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theres this really hott guy at school. I really like him, not just for his hottness but for his personality. hes really shy and so am i. what should i say? i cant just go up to him and talk to him. i always chicken out.

Aksjfij! i cant talk to himmm!
and i really need to!
what do i say?
HOW?

I understand what your going through. I was the most shiest person ever!!! and now i'm all new me :) and you know if you really like him and want to talk to him but you can't becuase you chicken out. what if you maybe talk to him online? aim or msn or yahoo.

Whichever you both have and you can talk to him on their. i thinks its eaiser but somethings its better to talk to him in person. but if your that shy i say go for that, because thats what i did first and than after i got used to them talking on line i talk to them alot in hallways or classroom.

and maybe text him if you have his number or can get it from a friend you know that knows him you know.

and ask his friends for his screename as well. so i think those are easy for now. and maybe if you see him in the hallways or other places just say "Hi" to him simple as that. and take a deep breath in and out when you are shy or nervous around him. and than be like "what's up? hows it going?" and than start talking and get converstation going. You'll do just fine.

remember if your afraid to talk to him in person online is always good for a start and when you feel like your not shy anymore around him than in person or on the phone is good enough :)

hope i helped let me know :) GOOD LUCK!!!!! :)

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My X-gf broke up with me and now I'm going out with her best friend cause my X said that she didnt care, but it turns out that my X still likes me, What do I do?

well, wat do you WANT? do you want ur Ex girl back do you still have feelings for her even thou your ex broke up with u. and now ur going out with her bestfriend. i think tatz just a bit akward right now. but like. when they say lines like this. " your ex didn't care, but DUH dude, inside she really still cares that your going out with her bestfriend."

they always say that little line. but now that you know she likes you. what you should do like the other person said is go in your room and think about it. and see. who do you like more. your X or the girl your going out with?


one thing to remember here. if you still like your Ex go talk to her nicely and tell her how you really feel about her. than talk to the girl your going out with nicely and say like, i dont know wat to say to you to say to her but just be like i think we should just be friends or something. but like for now. i say you think this over. and did you date her bestfriend because a revange on your X?


think about it. hoped i helped let me know. thank you and good luck. and o talk to them seperatly.

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my boyfriend left an IM screen up on my computer- an IM with the girl he would have asked out he says, but her parents would never let her.

my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 months now. and we're very serious, i think at least. but i dont know now.

in the conversation he says:

:yeah im happy with the relationship, a little mixed in my stomach though
:being in a relationship is very confining at the moment and I'm trying to get out and see the world.


my boyfriend and i are planning a trip to scotland this summer. he doesnt think my parents will let me go.
and he invited this girl. telling her basically

:you me and danielle, but i dont think her parents are gonna let her go.

he spends all of his time with me, which he really doesn't have to.

how can i let him know this- let our relationship be less confining on his end- without him knowing i read his IM?

its very upsetting to me- im in love with him.

ya i agree with the person at the bottom i say that he might have left it there for you to read or why else would he leave his im open like that when his girlfriend is in the room or with him? right? so like and it made you upset. but like since you guys are thinking of going away and that why is he bringing this girl with him? even if you two only should go like alone without anyone. maybe he's having seconds thoughts on the relationship? how is your relationship with him and that does he loves you or does he thinks that you might not go becuase of your paretns and than bring the other girl without you and than something might happen like they might hook up. and if your in love with him i say you sit him down and talk to thim saying i will try anything to go with you. but there is one thing. there is one thin that has upset me when i was with you. your im was open i i accidently read it and i know i'm not suppose to read your stuff or anyhthing. beacuse it was right in front of me open. so i dont know if you did that on propuse for me to read or your having thoughts about it? im just sayin and about you wanting the girl to come? why do you want her to? i mean wasn't it suppose for me and you only? does it matter for her to come? does it seem that you might have like her more than me? why tell me i want to be able to trust you and you trust me. i want to know the whole truth nothing but the truth.

and after you say all that he would tell you the whole truth. and also be like " please baby i want to know the truth i really want to know the truth cause i really like you and i want to stay with you and be with you and be able to go with you. is that so hard to ask?

liek that and he would freakin tell you everything and dont worry your relationship wont end. and it wont happen unless you have a lil chat with him about it like adults no yellin or screaming talk to him calmling.

good luck and hope i helped

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well this kid i really like, he knows i like him now, and he said he cant date until college, a year from now. but he said he wants to get to know me and thinks im attractive and nice or soemthing so..what do i do?

