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Q: hey , its teh dude you gave that advice to, im not liek rele askin a quesiton, but yah she likes me, and stuff, adn shs just worried about hte future if she doesnt want me after awhiel she donest want to hurt me, so i thot that was nice but kinda stupid, bcuz like she shouldnt be worried about that now, wel thanks for the info, and wel i dk if you to have one or if you give a shit but if you want you can IM me ( pkof05) lol thanks babe bye
Ok, a classmate of mine went through that.
There was this guy in class that really liked her, and when he asked her out, she said yes because she didn't want to hurt his feelings.
HOWEVER, he started going really fast, as in holding her hand in class in front of teachers, and not giving her any space.
So she found that he wasn't her type because he gave her too much attention and always got jealous of her guy friends. So, even though she didn't want to hurt him, she thought it would be wiser to break up with him. Why? because only 3 days after he asked her to be his gf, he said "I love you". Of course, she couldn't say "I love you too."
Know what I'm saying? If you really wanna go through this (she might dump you if she doesn't want you anymore), then tell her : I am ready to take that chance. And if it doesn't work out, no hard feelings, we'll stay friends.

Q: ok when my grade started i saw this guy named tuckermen and i thought that i was head over heels for him but my friend feels the same all about him and i felt like im competing for him .
and about 2 months ago i found out that he didnt like me only like a kinda friend and i was ok with that and i stop flirting with him everything i cut off all feelings for him.but now i donno i have now started flurting wiht him but i cant help that i do that with every guy now .and everytime he says anything like you still like me dont you i always say NO but im not sure i wanna not like him he called me fat witch i am but im going on a diet to lose wieght and what i hate is i now have started to care what people thought of me and uh i dont care i'd do anything in public who cares what people think but if hes in the croud i couldnt id be making a complete fool of myself and i just wana tel everyone in the would to kiss my ass but uh i dont wanna like him i wanna hate him i wanna tell everyone i still dont like him without lieing but i cant what do i do i cnat stop thinking about him and no one knows at all they think that i think thats tucker is dirt and i wanna think that and for a month ive hated him but why do i think that i still like him i think i love him but im only 13 i couldnt and he doenst fell the same way and im never ganna cange myself for a guy but i cnat help but try i wanna see what will happen and this is wierd and i belive in zodiac things so bear with me

When a down-to-earth Taurus and a dreamy Pisces come together, they often find harmony. Level headed Taurus is more grounded and has a mind for what is important in life. Day-dreaming Pisces can show Taurus how to reach for the stars. Together they have balance. Pisces is the balloon – always floating around in the clouds. Taurus is the string, grounding it back to earth. What would one be without the other?

im the Pisces but what do i do i showed this to kayliegh the one taht likes him and she flipped her lid and tucker has a 9th grader as a girlfriend i think he wouldnt dump her for me .kayliegh seems to be so jelouse and i dont think she wants to trade and ive had dreams about me and him nothing sexual but nice dreams only like kissing and i kno it will never happen and why am i so negitve im goofy around my friends but if im planning to do somthing wroung i think of what will happen so i plan on not to do it and if i plan on doing somthing good i think oof somthing bad thatw ill come out of it and im 13 girl and thank you for reading this im sorry its so long but trust me i cut it down !!!!!!!! HELP i rate high all 5s promiss anything .::katie::. help help help
Dear Katie,

First of all, I admire your courage for even talking about this. I'm overweight too but I am too shy to talk about it. I'm not saying you should be shy though! lol
Anyway, I've learned this valuable lesson last year: Do not approach a guy, even if you think he does like you. If he really does like you, he'll make a move.
Do not assume he's shy, because that one is definitely not!
1- He asked out other girls!
2- he called you fat.
Does this guy seem shy? I think not.
Flirting is pretty normal for us girls, most of us always want to win the guys.
Do not lose your weight for him, lose it for yourself. You cannot lose weight for the wrong reason. I dont wanna scare you, but say he doesn't ask you out after you've lost all that weight? You're probably gonna be devastated and start gaining weight again.
Believe me, I've been through all of this. I lost a few pounds for a guy, and when he stopped contacting me, I started eating junk again.
And I don't think you should go out with a guy who called you fat. If he does ask you out after you've lost weight, then he's pure shallow. That kinda guy only thinks bout appearance, and not personality.
I am open minded, so I will not say anything about your zodiac believes. But a question: Is that guy the only Taurus in your school?
I don't think so. I'm sorry to say this, but I find that you are slightly dependent on Taurus. Do not be so dependent on guys; where's the "girl power"? They're the ones who can't live without us.
And bout those dreams, it's 110 % normal. In our dreams, we often see things that we desire.

