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i've been going out with this adorable junior for 4 months now. at first, i never thought it would work out because im the freshman girl who is shy and has never been with a guy before. but since the first time we met he took my heart. things have been going great, but im afraid he dedicated himself too much to me?
To me, it just doesn't seem right. He's Mr. Popular, quarter back of the football team and like abercrombie model looks; and im just the freshman girl. we've gone as far as oral but in the past month i've really wanted to have sex with him. i ask him all the time about it but he said he doesnt want to. (He already had sex before by the way.) He said he doesn't want to take the thing away from me that is most precious unless i love him.
You dont understand though, like i WANT to have sex with him so bad, but he doesn't want to take it away from me at such a young age unless im sure i love him. He tells me he loves me but it's hard for me to say "i love you" back and really mean it.
Does he not like me anymore? It's just he's so nice and i know for a fact he never cheated on me before or is seeing another girl. Should i drop the whole sex subject?! PLEASE HELP! (link)
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To me it seems like he really cares for you. And I understand where you and him re coming from. You want to have sex with him, you have a barely controllable urge to! he doesn't want to take your virginity, for fear you really do not lov ehim and he doesn't want you to waste it on him, he wants you to wait for your, The One!
--Syd
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this question is mostly for guys. but if any girls have guy friends or boyfriends that tell them, then this is for you too! do guys like when you have anything on your lips when you kiss them? i mean like lip gloss, lip stick, chapstick, nothing, etc. i mean wahts their preference and does anything annoy them? thanks in advance! (link)
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From experience, having Lip Gloss on or any other lip stuff, it makes a kiss messier... expercially if there is a little more to your kiss. Plus a guy wouldn't want to walk around afraid he has a little gloss left on him lip somewhere or the aroma of it stuck with him.
Hope I helped
--Syd
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Well, one of my guy friends who I actually did like confessed that he liked me. We decided to give going out a try. The thing is, he's more experienced (he's 17, I'm 16). I feel like I'm less experienced for my age, but now I don't know where things should go. He doesn't do much, sometimes we hug, but I'm afraid to do anything. And I don't know if we're technically boyfriend/girlfriend. I feel as if I should know all this, but I don't. What do you think is appropriate for the beggining stages of dating? And how can I be less nervous about it? (link)
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The appropriate things is up to you. I fyou are comfortable with kissing in the beginning stages then its appropriate it all depends on what you are ready for. And they goes for being nervous. There is no definite way of making yourself less nervous, loosening up and becoming comfortable withthe situations will happen when you are ready there is no definite way of hurrying it along.
Hope I helped.
--Syd
P.S. The anxiety is always there... maybe not so much but it is slightly.
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Me and this guy like each other A LOT. We've known eachother for a while and we talk on the phone all the time [even til 5:30 once], but the problem is...he's 17.
yeah, i know. it's really weird but he likes me a ton and i like him a ton. :[
it makes me sad cuz we wanna go out but i'm afraid that it'll be weird if my parents find out or something. i'm so confused.
what do i do? (link)
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Actually, I think you should confront your mom about it, your mom because your dad wouldn't like the situation saying he is only with you for sex. Explain to your mother how you feel about him, but don't reveal his age just yet. After explaing to her your feelings be like I would really like to date him but... He's 17 and I wanted to talk to you first. < But the reason I tell you to do this is because I had the same situation and it has been a year and I am still with that guy >
Hope I helped
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alright, i know this may sound stupid, but how exactly do you flirt with a guy, especially, if he's a good friend? any tips would also be good (link)
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Him being a good friend woul dmost likely make it a little harder to intise him, becaus ehe may feel like you are just playing. Batt your eyelashes more, cutely smile at him, touch him more, just flirty. ^_^
Hope I helped
--Syd
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First of all, I have been in a very calm, steady & fulfilling relationship. The person I am involved with completes me. I am emotionally dependent. I centered my whole 4 yrs. never cheated, always thoughtful and caring. However, just two days ago, we had a heart to heart talk. We both feel it is time to move on. No 3rd party involved on both our part but I guess we both feel it is time to move on. The hard part is that I want to cling, remain & continue but I know in doing so I will completely lose myself. Right now, I am suffering. Have anxiety attacks & feel like my stomach turns upside down. Part of me died too.
Please don't ask me details why do we have to part ways... All I am saying is that it is time to do it. My question is --- what should i do to feel once more... What should I do to stop the nervous attacks? What should I do to stop being emotionally dependent. I am tearing apart. Anyone??? Please... (link)
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I am sorry about all of this, I understand exactyl what has happened, but if you both decided it was for the better then there is a part of you that was ready.
The reason we have two parts is because the humane race has to have compassion, love, and emotionally attatchment to somone, or they can not function properly or fit right with anything! As a child (when first born) if you never had someone to hold you, to love you, you couldn't survive not becasue you weren't fed though.
With your reaction to the separation, I would say that you had been to dependent on the other person, But away to not be so emotionally dependent is to find a friend, your best friend someoen you can spend time with and open up to, oevr time they will take his/her place.