well i say you get to know him as well and be nice to him and talk to him hang out with him as well and than maybe one day he would change his mind about can't date te'll whenever and if you guys hangout alot and stuff call each other im each other text each other eventually he'll get tired of waiting tell college and than evntually ask you out :)

so what you do is you hangout talk to him, im him text him and all that and maybe flirt with him so he knows your interst in him as well and all that and ya that's basically it.

hope everything goes well:)

good luck:)

hope i helped, it would be nice to know what you think of my advice :)

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I'm really confused as to why all of these teenagers on here keep saying that they like this guy, but they want to get to know him. I don't understand how you can like a guy that you don't know. Maybe I'm just not shallow, but I'm 14 and that's the age that most people who post those questions are and I've never liked someone without knowing them first. I mean aren't you suppose to get to know someone and then decide you like them. Every hot guy that you see isn't someone you like, right? I mean I only like guys that I know and I like them based on their personality. Sure, I think guys are hot, but I don't like them. I don't even know them. lol I guess what I'm asking is if I'm weird or what?

well your not weird cause your right, i mean girls on here who right that is just idont know really you kind of have to know the guy first before liking them in any way. it doesn't always depends on "looks" or maybe it does but sometimes it doesn't. mostly it depends on personalty as you says.

so i say your not weird you would have to know a guy first and hangout with him for a while
but if your a shy kind and want to get notice try not to be shy anymore and go up to that person and hangout with him and than like see how it goes it's not all because oh my god he's so hott i like him i want to get him to notice me how? well it doesn't nesecerly go like that it only goes like that if your desperate enough. if you see a hott guy and you like him all of the sudden and you dont know him i say that you just go up to him and talk to him and get to know him before you like him. because sometimes when guys are hott they could be assholes and you might not like them anymore and you wasited your time on them just because there hott.

so what im saying is your not weird because you are absultly right i say that you just go meet a guy hangout talk get to know as long as you know him not just because of his hottness maybe his cuteness LoL you get me

sorry for the long writing

hope i helped

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OKay. Here is my situation. My best friend, let's call her Rose, likes my boyfriend(let's call him Albert). But aparently, she liked him before he and I were together. Albert and I have been together for 2 and half months. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too. But I have known my friend for 9 years! And she only told me two days ago that she liked him. I hate seeing her in all this pain. Why should my happiness have to cause her pain?! It's just not fair. Not to mention Albert and Rose were good friends in middle school, but then sort of had a falling out. Now all three of us are going into our senior year of high school, and they have finally fixed whatever miscommunication they had in eighth grade. So at first I thought maybe she was just jealous that I had a boyfriend finally, and especially since she knew him before I knew him, she felt that she had some sort of claim on him. But I fell for him;I became friends with him on my own terms in math class this past year, and she had nothing to do with it. However, she tells me that she never stopped liking him from eighth grade, and that he has always been in the back of her mind. Well, I am her best friend, so how come these past four years of high school she hasn't told me?! the three of us have discussed it for hours last night and came to no conclusion. please. anyone tell me what i should do? break up with him? drop her as a friend? any way to keep them both?

well i see, well i guess your friend who has a crush on your boyfriend and that you were mad at her becuase she didn't tell you, but she didn't want to hurt you because she's your best friend and here's the thing dind't you say you known her for nine years and even if those to your frind and boyfriend didn't get along or w/e didn't you know that she might of still had a crush on him even if she didn't tell you? but you guys were tryin to figure something out here is what you do is that like you keep your boyfriend and you keep your best friend as welll and if you want to keep them both here is what you do.

you first talk to your best friend saying

"rose, hmm i know this is hard and we've been best friends for nine years and i love you but how come after all this you didn't tell me you still had a crush on my boy friend?"

and than she would give you an answer

and than after she answers you which might be
"because i ididn't know before and i didn't want you to get mad at me."

but than be like your my best freind and i love you but i'm sorry that you have a crush on my boyfriend but right now i love him and he loves me and i really want to be with him even thou you want to too but can't you just be friends with him and be my best friend again?, i hate it that where just fighting over him."

and than and talk to your boyfriend sayin that you love him and you want to be with him but dont tell him that your best friend has a crush on you just be like i dont want you to like be with my friends i mean you can be with them not flirt with them i dont know but you know what i mean like say something

but i say you dont break up with your boy friend and your friend because of this i say you talk to her straight forward about your feelings and than talk to your boyfriend about it a bit

well good luck hope i helped you know i try

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okay well, heres a little backround information...
josh is my current boy, brandon is my x-boy.

in basic form: josh skrewed some girl while going out with me and i have him admitting it on recording but i havnt said anything to him yet, and brandons step dad wants to do everything he can to mess my life up and upset me and my family. and now that brandons coming back i dont know what to do... help please! please. brandons coming back into my life again in a week.