Q: ok well ive liked this gurl ever since iv known her, 4th grade, and i used to try an make her laugh to like me, well now were older, im 13 adn so is she, so yah i mean at this age we have alot of emotions and dk about things, but we went out over the summer adn had our first kiss.. but she left me the next week for a guy she supposably 'loved' but now thinks is a fag, and well then after a while we both saw other people, my g/f broke up with me a few months ago, for total confusin, and the gurl ive known since 4th grade , just broke up wiht her b/f lets say a wekk or so ago i dk soon lol, wel before she broke up wiht her b/f she said she had feelings for me, and she couldnt choose who, and then she told me she had ben lying baout her b/f to me for months, and it was rele a kid from my class, but any way so i had thot i liked this other gurl, but then like i went over to hmm lets call her sarah(gurl since 4th grade)s house last night, we watched movies in her basment , and soon enough we wer makin out on her couch, like for what seemed like hours, and i truely love her so much, i rele care about her, shes my life(im not a stalker just care about her ok) and well today i talked to her, adn well she sais she just wants to be freinds wit benifets.... and i mean im ok wiht htat kissin her and stuff, but i rele rele want her, i want to go out wiht her , i want to be with her, but she sais that shes scared to go out with me, because shes scared she'l hurt me like she did in the summer , so i just said, oh ok yah thats cool, so now the gurl who i had a crush on before might ask me out , or somthn i dont know, but i dk what to do, 'sarah' sais if an opportunity comes for a g/f that i had to promise to go for it, because she thinks that i need somone better for me, but i cant, i wont , no1 is better for me, i mean we have so much chemistry, and were closer than anyone ive ever ben wiht , no lie, we are like so close we know we care about eachother even as freinds, but i know what i want, and i think that she might be scared , scared of hurting me, scared of gettin close, to close to fal in love wit somone, so yah, i mean, idk im just gonna wait, theres nothin i can do, so thats y i came here

-waht can i do to show her not to be affraid but to take a chance, shes different than she was in the summer, and to take a chance and be able to be happy, because i know shes not, she knows shes not, but i thinnk she was happy last night , ..so was i... wel i rele love her, adn i wanna know some tips on what to do to go overboard for her and i need somthin to get her, to make her need me like i need her, ill rate huge for even an answer at all!
Hello there,

Personally, I don't think a girl should be forced to fall in love or like any guy.
But you're saying that she likes you but is afraid of taking risks , right?
The only thing to say is : Life is boring without any risks. What's life without risks?
At this age, taking risks should be part of a teenager's routine; it depends on the risk though.

Q: Ok I like this guy , but he can't date outside of his relligion. What should I do???
well, you definately can't change your religion and neither can he. So you either convince him, or just drop it. This is called racism, people shouldn;t not date people because they're outside of their religion!

Q: when ever i watch a love scene in a movie or show i kinda of think of me and my crush and then i suddenly feel so depressed . but it last for a long time
Thats pretty natural. You are searching for love, you love your crush and you want what happens in movies to happen to you too. I understand how you feel. Every time I see the ad of "romance night" , I get touched. Specially when they start singing "this is no ordinary love, no ordinary love" (its an arabic channel but has english movies).
But, how come nothing happened between you and your crush? mind telling me about it? Maybe I can help you
prof_Braveheart88@hotmail.com

Q: ok well you see i have this friend and well he flirts with me all the time i mean really flirts and him and my brothers are friends and he says he cant do anything witch means he cant have a relationship but then again he asked all these sexual questions and well bascially he wants to have sex and well im still a virgin in every way and i dont want to but hes very persusve and well i tell him no but he still asks and if theres no relationship i cant do that im mean im16 not stupid and i dont beleive in fwbif so what should i do give in or stand my ground.
hell no! dont give in!
1- there's nothing between you and him
2- you said he's very persuasive, so he's obviously trying to use you just for sex
3- you're a virgin, so at least let your first time be special, not with a guy you have nothing for.
4- What would your brothers say or do once they find out?
Think about that. listen to your head in this case, not your heart.