The nervous attacks I cannot give a definite way to stop but, try your best not to reflect on things that bring them on. I know it is hard but when you have extra time that normally leads to thinking about him/her get on the computer, go excercise, get a friend to come hangout with you anything you need to, to get your mind off of them!!
The longer you are stuck on them the more your heart will tear and the more painful things may become.
I really hope something helped!
--Syd
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ok so im a little young i guess to know wat i am. But i do i think, eneyways i think im well bi and theres this girl shes my best friend and i love and i dont mean that in a friendly way i mean it in a serious way so i dont know if im bi or if i only have a girl crush err love. But thetres this other girl shes bi shes one grade higher than me and i think she likes me i know for a fact well i think my best friend who im in love with is straight but i dont know. So enyways the girl in the higher grade shes hott and i think i may like her ugh this is so confusing for me i hate it so what should i do? err what am? i mean i reaally love my best friend shes hott,beautiful,funny,and smar shes my everything but alex i kinda like shes different and shes pretty and umm hott err what ever so could some one please please help me out here!!! (link)
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Well, yeah it really does sound like you are bi, but depending on your age you may just be curious. There is no problem with this though, you may think you love your best friend because you care so much for her, these feelings can easily be confused. And all I can say if you really wanna know what she thinks about all this come out and tell her your bi. That's the only positive way to know for sure, if she is bi also or what is to come of your relationship. But I personally don't think you should actually try for a relationship with your best friend. I would go for the older girl "Alex". She should be able to understand your new to being bi and all.
Hope I Helped.
--Syd
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what is love (link)
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Actually there is no true way to explain what love is. Many people don't ever really find true love, but my explanation is:
You care very much for this person. Whenyou think about them you can't help, but smile. When Ever you expect to see him you get butterflies, and are so happy about it. When you finally see he/she you can't help, but look into their eyes and get locked into the deep pools of their mind, and you want to freeze time just to be in that moment forever. You would give so much just to keep that person happy, and keep yourselves together.
I hope that helps.
--Syd
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i dont know if im ready to lost it. but i just wanted to know when do you bleed and how badly does it hurt? like do you bleed after, or while its going on? someone please tell me!!! (link)
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If you have doubts about not being ready to loose your virginity don't do it. And, you don't always bleed, actually it depends on how big the guy is, the bigger the guy the more likely it will bleed, and the more it may hurt, Actually there is no telling whne it will bleed.
--Syd
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i have liked this boy alll year. i am really shy. what are some ways that i might can hint that i like him. the only time we ever talk is when me and my friend gets together...and he jokes with us. we also talk when we sit beside each other in some classes. if we aren't sitting together he occasionally stares. well i just wanted to give you some details...so how can i kinda hint to him that i do like him? (link)
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Smile at him when he stares at you. When your hangin gout with him and he tells a joke or something laugh and touch his arm, touch him in flirty ways. Batt your eyelashes, ask him on another double date. He should eventually get the point!
--Syd
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I'm a 15 yr old sophmore and i like a 13 yrold 7th grader, is this wrong? I skipped a grade so i dont think its that weird but im afraid my "friends" would if they found out. (link)
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If you really do like her does it matter what your friends will think? If they are true friends, they wouldnt care that much, they may tease you a little but thats what most friends do.
--Syd
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Okay well the last time my boyfriend was over he fingered me but my pants were still on and it felt really good so i cant wait to hang out again and yea i guess were suppose to hang out again in a couple days and on the phone he asked if i liked it and if i wanted him to do it again and i said ya but ill be on my period when we hang out soo i know he'll feel the pad..what do i do?? (link)
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tell him your on your period. Depending on what age ya'll are is how well he will take it, he should understand. Or you could just say how about next time. If he asks why tell him you don't feel like it right now.
--Syd
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ok well ima a girl and a couple days ago i went to my aunts house and she has a son and he's my cousin.were both 14. well we kinda like each other alot and i guess we just set aside that we were cousins. well we ended up sleeping next to each other and he was touching me, like my boobs and butt and all that stuff. and well the next day we ended up making out like the whole day..and the thing is i liked it alot and i know it's wrong to like your cousin but i can't help it. why does it have to be so wrong? we both love each other and we have ever since we were little kids, we practically grew up together. i just don't know what to do, he kept asking me things like are you a virgin, do you wanna live with me when you grow up? and im just so confused on what to do, i don't want to end up having sex with my cousin, but then again, what if i do?, and what if i like it??! please help me. i need all the advice i can get. (link)
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Since ya'll are 14 you obviously are both just wanting sex so much you are willing to get it from anywhere. (No offense to either of you)With him being such a close cousin, I would not think it to be such a good idea.