in long form:
josh and i have always had a thing but had never gone out. brandon and i had gone out, and we where going out untill brandon got locked up. at first it was okay, we sent eachother letters, but then we couldnt anymore. so i broke up with him. i loved brandon so much he ment everything to me. i thought he was the one, the one i was gunna marry. anyways, josh started making moves on me while brandon was locked up, somehow he wone me over even though i voued to stay with brandon. i started going out with josh and it was awesome. we have been going out since january. now brandon is getting out in about a week, im so skrewed because im still head over heals for him. he had my friend that got out on a pass from being locked up call me and tell me that brandons still in love with me.

but get this...
this person that called me also let me listen to a recording of my current boy, josh when he was drunk and he admitted skrewing my friend sara! and he said that he would do it again. i havnt said anything to him yet but oh my is he going to get hell. and my parents dont like him because hes not white (im white.)

and brandon, his dad called my parents and tried to skrew up my life by telling them terrible lies about me and saying that brandon didnt want anything to do with me although it isnt true. but my parents dont like brandon either because hes been locked up.

help please, please.

well so for josh i say you dumb josh and all because of whats going around and i agree with the person sayin that sara hasn't been a good friend and that was not fair that she would let him "Screw her" but you say your still in love with brandon and all that and that he is coming back and that your parents dont like him and that the father is being a bitch to you but i think that the father dont like you if you know that already but your parents dont like him because he was locked up but i say you freaking leave Josh and get back with your current boyfriend brandon who you had/is inlove with you and that he is still in love with you. and forget your parents not liking him but if you want your parents to like him or you dont care but i say you talk to your parents saying that i love him and i really want to be with him again and i promise you nothing will ever bad happen when it comes to the father point or you can make something up so your parents would like him.

and what make you go out with josh??? i mean that josh is an ass and how he's not being all boyfriendly to you and i say that if brandon ever find out that you were with someone he might be a bit uspet but i wouldn't tell him or he knew because you did break up with him but anyways like i was saying

dont even bother with josh just break up off with him and go back with your current boy frined brandon i wuld go for him

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so theres this new guy at my school thats super cute but i dont have any classes with him and i hardly see him during the day although he does play soccer and i play volleyball so he comes through the gym everday! but anyway theres this dance coming up this friday and i want to ask him if he wants to go with me to the dance. i dont know much about him because i hardly see him but my friends that have classes with him say hes really down to earth, funny,and nice and thats excactly what i want in a bf! i say hi to him in the hall ways and i talked to him a couple of times and he does seem like all the things my friends said he was. its jus i really wanna go to the dance with him so i can get a chance to know him better.i also dont want to wait to long that someone that knows him better decides to ask him and he says yes! i really dont want that to happen becuase he is really attractive and sweet and funny!i just wanna know how i can ask him out to the dance. i hav something in my head but i wanna hear some other suggestions!!thanx!

hey, just be like this.

if your a bit shy person and want to ask him out but not infront of your friends or his or people just be like "can i talk to you for a minute, if it's alright with you." and act all shy when you say that so he might think somethings up but not really think. and than talk to him while taking him to a quite place if your in school and u have lunch or during your breaks whenever you see him in school take him where no one can distrub you guys and be like, while walking with him be like." so whats up?, hows your day so far." and wait for his answer and you guys might evnetually start a convo really quick. and than later on before that after you have a lil convo with him or if you guys have more and want to end it before it's to late just be like
"hmm i'm sorry to stop like this but i kinda want to ask you a question if it's alright with you." than look down and wait tell he says ok.
and continue be like" well there is this dance hmm coming up soon and i was hmm wondering if you would like to go with me." act all blushy and look down and he'll know he'll say yes and if he doesn't say yes and says no dont worry he might change his mind later but if he doens't there are other guys out there but if you want him and he says no guys are just like that and if you do see him at the dance and he's not with anyone but with his friends still go up to him and be like" oh hey, i'm sorry but would you like to dance with me?" and he cannot of course say no to you.

hope i helped

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Ok i like this guy and whenever I think of him my hert beats so hard and it feels like I'm carrying weight,is this normal?

yes it's normal because that means your in love with this guy :) so dont worry about it :)
happend to me onces :)

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Oh, I'm so mad right now! I'm going to this high school football game with one of my friends, and this one guy from our school asked if we wanted to sit with him and his friends at the game.

Well, my friend's guy friend said that the guy that wants us to sit with him and his friends is going to pretend to hit on us and embarrass us in front of all of his friends, which make up a good portion of the 8th grade!!!