Q: Hi. Some might say that my subject for this question seems humorous but I'm desperate.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months. He lives in Texas and I'm in Oregon. Yes, this is an internet relationship, but it's lasted this long. So, something has to be working.

Anyway. In the beginning of the relationship my grandma didn't think much of it. She thought my boyfriend was a sweet guy (he has talked to her on the phone). Well, she thought that until she found out he's hispanic. My grandma is, as much as I hate to say it, racist.

She now doesn't allow me to call him anymore. I've resorted to sneaking the phone after she's gone to sleep. Just because I wanted to hear his voice. Talking online makes allows me and him to talk, but it's too easy to get distracted while online. I've been caught sneaking the phone and because of that she's started hiding it.

Please, I need some help. I don't know how to make my grandma understand that I love him and I don't care what race he is. I've tried to tell her, but it doesn't seem to get through. I just want her to accept it. Please, I'm up for any advice. Thank you!
Just confront your grandma and ask her "He's hispanic, so what?"
I mean seriously, so what?
Try saying, "I'm your grand daughter, and I really love this guy. Dont you want me to be happy? If you wont let me communicate with him, I'll never feel happiness"
(Im great in drama)
Now use a sad tone "Grandma, dont you love me? If you do, so why dont you want me to be happy?"

you always have to stand up to the adults. They always give you an order but they never explain why. So always ask :why?

Q: okay i have a b/f now well call him "K" okay well we've been goin out for a lil while but i wanna call him but im afraid his mom or something is gonna answer what do i do/?
Well, it's not like your mom would scream at you or anything. If she or his dad picks up ask to talk to him politely "Good morning/afternoon/evening Ma'm or Mrs. family name, or Sir or Mr. family name. May I speak with "K" please?"
If they ask who it is just say "it's "your name" "
And thats all there is to it. It's just a phone call! Go for it!

Q: ok well i like this guy. i dont know if he has a girl friend. he always says hi to me and gives me hugs. and were both like involved with singing adn stuff at school so we like sing songs together and stuff. and he kissed me on the cheek once when he was leaving somewhere. and he asked for my cell phone number. and once he tried to hook up with me. stupidly i didnt know and didnt even open my mouth! ha ha. anyway i wanna know if he likes me. and if he does then what should i do? should i ask him out, or wait for him to ask me out, or ask a friend to ask him to go out with me? i am really confused and i really like him. please help!
He obviously likes you, then why did he try to hook up witchu??? You didn't open your mouth so he probably backed off a bit cause he thinks you're not interested.
Heres what you should do, when you're having a conversation, say "hey, wanna go grab some coffee (or whatever) ?" casually. Then you'll find out if he really likes you or not.

Q: ok i just moved away from my old skool and before i left, i didnt say goodbye to some ppl because i didnt have time and well i didnt like this girl back then who like me back then and well now im falling for her bad and she does like me but shes i dont kno shes kind of mad at me and i just want 2 let her know i like her and i want to go out with her, how do i do this(srry so long)
Well, of course she's mad, you switched schools without even saying goodbye to her. I suggest you go to her place with a rose, or maybe even a bouquet if you can afford it. Then when the smile crosses her face, ask her to a movie.

Q: ok i have this friend and well he rlly wants to loose his virginity cause he feels weird at his age...(peer presure) and so he asked me if i would do it with him...im scared of wht ppl wouldthink (ive alraeady lost mine)...but i dnt wanna sound like a slut or anything
pleasee help me!! thnks!!
what the hell? Just say no, you dont just go and do it with anyone! Tell him he should at least loose it with someone special like his fiancee or keep it until he gets married. Im muslim, so we dont do it unless we're married to the person. Why loose your virginity to someone you're not sure you're gonna be with your whole life? I know you're gonna rate me really low, but Im sorry, this is the advive Im giving you.

