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bestfriend likes my boyfriend
OKay. Here is my situation. My best friend, let's call her Rose, likes my boyfriend(let's call him Albert). But aparently, she liked him before he and I were together. Albert and I have been together for 2 and half months. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too. But I have known my friend for 9 years! And she only told me two days ago that she liked him. I hate seeing her in all this pain. Why should my happiness have to cause her pain?! It's just not fair. Not to mention Albert and Rose were good friends in middle school, but then sort of had a falling out. Now all three of us are going into our senior year of high school, and they have finally fixed whatever miscommunication they had in eighth grade. So at first I thought maybe she was just jealous that I had a boyfriend finally, and especially since she knew him before I knew him, she felt that she had some sort of claim on him. But I fell for him;I became friends with him on my own terms in math class this past year, and she had nothing to do with it. However, she tells me that she never stopped liking him from eighth grade, and that he has always been in the back of her mind. Well, I am her best friend, so how come these past four years of high school she hasn't told me?! the three of us have discussed it for hours last night and came to no conclusion. please. anyone tell me what i should do? break up with him? drop her as a friend? any way to keep them both?
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Well first off your friend regardless of what she says is extremely jealous of you and your boyfriend...not only is she jealous but she's envious and regretful...she regrets that she didn't hook up with him and she's envious because even tho he is your boyfriend and she knows this she still wants him...now let me warn you even tho you might not believe it she has a high potential of stabing you in the back...because first off if she was any kind of friend she would be happy for you and just shut up about it instead of trying to make you feel bad for being happy...and now she's trying to make a big issue about it...it shouldn't even had went that far...and I really think she might try and make a move on him....so you watch her closely and listen to what she says because she seems more concerned about herself than your happiness....and tell him that she might try and make a move on him just so he can be prepared and kno what to do....she seems desperated and you should continue to be her friend but make much distance from her because she will stab you in the back the first chance she gets a lone with him or maybe even when you two eventually get into a big argument...he'll be vulnerable and she'll be ready to make her move.....don't sleep on that girl because believe me she's not sleeping on you....she knows exactly what to do to get you to feeling bad and questioning your relationship....she's very munipulative and devious.....watch your back and front around her because I hornestly don't believe she's that much of a good friend....
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well i see, well i guess your friend who has a crush on your boyfriend and that you were mad at her becuase she didn't tell you, but she didn't want to hurt you because she's your best friend and here's the thing dind't you say you known her for nine years and even if those to your frind and boyfriend didn't get along or w/e didn't you know that she might of still had a crush on him even if she didn't tell you? but you guys were tryin to figure something out here is what you do is that like you keep your boyfriend and you keep your best friend as welll and if you want to keep them both here is what you do.
you first talk to your best friend saying
"rose, hmm i know this is hard and we've been best friends for nine years and i love you but how come after all this you didn't tell me you still had a crush on my boy friend?"
and than she would give you an answer
and than after she answers you which might be
"because i ididn't know before and i didn't want you to get mad at me."
but than be like your my best freind and i love you but i'm sorry that you have a crush on my boyfriend but right now i love him and he loves me and i really want to be with him even thou you want to too but can't you just be friends with him and be my best friend again?, i hate it that where just fighting over him."
and than and talk to your boyfriend sayin that you love him and you want to be with him but dont tell him that your best friend has a crush on you just be like i dont want you to like be with my friends i mean you can be with them not flirt with them i dont know but you know what i mean like say something
but i say you dont break up with your boy friend and your friend because of this i say you talk to her straight forward about your feelings and than talk to your boyfriend about it a bit
well good luck hope i helped you know i try
<3 let me know if i did good and let me know how you did:) good luck
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