What should we do? I wanna reverse this prank...

What do you think? Any ideas?

well if there doin this to embaress you and all that i say that bring someone with you and you embrass them before they embarssas you and also just go along with it at first for a while and if it gets worst embrasse them do something that you would only know that would embrass them something like trip them or something like say something bitchy to them like how would they actually embrasse you and o before you sit down make sure theres nothin on the stole if you know wat i mean.

wen you sit down they mite put something there and not know it so be absultly careful about tat and wen someone tries to put an arm around you make sure tat they have nothin on you or tat if they dont but will put somethin on you while not lookin you would have to be careful and watch wat they do. and also if your scared just dont go at all reject them and see how they would feel but if it makes it more fun embrasse them like put a sign behind there back if they ever try to do somtehin to u i know i know childish but it mite work. and do w/e it takes to fool those bitches and dont let them get to you be smart and make sure they dont try to do anythign make sure you look before you sit make sure you look at there arms before they put it around you or dont let them at all and if they try to again hit them or just do something to them tat would definatly embrass them and also like the other person said on the advice bring a hotter guy with u and use him and he would help you i mean not use but you get the point. and wen they hit on you hit on them for a bit not soo long and then embrass them is the start :)

hope i helped let me know i would defintly want to know wat you think of my idea

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before you read this is feel like you should know i really need help, this is the last place i have turned to and i need sincere advice.

there are two boys, we'll call them bob and tom. i have to choose between the two, and either way somebody is going to get hurt... i just want to make sure i make the right decision!

here's some backround information

bob: we dated for 8 months and broke up 3 weeks ago. he was my first love and we are still incredibly close. He loves me still, but I had to break up with him because he was not a good boyfriend to me. He would never stick up for me when his friends would say stuff [his friend bill told everybody that i gave bill a handjob when that never happened, bob did nothing. his friends constantly call me rude names and are rude to me in front of him, he does nothing. this GIRL he was friends with was harassing me for supposively looking at her wrong and he just told me to stay away from her like i had some sort of say in what was happening, then took her side when she was bitching which really embaressed me. and there is this girl, we have somee real bad blood before bob was ever in the picture and i told bob all about it. she said she was going to break me and zach up, and he still hung out with her and talked to her and flirted with he rbehind my back. i felt so embaressed when i found out he was doing this behind my back, it really hurt the most. and finally, he lies to me constantly, he cannot stop. we have broken up many times before but gotten back together because he promised to change ut he never did. despite all that he has done wrong, i love him. when we are together he makes me happy, when i have a problem he ios the first person i call, he is the only person i have left that i feel like i can confide in. when he's not with me i think about him, and he is the same way about me and makes plenty effort to let me know he still loves me. right now my heart wants him, but i know things will never change and i will eventually be unhappy. but i am not sure i can be happy without him, he understands me and he makes me feel better, even hearing his voice can make everything better for me. and my parents just love him. but he has hurt me so many times,i don't know !

tom: he is perfect for me in every sense. he makes me laugh more than anybody i have ever met, and he has made me happy in even my darkest hours. we are so perfect for eachother it's scary and he loves me too. we just started dating and he has been such a great boyfriend already, and has been so understanding of everything im going through. he is mr. perfect but the thing is, he doesn't have the automatic spark i have with bob. i like tom alot and i feel lieki could love him if i only dated him for a little bit longer, and he could make me very happy, but right now i don't feel i am close enough to him to call him when i am crying. and since i know i am not in love with him my reaction tpo this problem was to just go with my heart to bob. But with tom i can see myself falling for him hard, i just haven't yet. i've given bob so mnay chances that he has screwed up that maybe i should give tom a chance, he seems deserving of one. he's my mr. perfect, but i dont have that passionate love i have for bob. csn that grow?

i need to choose between a guy who hurt me so many times before but he has my heart, or a perfect guy who will be the perfect boyfriend but i dont feel that love i feel for bob.

what my heart wants or what my heart needs?
maybe my heart needs somebody who i love completely
or somebody who i love as a person

HELP ME PLEASE!

well this is hard to choose between to guys well u had said bob was bad and you gave him chances and you love him, but gives you the "sparks" and for tom the perfect boy friend of yours well i say you dont choose them i think you should find someone who will love you completely and is not a jerk to you liek bob i mean why would you love someone who had hurt you so many times and not stood up for you. yes he makes you happy and all but like you really going to go back and forth with this guy?

and for tom i mean he's the guy for you and i know you dont love or feel for him but like this is hard to choose and i say you think about this for couple days and than make a choice.