Q: Okay so I am the one who I like the guy in my drama class and was nervous to talk to him, well today I told my friend who is good friends with him. She called him and his answering machine picked up and I was like "you're hot" like just kidding cuz I thought the phone was still ringing and it wasnt!!! She was like that was.. me (she said my name) I was so mortified!! Well I have to go to 1st period Drama w/ him in it!! I begged my mom not to make me go.. lol of course my mom said I HAD to go! Anyway I am so nervous he'll find out I like him!! What do I say tomorrow? I really don't want to go up like right when he walks in the classroom and be all like oh by the way I was kidding around yesterday. Oh and also he called back but he didn't hear the message and our other friend was like "erase it" and the one who is good friends with him, was like "ya she was playing around with my phone, and she said my name again!!" I'm not mad at her, just sort of.. mortified of what he'll say tomorrow!! Does anyone have a suggestion of what I should say to him if he comes up to me?!? THIS IS URGENT!!!
I dont think you should say anything tomorrow. Just let things pass. Maybe he likes you and wasnt sure you liked him back. Just play it cool, if he asks you about that "you're hot!" (if he found out bout the msg), say "I dunno whats gotten into me yesterday, hyperactive maybe"
And play flirtatious while you say that, hopefully he'll get the hints.Just smile,maybe wink, but wink only once!

Q: What do you guys think of a 18-year-old(f) dating a 24-year-old(m). And don't give any of that "age doesn't matter crap" bcasue it does. What do yall think of the maturity levels?

The biggest problem I see... The 18-year-old is still a freshman in college and the 24-year-old graduated 2 years ago.
Well, no offense to guys. But girls mature faster than guys, so an 18 year old girl and even a 16 year old girl is as mature as a 22 or 24 year old guy. I have a friend (m) I know from the internet. We get along really well, he's like a brother to me. We talk about a lot of things. He's 22 and I'm 16(f).

Q: ok well im 15 and in 9 grade and theres this boy that i like but i dont really know him. Well ever since the beginning of the year i always caught him staring at me and smiling but never anything else, then we gradually started talking but only in class (we have one class together)well this semester i sit right next to him in class and we talk all the time but only in class. if we see each other in the hall we never say anything. yesterday our class was in the computer lab & we were only allowed to sit by 1 person at a table. well i got up for a minute to go look at another computer that no one was at or by and he came over and sat right next to me and we just sat there talking and then he put his hand on my leg. then the teacher looked at us an he got up and went to sit next to this girl i hate but hes friends with her. so what the heck?! im so confused so if u could just tell me if hes hinting he likes me or if he just wants to confuse me? plz i rate high!!
Well, you just answered your own question! He's either confusing you or he's hinting he likes you. You can't really tell what guys think, but if he likes you he WILL make a move. So just wait, maybe this girl you hate will try to hook you up or something. OR, theyre trying to pull a prank on you or something. So watch out and be careful. If he makes a move ask him hard questions like "why the sudden interest?" or "what do you like in me?"

Q: All you girls out there...
I am kind of shy, but am trying to be more outgoing, which I am finding easier and easier. Usually when I like a guy, they have no clue, but I would like to change that. What are the best ways to flirt? If you could tell me some of your favorite flirting moves I would appreciate it. Any little flirty gesture or something that always works for you?

And for you guys out there, what kind of things do you love when a girl does? What is the best ways for a girl to flirt in you opinion? How do you like a girl letting you know she is interested in you?

Please keep in mind that I am kind of reserved, so please don't tell me to go up and grab his butt or something, thats not really my style. Thank you so much in advance for your advice!
alright grasshopper, I will teach you everything I know... bows first* :p

1- eye contact: always make eye contact with target
2- make the target feel comfortable around you by rolling stuff in your fingers,like a pen, twirling your hair on your finger. That way you look less threatening, you look nervouse even if you're not.
3- whispering: if you wanna get a guy flustered, whisper in his ear, like "I like your jacket" for example.
4- touch his arm or shoulder lightly, like brushing off dust. Heres a great excuse "you got a piece of string on your shoulder" you pretend to get it off then"there" and flash him your best smile.
5- posture: when a guy is talking to you, dont cross your arms , its like saying "GO AWAY!" so you can lean on the wall or something, its like saying "welcome handsome" and smile, dont 4get to smile!
6- Drop it! Say youre carrying a book, a guy you like is around. Drop your book and see what he does. If he helps you then maybe hes interested too, start a conversation. If he doesnt, he doesnt care.
7-wink

