if he doesnt i dont know wht i will do. please if u have any advice let me know so i wont feel as depressed. thanx so much! ~tepy - 13 -female~

hey tepy, dont worry about it, talk to the guy, and just him about it, and if you dont want to do that than just think about it this way, your either going to be with him or you are going to find somebody better, those are really your only two possibilities, i mean yeah, there might be some losers after him but you will find somebody better or the better will be him! so keep your head up and maybe if he sees that you aint sweatin ova him he'll be like hmmm mann i needa get that girl back, and if not than you will defintly find somebody better because if he wont give you the time of day than he can go....******* haha... u no wat i mean, but defintly talk to him and how you feel and ask him how he feels! alrighty!
:)
peace girl

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ill be 15 in dayz an last year i wen ta this new skool an when i tried out 4 basketball an made it this rummor got started that i had "did it" wit the coach ta make the team.. when of course i ddin

now this new year even before skool started..
there is now a rumor that i did it wit this dude i wen out wit las year named Criag when i didn an every1 belives it..
i donno what to do bc im not a hoe like that i mean he was my 1st kiss
an all these ppl belive i did it. how can i make it stop.. how can i jus get thro it

hey hun, that really sucks, you need to let rumors pass and those who believe it obviously dont matter in your life, someone obvioulsy envys you, you just gutta keep ur head on straight and remember that thats just talk, worthless people who have nothing better to do than to start a rumor, but defintly confront the person/ people starting the rumor and just dont even be a bitch about it just say "hey im sorry that you feel getting off telling rumors is a pleasure, and that you think of me as a person to do that but i honestly dont care what you think about me, i know those rumors arent true so im not worrying" , and girl i bet those rumors will soon pass by dont worry just keep smiling :)

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ok, my boyfriend dumped me. but i have no idia why. he told me that he just didnt want a girl friend.. but i know thats not the reason. ive herd that way to many times before. i cant stop thinking about it. his name is all over my binder in sharpie.. i dont no what to do. im lost. it seems like there are no guys on the earth but him. does anyone know any ways to get my mind off him, or get over him?

hey, yea break ups are really tough, and it hurts, but trust me there are bettr guys, its going to be so hard trying to get over him but give it time. I just think this way when im trying to get over somebody i really liked, you are either going to find a much better guy or this guy is going to come crawling back to you, those are the only two choices. Yea, there might be some loser guys before you find the better guy but you just have to wait a bit and the special new guy will soon to come along!
hope i helped girl!

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