and if your scared don't choose them but for me if i had to choose between tom and bob i would say Tom even if you dont feel the love for him. i say you give him the chance and all but if you love bob i say you talk to him about him hurting you and all that and tell him the truth that you still love him and want to be with him but he hurts you so many times i say you sit down with bob and tell him all your TRUE feelings for him and about him hurting you and if he say he doesn't love your or if he aplogize and say i would change and doesn't i wouldn't go for him anymore i would go for tom. tom is nice and doesn't hurt you and i know when you have a problem he's not the one to help but i say you sit with him too and tell him everyhing and all and see what happens.

i hope i helped let me know thanx:)

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i need a second date idea we went to a movie for the first one
but i need a date that doesnt involve a lot of talking because were kind of akward

hey, hmm i see a lil problem first before i give a suggestion how come you need a second date that doesn't involve a lot of talking? and why is it akward for both of you? i mean why you want to date this person if you guys dont even talk much since you should you know? and for the suggestion for less talking.

for the second date that doesn't invlove alot of talking can be at( well there isn't really a place for les talkin but like, movie is the only choie there is and if you want to go to a differnt place well i guess you can go bowling? i mean that doesn't involve much talking? maybe go to hmm idk a resturant as well i mean that doesn't talk much but you can try. that's all i can think of right now. other places have more talking than less.

i hope i helped i'm sorry that i didn't help you much but if i did let me know. :)

good luck

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I a horrible at getting people presents. But, my boyfriends birthday is coming up and I want to get him something he will for sure like. I can't like, get him a car but other than that money is not a problem, there is no budget. He likes confederate flags, umm...western movies, and stuff like that. Any ideas? thanks!

hmm i see, well what is his favorite band? maybe get him tickets to his favorite band and if not get him like CD of his favorite band. and hmm maybe take him out to his favorite resturant and a movie would be fine too and also get him a western movie as well to :)


well i hope i helped

good luck let me know if i did:)

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im 15 female going into 10th. grade.

okay well, i like like 2 different guys. one of htem have been my best friend since well 1st grade "Jeremy". me and Jeremy flirt all the time and he pushes me but he isnt to much of a pervert like other guys...which is weird by the way. but we dont hang out all that much during the summer :(

The other guy "Mike" has been friends with me for 3 years now. he says he wont pressure me into anything but he has once now he's telling me he'll wait to go out with me until im ready.
but when we hangout we are usually hanging on each other...we lay on my porch and talk and he will talk about just about everything and he will try to do stuff like stick his hand up my shirt and other stuff but i just kind of stop him...and we mess around alot. he tells me everything and well vise versa.

ok what do you think i should do?

go out with "Jeremy" or "mike"

hey, i see, hmm well since Jeremy is your bestfriend and since you dont hangout that much and and i know u say he flirts with you and you do to and all that but here's the question. does he likes you? and how much do you like him? and i say he's just a friend to you. but find out first if he likes you you know. and as for mike i think he's pretty cool and he's not pressurin u or anythin like that or not a pervert too but you only known if for 3yrs i think that you should choose mike:) he's pretty cool and easy waitin on you.jeremy is just a friend too :)

hope i helped let me know if i did:)

good luck

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when you ask out a girl what's a good way to do it, how do i ask her out, and when should i know i'm ready

ok, well first off, you have to know if you are ready to ask her out. if you know your ready. like, do you talk to her alot? do you see her everyday? are you always comfortable around her? do you blush when your around her? do you smile and all that? those means if you talk to her alot and hangout with her and stuff and you rally like her alot that means you are ready to ask her out.

since i'm a girl, the good way to ask her out is that you defintaly have to be alone with her. take her somewhere nice, like a park, no behind bushes b/c she might be specius. and no phone when it comes to asking girls out. (well sometiems you can if your that shy) but i rather ask her in person. ok so when your walking with her the the park or driving her to the park whatever ask her a couple of questions like how are you or how was your day. also maybe buy her something sweet like flowers and after you ask her a couple of questions so she wont know that you are really asking her out ask her out saying "hey, we've been hanging out alot lately and i really like you. and i was wondering if you would like to be more THAN just friends with me?" and than wait for her to answer if she is smart enough she would excpet.

also other way. instead of park maybe take her to a diner or somewhere nice. girls like something romantic when it comes to you askin her out. another thing if you want might be unexpected. go to her house unexpected. give her a rose and than ask her out. dont be saying. "want to go out with me." just say i really like you and i'll do anythign to be with you. would you like to go out with me and be more just friends." something like that. :)

I hope i helped :) let me know if i did:)

PS. one more, make it romantic for her. give her flowers take her out somewhere nice without her knowing ;) she would love that.

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