Q: my best friend is mad at me because i wont break up with my boyfriend because moves really slow and weve been going out for a really long time and weve only kissed once and he is the type of guy who gets nervous to do those types of things. i like him alot so im willing to wait for him to be ready to do whatever. she doesnt think he is the right guy for me. he is a great guy and the only bad part about him is that it takes him forever to give one single kiss. do i break up with him if we dont even kiss? or do i just deal with it and stay with him? and ive already talked to him about it a few times and he says hes trying his best.
Well, first of all, you shouldnt dump someone because theyre too nervous to kiss you. That means he really likes you and is afraid that maybe you wont like the way he kisses you. Guys in love always have doubts. He kissed you once, so now its your turn! Why dont you kiss him? Its not like theres a book of "dating rules" saying that its the guy who should always kiss a girl.

Q: I like this guy who's quite weird. People calls him a nerd. He seems so quiet, aloof, shy but incredibly smart. I didn't get to talk to him often, but when he talks to me, i notice that his voice goes soft. Other times when we were discussing a project in a group, he either seems bored, brash, flustered or really egoistical. He seldom talks to people in class in the past, but recently he seems happier. He seems to dislike me at first, either ignoring me or giving sarcastic coments just like he does most people, but now he seems to talk to me a bit. Then the other day he suddently comes around and calls my name and calls me his sweetheart. What does that mean? Does he like me or was he just joking?
Im telling you... that is one weird guy! I think you wont find out now, no one can! Just wait, patience is a virtue. Maybe thats just his way to show he likes you(sarcasm, etc), thats why im asking you to wait.

Q: Ok, there is this boy named David in 1/6 of my classes. He sits in the last seat in the row next to me. My friend sits right behind me and whenever I turn to talk to her, I catch David staring at me and we suddenly make eye contact. Out of that infomation ( I might add more ), do you think he likes me?
Omg, youre so lucky, at least hes not SO shy he avoids your eyes! My guy turns away as soon as our eyes meet, grrr... Anyway, personally I think he likes you, so why dont you make the first move, just talk to him so he wont be shy anymore. Then maybe when he's not shy anymore, he'll ask you out, if he really does like you that is.

Q: Friday night I was at the movies. Me,my 2 friends and this guy that likes me took some pictures. I sat on his lap. I have a boyfriend of 3 months. Is that cheating and is it bad and should I tell my boyfriend? I feel really bad! Please help!
Well, its cheating and bad! no offense, but you flirted with the guy. If your bf really trusts you he'll understand. You already feel bad, and you'll feel worse keeping it from him. If he finds out somehow, he might never forgive you. But if you tell him yourself and be honest, he really might forgive you.

Q: 15/m there is this girl that i like a lot. the problem is she's 2 years younger than me and she doesn't live in my school district. we both play basketball in a summer league (different divisions) so we see each other sometimes. but neither of us are allowed to have a gf/bf until we're 16 and our parents are friends so they would probably find out if we started going out. i asked her out like a year ago because i liked her and i heard she wanted me to and she would say yes. but when i asked she said no because she didn't want her parents to find out. so i thought i was over her until earlier today. i went to her game and when i saw her i realized that i wasn't over her. i also heard that she still likes me. but i don't know what to do. should i make another move? what should i do?
I think you making a second move would be like disrespecting her parents. They already said she cant date until shes 16, so defying them would be disrespecting them. Then they'll ask her not to talk to you again or whatever. The best thing a gentleman would do is ask her parents' permission. If they say no, take it like a gentleman, but if you have the guts, try saying "I really like your daughter, and I will be good to her, etc. Please give me a chance..."
You have to show that you really like this girl.
Or,if you cant do that, wait , only one year left!
But if I were you, Id take the first option if I really liked this girl.
And I think shed love seeing you asking for her parents permission, it shows you like her so much youd do anything!

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