--Syd
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Ok so I used to like my ex boyfriend yet he has another girl friend. It used to be that whenever I wanted to I could have him back, but not now. Its been hard but Ive gotten over him. And Im finally happy for him and so forth, yet theres someone else I like. I cant tell my own best friend because well hes praticually a best friend to both me and her and I know that she wouldnt be to happy. Im so confused about him. Someone at work spread a rumour saying that we liked eachother yet she had no idea she is just a drama strater. Yet I dont know how he reacted really. Hs ex girlfriend works with us and I know that she was all worried but I dont know if maybe he was plaing it cool with her. I was playing it off becuase I didnt want any drama to start. I know that he tells our other friend everything yet I dont have the guts to ask her if he likes me. I need any advice I can get as to what I should do. I dont want him to just see me as a frined cus I feel much more. Do I just need to grow some confidence and ask him or just let it go? I knew on New Years Eve he wanted to kiss someone, yet he hung out with our normal crew. I dont know Im so ocnufsed on this. And I always get the short end of the stick everytime. Any advice would be great. Thanx =) (link)
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Well, if he is a clos efriend of yours all I can say is, DONT CONFUSE YOUR FEELINGS FOR HIM! But there is no real way to tell if he really does like you unless you confront him or your mutual friends. Relax, if you don't want to confront him or your friend, go with the flow, he may come around tell you himself. It all depends on how you react to all of it.
--Syd
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ladies... how do you make a guy want you more without actually touching him? i mean, wut are some sexy things to say to him, or things you can do that will make him want you. im not looking to have sex by the way so please dont suggest that. thnx (link)
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Smile at him more, tell a flirty joke, batt your eyelashes. Act confident but not to confident. But also act hard to get, that will make him think about you more, trying to figure out what you meant when you looked at him the way you did, or what you said.
Hope That Helps
--Syd
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i am from australia, im 16. my name is alice.
well, i met this boy a couple of months ago. he works with me.
i went to work one day < i wasnt working > just syaing hi, and he was there and i hadnt normally seen him there before because he works in the day and i work weekend and arfternoons.. i introduced my self and we started hanging out in the arfternoons when i would go there after school. and then i fell for him. a couple weeks later he moved out of home and moved in with a couple of his friends. and he decided to go back to school for a year to finish year 12, ( i am only in year 10 ) so he stopped working for a bit and we kind of lost touch because he didnt have much money so he couldnt call me or anything. that was about 2 montsh ago.. then i saw him again recently because its holidays,, we hung out and had lunch and just caught up. he has these gorgeous blue eyes that i cant stop staring at, and blonde hair. he's the sweetest guy i have ever met and i really love him. we started workign again toegther recently and we flirt alot. things like tickling me all the time! and calling me cute names. but i dont know whether he just wants to me friends with me or he likes me mroe than a friend. i really want to find out before we go back to school beacuse chances are, we will loose touch again. someone please help me out i just dont know how to tell him how i feel. i cant stop thinking aboout him. when i'm with him i feel happy and secure, but when im not with him i miss him so bad and cant stop thinking about him. please could someone help me out here?
Alice. (link)
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Be honest with him, tell him that ou are confused to wether or not he wants to be friends or more... and if he asks why tell him if he wanted to be more than friends that you didnt want to lose touch when school started again.
It's better to be straight forward with most things rather than to beat around the bush.
-Syd
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ok so I have a boyfriend, we'd been talking on the phone for over a year and went through a lot of mental things together and finally met earlier this month. (he used to be friends/go to school with my old bestfriend so he wasn't just some random freak) things have been great since but i hardly ever see him since he lives about 1hr 1/2-2 hrs away. when we're together it's so great, it's like everything else disappears. my question is, how do i deal with this barely seeing him thing? i see him when he can get a day off and has money to take the train down here, and i know things arent easy for him right now. i don't want to be selfish, but i don't know how to just be ok with this. i know things will change eventually when he moves closer but how do i deal with it right now? (link)
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Look to the future. Think about how if you just stick with what you haev the outcome will be much better.
--Syd
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Everytime my boyfriend comes over we just watch movies and makeout. Its getting kind of old, is there anything else we can do? (Not anything sexual I mean) Were both 15 so we can't drive yet either. Thanks. (link)
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Find a board game you both like to play. Maybe you could start a nice pillow fight, thats unexpected. Maybe you could make a nice little snack for the two of you. Maybe you could Go for a Walk around your neighbor hood, walk down to the nearest restaurant somethign like that.
Hope that helps.
--Syd
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Whats the different between lust and love? How do you know if youre just "lusting" someone? (link)
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Lust is only about one thing... And you only think about that one thing being the best thing abotu them for example someones looks, if you couldnt stand soemone if they didnt look the way they do thats not love. Love is you like everything about them!
Hope that helps
--Syd
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Alright well me and this girl were in a relashionship for about a year and a half.we were great together,well a few months ago she left me for this guy i hated to begin with and omg he treated her like shit.well lately ive bearaly been able to get over her and try to move on well i found this girl i absolutely adore.well guess what i find out,the girl he broke up with to be with my ex is this girl and shes not over him and to tell you the truth i dunno if im fully over my ex.shes sooo great though and sweet to me,and we have soo much in common.she knows the way i feel about her,im soo confused though,what should i do,i really want to be with her.and let me restate...i hate him lol.
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I know what you mean. But the more you linger around and try to get over her, the harder it will be, once you finally convince yourself of being over her, you will be able to love this new girl even more. And the guy.. Well... Keep hating him there is nothing you can do about him. Give the new girl time.
--Syd
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